I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave.

[Guest]

I'm 12 years old and I hate my life. My parents fight with me almost everyday and this has been going on for a while and I'm at a point where I just want to run away. This is only because I have a C in one of my classes and I think but know that my parents are just TOO overly dramatic. I have tried to talk to them on how I feel but the just say something like, oh your just trying to make us feel bad just so you could slack off in school. My mom thinks that all I do is lie, I tell her I don't have homework and she is going to think I am lying. So nothing I tell them will work. I am an only child so I have any older siblings to tell me what to to or back me up. Sometimes my life feels like slavery, my parent just make me do chores, sleeps and eat, and yell and hit me all the time. I can remember one day that I'm not in a fight with my parents. What should I do?

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Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline – it sounds like there’s a lot going on at home, but you’re doing the right thing by reaching out and asking for help. While it’s pretty normal to disagree with parents from time to time, there should never be any hitting. If there is abuse at home, you might want to consider reporting it. ChildHelp is a confidential, 24/7 hotline that provides information, resources, and reporting for youth in need. You can reach them at 1-800-422-4453. They can talk to you about what’s been happening and provide sound advice for moving forward. You also said that your parents aren’t trusting you- that has to make things really difficult around your home, especially when you’re just trying to talk to them about what’s going on in school and life. With all this going on at home, it’s okay to feel pressured, frustrated, or scared. When you feel down, it can be really helpful to have healthy coping habits- listening to music, coloring, sleeping, or exercising could become safe outlets to take you away from stress at home. Lastly, running away from home is a big decision, but we can help you think about your options. It sounds like communication with your parents has been stressful, but there could be new ways to start conversations or new people to reach out to as well. If there are other people like friends or teachers that you trust, they could be really helpful by listening and helping you stay safe and decide what to do. We are always here for you too. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY- we’re here to listen and we’re here to help. We wish you the best of luck.

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NRS

[Guest]

Hi, I'm 14, high school Student
gosh you seem to be having a really depressing difficult time, even worse than me!
I hate my family and I always DREAM about FREEDOM from this very annoying family and school because I hate my strict school and my frustrating family!
I am a sister to 2 brothers, And I'm the middle child, and it's absolutely Frustrating. I have to look after my MENTAL and CRAZY younger brother who is nearly 9 and can't do anything himself so I have to do everything for him, such as give him breakfast and lunch, clean his dirty bum, read him a bedtime story and force him to go bed, AND ALL I GET FROM HIM IS BLOODY VIOLENCE!!! ITS SOO HARDDD!!!
And with my older brother, He bullies me, and He also gives me violence, but he is not as bad as my younger stupid brother.
And I do talk to my parents about it and all they do is nothing but accuse me of annoying them and I HATE IT!!! I HATE HOME AND SCHOOL LIFE BECAUSE I HAVE FRIENDS THAT DONT EVEN LISTEN TO ME!!!
IN SCHOOL I BE IGNORED BY EVERYONE AND IT DOESNT SEEM I EVEN EXIST IN SCHOOL SOOOO BYEBYEEEEEE *****!!!
I don't give a bloody ******!!!

so yeah, as you may see, this was a long letter but yeah man. Don't worry dude, your not alone, I've been craving freedom since I became a teenager.

Life can be a stressful ********, I understand, but your not alone, there are many people with these situations. I hope this helps

[ccsmod7]

Hi there, thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.

It sounds like you are dealing with a whole lot both at home and at school yourself. That seems really frustrating that your parents and friends at school are not hearing you when you try to reach out for help. You should be heard, and we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time. You mentioned that both of your brothers can get violent. That sounds pretty scary, and it is understandable that you are frustrated with your parents for dismissing your safety and feelings when you try to talk to them about it. From the language you used in your post, it is unclear to us if you are in the United States or not. If you are based in the U.S. and would like to explore your options with reporting the abuse you are enduring from your brothers please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. If you are based in another country you might reach out to your local child help hotline that is more knowledgeable about laws in the area you are in: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

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Best,

NRS

[Guest]

I want to runaway for a quite a long time but I never done it but today 3/22/18 made want runaway right now as I am writing this


i am 11 years old and I live with my mum my dad and my older brother. And what happened is that my mum yells at me everyday for doing sh** that I did not even do and she always calls me names like stupid, etc. but today she yelled at me for not understanding my math homework. I keep trying to cool down and not to tell her how I feel about her but today I was about to when my brother stopped me because I was so mad I tried to tell my friend but by mistake I texted my brother. And that is not even the worst thing, my mum keeps making up lies that “I did or said” which bothers me. A LOT. I am thinking about packing my bags for good and leaving my parents cuz I am tired of this sh** ... please tell me what to do.

