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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,

    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parent’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

    Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Im 13 and im tired of my family...i dont want to runaway but i want a new family...guess i can say i want to be adapted

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you for reaching out to us here on our public forum. Hopefully by helping you out through your crisis, there are others going through something similar can also get the help that they need.

    After reading through your post it certainly sounds like you have been having a really rough time at home with your mother. It seems like you are just trying to get some support from her about your school work and she just snaps at you. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. You should be able to feel like you can ask for help when you don’t understand something and get that support.

    Since you are only 11 years old that means that you have quite a while to be living at home with your mother, even after your brother moves out to go to college. It might be helpful to start thinking about ways that you might be able to either cope with some of those stressors or coming up with a way to avoid being around your abuser for long periods of time. One thing that may be helpful for you is to possibly note when the fighting/yelling is happening or any triggers of the fighting/yelling (some examples would be like after your abuser comes from work or after dinner and/or right when you get home) and to try to find things that can keep yourself away from home during those times (after school programs, sports program, study group at a friend’s house, etc).

    If those aren’t options, perhaps you can think of other people that are in your life that can provided you with the same support that your brother did when he was living there. That way when he is gone for the school year, you can still reach out to someone that can listen to you when things get hard.

    Best of luck and know that we are always here to help if you need someone to talk to.
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    I am only 11 years old, My mom always yells at me and hits me, she has 7 diseases and never takes me anywhere, when I would tell her she was doing something wrong and the teacher told me the right way she would call me a b** ch and to leave her alone, and if that doesn’t happen she will hit me, or both. Just today I was having trouble with something and I asked her to help me many times she told me to stop complaining and do it myself, I don’t want my brother to leave me alone with her, he’s going to college, I am scared and I just want to run, run so far she’ll never find me.
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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through an incredibly difficult time right now. You do not deserve to be called names and be put down. This could be a form of emotional abuse which you have the right to report. You can report this by contacting Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. You also mentioned that this is affecting your mental health which is completely understandable. You can contact NAMI (national alliance for mental illnesses) they can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI. You can also consider talking to your school counselor about what is going on. You mentioned your mom having the IPHONE ring during class, one option to consider is sharing your location during school hours so your mother could know when you are at school. Another option to consider is during school hours keeping your phone in your locker. Also an 88 on a math test is awesome, we know how hard math can be.
    You also mentioned wanting to runaway, we are not legal experts but we do have general information on the laws. If you were to runaway, because you are a minor your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police did find you they most likely would bring you home. You could consider talking with family or friends to see if you can stay with anyone.
    We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck, stay strong!
    NRS

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    im turning 13 in october. i want to run away. my mom and i have had a toxic relationship for all i can remember. being around her honestly makes me feel very uncomfortable. i just started 8th grade , and my algebra class is something i struggle with even though its the first week. i got an 88 on a homework assignment , and got DAYS of harassment for it. its like her voice actually gives me this numb feeling. my mental health is being affected by her presence. there's nothing i can do to get out of this situation but run away at this point. she literally rings a find my iphone sound in my classes to make sure im at school, and it is such a disruption. i also started recording some of the things she says. she tries to turn me against my father , that she is still married to , and blames their fights on me. ive had a rough childhood and its because of her. i genuinely have a longing for a life without her. i dont know what to do anymore. this isnt like most mother daughter fights , she calls me so many names and tries to bring down my confidence , and even admits to doing so. she claims i do so many bad things and tells my father all these lies that he mistakenly believes. there was a point last year that i tried to commit suicide because i couldnt deal with her pressure and harassment anymore. it seems like running away is the only option.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. You said that your situation makes you basically want to kill yourself. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I honestly just can't do it anymore, I feel like I'm missing out on life, which makes me basically want to kill myself I don't really know how to explain it but I feel like if I was older and had a house I would be able to go out and see friends and basically just have a life.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Thank you for reaching out to us and telling us your story. It sounds like you are going through a very difficult time right now and we hope to be able to help. You mentioned depression If you’re not currently getting mental health resources, it can be really helpful to get treatment As your mental health suffers, you have -limited ability to handle the other stressors in your life. You can contact the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) to connect you to mental health resources at 1-800-950-6264 or NAMI.org You may also want to talk to your school because they should have a counselor for you. To write love on her arms or TWLA.com is also another resource you can use for help as well.

