I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave.

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I'm 13 almost 14 my ppl don't understand me my mom left my dad 9 years ago I had the life wit her and my stepdad I never had a real smile I just want to leave but keep myself in school nd church I feel like my mom don't understand me I grew up takin care of kids and seein my momma cry over a man that hit her and now I leave school to feel like a normal person but all she do is call me a thot or wore I'm use to pain but her words don't hurt me I just can't take it and I'm 100 %I maybe leave tonight I need to think bout it cuz I do care bout her feeelins

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Thanks for reaching out to us NRS we understand that you are going through a really difficult time. Please know that you can always reach out us and have a conference call with your mom. It would be a good way of communicating with her. It gives you a shot at being honest and getting the way you feel about the situation clearly to her. Another possible option is to find an adult to speak with your mom and have communication with her about the situation. We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I wish I could move out my parents don’t understand how hard school is and how much pain I feel. I want a fresh start! Maybe not bring them along. I want to go where no one knows me and I can leave my whole family behind. I have thought about killing my self but I can’t help think it might get better in the future. My life is hell it always has been. Im a nobody.

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Hey there,
Thanks for reaching out, it sounds like you are feeling a lot of pain, and we want you to know there are people who care about you. It seems like you are going through things at school and at home which is tough to deal with. However we care about you and hopefully we can give you the help you need; and yes it does get better but it can take a while.
First off it’s understandable that while going through these feelings that you want to get away and do a fresh start. If you don’t’ want help from your parents for a fresh start it might be very hard and you will want to have a good plan. If you want to try convincing them to help it might be helpful to transfer to a different school which could give you a fresh start there. It may be harder to have a fresh start at home, but with some work and maybe some help it could be done. If you call in we can look for family counseling services, or personal services if you wanted. In order to run away and leave your parents they would have to file a runaway report with the police. That is not a criminal offence. Meaning if the police find you they would only bring you home. You may also want to think of where you will go. A shelter will usually have to tell your parents where you are if you stay with them. A friend, or other family member might be a place you could go, at least for a little bit. If you have more questions about this please call us and we can answer any questions.
You mentioned that you feel like a nobody, and have considered killing yourself. Nobody should feel like a nobody, and you aren’t a nobody. There are others who feel like killing themselves too, and many who have felt similar to you. There is a website called To Write Love On Her Arms, twloha.com, that has stories from others who have felt like you, and how their lives have gotten better over time and their stories. If you feel like those feelings are getting worse and you need immediate help please call the suicide prevention lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, or visit them at suicidepreventionlifeline.org
We are here for you if you want to talk, or if you have other questions. It seems like you are going through a lot and we want to support you so that you can feel like somebody. We can also answer any specific questions on the phone or on online chats at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

[Guest]

I hate my family i always will and can someone help me get out of this house and take me and i want to live with someone. im only 12 i need to leave this family and school i need a better life my parents fights and fuss alot they hate another my dad always hurting me.. i want a new family white family i need love.

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Hi,
Thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like home has been a stressful place for you. It’s unfair that you are in the middle of your parents fighting and fussing and hating each other. You deserve to live in a home that is safe and supportive. That sort of negativity can be a lot to bear and it’s totally understandable that you would want to separate yourself from this situation. In your message, you write that your dad is “always hurting” you. We were not certain what your situation is, but you do not deserve to be abused in any way. If you ever feel like you are in danger, you can call 9-1-1. Before going forward, we do want to share that we are mandated reporters of abuse; as your post did have some personal information, we believed it was the safest option to report to CPS. If you have questions about abuse reporting and what might happen, you can call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. Your safety is our top priority. If you are not safe at home, you might consider staying somewhere else, like with a friend or another family member. If you need help asking your parents for permission to stay somewhere else, we are happy to arrange a conference call. If you need help finding a place to stay or figuring out your next steps, feel free to call us at 1-800-786-2929. Stay strong and stay safe!
--NRS

[Guest]

I’m 13

i live with with a family that doesn’t give me love. But sometimes they sometimes show it but later on they leave you. I’m a step family member. I already knew that my step family won’t give a ******** about me when I was 11. Nobody cares about me. The only thing they care about is money and their self. They won’t care about me cuz they think that I’m just a happy child who has no problem. Like I do I really do and all I want is just to LEAVE. But I can’t cuz my mother doesn’t want me to leave and the reason why she doesn’t want me to leave is because she wants to use me for money. Like as I get a job when I turn 14 then she’s gonna use the money that I earn then later on she will beg for money like using an excuse. Like all I want is just LOVE from my step family but they don’t show it to me. All they care is money and their self. But when it comes to my brother they treat him like he’s family to them and ********. Like I see it with my eyes. But I’m not jealous of him it’s just that I’m just hurt them treating me differently.

