I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave.

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I’ve lived with my grandma all my life, and now I’m 16. I've lived with her for so long I can’t stand living with her, I had to be separated from my step dad who has always been here for me and my sisters. I wanna live him. But I don’t have a choice. I’ve thought about running away. But I can’t. My grandma even calls the cops on me for the dumbest reason. I do not like her at all. We recently just moved to a different state and she wants a better place for us. Well where I’m currently living at now it’s not a good place there’s gun shots here and yet I’m still here. I hear them every day. I rather be in foster care then be here honestly.

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Reply: I’ve lived with my grandma all my life

Hello,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
Some situations can be disappointing and even upsetting thus making things uncertain about what to do or where to turn.
We understand and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org.

Again tell us what it is you would like us to help you with and we will be happy to explore some options with you.
NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I m 17 .And I don't like my family .Always my family fight with each other and always loading.They don't support me always hates me.I wanna leave my house and want to go so much far.

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Hello there -

Thank you for taking the time out of your day to get into contact with us here at the National Runaway Safeline, we are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. From your message to us, it sounds like you have are going through a very hard time right now and seem to be very overwhelmed with everything that is going on. It’s great that you are able to reach out for help in your current situation, it’s very brave of you to do that. It must be very frustrating to be living with abuse.

Only you know when you need to leave you home due to it being unsafe. One thing that may be helpful for you is to possibly note when the abuse/yelling is happening or any triggers of the abuse/yelling ( some examples would be like after your abuser comes from work or after dinner and/or right when you get home) and to try to find things that can keep yourself away from home during those times (after school programs, sports program, study group at a friend’s house, getting involved in your volunteering, etc).

Unfortunately, we don’t know much about resources in the UK for we mainly work within the United States. But there are resources that might be able to help you within India that can be of more help. There is the “Childline India Foundation” (http://www.childlineindia.org.in/) in India that might be of more help since our resources don’t go outside the United States. There also might be a number in which you can call as well to talk to them about what has been going on. It might be a great way to talk to someone there that can help you get through these terrible times with your parents.

We hope that this resource helps!

[Guest]

I’m 12 years old and my mother and father almost get in a fight once or twice a week my mother and father are met to be they never care about my feelings I always use to say hate was a strong word until I met my father he use to slap me 4 times or more which I understand sense I have such a big mouth but last night i was crying cause I was scared my mom would get hurt which happened she got slapped and my dad try to make her sound like the bad guy but that not why I’m writing this the reason is he always has the nerve to come to me and say I’m sorry and my mom forgives she bearly sticks up for me I just wish all the fighting would stop and I know my father and my mother were in love but my mom says she dose still stick up
if I could name one it would make me smile yes I have thought of running away but there this thing that makes me stay or belive in them I think it my fault for letting them be right or listen to them I wish the world was a fairy tale

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Thanks for writing in. It sounds like you’re in an incredibly stressful situation. We want you to know that none of this is your fault. You never, ever deserve to be hurt. You deserve to feel safe in your own home and it’s not okay that your father has harmed you and your mother. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we’re so glad you reached out to us.
We’re not legal experts, but this generally would be considered an abusive situation. One option is to report the abusive situation. You can do this by calling Child Help, a hotline that can not only help you file an abuse report but can also help you figure out what the outcome might be; their phone number is 1-800-422-4453. Another option is to confide in an adult that you trust, like a teacher, guidance counselor, or a coach. Any of those people are “mandated reporters,” meaning they have to report any abuse they hear about. And of course if you ever feel that you or your mom are in immediate danger, you have the right to call the police at 9-1-1.
You mentioned that you’ve thought of running away. If you do choose to leave, there are a few considerations. First, if you leave home without consent, your parents would have the right to file a runaway report. If the police are able to locate you, they will simply return you home. If you disclose to the police that there is abuse going on at home, they are obligated to investigate that situation before returning you home. It sounds like you care about your grandparents and your little brother a lot. You might consider asking your parents if you can stay with your grandparents (if they don’t live with you), as this may make it a bit easier legally.
If you’d like to speak about the situation more specifically, please feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929. Thank you again for reaching out. It’s a scary situation and you are so strong. Best of luck to you.

