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  • #31
    Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
    Re: Im 18 and I want to move out but I have nothing

    I don't know who amongst my allies could help me. I don't know how I can leave. I live in the sort of neighborhood where you can hear gunshots almost every night. I cannot drive. Covenant House is so close, but it' not like I could reach out my door and open theirs. Any teacher or older friend I could tell might be a friend lost. I know they care about me, but the abuse is mostly emotional and they are likely to underestimate it. If I just packed up and went, what of my hamster? I don't think I could live without the only creature that will never condescend to me.
    Ik how that feels, the only creature that understands me Is... Cirtana, my PC, my xbox and my wifi

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    • #32
      Hello there,
      Im 18 years old, and growing up i've had a pretty rough childhood. My father was extremely controllive, only had things done his way all the time, if i would try to talk to him about how he makes me feel he would completely dismiss it and tell me i'm wrong. my mother is extremely passive towards my father as a product of that kind of behavior, and i don't want to end up like her... my grandpa lives with us and i always feel like he's watching me. one day when i was 15 i walked into my room to find that he was digging through my dirty laundry and sniffing my dirty underwear.... i tried to tell my mother about it but she told me i was lying and didn't believe me.... part of me makes me think she was only saying this because if i told my father he would get very angry with me. so i've just been living these past 3 years having to avoid conversation and eye contact with him because of how uncomfortable he would make me feel. my older brother used to physically abuse me when i was younger, and as we got older it turned into mental/ emotional abuse. he made it very clear to me growing up that he wanted nothing to do with me- it's like he hated me. i felt like i lived with a stranger. we would pass each other and not say a word or even look at each other. i know siblings bicker and fight growing up, but this felt different... it really hurt emotionally. i never personally got to know him because of how neglected he made me feel. and of course, i would try to tell my mother about this and she wouldn't do a thing. he's 23 now and lives in a different state, he tries reaching out to me but i just don't really think i want him in my life... he then accuses me of "holding a grudge." so this is how my life has been growing up. every time we'd have guests over we'd all put on our widest smiles and pretend we're okay. even though we're not. at least, i'm not. this has left emotional damage on me for what i feel is for life. but i understand this isn't a therapy session.

      my father and i got into a huge fight in June because i'm tired of just falling under his rules. for once in my life i stood up against him. anyways, i got kicked out for a week and had to live with my boyfriend at the time. i decided to try and maybe make things right, so i went back home after a week and apologized for disobeying him, but i also made it clear that there was a reason for disobeying him. i wanted to discuss the unfairness i experienced. i just wanted to try and resolve the issue. "i'm sorry for disobeying you, but just know there was a reason i did so." this lead to an even bigger argument, causing him to pick me up out of my chair and throw me on the floor and telling me to "get the ******** out of his house." i eventually came back for my mother because she was in complete distress this whole time, but for about 4 months, my father and i did not say a word to each other. nothing. it was as if we were waiting to see who would apologize first, which seemed absurd to me. i would get texts from my older brother, pressuring me into apologizing to my father, my mother would get angry mood swings and ask me when i was going to talk to my father. what for????? why do i have to be the one to make things right? anyways, i eventually gave in (which i totally regret) and i apologized to my father. i didn't even know what i was apologizing for in all honesty. i told him "i'm sorry for ever saying anything that could've hurt your feelings." he didn't even look at me. he didn't seem remorseful. he kept his pride pulled up way high and responded with "hm. i don't know what to say." which was him recieving the satisfaction of my apology, and is now punishing me with even more silence.

      i've had it. i'm tired of this household. living a week at my (at the time) boyfriends house i was able to see how nicely they treat each other, no tensions, they all live in harmony, and are all able to discuss things as a family. it was mind boggling. i didn't know other families were this peaceful. i know for a fact i'm going to move out and pay rent to live somewhere. this is just way too much emotional stress on me. i just want to ask you guys if you have any tips for me? i have a job, and i have a car (my parents gave me). do you think if i wanted to go to college i would be able to? do you guys think FAFSA would grant me some money? and another question, do you think this is justified? after living my life constantly being told what i feel is wrong, i need to rely on others to know what's best for me.

      thank you for your time.