    We want you to know that no one deserves to be yelled at all the time, and you should not have to go through that. There is no way for you to be disowned by your parents, but your parents could potentially give up their parental rights. This would have to be something done with child protective custody. If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you’ve been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453.

    We’re not legal experts here at NRS. Generally it’s not illegal to leave home, but your parents could file a runaway report, the police could get involved, and they could bring you home. The people you’re staying with could potentially get in trouble for harboring a minor if your parents did not give you permission to stay there. You could consider calling your local nonemergency police department to ask about their policies. We also have legal aid resources here if you have specific questions about the laws in your state. If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

    We are sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time with your parents understanding your sexual identity. The LGBT national hotline at 1-800-843-4564 is a great resource if you need to talk to someone about what you are going through and talk to others that may have experienced some of the same things as you.

    One service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. This way you could have a conversation with your parents but you would not be alone. For example, it may be hard for you to explain to your family about your sexual identity. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can support you. If you want to reach us, you can chat with us anytime at 1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We’re here 24/7, and we are ready to listen and help however we can.

    Wish you the best

    -NRS

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    Guest replied
    I want to be disowned by my family because they think that being bisexual or gay is a sin and they have always yelled at me cause me to have depression and since I'm 12 I think that the best way to deal with pain is through cutting myself I I to be disowned by my parents without them knowing that I wanted to be disowned I want them to think that I have to be please help me

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  • ccsmod9
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    Often, youth may reach out to NRS in several different ways to discuss their situation. If a response from NRS is not visible to a bulletin posting it may be that we have already provided services to that individual through another platform we provide such as email, our crisis hotline, or our live chat. NRS encourages anyone in need of assistance to contact us through our 24 hour crisis hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY to receive immediate support.
    Thank you, NRS

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    Hello I’m 13, almost turning 14 in 3 months, and I’ve been wanting to leave my family and live with my friends that I’ve known for years.

    here’s why I’ve been wanting to leave my family because my dad really hates me a lot, like this one time a couple of days ago me and my family wanted to go somewhere but I didn’t feel like getting up and go and he got mad about that and he started to come out with a wooden plank and coming over to me, he was threatened to kill me but all of the sudden my mom and my brother stopped him from moving closer to me to hit me, he got really mad cause he wasn’t in rage to to hit me so he snapped the wooden plank in half and clearly I didn’t know what he was trying to do when he snapped it in half, but then my brother took he wooden planks out of his hands and he just casually walked back to his room like nothing happen, I’ve been knowing why he’s been aggressive cause his father assault his and that got to him. I was very curious about his history a month ago so I’d search him up and found that he has 3 criminal records but I don’t know what the 3 criminal records were.

    me and my brother don’t get along very well cause we always fight about something and I’ve known that he was bio sexual, and crazy what I’ve experienced, and I can see why he doesn’t have that much friends, and that’s why I’ve known that he communicate with stranger that are over his age, and at random times he scream for no reason.

    My mom has been helpful but she’s been really annoying every time cause she wants me too eat due to that I’m 5,9, 98 lbs, and she puts her hand around my waist like I’m a baby which I’m a teenager and she knows that, and she would mostly say the same thing over and over to me and it get really irritating.