[Guest]

I'm 15 and I can't do this anymore
i was born into a family that was never a real family, my dad tried to kill my mum and brother and when that didn't work he left, ever since 10 when I stopped seeing him I've never liked my mum, as if he brain washed me or something but I can't stand her and we're always fighting and I've runaway a few times before and been put in hospitals and all sorts but now I just want to run again.
its almost Christmas and I'm living in my room, not talking, not eating but yesterday we got into another fight and she said this "so where are you spending Christmas?" I didn't know what she meant and then said "because if you carry on with this attitude it'll be in your room" so I went to my room and tried my best to not put a hole in my wall and then she came up stairs almost in tears saying "I'm part of this family and I should spend Christmas with them" and then five minutes later shouting at me again.
I don't want particully to run away but if they don't offer me any other options then that's what I'll have to do,
im fed up of everyone saying it's my fault and that i broke mum and her partner up or I've ruined mums life or I ruin everything or I'm just like my farther...
but you know the more I hear these things the more I start to believe the, please help me

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are here 24/7 to listen and to support..

It sounds like you've been facing a lot at home for quite some time. We ant you to know that you are not alone and that you deserve to feel safe and happy at home. Is there anyone at school like a counselor or other adult that could be support for you? Do you have other family members that you think could advocate for you to your mom? We have a conference call service here at NRS where a liner could mediate a conversation with you and your mom so you could voice your concerns and needs with our help and hopefully come to some solutions together. If you would be interested in that, or if you just need support, don't hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through chat at www.1800runaway.org.

It sounds like you are also contemplating running away. Some things to think about would be where will you stay/how will you support yourself? Again, if you want to give us a call we could help you walk through your options and action plan. We could also possibly connect you with resources for counseling and other things you might want access to.

We're sorry you've been told that everything is your fault and that you've been pushed to your limit. We're here to help and listen and to let you know that your life is valuable.

Good luck, and be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

I been struggling to I'm also 13 year old girl who HATES MY LIFE I want to restart be the daughter my parents wanted instead of me.I can see my twin brother is there favorite child by far telling my how useless,lazy,spoiled etc.That I am!! I DONT WANT to die because they still get the sudden moment of like but I WANT A BREAK

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Thanks for writing in. It sounds really frustrating to feel like your parents don’t want you. Please know that you are not alone and you deserve to feel loved and supported at home. It’s very hurtful that your parents have called you lazy and spoiled. One option you might consider is asking your parents to join you in counseling with a therapist or a guidance counselor so you can communicate how you’ve been feeling and what you need from them.
You mentioned wanting a break. You might consider asking your parents to stay at a friend’s or other family member’s place for a weekend or longer. As long as you have parental consent, there should be no issue with that (though we’re not legal experts). If you’d like to talk about your situation more specifically, feel free to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Best of luck.

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I’m 13, going to be 14 in August. I want to leave my house because my parents are rude to me. My dad told me that he doesn’t care about me or my feeling. My mom doesn’t care either she has kicked me out. They only want me to do stuff for them like a maid. I have ran away and they were just drinking and partying. But they called the cops to just bring me back. My mom didn’t bother to call or text me. The police told my mom and dad they can hit me they just can’t leave a bruise. They have before. Not going to lie. I self harm. Im diagnosed with severe depression and they say it’s my fault I’m like this I made myself like this cause I want to. I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t live her anymore. I’m tired. If I sleep during the day the ground me or wake me up yelling at me because I didn’t clean. But when my sister does they don’t care. They treat me differently from everyone. They call me fat and other names. My parents yell at me all the time. They don’t let me go anywhere. I always have to babysit or stay home cleaning. I can’t live like a slave. If I don’t leave and stay I feel like I’m gonna just kill myslef. Thad’s how bad I can’t take it anymore. Someone please help me what do I do.

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Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes a lot of courage to seek help. We are very sorry to hear that your parents have been abusing you. Abuse is never okay, you don't deserve to be treated that way. You do have the right to report the abuse to CPS. They would do an investigation, if they find that you are not safe at home they would remove you from your home. You could also report the abuse to Child Help (1-800-422-4453), they could provide you with information on how to transfer custody as well.

You mentioned that you engage in self harm and you fear that if you don't leave home you will kill yourself. Although you are going through a difficult situation with your parents, your life matters ! You are not alone, talking to someone could help to improve how you feel. To Write Love on Her Arms (twloha.com) is a great resource for people that have used self harm as a coping mechanism for their pain. The National Suicide Prevention Life (1-800-273-8255) offers support to people that have had suicidal thoughts.

As you already know, if you runaway your parents have the right to call the police and if they find you they would return you home. Running away is not illegal but if you decide to stay with a friend they could get in trouble for harboring a runaway. You could try asking your parents if they would allow you to stay with another family member or close friend. If you do decide to leave home, we could look up local resources so that you could have a safe place to stay.