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been going through such a tough time, but we are here to help you and support you in any way we can. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused, and you should not have to go through that. That sounds so hurtful to be treated that way by your family and for your mom not to believe what you tell her. Also, if you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, you can call 911 for help.

        If you haven’t already, you could also consider reaching out to a trusted adult, family member, or teacher, counselor, or worker at your school for help and support. You could also consider having one of these people help you talk to your family about how you’ve been feeling.

        It sounds like you have some goals for yourself like going to college. We’re not legal experts here at NRS, so we can’t say for sure what would happen with FAFSA and school admission. Here at NRS we have legal aid resources you could call to ask specific legal questions. You could also consider contacting FAFSA directly (1-800-433-3243), or calling schools you are considering applying to ask about their policies.

        There are also other resources that could help you work through conflict with your family, help you find a safe place if you’re in need or help you with anything else you may need. If you’d like more information about resources or if you’d like to talk more about what’s been going on, you can call us or chat with us online.

        Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you have been going through such a hard time, but you’ve shown so much strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.

    • #33
      Hi I'm 22 years old and I have a serious problem. I am still living with my parents and they want to move to Phoenix Arizona. All of our family is on the East Coast most of my family is in New York and Florida I've never been to Phoenix, but my parents went there to check out the area and they're expecting me to go they are completely blind to what I'm getting into. They say I don't have to go and then but what other choice do I have. I feel completely helpless like I have to move with them, because I have no idea how to move out and support myself because nobody is teaching me even though I told my step-father I want him to teach me how to manage my finances. But he had to go out to Arizona to start the new job while my mother and I are still here in Florida. And she is the last person I want to learn from she will make it into a fight one way or another, and my stepfather is the one who manages the bills. I'm currently finishing up my associate's degree in college this semester, and the thought of me moving over 2000 miles away from all of my family and friends, pretty much everyone I've ever met on the East Coast, and just having my mother and my stepfather and being chained down to another school for 2 years for Bachelors terrifies me. On top of that I'm going to have to deal with my mother emotionally, verbally, and mentally abusing me while having nobody to run to in Arizona. Thankfully here I have people to go to if I need to. I also just met this amazing guy who is actually willing to make it work long-distance and he's already planning on coming out to see me for his spring break. I've never met anyone like him who is already this serious about me, it actually scares me but I find myself trusting it. I don't know what to do please help me I don't want to live with them anymore but I have no idea how to move out! I feel like if I go with them I will be committing spiritual suicide because one way or another this whole thing is going to kill me somehow! People are saying it's an excellent opportunity for me but I'm left thinking, "Yeah, but at what price?" Please help me!!

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      • ccsmod0
        ccsmod0 commented
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        Hello, Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like legally your are capable of moving out but financially and mentally you are not. Moving out on your own is a big step and we want to make sure that you are supported properly. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. We know that you said that you currently going to school, maybe you can get a part-time job to help with your expenses.
        You mentioned that your step-dad was going to help you manage your finances but he has not been. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living.
        It is also helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave.
        It sounds like you have a good support base on the east coast but are fearful that you will not have anyone to urn to once you get to Arizona. It is great that you have met this man that you feel so safe with, Maybe he could be a new additional support for you during this difficult time. We also want you to know that you can always contact us if you are feeling alone. We can also talk to you about all of your options whether it’s moving out or moving to Arizona we want you to know that you are supported. 1-800-786-2929
        Best wishes,
        NRS

    • #34
      Hi I'm 18 and I wanna move out because I get abused and no one takes me seriously.i am so respectful and responsible to everyone . The problem is they won't ever let me out and they trap me and I am 18 . I need to go out and live my life .! I have no job or money or a car because they won't let me do anything for my self ! What should I do ?

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      • ccsmod2
        ccsmod2 commented
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        Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry to hear that you are being abused at home. Abuse is never okay, and you don’t deserve to be treated that way. Talking to someone about the abuse may help, the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) is a great resource. In most states, 18 is the legal age in which young people are considered adults. Since you are 18, you family cannot legally make you stay at home. You have the right to move out without their consent. You could contact the police and tell them what’s going on. You could contact a close family member or friend and ask them if they would allow you to stay with them until you find a job and save up for an apartment. There are also shelters and transitional living programs options available as well. Please feel free to contact us directly at (1-800-786-2929), via email, live chat. Good luck !

