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  • #76
    I want to leave but parents won’t let me
    i just turned 18 and my parents (my mother) mainly, get into a lot of arguments. Lately it’s been worse almost eveyday and I don’t argue back but sometimes it turns into worse causes. It gets t

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    • #77
      Reply: I want to leave but parents won’t let me

      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like there is a lot of tension and it has become frustrating for you to live with your parent’s. We understand the difficulties there must be living under this kind of situation.
      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Take care,
      NRS

      We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
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      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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      • #78
        I'm 18
        I am from Ecuador, I came here 4 years ago. My mom got married to my stepfather, I had a dad but he left us when I was a toddler or less... I have a brother who decided to live apart from us because of my mother ex-boyfriend. By now I been leaving in New York, I do get along with my stepfather but sometimes we have some arguments (I don't like their behavior, even though my stepfather is nice and everything... just sometimes is, I can't even describe it, and they take it in the wrong way) so everytime we have a bad argument my mom always is treating me to send me back to my country... and I really tired of it, they brought me here, I had to learn a new language from 0, I had to live the most horrible and frustrating events I could imagine... no friends in my first year, a lot of expectations and a lot of expectations from my family to call my stepfather "Dad" because he has done too much for me, he never had children. In 4 years I changed a lot, sometimes I realize it's my fault but they never do when it's their fault, so... recently we had a stupid argument....because when I hear somebody saying something they didn't say and they change it and can't help but say "You didn't say that... you said another thing." But they usually do the same but I know I don't have to say that because I am younger or how they say it "Culicagada" and my stepfather really got mad, so... my mom decided to send me back to my country, I don't and to go back.... my country is not good right now and sorry to say it in this way. I'm planning to move out an find a part-time job... I don't know how am I going to do it, with college but I guess I will find. a solution. Plus we never saved money for college because of we never except my mom getting married, and my stepfather never excepted us... so, yes I have to find a solution for college and maybe a room for me
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          ccsmod15 commented
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          Hi there,

          Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re going through a lot at home and it makes sense that you are interested in finding additional support.

          You mentioned you have had several arguments with your family, which we imagine is challenging. It also sounds like having your dad leave your family has taken a toll. Here at NRS we do offer conference calling between a youth and their primary caregiver if that’s something that might be of interest to you. Sometimes it can be helpful having someone on the line to mediate the conversation and discuss what you’d like to see change at home.

          Moving from another country to the United States must be hard to go through, especially not having a friend you can trust to talk to about it. It could be helpful to talk to someone about what you’re going through if you are looking for additional support. If you are interested, you could contact SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration). They could potentially pair you with a trained professional to support you through this. You deserve to not feel alone. They can be reached at 1-877-726-4727.

          Thank you again for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are available 24/7 and toll-free should you be interested in discussing your situation further. We can be reached at 1-800-786-2929.

          NRS

      • #79
        I hate my life.my family abused me since adolescence and somehow convinced everyone else in my family im the crazy one.im just tired,all the drama and violence has taken its toll.no matter what i do things will always make me look bad,makes me wonder whats the point.i wish i could just disappear.i get blamed being told its my fault.so shed take it out on easy targets-kids.kids that wont do anything cause their too scared or theyve become dependant.they except the trauma in exchange for food and a roof.anythings better than this,i need a way out, i never had a chance so let the chips fall where they lay.
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        • ccsmod15
          ccsmod15 commented
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          Hi there,
          Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a very difficult and potentially dangerous situation. It makes sense that you are considering next steps about what to do.
          First of all, if you are ever in immediate danger, do not hesitate to call 911. Nobody should ever have to put up with any sort of abuse. If you were ever interested, we encourage you to file an abuse report in order to potentially find an alternative living arrangement for you. The National Child Abuse Hotline can be helpful at discussing next steps and could provide you with additional details. They can be reached at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org
          It might be helpful to consider talking to a school guidance counselor or someone else you trust. They should potentially provide emotional support and advocate on your behalf.
          You mentioned that you wish you could disappear. It’s understandable that you are hurting right now and you deserve to have support through this. If you are considering hurting yourself, we’d encourage you to contact that National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They can discuss next steps with you and hopefully support you in feeling less alone. They can be reached at 1-800-273-8255 or online at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org
          There are also a couple of services at the National Runaway Safeline that we’d encourage you to potentially utilize. First, we have a telephone hotline that you can call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. This number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). We also have a chat service that is available through our website daily. We can also help you go through the process of reporting abuse if you wanted to call.
          -NRS