    I’ve been suicidal for 4 years now but I never attempted it cause I know I would get out of this someday, I’ve used too my ex to support me but we we to break up due to her mom not letting her date until high-school and she doesn’t know what I’m going through, and she doesn’t check on me nowadays which I don’t know why, and I’ve been left alone nobody to help me and I do have people that can help but I don’t know if they would believe me, and I’m wishing that my friend would let me live with them cause my life would be way better than what I’m going through right now.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I’m 13, turning 14 in 3 months, I’ve been wanting to leave my family and live with my friend that I’ve known for years because my family hates me and I know it cause, a couple of days I didn’t feel like getting up and go to this place and my dad got really mad and grabbed a 2x8 aka a wooden plank and was threatened to kill me but then all of the sudden my mom and my 14 year old brother stopped him from coming closer to me, my dad snapped the wooden plank in half, and my brother grabs the two wooden planks, after that my dad stopped and walked back to his room.

    I’ve been assault by my dad around 4 times throughout my life, and I’d never knew that my dad had 3 criminal records until like a month ago, I’ve been suicidal for 4 years now but I’ve never attempted it cause I knew I would get out of this and be free from this family, my cousin told me that my parents got a divorce when I was young but they got back together cause I was born, I’ve been knowing why he’s so aggressive because his father assault him and it got to him and he never really got to graduate highschool due to that he was forced to dropout by his father to work in the fields.

    Me and my brother never really get along with each other cause we sometimes fight about something, he’s been on my dad side and I’m over here with nobody since my ex had to break up with me cause her mom wouldn’t let her date until highschool and she doesn’t know about what I’ve been going through, and she nowadays she doesn’t check on me and has seen my text 5 days ago.

    My mom is always helpful but she’s been annoying making me eat more cause I’m 5’9 and 98 lbs and she wants me to be eating like my brother which I don’t want to end up like him we’re he’s at 200 lbs at 5’9, I hate when my mom puts her hands around my waist like I’m a baby which I’m a teenager, I’ve always hate that I can’t walk to friends house cause my parents are to protective about me getting run over, kidnapped, robbed, etc, and all I wanted is to have fun for the day.

    I hope I’ll be able to live with my friends because they do got parents that care about them and i think my life would be way better than what I’m going through right now.

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  • ccsmod8
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    Hello there –

    Thank you for reaching out to us here on our public forum. Hopefully by helping you through your crisis, there are others in similar situations that can find it helpful as well. It can be hard not to know what do to in this situation. Sounds like you are in a really difficult spot living with your Aunt, but also not having anyone else to really turn to for help. Being so young can sometime make adult think that your feeling or thoughts don’t really matter, but in realty everyone’s matter and deserve to be validated. We are sound that you are going through something like this.

    You sort of answered your own question there when it comes to living home without your Aunt’s permission. Whenever a youth runs away from home or leaves for any reason without permission, their parent and/or legal guardian has the right to file them as a runaway or missing person with the local police. Since it’s not a crime to run away, the only thing that will happen is that you will be returned back home to your Aunt.

    It sounds like there is a lot of miscommunication going on between you and your Aunt, even with your brother that keeps running away home. Now we do offer a service that is basically a Conference Call where the parent/guardian, the youth, and us would be on the phone talking about what has been going on. This way there can be a mediator in between keeping things calm and productive. If you’d feel more comfortable with doing that, just know that it’s always available. It might be a great way to talk about what you are going through and where this feelings might be coming from, maybe build on your relationship and make it better, or talk about the possibility of moving out with your friend. Something constructive so that it certainly opens the lines of communication, but that services is completely up to you.

    One resource that you might be able to look into if you’re looking for a safe place if you do end up leaving home, would be to visit The National Safeplace. This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there is any safe places near you listed. They are usually places like designated school, fire stations, libraries, etc so places that are normally easy to walk to. So that is always an option if you feel like go to talk to someone in person and what has been going on. They can also come to arrange transportation from that location to a nearby shelter resources if you can’t get there on your own. If you want to contact them you can look at this site and enter your address and they will direct you to your closest safe place that you can to go (https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/for-teens). Another way to find the closes place would be to text the word “safe” and your current location (address, city, state) to 4HELP (44357). You then will be messaged back with the closest Safe Place site and phone number that you could reach out to.

    We hope that this helps out a little. Please feel free to reach out to us again via phone or online chat.
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