    • #35
      Hi, I recently turned 17, I am graduating in a couple months from high school and planning on moving out a several months after graduation. I am here to get some feedback, My life at home has been a mess everyday arguments with my parents about me not being home enough (I am always at school, the library, or work) my mother has changed big time we were once best friends but since my dad returned from Africa our relationship has split and shattered to pieces. My mother and I were more than best friends I once talked to her about everything but my father has brainwashed her he only points out the worse in me and disregards all of my improvements. I recently dropped all communication from my older siblings because he constantly calls them and lie about my bad grades or me disrespecting the (My grade are actually outstanding this year and how can I ever disrespect them when I barely see them). My biggest problem is that I am everyone's last responsibility in the house I literally have to wait an hour for my mom to pick me up from work because my dad argues with her about braking her back to pick me up, and though she sticks up for me she still comes to get me with an attitude and calls me all kinds of names and curse words saying that I make her look bad and that I am just a waste of time. basically life is hard for me at home and I cannot live here and continue my education I feel that moving is probably the best for my future, my house is full of negativity and I just can't live with it through college courses so I started saving up to live on my own and for a car of my own, but I just want to know if I am over-exaggerating of if I am understandable.

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      • ccsmod16
        ccsmod16 commented
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        Hi there,

        Thanks for reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your situation at home has gotten extremely difficult since your dad returned home and your pain is completely understandable. No one likes to be called names and put down especially by a parent, and the changes in your mom’s relationship with you must feel like a deep loss, after she had been such a close friend and confidant in the past. It is brave of you to reach out and to take the initiative to make things better.

        There are a few options that come to mind based on what you described of your situation. Firstly, I don’t know what you have already tried, but it may be beneficial to have an honest conversation with your mom about what you have been feeling, particularly since you and she had been “more than best friends”, as you put it. If this seems like a possibility for you, NRS has a conference call service where a liner could help mediate such a conversation. Another point which it sounds like you have considered to some extent, is that if things do not improve and you decide to go through with your plan to move out, there are many practical details that would need to be worked out including location, living expenses, and a job that could sustain them. These might be some things to begin looking into.

        It can be a little tricky at the age of 17, but there are some cases in which a police officer will not take a runaway report for someone that is 17. Especially if there are a little closer to turning 18 years old, along with having already graduated high school. This is not the case all the time of course, but it is something that we have heard of happening before. However, something to keep in mind is that though a police officer does not take a report it does not make it legal for you to leave home before you turn 18. The only way to know for sure of that would be to reach out to your local non-emergency police and asking them hypothetical questions about running away. Once you turn 18 years old, your parents cannot file you as a runaway.

        Thank you again for reaching out to NRS. I am sorry that the situation at home has reached such a painful point and I really hope that things only move up from here. Feel free to call into NRS if you are interested in the conference call service, any other resources or if you simply need a listening ear. We are here to support you in the difficult situation you are going through. Wishing you the best of luck in whichever decision you make.
        Last edited by ccsmod16; 11-16-2017, 04:18 PM.

    • #36
      Hi I'm turning 18 in March and I want to move back to Ormond Beach FL but I have no money no transportation and no job my parents told me that if I wanted to move back to Florida I could when I come of age and that's what I want to do I just need help figuring out how to do so

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      • ccsmod0
        ccsmod0 commented
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        Hello,
        Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have great things planned for your future and an important goal to you is moving to Ormond Beach Florida. It is great that you have the support of your family they might be able to help you plan your move. It might be helpful to talk to them about the things that they had to thin about when thy moved you away. Things like: how much it cost to rent a moving truck, how much rent cost in different areas, finding employment and education. Moving out on your own is a big step and you have to be very brave to be considering it. One thing that might help make this whole process a lot easier is getting a job and saving money. Once you know how much income you have you can then you can start to plan for the things you’ll need. Another thing to keep in mind is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave.
        From what you are telling us it sounds like you and your parents have a lot to talk about. If you are nervous about having this conversation one service that we provide here is conference calling. All three of us can talk in a safe and open platform about your upcoming move.
        Please call us anytime you like at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or by live chat at www.1800runaway.org from 4:30pm-11:30pm Central Standard Time. We cannot tell you what you should or should not do, but we can help you explore options and come up with a solid plan for what to do next. We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck!