[ccsmod2]

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We are very sorry to hear that about the way your mom has been treating you. You don't deserve to be called names or yelled at. Since you are unhappy at home, you could try asking your parents if they would allow you to stay with another family member. Talking to your parents about how you feel could help. Here at NRS, we offer conference calls between youth and their parents. This could be an opportunity for you to tell your mother how you feel when she yells at you. It sounds like you are thinking about running away from home. Having a plan about where you would go and how you would take care of yourself is important. Since you are under 18, if you decide to leave home your parents have the right to file a runaway report. With a runaway report, if the police find you they would return you home. Running away is not illegal, but if you decide to stay with a friend they could get in trouble for harboring a runaway. We hope that this information helps, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat if you have any questions or just want to talk.

[Guest]

i’m 13 and my parents are divorced and my mom abuses me. she does things to make sure my brother and sister hate me. i’ve always liked my dad more than my mom but now i can’t live with him cause he doesn’t want us. my mom leaves scars all over me and i cannot stand being with her another day. please help

[ccsmod7]

Reaching out for help can be difficult and we are really glad you messaged us today. You do not deserved to be abused, and you are so brave for speaking up and seeking help. If you are ever in immediate danger you can always call 911. In addition to 911, Child Help (childhelp.org) operates a National Child Abuse Hotline (1-800-422-4453.)

In addition to being available by bulletin, we have a 24/7 hotline and are always here to provide additional support and referrals. We can help you think through your next steps, find additional resources, and walk you through the process of filing an abuse report if that is something you are interested in. You do not deserved to be treated this way and we encourage you to give us a call.

Good luck,

NRS

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[Guest]

I'm thirteen and just a year ago in seventh grade, my dad basically shoved me with his fist and if I didn't do something on my homework right, he popped me upside the head, I think the only reason that I'm on house arrest for terroristic threatening is because of the way he treated me, my mom is apart from him and doesn't own a house, but is it possible for me to tell a judge or somebody who I want to live with since I hate my dad and my mom used to be on drugs and says my dad has needles in his hatchet handle, he used to yell at me for no reason and I just want to go back and live with my aunt in Missouri, Malden because they don't do drugs or drink and my dad used to threaten to stop letting me go to my moms if my report card wasn't good. Thanks for listening!

[ccsmod2]

Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes a great deal of courage to seek help. We are very sorry to hear that your dad has hit you. Abuse is never okay and you don't deserve to be treated that way. If you ever feel as though you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to contact 911. You have the right to report the abuse. Child Help (1-800-422-4453) is a great resource for abuse reporting and information on how to transfer custody. You could contact Child Protective Services and tell them about what your dad has done to you, and you would like to live with your aunt. Another option that you have is asking your dad if they would allow you to stay with another family member such as your aunt. Please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.


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Please be safe.

NRS

[Guest]

I’m so tired

Im at the stupid age of fourteen, you know the one where you could break down over almost nothing. Well my brother is a senior this year and is planning his college deal which has left no time for me with my parents. There’s been a lot of deaths and suicides around me lately and it’s makes me feel like nothing is worth it anymore, and it doesn’t help that my brother treats me like I have no feelings, like i won’t feel hurt by names and by losing the things that make me even remotely happy. Why can’t I just disappear to somewhere and start life anew. Oh nevermind I’m to young, I can’t do anything without questioning and would never get very far.

[ccsmod4]

Reply: I’m so tired
Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about what you have been feeling.
It is not an easy task for anyone to cope with tragedies such involving death.
The emotions you feel are important at any age.
You are very brave for expressing them so openly. Good for you.