      • #80
        Hello, I am 19 years old and right now I don’t have a job or anything. Where I live we don’t have that many available options for jobs and I had an interview for one that was 10 minutes away, but I have no car and my mom works and my grandma will never let me take hers anywhere. I also tried to go to a community college for CNA classes but they are 30 minutes away and again I have no way of getting there so I’m kind of stuck. Even if I got a job at our grocery store here my grandma and mom both said I could never get a car because I have no credit and they said I would have to have a co signer but nobody will do that. Could I get a car without credit making $9/hour and also pay insurance for it? Also, when I do that I’m wanting to move out too because I feel like I have no freedom here to do anything or go anywhere I want to go. I understand rules and boundaries, but I feel like a little kid still. I can’t hang out with friends or anything. Could I make a living off of $9/hour with a car? Also, I can’t see my boyfriend either because they are VERY judgmental and if a person doesn’t look a certain way or dress a certain way or go to church every Sunday then they are a bad person and no good and for some reason they automatically think the person does drugs. They were fine with him at first but somebody told them he was a bad influence because of his past. When I try to explain things to them they get mad bc they want to think they are right about everything because they are the parents but I have been around him for a year, personally know him, and I’ve even lived with him. That’s another reason they don’t like him because they did not agree with me living with him and his family. I have tried to explain to them he is not a bad person even if he did do things in his past. He doesn’t do anything bad now or I wouldn’t be around him. I can’t even have a picture of me and him on my phone. I’m trying to get a job, a car, and move out but I just don’t know if I can afford it especially with having to get furniture and things like that. I don’t know what to do. HELP!!!!

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        • #81
          Reply: Hello, I am 19 years old

          Hello,
          Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

          We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are in the process of trying to figure out how to live independently and have some questions about how to begin.
          It sounds like things have been quite frustrating for you since there has not been any support from family.
          We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk and explore some options towards putting together a plan, NRS is here to listen and here to help..

          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

          We hope to hear from you soon.

          Take care,
          NRS

          We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          Tell us what you think about your experience!
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          • #82
            I turn 18 at the end of the month and I desperately need to get out of my house. I have suffered from depression for a very long time now and I have had no type of support from my family whatsoever. If anything they’ve made it 10x worse. The longer I stay here, the more I worry about my mental stability amongst other things. I want to move out as soon as possible, but I have no idea where I would go especially since most of my family lives out of state and I don’t want to intrude on the lives of my friends’ families. I worry that as soon as I move out, my parents will try to take my car away and my phone and I will be left with essentially nothing which would be completely fine if I knew where to go from there and who could help me. I know that I will have to work extremely hard to make money and complete school, but I’m worried that I will not be making enough money to fully support myself especially with the expenses of college coming soon. I need help.

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              ccsmod9 commented
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              Hi there,
              Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon. Please note that it would be best to call or chat with us so we can gather information abuot you to help find the best option for you.
              Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
              If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
              We hope to hear from you soon.
              Be safe, NRS

          • #83
            I'm 19 and my mom been going threw a depression since 2017 and I been stressing ever since then and I dropped outta high school to be there for her doing her pregnancy in 2016 and iIdont have a id job or nothing really but I want to move in with my grandma because she fuss everyday at me saying she can't trust me cause in my past I deal with guys but iInever had sex im clean and I apologized to her in 2018 but she still doesn't trust and I been crying on in off in my real dad and her broken up so my real dad be trying to contact me but she controls my life like tell me I can't have a boyfriend when I'm a adult I knew this guy for 6 years and I love him very much and she was stress do to the lost of my grandfather her dad past in 2017 and moving up into today she takes her angry out on everyone she hurts me by that and I'm tried of it she tells me she's trying to help me to be successful but she told me lies to much and I can't do it could I live with my grandma on my real dad side if I'm '19? What should I. do?