    • #37
      I'm eighteen I've been through tough times but I've survived..
      My mom and dad got a devorce nine years ago haven't really heard from my m till recently and she's not doing very good I was holding a job for awhile I did have my own place for a bit but some issues kinda got in the way and I lost the place so I moved in with my dad and his girlfriend me and my dad's girlfriend don't exactly get along..she's constantly making me do everything around the house then turns around and calls me lazy behind my back I don't exactly appreciate that.. I'm happy that my dad is happy but I'm not happy in the house hold my dad tends to get mad easy.. my mom lives in Iowa I have a few bucks but not enough to get there I was wanting to go there stay with her and try to help her out but I want to do it without my dad knowing I just don't know how to exactly.. and when I get there I'll let my dad know it's just the fact of getting there first so how am I suppose to get there
      There's a lot more facts but I'm not much of a writer please reply soon as possible thank you for reading



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      • #38
        Hi there,

        Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are here 24/7 to listen and to support.

        It sounds like you are in a tough situation at home and are looking to live somewhere else, possibly with your mom. Because you are 18, you do have the right to live wherever you would like. If you are needing help with transportation we may be able to look up resources for you. If you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could look up things like traveler's aid in your area. Another thing you can do is look up your local Catholic Charities or Salvation Army and see if they have any programs that could offer you transportation assistance.

        It also sounds like you don't want to hurt your dad by leaving. If you give us a call we could also help you action plan what you think would be best to do to help your dad understand why you want to leave. We can also help you by looking up resources like shelters and things you might need a long the way depending on how far your mom lives.

        Don't hesitate to call so we can best help you,

        NRS
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        • #39
          Hello hi I'm 18 and I want move out


          I don't have a job or money not even a car
          I've had horrible experiences with my parents
          My mom has depression she takes all her angr out on me always domestic towards me
          Always swearing at me in front of people
          My life is a mess I really need to move but I can't afford it

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          • ccsmod2
            ccsmod2 commented
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            Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry to hear about the relationship that you have with your parents. It sounds like you want to move out but you don't have any money. You could try asking a friend or another family member if they would allow you to stay with them until you get a job. You may also want to consider looking up transitional living programs as well. Please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat if you have any questions or would like resources.

        • #40
          Hi. I am turning 18 in February of 2019. I have been homeschooled since I’m 12, and want to go to a university when I graduate but my parents won’t let me. I have some disabilities and my father thinks I wouldn’t be able to go to classes and I definitely can’t go away to college like I want to. I have been mentally abused all of my life and I’m just so sick and tired of how I’m treated and made to feel. I want to move out when I turn 18 but I don’t have much money and am not allowed to get a job. I’m not able to go out with friends or get my drivers license and I honestly feel trapped. I don’t know where I’d go and/or what i’d do and I’m scared. But I know one thing; I’m moving out when I turn 18, I just don’t know where I’m going or how I’m honing to make it. Any advice?

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          • ccsmod7
            ccsmod7 commented
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            Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. That is infuriating that your parents will not let you go to college, and constantly mentally abuse you. You so deserve the chance to achieve your academic goals, and to live your life for you.

            Typically once you are 18, you are considered a legal adult and can make your own life decisions including where you live, work, and go to school. Preparing to move out can be pretty hard, especially since you do not have the opportunity to get a job and save up for the move. You might try to find a friend or extended family member who would let you stay with them once you turn 18, so that you can have a chance to save up money until you are able to find your own place until you start school and can stay in school housing options.

            You mentioned being sick and tired of who the mental abuse makes you feel. It is understandable that it has really taken a toll on you over the years. You deserve to be treated with respect and understanding. If the abuse if highly dangerous you do have the right to report it to CPS, please call or chat us if that is your situation and you would like to go over your reporting options. If you would like to have a mediated conversation about how your father is making you feel, we have a conference call service here where we can have a respectful, productive conversation about your needs with your guardian. Please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY for that service.

