I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave.

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I have lived with my grandma for basically my whole life. My mom is a druggie and my dad is an alcoholic. My life with my grandma was pretty good up until recently. She let my uncles move in, one who is a lowlife b**** who lives in our basement, doesn't try to find a job and just takes my grandmas money and eats our food. He always talks s*** to my 8-year old sister and I, and in every fight he just HAS to give his say. My sister and I always try to tell my grandma to make him leave...but she's too much of a p**** to do it. My mom has been living with us, and she had been doing drugs while living with us. She always fought with us, whilst being in an abusive relationship with some older guy. Kinda like her "sugar daddy." After the cops came to our house 2 times in one day last month, she went to jail...and is now in some rehab center miles away. But, every day when my grandma comes home from work...EVERYBODY yells. She yells about EVERYTHING. And of course my uncle has to fight also. Every day is a screaming match. Most of the Time their pitted against me. Now I'm not wanting to sound like a whiny little b****...but I can't stand it! I try to do good in school, but then I have to deal with this. I'm not aloud to stay with any friends because my gramma thinks I do drugs and have sex like my mother. I'm stuck here 24/7. I have even contemplated calling foster care. Really anything but this. I would be fine with just my grandma, my sister, and I...but my 2 uncles won't leave. And my grandma isn't doing anything about it even though the lowlife one always puts her and my sister and I down. The other one lives in our camper and hoards rocks. God, I really could see myself running away.

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RE: I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave

Hello and thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a stressful situation! Living with family members can be tough, especially when new people are added to the home. From what you say, it sounds like things were good at home when it was just you, your sister, and your grandma, but became stressful with fighting when your uncles moved in. Do you have any friends you talk about this with? Have you tried talking to your grandma about how you feel, especially when your uncle puts you and your sister down?

One option we have here at the National Runaway Safeline is a conference call. We could get you and your grandma on the phone with us at the same time, and we could make sure that you are able to say how you are feeling and come up with a plan together for you to feel better at home. Sometimes it helps to have some support when talking to adults, and we are here to help you if that’s what you want to do.

If you do end up deciding to run away, we want you to know that you can always call us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY at any time of day (we are 24 hours). We are not here to tell you what to do (like go back home, for example), but we do want you safe. We have a computer database of runaway/homeless shelters and could see what is around you so you are not on the street.

Because you talk about drug use and fights within the home, we want to make sure home is a safe place for you to be. If you ever feel unsafe, you can call the police right away to get help. Also, if you feel like your home is not a safe place to live, you have the option of making a report with Child Protective Services (like you mentioned calling foster care). You can make a report by calling Child Help USA at 1800-422-4453. If you do make a report, a CPS worker would most likely come out to the home and do an investigation where everyone in the home will be asked questions. If making a report is something you would like to do, we can make the report with you or for you.

We are here to support you in whatever decision you make. It takes courage and maturity to reach out to us like you have, and we want home to be a safe place for you be (so you can keep trying to do well in school!). We appreciate you contacting us, and hope you will again in the future if needed.

Best,

NRS

[skittlesandweed]

Foster Family, Custody problems,Court,Police,School. I HATE LIFE

I used to run away alot. I haven't for a while but today i was reading a friend of mines post about how she ran away. Now i have the urge to. I have been living with my foster family for 9 weeks and im starting to feel really uncomfortable here. I got exspelled from my school that I loved because i got into a fight because the girl was making fun of so many people including me now i have to start a new school on monday ( Next Monday) and i already hate it. Havent even started. thing is if i run away I might get tooken out of my foster home witch is the only one they could find in burlington and i want to go live back with my mom but if i run away witch is what i really want to do idk what would happen and i dont know what to do? or where to go if i did.? any suggestions and yes ive tried talking to them and the police and my counsalers and friends every one thinks im joking because i havent done it in so long im gonna prove them wrong.

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RE: Foster Family, Custody problems,Court,Police,School. I HATE LIFE

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have a lot on your mind and some big decisions you’re trying to make. It’s great that you’ve been able to avoid running away for some time.

Your ability to not runaway seems like a sign of your resiliency. You stated that your friend ran away and now you’re having the urge to do so. What is it that has kept you from running away recently? There’s no way to say for sure what might happen should you decide to run away, but from what you’ve stated there’s the chance that you may have to be placed in another city/town. The idea of attending a new school can be stressful, have you talked to anyone about your concerns regarding the new school? Maybe there’s a way you can visit the new school and meet with a counselor or teacher to show you around.