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              ccsmod6 commented
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              Hi there, thanks so much for reaching out to us here at NRS. It takes a lot of strength to reach out and share what has been going on at home with your mom. It sounds like it’s a stressful situation and you have been trying so much to help your mom like you dropping out of school to help her. You seem to really care for her and love her and it must be difficult to feel hurt by how she is treating you. You sound responsible as you shared you had a boyfriend you cared for very much as you knew him for many years but your mom would not let you two be together as well as having you biological dad contact you. That does not sound fair to you and must be incredibly frustrating. It is not okay for her to take her anger out on you and lie as you shared and that is not something you deserve. You deserve to be respected and have your individuality. We know you mentioned your mom has been feeling depressed and there are resources for her that you can pass along if you feel comfortable doing so. The first is SAMHSA which stands for the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. They have a large database of resources that include supportive services and treatment options for what has been going on and help her find the resources she needs. They can be reached at 1-877-726-4727 or at samhsa.gov. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is also always there to listen and she does not have to be suicidal to reach out. They are 24/7 and can always listen like we do too. They can be reached at 1-800-273-8255 or at suicidepreventionlifeline.org.
              We aren’t legal experts but generally since you are over the age of 18, which is the general age of adulthood in most states, you do have the right to move and live where you want without our mom’s permission as she is not legally responsible for you at the age of 19. If you did want to pursue living with your grandma, that is something you can do and we can always brainstorm with you on how to develop a plan you feel would work with doing so or talking to your mom. We are here to help in any way we can and are always here for you to listen. Don’t hesitate to reach out to us here if you want to talk further about your options, brainstorm some ideas/plans, or just talk about what has been going on. We appreciate your honesty and bravery. We are here 24/7 and you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat us at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.

              Best, NRS

          • #84
            Hi

            I turned 18 in November my life has always been hard my dad I have 1 brother and 1 sister that I basically take care of my mom doesn’t come home often and I’m forced to clean after my 2 younger siblings They are 11 and 9 very old enough to clean after them selves but they don’t I’m a junior in high school and I struggle with dyslexia I also have anxiety I try my best to stay focus in school but I have so many responsibilities I came really close to drop out but with the help of school support they kept pushing me to attend school even tho my mother has been around I take care of everything on my own even before I was 18 I had to be a parent to myself she drinks a lot and I lost my dad about 3 years ago I Been saving the little money that I have and a few weeks ago my mom took it from me I couldn’t get it I stay with her and have nowhere else to go no close family it’s only us and I’m still in school but I can’t take it anymore this is becoming hard to deal with she has put me out many times when I was younger and I would call the police since I wasn’t 18 they would tell her I couldn’t leave she now that I’m 18 she is basically threatening me if I don’t take care of my broth and sister or clean after them she will put me out so I’ve been doing everything she wants me to just so I can have somewhere to stay it’s days I have to study and finish homework but I can’t because im cooking cleaning for children who aren’t even mine if I say no she will put me out I can’t take this any longer I need a place to stay but I have no friends or family I want to move out I don’t know what to do anymore
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              Hello there,

              Thank you for reaching out to NRS and having the strength to share your story with us. We are sorry to hear about your situation and what you’ve been dealing with. Ideally, home would be a place where people feel safe, loved, and valued, and you do not deserve to be treated that way. You’ve been very courageous to reach out for help and try your best despite the circumstances.

              It sounds like you’re being forced to choose between school and your well-being and having a place to stay. We’re sorry that you’re being forced to make that choice. If you went online to homelessshelterdirectory.com or looked through a search-engine, you may be able to find shelters near you where you could get the support you need. If you were interested, we also offer conference-calling as an option, where we would mediate a constructive conversation between your parents and yourself in order to reach an understanding.