            You mentioned having disabilities and that is why your father does not think you will be able to go to classes; which sounds pretty frustrating. We are not legal experts, but we can speak generally. Students with disabilities have rights within higher education, so colleges can generally accommodate for your needs and there are also online classes if the concern is you being able to get to classes. You might start looking into local colleges, and how they can serve your needs.

            It is smart that you are already planning your move. If you would like to talk through your plan, and help with brainstorming additional options please call or chat us so we can best help. We truly want to be a support for you.

            Best,

            NRS

        • #41
          So I’m 19 right life’s ok not at all rules rules rules be in the home at 5 your car is ours your clothing isn’t yours Like I pay for gas I pay for clothing I pay for insurance I take my car to get normal stuff done to it I pay for whatever goes Wrong with the car I’ve been driving it for almost 3 yrs

          Gas 50 to fill it
          oil 50
          insurance like 800 like I pay for this ******** I work my *** off for that car and I get nothing not a thanks for keeping it running not even a how’s the car doing no not a single thing

          I have to be in the home by 5 or a get yelled at for being out to long all this ********. Like I pay for all this stuff and I get nothing but a roof over my head and food and I’m forced to go to college

          jist today I was forced to get a job I don’t need a job I have enough money to last till summer when work starts back up I don’t want a job I want to be free to do what I need to do learn more about my self acknowledging the fact that I have no friends bc I have to be in by 5 is probably one of the hardest things in life I don’t know what to do I sit and think hey I could do this today nope can’t not allowed to bc it’s 5 like I love the woods. I’m an eaglescout I should be able to live on my own but no ever little thing is my parents apparently even tho I pay for it! Why can’t they see that I don’t want to be with them any more
          my sister is 27 she is different very different she needs help and I don’t know what the **** to do at all sometimes I just go out and bike around and think what the **** would I be doing if I wasn’t with my parents what time would I come in side what would I be like if I had a little home or a van to live in for a wile like it makes me sick when I see
          nothing but hell being put on me I just want to go out and camp out for days on end and just say f it Just want to get out of here and do what I do best and that’s making friends back at Penn I made a lot of friends till my parents started to make special visits and make me look like a foolish 9yr old
          Last edited by ccsmod5; 01-31-2018, 12:23 AM. Reason: lots of swearing

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          • ccsmod5
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            Hey,
            Thanks for writing in. It sounds like you’re very frustrated and you feel like your parents are keeping you from reaching your full potential. We’re not legal experts, but generally speaking if you are 18 you are considered an adult and are free to leave home. You are not required to go to college if that’s something you don’t want to do. It sounds like you have enough money to pay for some of your expenses. You might consider moving out into your own place where you’ll be more free to socialize, etc.
            If that’s not an option, you might consider sitting your parents down to have a conversation about boundaries. It seems like your parents don’t quite know how to let you be independent and it could help to talk about what you need from them. It can be helpful to have someone else around to facilitate that conversation, like a therapist. Here at NRS, we also offer a conference call service and can help you have that conversation as well. Feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929. Best of luck.

        • #42
          I just turned 18 and throughout the years of my high school years my mom and dad have kicked me out for the most smallest things and I have spent the nights in the cold on the streets because I have no one else to turn to. On desperate nights I'll go to my boyfriends, although I don't want him to always be my scapegoat. I can't turn to other family because they get into my business and they end up dropping me home eventually. My parents have done this more than 10 times and because at those times I was under 18 they called the police on me for disturbing, breaking, and even attempting to hurt them, when I don't even do none of those.

          I really want to move out because I can't stand them anymore and they pressure me to move out since I'm 18 now. And the reason why I want to is because my dad's cheating on my mom and he is abusive and manipulating and my mom lets him do as he wants and like I see bruises on her arms and I just don't ask because she let's it happen even though I try to protect her and tell her to divorce my dad. But she won't and because I exposed my dad my dad yelled at my mom to kick me out and to call the cops on me and so she dragged me out and I was homeless recently. I can't stay here longer because the only reason I'm allowed back in is because my older sister understands, but my parents love her and even if she gives her opinion they don't kick her out. My dad's very racist, and I have friends of color, especially one of my best friends and he like embarrass' himself saying dumb racist comments when she's over and he's homophobic too and like my sister dated a girl and he just yelled at her about how the bible and how she's gonna go to hell, but never kicked her out, but kicks me out because I know he's in the wrongs by cheating. So yea I have a job currently but I'm going to college fall semester and need the money for school and I just need to get out as soon as I can, before my sister goes on trips and she can't save my ass when I get kicked out.
          Last edited by ccsmod7; 02-08-2018, 03:59 PM.

