I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave.

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It sounds like you’re going through a difficult time with your mom, so we are glad you are reaching out to us because we are here to listen and to help. You mentioned that you have tried to hurt yourself and that you’ve also gotten over hurting yourself now. That is great to hear and is admirable that you have found other ways to deal with feeling unwanted in a way that isn’t harmful or you. If you ever wanted to talk to someone about those feelings, our hotline is confidential and 24/7, because we are here to listen. You can call us anytime at 1-800-786-2929. There is also an additional resource called To Write Love on Her Arms, they offer a textline that may be a good resource if you ever feel lonely or think about hurting yourself. To reach out to them, you can text TWLOHA to 741-741.

You also mentioned that your mom snaps at you, yells at you, and calls you names like ‘stupid.’ No one deserves to be treated that way, especially by a parent. If you wanted to call the number we mentioned before, we can talk about the types of things your mom calls you and talk a little bit more about your options. Some of the things you’ve mentioned can be considered verbal abuse, and we could talk with you and discuss options on how to handle that situation and potentially report the abuse if you wanted to.

You also said that both your mom’s boyfriend and you grandma are a form of support when your mom treats you that way. Have you talked to them about how the way you are being treated makes you feel? Do you think either of them would be willing to advocate for you and talk to your mom about how your mom’s behavior affects you? Having a third party involved may help move the conversation with your mom along. If you aren’t comfortable with including them, we do offer a conference service where one of our Liners would talk with you first, then reach out and speak to our mom, and then join you both on a call to discuss any feelings that either of you may have. The Liner would remain on the line and try to keep conversation productive.

You said that your grandma has been like a mom to you and she supports you in everything that you do. Have you talked with her about moving in with her, maybe discussing expectations and things like that if you went to stay with her? It might be a good idea to get her on board before bringing it up to mom. We aren’t legal experts, but if you leave your mom’s house without permission, she does have the option to file a runaway report. While the act of running away isn’t considered illegal in most states, harboring a runaway is. This means that your mom could press charges against your grandma if you don’t get her permission to leave the home. Talking through that conversation might be something that your grandma could help with or that is something we could discuss on a conference call as well.

As we mentioned, we are glad you are reaching out to us because we are here to help. As we said her are available to talk with you about any of the options discussed in this email or can talk through any thoughts you may be having 24/7.

Best of Luck

I am 15 years old I've been having a lot of issues with my mother since I was about 12 years old. I really have tried to make peace with My mom and be nice to her and do anything I can to keep her happy. But seems to me that no matter what I do or say. Sometimes not even doing anything she snaps at me every day! Yells at me , calls me stupid and so many other things.That make me have hatred towards her. Sometimes she even says that she doesn't want me.

I have a boyfriend and we've been dating for two years now my family knows his family and they talk frequently. But my moms always talks about him and that really doesn't make me feel good it makes me mad. She rips up pictures of him and I. I go to school and get out at 2:45 and expects me to get home at 3;00 walking when in car it takes ten minutes, how is that even possible, when I get home like 5 mins late she screams at me and calls me all sorts of things. She doesn't notice all the hate it causes me EVERY SINGLE LITTLE thing she says to me I will never ever forget. My boyfriend is the only person who I can really trust, because honestly sometimes I feel so lonely and I've tried to hurt myself and he has been so helpful and I've gotten over hurting myself.

I have a grandma who have been like my mother I I have a grandma who have been like my mother sine I was born. She has been there through bad and good things because my father wasn't. She is like my father. She supports everything I do. I have grown so tired of my mom that has made me want to move with my grandma who I feel loves me like if she were my mom. I really like the way she makes me feel wanted. Unlike my mother who makes me feel unwanted and not cared for. I have two other siblings a young 10 year old sister and a 21 year old. The 21-year-old moved out and the 10 year old still lives with us but she is treated way better by mom and her dad because they are together. Since they're together they make me feel unwanted since they are a whole family. I really need your advice because I fear that I will get depressed again.

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Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us, we know it is not always easy to ask for help, but it is great that you are using all the resources available to you. It sounds like it must be stressful to live in a house where you aren’t being treated with respect. It must have been really upsetting to have your mom cut your hair, and it makes sense that you are not happy with her.

If you are really considering suicide, you could reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255, they might be able to talk to you about these feelings and help you deal with them. You could also consider talking to a counselor or trusted adult about what is going on at home so that you could have someone to talk about your feelings with. You could also always call us here at the National Runaway Safeline if you ever wanted to talk about your issues with your family, and we would always be happy to talk through everything.

It must be really hard to live in a place where you aren’t being treated the way you want to be treated, and it makes sense that you would want to leave. It is amazing that you reached out to us and are trying to figure out what all of your options are. Again, we are here 24/7 to talk and would be happy to help you further. Feel free to call us at any time, our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Best of Luck,
NRS

I honestly dont even want to be with my mom because she treats me like ******** and the only inspiration i had was my hair and she just cut it like i wanna kms

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Reply: I have been dealing with a step dad


Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline .

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this difficult time.
Sometimes things can become overwhelming and it’s tough to know just what to do.

It sounds like you are discovering who you are as a person, we understand that this might be challenging for you. You have the right to take your time to decide when or if you want to share this with anyone.
You are very courageous to express your feelings. Good for you.
You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it.

We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).
You do not deserve to be abused and neither do you siblings.
It is not your fault that this is happening.

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/ or contact them at Child help USA 1-800-422-4453

We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.
You contact NRS at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org

We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.
Be safe,
NRS