              We would love to talk more about the details of your situation so that we can work towards a solution that you find acceptable. If you would like to share more, please feel free to call our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or use our Live Chat.
              We hope this information was helpful and take care.
              National Runaway Safeline
              [email protected] (Crisis Email)
              1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          • #85
            Hi I'm 24 years old (turning 25 in july) I live with my parents because I have pervasive development disorder...which is well..autism..but it is manageablemanageable my autism isn't as bad for me as it is for other people...my parents do not have guardianship over me...and from what my mother has told me I would have to sign that over to them...which I will never do because I'm not giving my dad anymore control over me then he already has...I have wanted to move out since I was 16 but I always made excuses for myself in why I couldn't...I live in fort Lauderdale and would love to go back to ocala..I can't drive because I have horrible vision...I don't have a job because I've been told by experts that I can't get one with my autism...someone is always home..I have a horrible sense of direction..I have ssi but I have never used it...my parents use it for car payments, gas money, groceries and other things like that....things I need to live with them...my bank account is in mine and my mom's name....because neither of us trust my dad to have full access to that money...but I would need my mom to drive me to the bank to get any of it...so it's not like I could just pack up without anyone noticing and then just start walking...I mean I could but I wouldn't have any money on me at all...and my mom doesn't want me to leave cause she worries...my dad doesn't want me to leave because he is a control freak..I have a boyfriend who I have known for a long time and who surprised me when he asked me out...my dad doesn't know about my boyfriend because he wouldn't allow our relationship to continue and the fact that I am dating this guy means my dad has lost some of that control he holds onto so dearly..even my mother told me to keep it a secret from my dad....as I said he's a control freak he wouldn't just be happy that I'm happy...he'd freak out...he hates not being in control of everything to the point that I feel more like a marionette then a person...he's actually said that me, my sister and my brother belong to him as in we are more like possessions then people...my brother moved out when he turned 18 and my dad tried to force him to stay and when that didn't work he tried to stop him from packing what he needed...which kinda worked my brother only got a few things and my mom had to secretly bring it send my brother anything else he needed that he left behind....I know my dad would do the same thing to me...my boyfriend knows all of this and has said many times he would be willing to help me...he knows how much I want to get away from my father..me, my sister and my mom will be visiting ocala this June to see my grandmother and while I'm there I'm going to talk to my boyfriend....he's offered many times to let me move in with him...I plan on talking with him and then talking to my mom..if she just leaves me the things I need there will be no reason for me to go back to fort Lauderdale...I know she'll understand why I want to leave...and staying in ocala and not going back to fort Lauderdale would be easier then going back and trying to argue with my dad and putting up with his BS....what I want to know is....can he legally try to make me stay or drive to ocala to try and make me go back to fort Lauderdale with him?...can he do that? if I don't want to live with my parents because the stress of trying to bend over backwards and live up to my dad's impossible standards is driving me crazy and I don't know how much more I can take....like June can't get here fast enough.

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              Hi there, please see our response to your original post:

              "Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

              Sounds like you are wanting to move out with your boyfriend and you are worried that your dad would force you to stay home.That sounds like a really difficult situation, and it makes sense that you are wanting to leave that controlling situation.

              We are not legal experts, but we can answer your question generally. If your parents did not gain extended guardianship over you through the courts, you are a legal adult who can make your own life decisions including where you live and who you date. So you do have the right to leave, and your dad cannot legally force you to stay at home, or force you back home. If you haven't already, you might think about the things you would need to do before June to prepare for leaving. Such as thinking about how you are going to support yourself. We are always here at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you would like to talk through your situation.

              Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like additional assistance. We are here to listen, here to help.

              Best,

              NRS"

          • #86
            Hello please I’m asking for help I’m 18 and I got no place to go my mom wants nothing to do with me and now I don’t know what to do

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              Hello there,

              Thank you for reaching out to NRS and having the strength to share your story with us. We are sorry to hear about your situation and what you’ve been dealing with. Ideally, home would be a place where people feel safe, loved, and valued, and you do not deserve to be treated that way. You’ve been very courageous to reach out for help and try your best despite the circumstances.

              Besides reaching out to family and friends for support, which we imagine you’ve done, we would also encourage you to reach out to shelters in your area and see what their availability is like. One such resource is accessible online at https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/, another is 2-1-1 or the United Way, which may be able to direct you towards more housing resources.

              We would love to talk more about the details of your situation so that we can work towards a solution that you find acceptable. If you would like to share more, please feel free to call our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or use our Live Chat.
              We hope this information was helpful and take care.
              National Runaway Safeline
              [email protected] (Crisis Email)
              1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          • #87
            im 18 and have been for a few months. i thought i had my life together and i was so eager to go to college to further my education. ive always struggled with personal mental health issues but have always kept them to myself because the one time i tried telling my parents, they basically hit me and yelled at me. so ever since then ive kept everything to myself. i made a mistake recently and my parents found out and now are disowning me. they arent even going to my graduation. they took my phone and all of my savings. i had a car but got into an accident this winter, so i do not have a car nor do i have the money to get one right now. i still want to go to college but i am afraid that without help there is no way i can. i need to move out. im concerned for my safety. every time i try to talk and explain things to them, i am hit. so my habit of not talking has grown back. i feel so lost. i am in such a dark place. i need to move out. but i have no money anymore or transportation. i am trapped.

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              Hi there,
              Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. What we understand the money you had was savings and you have been 18 for a while. If that money was under your name then you have the right to keep it. We also offer programs that can help you get back on your feet if that is of interest to you. Please know that you are not alone and you are heard. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
              Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
              If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
              We hope to hear from you soon.
              Be safe, NRS

          • #88
            I am 18 and i got kicked out my house. My friend was kind enough to let me in her house but now her mom don’t want me at her new house for some reason. I don’t know what to do at all. I don’t have no family members that will take me and I feel helpless. Please help.