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          • ccsmod7
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            Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

            You’ve dealt with some really tough challenges at home for a long time now. No one should have to go through what you’ve experienced. It is great that you are reaching out for support.

            It sounds like you want to find more stability in your life and are ready to explore moving out on your own now that you are no longer a minor. However, you’re extremely worried about the safety of your mom if you leave home and are also concerned about supporting yourself financially while starting college this fall.

            Our 24-hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) is completely confidential. We are always here to listen and help you sort through the specifics of your situation to make a plan that you feel most comfortable with. We also offer live chat services from 4:30pm until 11:30pm 7days a week on our website at 1800Runaway.org if that is an easier way to reach us.

            Remember, you’re not alone. It takes a lot of strength to be going through this and you’ve already taken some great first steps to make things better.

            Thank you again for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are sending the best of luck your way!

            Take Care

        • #43
          i need answers

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          • ccsmod8
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            Hello -

            Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline on our public forum. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. Because we do get a large number of online contacts, we do have to limit email replies to three individual responses to answer any questions that you have or to provide you with a number of means of support. So it’s certainly not a means to communicate to get the full support that you can get if you called in. We are mainly here for support and help find some guidance to local resources that might be able to help a youth through their particular situation and we aren’t here to tell you what to do because you know your situation a lot better than we do. We just want you to know your options and with whatever you choose that you’re safe and not on the streets.

            It sounds like you might some specific questions that you want to ask us or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Only you know when it might be time to leave home and no one can make that choice for you. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us. We don’t ask for any identifying information, unless you want to report any abuse. We certainly want to help you. If you give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could help you find resources in your area and could potentially help you brainstorm a possible solution to the issues you are having. We would love to talk to you.

            Hope to hear from you soon!
            Last edited by ccsmod8; 02-13-2018, 01:18 PM.

        • #44
          I am 17 years old, i live with my step mom and dad. i don't get along with my step mom at all. Recently she asked if i am happy there i said no i feel uncomfortable so they told me to find a place and go, but i have no job, no money and i haven't finished high school yet . i am not sure on what to do and i don't want to be homeless.

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          • ccsmod7
            ccsmod7 commented
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            Hi there, thanks for reaching out.

            Sounds like you are pretty unhappy at home and you have permission to leave, but nowhere to go and are fearful of becoming homeless. That seems like a pretty scary situation and here at NRS we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

            If you have any close friends or extended family members, you might ask them if you can stay with them due to not feeling comfortable at home. It is completely legal for you to live apart from your guardian as long as you also have their permission and it sounds like you already have that. If you have income, you might see if anyone you trust would be willing to rent out a room to you as well. If you do not have any income, it might help to take some time to look for a job and develop a plan for how you are going to support yourself when you do move out. Since you mentioned that you are still in school, it could help to include your school counselor in on the situation in case they know of places you can go and still be able to get to your current high school.

            It is illegal for your guardian to kick you out without anywhere to go, so you do have the right to report the neglect to child protective services (CPS) or to call police if you are kicked out before you turn 18. Please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you are kicked out and want help calling out to police or CPS. We also can look for local safe places for you to go if you call or chat us.

            We look forward to hearing from you and we truly wish you the best,

            NRS

        • #45
          I'm 19, Filipino and a college student. I have dealt with verbal abuse all my life. My father constantly call me mean things and my mother does the same thing and let it happen. I want to leave home, but I don't even have money or a job to begin with. Especially the fact that our country lacks things such as emergency shelters, which caused me anxiety and depression. Please give me advice on how to start thriving on my own. I know you're not experts but a little tip will do. thank you

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          • ccsmod10
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            Hi there,

            Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/

            We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.


            Best,


            NRS
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