We're sorry to hear your friends and some adults haven’t taken your situation seriously. It can be frustrating when others are not able to understand your situation. Should you decide to leave your current home, are there any adults of relatives that you would be able to stay with? We want to make sure that you are safe should you decide to leave your current home, so please feel free to reach out to us to discuss your situation further. We are here to offer support in many ways and are willing to talk through any plans you may have. Remember that we are here 24/7 and are always here for support.

Best,

NRS

[Unregistered]

It's so hard to believe they made me...

My life was PERFECT until 12/12/2012. My parents got divorced, I barely see my dad and s*** went crazy. My mom became a pothead and my brother also started smoking, too. Ever since, they've been threatening me to do s*** by saying, "Imma pour this hot coffee on your @$$." My brother wakes me up with his loud @$$ music, and when I'm eating, he always makes sure to gargle his spit. Once I threw up when he did that and my mother yelled at ME. I tried explaining what actually happened, but no matter what, she still takes my brother's side.

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Re: It's so hard to believe they made me...

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are glad that you are reaching out to share your story, and we hope we will be able to offer some assistance or comfort.

It sounds like you have been going through a very difficult time since your parent’s divorce. It’s unfortunate that your father is not very involved in your life. Dealing with your mom’s and your brother’s drug use and how they treat you sounds particularly challenging. Since you cannot rely on your family for support, having others in your life that you can talk to may help you manage this very tough situation. In addition to trusted friends, contacts at school like teachers, counselors or a coach, may be able to offer some assistance or advice about how to deal with your home life. Trying to talk to your father to share how you are feeling could also be an option, if you think he would be receptive.

Finding ways to manage your stress and cope with these problems could also make them easier to handle. Thinking about what helps you relax could help identify ways to cope. You may want to keep a journal or do something artistic or just find a place to be alone away from your mom and brother where you can listen to music or read or something else that helps you feel calm. Taking care of yourself is important, and we are glad you are seeking help.

We would be happy to discuss your situation further or address any specific questions you may have. Please feel free to call our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) anytime. We are here 24/7 and are happy to help however we can. Take care.

[Unregistered]

my brother is a ****** who justifies his actions with "i was in the military"

My brother is a ****** full on. He punches my mom all the time and yet he still gets all the ladies and girls. Every single night he yells with my mom and he always punches me in the jaw or publicly humiliates me online and on social media. He always posts these demeaning photos of me on snap chat and sends them to his friends. I honestly heard that you can get papers that your parents can sign to let you move out of your house but idk about it. I live at home and I'm 14 I'm thinking about moving out seriously. My dad is OK too and he doesn't do anything wrong. My mom literally acts like a baby. Literally. She speaks in baby to me in public to a point where it gets me embarrassed to go school. I tell her this and she cries and makes baby faces. She's a 50 year old woman. She's alright though she doesn't do anything wrong. My root source of wanting to move out of the house is my brother. That's it. So is there any way that I can deal with this. Cops are out of the question because he would find any way to kill me after that. He always uses the excuse "I was in the military and I've gotten worse" and as much as I respect him for that, it only goes so far to a point. He's gotten kicked out of the military...for fighting. So I think this is a common issue with him. He would probably kill me before cops arrive or after they leave. So either way I'm screwed. My parents don't really know about this as my brother threatens all of us. Oh and he also uses the excuse "putting hair on my chest " when he punches me in the jaw, publicly humiliates me, takes unwanted photos of me, and verbally harasses me. I know I'm a huge ***** for saying this but it bothers me that this happens. So what should I do? Talking doesn't help. He says that's a ***** way of doing it.

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Re: my brother is a ****** who justifies his actions with "i was in the military"

Hello there,

Thank you for writing to us through our online forum here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like things at home are pretty tense with your brother. It seems he has been bothering you and physically hurting you and other family members. It sounds like a lot to be dealing with. You mentioned wanting to move out but unsure of what to do about the situation with your brother. Your safety and well-being is important. If you feel threatened by your brother or feel unsafe, it is always recommended and highly encouraged to call for emergency help (911). Your brother stated that his actions are because he was in the military, however, it does not have to stay that way. Perhaps your brother's behaviors are a result of what he experienced, however, there is help for you, your brother, and your family. Talking about things is often a helpful way to figure out a solution or some options that you may find helpful in resolving the issues at home. We are here to listen and to help in a non-judgmental way. If you are able to call in or chat with us we would be happy to explore some helpful options to keep you and your family safe. One source your brother and family may benefit from calling is http://www.va.gov/. You may also be able to locate some counseling agencies through SAMHSA www.samhsa.gov or by calling 1-877-726-4727.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Best,