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              Hello There,
              Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through such a difficult time right now.
              One option you could consider is seeing if you have any other friends in the area that may allow you to stay with them for a while. Another option may be a shelter or transitional living program. If you would like our help looking for shelters or transitional living programs please give us a call. You may also look at shelters in your area by looking online at The National Homeless Directory .org. You can also call United Way at 211 which may also be able to give you shelter resources.
              We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
              NRS

          • #89
            I am 19 and my mom wants me to move out.

            I'm 19 and my mother wants me to move out or get a job. The thing is that I have no motivation to do anything. I was diagnosed with moderate depression and mild anxiety. I'm pretty sure that the depression has gotten worse. I was just sitting in my room crying and wishing I was dead, wishing I wasn't so useless. It started earlier today when I got an e-mail from the college I was supposed to attend soon. I needed to pay some type of fee that I didn't have the money for. I started getting stressed out and angry. I really want to go to college, but I can't afford it. I told my mom and showed her the e-mail. then I started saying that maybe I shouldn't go to college because I can't afford the fees. My mom got mad and she got fed up with it, she told me to either get a job or move out. I mean I don't have the money to move out because I'm bad at saving money. I don't want to live with my father because he doesn't have the room. I don't want to bother my relatives for help because I'm just a lazy, useless, good for nothing kid, I don't want to bother them with my bull********. I honestly don't know what to do. I've thought about leaving so many times, or just ending it all so they don't have to deal with me being a waste of space and resources. I need help, but I don't know who to ask or where to go. I know my problems are insignificant to people who have it worse than me. I just need some help or advice. Someone.....please help...

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              Hi,
              Thank you for reaching out to us, we are glad that you did. It sounds like you are going through a really tough time. With anxiety to deal with and your depression worsening, it is understandable that everything feels overwhelming. We want you to know that you matter, that your life matters. It’s also important for you to know that depression lies. It lies by trying to convince you of uselessness or laziness, or any of the other things that bring you down. Being a burden or a waste to others is definitely another lie that depression tells. If we can talk together, maybe we can help you find ways to feel stronger inside, or help you find a therapist that can help you do that. You deserve to feel strong and alive and to have the future you dream of. You are worthy of all of that.
              It sounds like it’s possible that you and your mom may not be communicating in a productive way, and in a situation where you are stressed out and angry, your mom getting mad and fed up may mean starting the conversation over when both of you have the space to talk it through. Maybe she (or another relative) can help with this particular fee while you look for a job to help with the next ones.
              You deserve your life and your dreams of college. You really do. And we would like to talk further about what you are going through, because having found us, you are not alone. We are here to listen and help and to help you find the options and supports that you do have.
              If you can, please reach out to the Suicide Prevention Lifeline is there for you at 1-800-273-8255
              We are also here for you 24/7 either at our telephone hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or through live chat at www.1800runaway.org Either way that is more comfortable for you to reach out, we will be here for you. We want to hear from you to listen and to help
              We hope this helps,
              NRS

          • #90
            Hi,
            Thank you for reaching out to us, we are glad that you did. It sounds like you are going through a really tough time. With anxiety to deal with and your depression worsening, it is understandable that everything feels overwhelming. We want you to know that you matter, that your life matters. It’s also important for you to know that depression lies. It lies by trying to convince you of uselessness or laziness, or any of the other things that bring you down. Being a burden or a waste to others is definitely another lie that depression tells. If we can talk together, maybe we can help you find ways to feel stronger inside, or help you find a therapist that can help you do that. You deserve to feel strong and alive and to have the future you dream of. You are worthy of all of that.
            It sounds like it’s possible that you and your mom may not be communicating in a productive way, and in a situation where you are stressed out and angry, your mom getting mad and fed up may mean starting the conversation over when both of you have the space to talk it through. Maybe she (or another relative) can help with this particular fee while you look for a job to help with the next ones.
            You deserve your life and your dreams of college. You really do. And we would like to talk further about what you are going through, because having found us, you are not alone. We are here to listen and help and to help you find the options and supports that you do have.
            If you can, please reach out to the Suicide Prevention Lifeline is there for you at 1-800-273-8255
            We are also here for you 24/7 either at our telephone hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or through live chat at www.1800runaway.org Either way that is more comfortable for you to reach out, we will be here for you. We want to hear from you to listen and to help
            We hope this helps,
            NRS
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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