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Hi, thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear what you’re going through with your step family. Everyone deserves to feel loved and accepted at home. It’s understandable that you’re hurt and frustrated with your current situation.
Have you tried to talk to your family about how you feel, including your brother? He or a friend might be able to talk to your family with you and support you in how you’re feeling. It also might be helpful to talk to a trusted teacher or guidance counselor at school and ask them for advice.
Finally, you can call us anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online at www.1800runaway.org. We are here for you 24/7 and completely confidential. Best of luck with everything.

[Guest]

im currently 17 about to turn 18 in 1 month and nine days. i was living in a small town in pa trying to pursue and dance career however i felt so preasured and stressed about trying to succeed that i felt like i needed a break. just for like two weeks but the day after i started my break my parents called and said they were in town to pick me up because my grandma was in the hospital. she was in fact not and shes doing just well so i was hecken ticked. i found out from someone else that my parents had brought me back to ohio for good and im hecken ticked. like they werent even planning on telling me themselves. but they said they brought me home because i wasnt focusing on dance enough and because i was participating in too much "risky behavior" aka walking by myself. but now im home and they said that i cant dance anymore and that im to go to college for nursing or business and i can do neither of them. and act score of a measly 23 isnt going to get me very far and i dont even have any will power to fo either of those. but they want me to go to the local college and wont let me take a half scholarship to Princetons trainee program because they dont have dorms. and they wont let me go to the american ballet theatres program nyc because they dont have housing and two summers ago when i got in the first time my mother said shed put down my dog if i went to it so that never happened. but this year ill be 18 and i still cant go. but "i cant dance anyways." but i had a job there working at chipotle and i loved it i was gettinf $2 over minimum wage and i was working as many hours as i could and i was saving all of my money but my parents wanted me to quit because they didnt like the people (theyve never met them in their lives). but they said i need to get a practical job, hence why i cant dance anymore. but they said i need a real job and not chipotle but i have no clue what a real job is for a 17 year old. but im trying to be transferred from my old chipotle to a new chipotle but my father told me (less than two hours ago) that he had called the pa chipotle and told them that i was on a medical leave of absence but the managers know what is really going on so i have no clue whats happening there. (side story: im really close to the service managers and theyre both very kind and weve become good friends since i started there and i confine in one of them so he knows everything thats happening). but i have no clue if i can be transferred now but i was planning to work at chipotle in the morning and then working at a neighboring store during the night so i can make as much money as possible because id like to move out as soon as i turn 18. my parents are just so controlling its been like that since freshman year and i hate it so much. i know theyre doing everything out of their love for me but this is over kill. i didnt even choose to go to the dance school in pa my mother chose it. but they're complaining about not knowing my friends there and says they dont want me to hang out with them but they have had so many opportunities to meet them theyve just never chosen to. and theyre just trying to keep me here to protect me and keep me safe from "the bad things of the world" but its doing nothing everything is everywhere they cant keep me sheltered forever. theyre just inprisioning me and making me miserable. i felt so alone in high school and had so many situational friendships and it was the same at ballet. but when i was in pa people would actually invite me to hangout with them and so stuff outside of work and ballet and i loved it i even got a boyfriend and i was so happy but theyre taking it away from me and its so frustrating. but they drew the line for me when they said they were going to put new locks on the old apartment door so i can never go back. that is the most absurd thing i have ever heard them say there are 6 other people living there and my parents dont even own the place and they want to change the locks. i can easily just ask someone to let me in or even just find a new place

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Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this frustrating time.

You mentioned you have just over a month and week until you turn 18- it is good that you are already planning out how you are going to live on your own and how you are going to support yourself. It can be stressful when things in your life don’t go as planned, so it is important that you practice self-care in one form or another. It sounds like you have a few people in your life that you are confiding in, it is great that you have a support system in place.

We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

[Guest]

I am 13 years old and my family is never fair with me

I’m the oldest child in the family and I get mistreated and yelled at all the time. I try to cooperate with my family but they never listen to me but when it comes to my 2 younger brothers they listen. I’m tired of this i deal with this every day I just want to leave and get a fresh start. Some times I just sit outside to be by myself and they get mad when I leave without them knowing. I just need a new family that loves me and listens to me.

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Hello,

It can be difficult to ask for help, and we are glad you reached out to us today. You do not deserve to be treated this way. It sounds like you are frustrated with your current situation and are looking for someone who will listen to you.
The Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), samhsa.gov, may be a helpful resource for locating a therapist. A school counselor or teacher may be able to help.

We are not legal experts and consequences for running away can vary from situation to situation. Running away is not illegal but if the police are involved there can be consequences for the people who take you in. Calling a non-emergency police number is a helpful resource for learning more about the consequences for leaving.

In addition to being available by bulletin, we operate a 24/7 hotline (1-800-786-2929) and are always here to help and provide additional resources. You do not deserve to be mistreated and you are taking the right steps to improve your situation. Do not hesitate to reach out.