NRS

[Unregistered]

I hate my mum and step dad

I hate my mum and step dad , firstly I'm 13 turning 14 in a few months and I cannot stand it at my house Any longer !!! One huge reason is my mum , I have never got on with her for as long as I can remember it's not that's she's a horrible person or doesn't have a job or is a druggie, she is normal has a job and cleans and everything but I just hate her we clash all the time we are polar opposites she takes every little thing so deep and turns a normal convocation. Into a ********ing debate about any thing she can it always turns to an argument where she interrupts me and just stands there screaming in my face not to sound like a brat ... But even her face and voice gets on my nerves and no it's not just that fase or hormone changes she annoyed me and I really hate the shouting all the time but the worst part , even other people have brought it up with her she doesn't let you finish speaking interups all the ********ing time drives me crazy how am I suppose to explain or tell her the truth or whatever if she doesn't even let me finish speaking so ********ing rude and then if I or anyone else does the same. To her she will ********** and call the rude , then there's my step dad been together with my mum for about 2 years I have always hated him my mum and me will be having a conversation no shouting for once just discussing grades or something then from the other room I'll hear him shout "DONT TALK BACK " or " SHE IS SO ********ING RUDE " I don't understand why the prick has to get involved ?? He has a daughter of his own ? ... And I'm not the only child it all starts the most when my 2 brothers went off to university and we only see them 1 every couple months or so because they are very busy and my mum had had a bad day she takes it out on me last year j was 100% going to run away and u did for 2 days when I came back she didn't call anyone wasn't worried no phone calls just called me a stupid little cunt ?! Once I skipped school for the first time and yes I know I shouldn't of and its bad to do so but she chucked me out he house and was going to call social service right then ,and my step dad was screaming in. My face saying that I was disgusting , a few weeks later his daughter skipped 2 days at school and all he said to her was "not to do that again or you will be in deep ******** ". She done it again but nothing was done I skip one day and nearly get out in a care home !!!!!!!! I hate her I really really do she is the most horrid person ever such a ********ing cunt I don't want to be here any more

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Re: I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave.

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us today at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been having a hard time at home with your mom and your step dad. We understand this can be a really difficult situation to be in. It sounds like your mom yells and is rude to you and that upsets you. This is a normal response. We want you to know that we support you through this time.

You already shared so much of your situation with us, but sometimes it can be helpful to further vent about what is going on. It can be beneficial to think about who your support system is in a time like this, whether it be friends or other family members. As an addition resource, the website https://teenlineonline.org/ can be good if you are wishing to speak to other teens about what is going on via chat.

If you would like us to provide you with any other kind of support, please do not hesitate to reach out to us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY. If you are unavailable to call in, you can chat with us online during our chat hours. We can discuss your options and what you might want to do moving forward, as well as giving you more space to talk about what’s going on. We can also help you brainstorm ways to cope with this tough situation as well as possibly link you up to resources. Again, we want to support you so feel free to reach out to us whenever.

Take Care,
NRS

[osbaldo]

i am 14 and want to leave my family

I am 14and hate my family my brothers hate me and I just hate my mom I want to. Leave my family I just hate

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Re: i am 14 and want to leave my family

Hi there,

Thank you so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like things are tough for you right now and we’re sorry to hear that. We’re glad that you found us and were brave enough to post.

You shared that you are 14, and you hate your family. It sounds like you do not get along with your brothers and feel they hate you. It has to be very hard to feel like no one likes you at home. You deserve to feel safe and supported in your own home.

It has to be very difficult to feel this way, especially if you are not voicing these feelings to anybody. It sounds like you are even thinking about leaving because it is upsetting you so much. We’re not here to tell you what you should or should not do, we’re just here to help keep you safe in what you decide. Additionally, we can walk through all other possible options with you to determine a safe plan that works for you.

Something that you may find helpful would be talking with your family about how you’re feeling. This can be really tough sometimes. If you need assistance doing this, you can call us here at (800) RUNAWAY (786 2929) and we could potentially do a conference call with you and one of your legal guardians to help facilitate that tough conversation.