NRS is here to listen and here to help.
Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here to support you through this challenging time.
Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Take care,
NRS

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[Guest]

I am 12 and I hate my family

They treat me like a 4-year-old and brag about what they did when they were my age, but they won't let me do anything! I don't like them snooping around my private life and when it comes to girls they say I that I am too young to talk to them! LIKE SERIOUSLY! I JUST WANT TO TALK! They don't take my opinion into account with anything and hate it when I say the truth about how I feel about them. Recently I had an argument with a close friend and they couldn't even listen when I told them about it. Later it affects my grades and all they do is rub in my face that I am not good enough. When I ask my mom for help with something she gets extremely frustrated that I don't understand it and curses under her breath.
And my dad is the worst, he never helps me and doesn't even give a ******** if I tried to destroy the furniture in my house. And both of them combined don't realize how much hatred builds up inside of me each day they do this. They don't realize how hard it is either not to show the emotion. And then my mom whines about feeling stuck in the house so I tell her to meet my friend's parents and she just calls me crazy. And when they finally realize that I am upset they start treating me like a baby carrying me and singing songs. I am not sure what to do but I definitely want to show them I am not 4 and that I want to live the way I want to. I have considered running away but that would hurt my sister who is as bad as my parents because she mimics everything they say and pretends she is smarter than me though she is 9. I guess the overall question is how do I prove a point?

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Reply: I am 12 and I hate my family

Hello,
We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
We are sorry that things are not going well between you and parents. It sounds like it’s been hard for you. It also sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by it all.

Things might be better if they would just listen and acknowledge your feelings.
We understand how frustrating and upset this must make you feel.

Sometimes when there is lack of communication with someone it may help to seek outside help to improve it. You did well reaching out today. We would like you to know NRS is here to listen and here to help. Often, having a safe space to share your feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of.

Some sometimes counseling is an option looked at.
This might be one way to discuss your feelings in a safe and constructive environment.
If you would like to talk more in detail we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. You did an excellent job reaching out today.


Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope it helped to open up about your situation.
Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

My family is too controlling. If I get a gift card or anything i can only buy clothes or they don't even get used. Everything I do is a mistake. I am an all A student and that's still not good enough, I take all advanced classes. I do so much to make my parents proud and even get a small smile or anything from them. All I got is a good, or why not better. I recently heard from my school that i'm getting my artwork framed and displayed in a art show, and my parents are just like cool. I want to buy some markers,pens for artwork and coloring, but i'm not allowed to because its a waste of money. Sometimes i feel like a waste. Every time I do something wrong I get blackmailed with the things that I love. I don't even have a phone or personal device. I use a family I pad, with a password I don't even know. I have to ask to use it and hardly get 1 hour in 4 days. I can never text my friends. Whenever i do something wrong i get threatened about how all my apps will be deleted. It happened once and all i wanted to do was run away. Right now i have 2 apps, 3 if you count i message. What should I do? Everytime I bring up something i get shut down.

[ccsmod3]

Hi there,
Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like you are going through a tough situation at home with your parents controlling what you can and cannot do. It takes courage to reach out for support. We are here to help in your time of need. If you would like, we do offer conference calling. This is when a NRS member will help facilitate a conversation between you and your parents. It could be a good way for your parents to hear how all of this is making you feel and if they would be willing to compromise with you. If this is an option for you, please feel free to contact us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929).

You also mentioned that you wanted to runaway. We are not, but if you were to run away from home under the age of 18 without your parents permission they could file a runaway report. In some cases, if youth are found by the police they could make the youth return home to their legal guardians. Again, please do not hesitate to call us directly to talk through options directly through our 24 hour hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). If you can’t call in, you can chat with us through our website (www.RUNAWAY.org) from 4:30pm-11:30pm Central Time. We look forward to your call or chat.

-NRS

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[Guest]

I hate everyone in my house except for my dog coco and my sister. My mom is usually yelling or complaining about how horrible her life is. She doesn’t help her life in anyway to get better! She keeps getting more animals even though she can barely feed the ones she has and sometimes me and my sister also. I want to runaway so I can not have to deal with the stress she causes on my life anymore. I know it’s bad to run away from your problems but I don’t know what else to do. I’m also 14 so I can’t even just drive somewhere and stay for like an hour or two so I can relax and not walk on eggshells so she doesn’t get mad about something.

[ccsmod5]

Hey, there,
Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a pretty frustrating situation. It sounds like your mother is having a lot of issues and it’s understandable that you would feel stressed. We aren’t legal experts, but if your mother’s habit of buying animals is making your home unsafe or uncomfortable—especially if she isn’t able to feed all of you sometimes—this could be considered neglect. You have the right to report that to child protective services. For more information on what constitutes neglect and what might happen if you do make a report, you can always call Child Help. The hotline is answered by experts on neglect and child abuse. They’re also confidential so you don’t have to make a report if you don’t want to. Their number is 1-800-422-4453. They also have an online chat feature at childhelp.org.
You mention wanting to run away. Since you are a minor (under 1, you would need your mom’s permission to stay elsewhere. Otherwise, your mom could file a runaway report and if the police are able to find you they may return you home. That being said, if you believe leaving is your safest option, that’s understandable. You may consider staying with a friend or a family member for a while. It sounds like you are craving an hour or two away from home to relax; if this is the case, you might also consider just going out for a walk or perhaps doing an extracurricular activity at school to get out of the situation for a bit.
Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

Stay safe!