Good luck,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 14 and I hate living with my mum

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community-based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis-related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

I hate my life and I had my mum and sisters they get all the attention and I'm just sitting there lonely

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Reply: I hate my life

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You show some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS


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[Guest]

I’m 13 and I hate my family
My life is fine I guess but my parents are overprotective and they don’t trust me. They get mad at every little thing and no matter what I do they always seem to love my sister more. They never leave me alone and always want to know what I’m doing every second of every day. I have no privacy and I just want out.

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Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now. One option you may want to consider is talking to your parents about how you are feeling, they may not realize how you feel. At NRS we offer conference calling, where if you call us we will call your parents and help you have a conversation. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to provide support and help mediate the conversation. If that is not an option you could try talking to a school counselor or therapist, sometimes talking to a professional can help you feel better and they may be able to provide you with resources.
You mentioned wanting to get out. We are not legal experts but we will do our best to help you. If you were to leave without permission because you are a minor your parents could file a runaway report on you. If the police found you that would most likely bring you back home. We know you mentioned not liking your situation, you could try doing hobbies you enjoy to take your mind off of things. Sometimes going on a walk, writing in a journal and talking to a friend may help.
We want you to know to stay strong and you are not alone in this. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options more please give us a call. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

My parents work all the time and when they get home they do nothing because they use the excuse that they’ve been working all day, nothing is ever done. No I understand that work can be tiring but even on their days off they just say that it’s their first day off in ages so they aren’t going to do anything. They are extremely lazy and say they don’t want to do anything and that’s their decision because I’m the child and they are the parent. Like taking me to school when it’s pouring down and really windy, my mum won’t take me without a screaming match, which stesses me out, even though she has a car and if she doesn’t have work. My dad doesn’t clean the house at all, and he’s recently been saying stuff like “I’m not your servant and I’m not here to serve you” when I asked for dinner. When I tell another family member about it they ask my parents to which my parents reply saying I’m talking crap. If I try to talk to them I get yelled at and I hate it. I don’t like either of them they are too irresponsible. There is hardly ever food to eat in my house, it’s a mess and I shouldn’t have to constantly be stressed with those things at 15.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Its unfair to be constantly screamed at and not treated with respect. Please know we can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

12 and I just wish my 2 younger siblings could get out of my life. It all started when my parents had my stupid siblings and I hated them. I didn't care about them for ******** and I always wanted them to get out of my life. I started cutting because of bullying and because I wanted the attention I lost because of my stupid younger siblings. Now I just rebel to everything and i don't give a ******** about anyone or anything. Today I went to a fair and I really wanted this tiny bag because I needed it. Then my mom keeps telling me it's to expensive or stupid ******** trying to change my mind to make me not buy it. First my brother started crying and yelling because he didn't get a seat in a stupid ride. Before xxxtentacion died, I listen to his music because he gets me and I cried alot when he died and I just couldn't believe he died. I listen to him all the time because his music is spitting out facts. I wanted to run away like 5 times each month. I tried to kill myself 5 times. I always say "I wouldn't care if my siblings died" or other stuff that a mother doesn't want to hear from her daughter's mouth. I just wanna run away or kill myself instead of my parents beating me or hurting me with their words and actions.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. It also sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,

[Guest]

Hi im 24 and my family dont care about me i need new family please help im about to live on streets

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We are sorry you are going through such a difficult situation. In order to best help you we would need some more information on your situation. In the meantime you can look at shelters in your area by going to National Homeless Shelter Directory.org. Please give us a call or chat on our online platform. We are here 24/7. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 13 yeas old my parents are split I want to leave home my sister doesn’t care about me she calls me names and tells me to kill myself .i cry a lot about it and feel really down when I’m at home I feel fine with my friends can I just live with my friends home cause they have extra room and i feel safe around them . I’m currently living with my dad and when I ask to leave he just yells at me and and say no I just hate my family .id rather live with my friend

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

i hate my family they make me do everything i always have to taking care of my baby brother and i never get a thank you and they always put pressure on me and want me to do good in school meanwhile i"m failing because have to take of their child and they never let me hang out with friends and honestly they don't let me enjoy my childhood meanwhile i can

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Hi there, thanks for contacting National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry you are going through such a tough time at home. It seems hard to have to help take care of your brother at such a young age and feel pressure from your parents about your grades. It must also not feel good to not be able to spend time with your friends and feel you are not enjoying your childhood. That seems like a lot on you and you deserve to be able to enjoy your youth and time with your friends. It may be beneficial to talk to your parents about how you are feeling. They may want to know that you feel the added responsibility and a lot of pressure on you and one of the reasons why doing well in school is hard. Have you thought about getting a tutor or speaking with your parents about that option? It may be beneficial to have the assistance and support. We know that it may be hard to speak with parents and feel like we are being heard. We are here to support you if you feel you would like someone to help you speak with your parents we do have a conference call option here at NRS. If you would like to talk about that option further or talk more about how you are feeling please, feel free to give us a call at any time on our 24/7 hotline 1800-RUNAWAY or chat with us live by visiting our website 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon. Take care.