If you would like additional resources or just need to talk, please feel free to contact us direct via our 24 hour crisis (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat. Please be safe.

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I’m 13 and I hate my mom... she’s always on her phone never pays attention to me anymore. today I got slapped multiple times for not cleaning my room ( there is just hats beanies water-bottles on my desk) and I was also yelled at for having my soccer and baseball cleats in my closet even though the season is over but I was trying to be nice and keep her from spending money on a new pair. vie also been depressed because of my dad, he is never really there for me if I ask him to be somewhere he says he will and doesn’t do it... haven’t seen him since early summer... I’ve been really wanting to end it all and thought about running away and foster homes what should I do.

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Reply: im 13 and i hate my mom.

Hi,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things in your life right now.
It sounds like you’re fearing that the stress from the situation is getting harder and harder to handle.
We are sorry you are going through a tough emotional time. You mentioned some things that has us concerned.
Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

You do not deserve to be abused in any way by anyone. If you feel at risk you might contact Child help USA, they are also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
To report child abuse call 1-800-422-4453

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.
This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I hate my mom and i want to run away i am 13 years old she treats me like crap and im sick of it honestly i hope she dies but im tired of her and i want to run away

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We appreciate you reaching out to us- it sounds like you are going through a pretty rough time. Dealing with parents can be pretty difficult and complicated sometimes. Hopefully we can give you some ideas and resources to support you through this.
We can help you figure out if running away is the best option for you if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We can talk through some things you may want to know about running away at 13, and help you find places to stay if you do decide to leave home.
If you decide running away not is the best option for you, there may be some things you can do to make living with your mom easier. Some people find it helpful to participate in an after school activity to keep you away from home longer. Other people find it helpful to talk their feelings out with friends, family, or a teacher or school counselor. We are always here to talk with you about how you are feeling as well. Lastly, you can try writing your mom a letter to let her know what about the way you treats you is hurtful. If you’d like to have someone on the phone with you to have a conversation with your mom, we can do a conference call with the both of you. This may be an opportunity to work things out with someone else on the line to advocate for you.
If you’d like to talk more about these options, please give us a call 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We wish you the best of luck!

[Guest]

I hate my mom shes a c**t she beats me and he calls me trash she said i wont amount to anything thats it im hanging myself tonight

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Hi there,

Thanks so much for reaching out. It shows a lot of courage to come forward about problems you’re facing, especially to people on the internet you don’t know. Yet, it is often the first step to receiving help, so we hope that this message is helpful.

You mention that your mom beats you can calls you trash. This is certainly not okay. You deserve to be safe and to feel comfortable within your own home. There is nothing you could do that would ever make you deserve to be treated how your mom is treating you. No matter what you do, being hit by your mom not your fault. We really want to make sure that you know this. We also want you to know that if you ever feel like your life is immediately in danger, that you can call 911 to receive emergency assistance. You also can call us anytime to talk about the experiences you’ve had with your mom at 1-800-786-2929. We can listen, offer support, and get you in contact with resources. We also are able to file abuse reports for children who want us to.

You also mention that you intend to kill yourself tonight. This is indeed concerning. We prioritize the safety of every youth that contacts us above everything else. We want you to be in a safe environment, and certainly not one that makes you want to take your own life. Please feel free to talk to us at 1-800-786-2929, or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Both resources are open 24/7 and will allow you to speak with someone who is trained in crisis situations like the one you’ve described. We also urge you to remove all objects that might encourage you to take your own life, and to call 911 if you feel like you might be a danger to yourself.

Hopefully this message was helpful. We urge you to contact us or the police if you need further assistance or emergency care.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I hate my life I am 12 turning 13 and my parents are the worst my mom has anger issues or something because all she does is yell and complain I want to run away and I hope my family dies. yesterday me and my sister who despise each other got desks for our room because we share a room. After I took apart every thing by my self I told my sister to put away her stickers and she had a fit and wouldn’t. Keep in mind she is 10 and acts very mature. Now my parents are returning them which my sister already predicted and I want to run away every day. My parents don’t throw me birthday party’s and never help me with school. all My “friends” hang out and never invite me. I used to think my mom was just like all the other moms because you always like your friends moms better because they don’t yell at you but none of the kids in my grade complain about their family’s

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Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. That seems hurtful that your parents are returning your desks because your sister had a fit when she was told to put away her stickers. It's understandable that you are feeling frustrated when you had something taken away due to no actions of your own.