[Guest]

Im 13 and im going to kill myself there is no talking me out of it by the time you see this i will probably already be dead Goodbye

[ccsmod1]

Hi there,

It sounds like you are thinking about harming yourself or ending your life. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are glad that you did. Your life has worth and the thing we care about most is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

Stay safe,

NRS

[Guest]

my mom acts like she loves me in pubic but she does not when i come home she hits us chokes us calls us names make us feel unwanted sometimes she is really nice but it does not last long one of my best friends killed himself and my mom said that i lied for attention but she even told people i caused it but i know the true story of my friends death and my mom hates me my dad died my niece has a heart transplant my grandmother had a aneurysm i hate when i tell people what happened i have to say i lied because if i say its true im scared i wont live another day my mom hurts my feelings makes me feel embarrassed makes me want to kill myself i mean i try to does not work because what if i don't die what if i have to still live with my mom my older brother is abusive every time he visits he hurts us he punched my sister in the face she had a swollen eye me and my sister have cuts all over us and i just feel bad about myself but there is nothing i can do because no one will believe me on one my mom acts so nice around people but us she kicked my sister in the stomach today and she cried but i couldn't do nothing we look like they care but in reality they dont give a lovly f**k and i love these creepy things i just want to leave as soon as posibly as soon as i turn 18 i'm disappearing from everyone.

[ccsmod7]

Hello! We appreciate you reaching out to share your story with us. It can take a lot to open up, and you are very brave for doing so.

We are so sorry to hear that you feel this way. It is not okay to be treated like this by your family under any circumstances. You have definitely been through a lot at home and we understand that leaving may be the best option for you. That being said, it is important that you have a support system to discuss these things with. You may want to contact an adult you trust to help you assess your options, such as a relative, school counselor, or teacher. If you do not have anyone close by that you trust, please feel free to give us a call anytime at 1-800-786-2929 to discuss your situation. We are a completely confidential service and are able to refer you to shelters and many other resources that are safe alternatives to living at home.

Because your family has been abusing you, if you feel comfortable making an abuse report, you can call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 to do so. You also mentioned having some thoughts about killing yourself. Keep in mind that the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is always a good place to reach out to if you need. Their number is 1-800-273-8255.

Continue to stay strong, we believe in you! We look forward to hearing from you soon.

Sincerely, NRS

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[Guest]

I'm a 13 year old girl and I hate living with my parents In my house hold I have a mom who starts to work around 7 am and comes at 7pm and a step father who goes to work early and comes around 4 or 5pm. Also a soon to be 10 year old sister, my parents name call me for things I do or have. For example my mom told me to throw garbage away I was fine doing it until my step father laying in the couch told me to get the bin from outside. I understood what he said but didn’t get it right I thought it was to drop the garbage from outside to the sidewalk to the garbage man would take it. so I did and came up from throwing the trash and my step father saying where’s the bin and still confused had back down telling myself what bin so I checked the I didn’t know where it was he said in was in the garden and look back and nothing. When up and told him I didn’t find it and he calls me zona in Spanish meaning stupid. I didn’t like it because it hurt me emotionally. Also one time I ate pudding as a snack and also crackers that had cheese and he starts telling me I’m fat and that I might eat all the sweet in the fridge an I start getting mad and say talk back saying I don’t and to stop making up lies and also calling over weight for a girl like me and I get a bit depressed from it. He goes to his room and tells my mom that I’m talking back and she just tells him to hit me with the belt. Also if not the insult is the unfairness! my little sister is spoiled and also bullies me she calls me fat and sometimes bad word and be physical, I hit back and I’m mostly to blame since I’m bigger and taller even though she started. I have depression and think about running away to my god mother and her son its better over there I get treated nice never bullied by my appearance and her child never bullies me and is a great friend. My god mother was the only and things and my dog is the reason I’m still here not running away to disappear since who would love my dog NO ONE because she knows what happens at the house and protects me by barking at my family and I thank her by giving treats. So if anyone response please tell me what to do so I can get away from this bullying. Thank you