There are a few things that can be helpful to think through when determining whether or not to leave home:
Do I have a place to stay?
What about school? Would I continue to get an education?
Am I going to be gone awhile or coming back in a few days?
What would I do for money? Shelter? Food? Transportation?
Who can I depend on if I leave home?
Do I have a safe, solid plan?
What is my plan b in case my first plan doesn’t work?
What have I done to make things better at home?
What can I do to make things better at home?
Who have I reached out to make things better at home?

Please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We’re here 24/7 to help you in any way that we can.

Best,
NRS

[SomeoneLikeYou]

I'm 13 , want to leave home and feel neglected.

My older sister has always had the spot light. When I was 11 I started cutting and from then until the early months of turning 13 I've dealt with depression, extreme anxiety, neglection, self harm, 2 suicide attempts, suicidal thoughts permanent and more. All on my own. My parents never notice, they never have, and I'm sick of it. And yet they're surprised when I come out and say that I don't like being at home. I hate my sister, she's so fake ignorant and a *****. She's had two boyfriends, cheated on the first and gives no ***** about my mother and never tells her anything but yet somehow I'm the inconsiderate one. For example, I ask for a lift some where, all I get is no. No you can't and starts complaining as to why someone else can't take me. My sister asks for lifts everyday, 'sure you can' like wtf how is this not neglectful? Hates everything I do doesn't support me or anything she just gets angry at me and I can't stand it. I'm sick of it. And I just don't want to live with these people who don't appreciate me. I'd rather just leave and not come back home. I'm honestly angry and fed up. Does anyone know what to do? Because I don't want to speak to my parents about this because it will just wind me up.

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Re: I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave.

Hi,
Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things are really difficult at home right now. Home should be a place where you feel safe and loved. We are here to help you explore your options.

Thank you for sharing with us how you have been feeling and how you have been coping with everything. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are here to support you. You mentioned that you made two suicide attempts in the past and have had suicidal thoughts. It’s understandable to feel overwhelmed in your current situation and to search for options. We’re sorry to hear that your parents did not notice what you have been going through. If you are currently having suicidal thoughts or thoughts of harming yourself, you have the option of calling the National Suicide Hotline directly at 1-800-273-TALK or seeking urgent medical care. Other options could be to speak with a school counselor or a therapist in your area about how you have been feeling and what has been going on at home. Another option would be to speak with a trusted friend or family member about what you have been feeling. Sometimes speaking to someone about these things can help you work out some of these feelings in a safe manner. You are worthy and you deserve to be happy.

Some other options you could consider to help you cope with your situation at home and how you have been feeling is some self care options. Self care could include things like expressing your emotions through journaling, doing activities like hiking or swimming or taking up a new hobby such as painting or reading. Other options could include taking a short walk or a hot bubble bath when you are feeling overwhelmed and need a break from the stress at home.

We’re sorry to hear that your parents have been neglectful of you. If you did want to explore the option of sharing with your parents how you are feeling, you can use our conference calling service. If you choose to conference call, you, your parents and someone from NRS would be on the same phone call to help everyone have a calm and safe conversation about what is going on.

You also mentioned that you want to leave home. Some options to consider could be staying at a youth shelter or alternative living arrangement (ALA) or getting permission from your parents to stay with a family member or close friend. While we are not legal experts, generally speaking if you were to leave home without your parent’s permission, they have the right to file a runaway report and if the police found you, they could make you return home. So when considering your options of staying somewhere else for a period of time, for things to settle down at home, getting your parent’s permission would help you. You have many options available to you.

If you would like further help exploring any of these options or others in more detail, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling us at 1-800- RUNAWAY or chatting with us live on our website at www.1800.runaway.org. You deserve to be happy and feel safe at home. We look forward to hearing from you.

Take care,
NRS

[Unregistered]

I'm 12-I hate my family and I want a new one

It's not the worst kind of situation. But I have hated my family since age 8. It started getting worse when we moved states. And when my mom started drinking again. When ever my dad goes in a business trip. She drinks, gets really angry, and at her worst she slap me and my sister. I also don't care for my sister. Honestly I think she's planning my death. All of my family members (mom, dad, sister) slap/punch me. I don't feel safe telling my dad anything because last time I did he slapped me, across the face. Every time I talk to my mom, she screams at me. And mostly makes everything worse. My sister doesn't give a s*** about me or anything I do. And all my friends think I am over exaggerating qbou everything I say. They won't believe me. The only problem is I don't want to live with them any more, but I lose so many things I actually love. Like my horse, school, more of my pets, and some ok friends. What should I do? Should I run away? I don't trust anyone to tell them about this. I don't feel safe living with people I don't trust/give a s*** for.