You deserve to have your feelings heard by your parents in situations like this. Seems like they might be hard to talk to due to your mom's yelling. If you call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we can have a conference call between you and a parent and set rules for no yelling or interrupting. It can serve as a safe place to let your mom know how her yelling makes you feel, and how you are feeling about the desk situation.

It seems rough that your friends are not inviting you when they hang out. It cannot be easy to feel left out. If you haven't already, you might ask them if you can hang out with them next time, or you might also see if you can invite them over to your house. Sometimes that communication, and making it known to them that you want to be included can help.

You mentioned wanting to run away. Running away can be really scary for an unaccompanied 12 year old, so we strongly encourage you to think about your safety and to always be planning around your safety if you do decide to leave. If you leave without permission, your parents could file a runaway report for you with local police. If you are found, you would be returned home. You might ask your parent's if there is any relative that they would be okay with you living with. Legally, you can stay anywhere that your parents say is okay.

Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk through your situation or if you need any support. We are here to listen, here to help.

Best,

NRS

[Guest]

My mom yells at me whenever I try to have a little fun.then when I get mad at her she tells me to make it easy and leave.her boyfriend tells me im fat,ugly,and stupid so,what do I do I would do what any other kid would do,cry.

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Hey there, thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are sorry to hear about the way your mom and her boyfriend have been treating you. Verbal abuse is never okay and you don't deserve to be yelled at or talked down to. Verbal and emotional abuse are harder to prove, but you still have the right to report it. You could contact Child Help (1-800-422-4453) for more information on child abuse reporting and how to transfer custody. You could try asking your mom if she would allow you to stay with another family member or close friend. Another option that you may want to consider is talking to your mom about the issues . Here at NRS, we offer conference calls between youth and their parents. This could be an opportunity for you to discuss with your mom how she makes you feel when she yells at you. If you would like additional resources, or just need to talk please contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

[Guest]

Hello, I'm 14 years old and I really have no idea what to do.

About a year ago my father left, because my mom found out he was cheating on her for 6+ years. I found out on my own. Also, when I was little, he abused me a lot. He almost hospitalized me once. When he left, he hardly gave us any money, so my lifestyle flipped completely. Then, my mother had an awful accident where she vomited and passed out in the bathroom, and she broke her nose, wrist, and five teeth were ripped out. My brother and I found her in a pool of blood and vomit, moaning in pain at 1am. That was a nightmare. Of course, I had to go to school the next day and pretend as though nothing had happened. My father was of no help, so I ended up having to, essentially, take care of a 10 year old kid, my mother, a dog, and two cats all on my own. The battle is ongoing, only now my mother blames everything on me. It's gotten to the point where she is emotionally abusive. I don't think she's mentally stable, and at times I'm afraid of her. I cut myself, and took initiative towards suicide many times, but she stopped me, playing the victim, saying that it wouldn't be fair for her. No one at school knows about this. I have no friends because I've isolated myself completely. I genuinely hate my family, because taking ******** from people was never my strong suit. My mother has now said that she wants me to leave, and that she doesn't want me to be a part of the family anymore. I have no one to go to. I used to see a psychiatrist but my mother cancelled that because she said it wasn't necessary. I've been caught in an extremely messy divorce.

I really want to leave, but I have no family other than my father (whom I refuse to even see). I don't know what to do, but I really need to go and stay at someone else's house. I have no friends to host me, and no family, other than my grandmother, who lives in Italy. She is the only person who understands me, and ideally, somehow, I'd end up in Italy, although I have no idea how. I speak the language, fluently, and I think I'd fit in a lot better there, as I have a lot of loving, and caring extended family in Rome.

The only problem is, I don't know what I can do to get there, if it's even legal. And then, I don't know who I could stay with, since my grandmother is 82 and couldn't have another person living with her. There's a boarding school, but it's 50k euros a year, and we don't even have 500 euros, so...

I live in Massachusetts, where emancipation is nearly impossible, since the laws are so vague.

What can I do? Where can I go? Is Italy actually a possible alternative? And what is within in my legal reach, as a 14 year old?

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Hi there,

It sounds like you have encountered a lot of unfortunate events. Your situation sounds really difficult and no fourteen year old should be going through that. 14 year old’s should not be worrying about or taking the responsibility of taking care of your sibling and your mom. You have every right to feel the emotions you are feeling because it sounds like you have experienced a lot of trauma and your feelings are valid.

If you want give us a call we can maybe try to look into the laws of Massachusetts but we are no legal experts but we can look. We unfortunately have no knowledge about Italy law. You could also leave your house with your mothers permission.

If you have anymore questions or just need to talk the National Runaway Safeline is here 24/7 to help and listen.

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