I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave.

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Re: I'm 12-I hate my family and I want a new one

Hello and thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like things have become hectic and unbearable with your family. You mentioned that your parents and siblings have slapped and punched you. You don't deserve to be put down or mistreated by anyone. You deserve to feel supported, loved, and protected. Families often can experience conflicts and disagreements, however, it does not have to resort to mistreatment or what may be considered abuse. Abuse may occur in different forms (verbal, emotional, physical), yet all abuse is something than can be reported to police or child protective services. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org may offer more information on reporting if you would like to know more.

You also mentioned that your mom drinks, and it sounds like she may be struggling with substance use. That often can be difficult for a child to experience as well as have an impact on the family. Families Anonymous 1-800-736-9805 is a support service for families of an individual who uses/abuses substances, to talk about their experiences and identify ways to cope with the issue. The Alcohol and Drug Helpline 1-206-722-3700 is also a resource that may be helpful to your mom.

Regarding your questions about what to do, we cannot really say what is the best thing that you should. It may help to talk through some options before making a final decision. If you would like to talk more about ways we can help and possible resources that may also help, we encourage you to chat with us or call our crisis line directly at 1-800-786-2929. Our services are free, confidential, and available 24/7.

We hope you stay safe and hope to talk or chat with you soon.

Take care,

NRS

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i want leave this stupid familly

Hello, im 12 years old, and my birthday was on the 8th October, but I'm still furious, my mother refuses to buy me anything and doesn't let me ro anything for my flipping birthday I just sit at home doing work, my dad only cares about work and his job then he buys himself all the stuff he wants, he's always abusing me physically punching me and beating me up with a weapon, this is exactly the same with my older brother just a few minutes ago he made my whole mouth bleed.

When I was 10, and it was Christmas my friends mum persuaded my mum to buy me a PlayStation 4, I was lucky, and so grateful 'cos I never really get presents, my parents ket me play for a few hours then the next day it was gone and they'd tooken it into a safe, and they said im never allowed to use it, that's when I locked my self in my garage for a whole day.

My parents will never leave me alone, always beating me up, and my older brother, and when I do something really good like at school or something my parents say "I'll get you this and that i promise" then the next day they d turn up and say no, I hate my whole familly, and only my school friends I trust, I put friends before familly...

There was one point I had a knife to my head saying I would kill myself, but i was scared it was going to hurt, I never get to play or use my consoles all that happens is me getting beaten, I always read but i never rest.


When I'm with my friends im so happy, but i HATE my parents and my brothers and sisters.

I normally sneak out and go to my friends houses to play that's the only time im lucky, the only time my parents are not at home.

The reason they beat up for is because they no they're wrong, like once my little brother had took my mum's phone and nearly lost it and I took the blame and got beaten up when I tried ro explain it wasn't me.



You'd be shocked at how much scars I have, all I want is a wayyy better familly, I forgot something to mention my dad buys himself everything, but the only thing he has ever bought me is 3 books a pyjama set and that's it, My mum buys the most stuff, gives it to me then says I look fat and ugly I need to lose weight, im lucky that i sneaked my old phone to write this, it should be in a safe, and the only reason they let me have it is for calling my parents if something burns or breaks down in my house.

My dad takes every console, makes sure I'm not having fun or doing any thing I enjoy, my mum stands there watching me get beaten laughing and all the time she calls me worst child ever and says that the others are her favourite children, it's not fair please help me. I just want to run!

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RE: i want leave this stupid familly

Hello There!

Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It is a great first step to finding the help and information that you may need. It sounds like you are going through so much right now. We should mention our resources are only nationwide in the US. We are not too sure where you are located, but you mentioned some situations where you are experiencing things any child should have to go through. If you are wanting to report what you are going through, you can always notify police or your areas reporting agency to go into options to get in a safe home. If you are in the US, you can do this by calling Child Help at 1800-422-4453. You can always live chat with us to talk more about what you are going through. You are so strong for having gone through so much. You can get through this.

Stay Strong,
NRS

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i hate my life

I really hate my life and my family. I'm the middle child and my grandmother adopted me because my awful mother gave birth to me at such a young age. I've taken the physical, verbal, and emotional abuse for 15 years. My father abused us and is no longer in my life. My mother is constantly with a new man who ends up abusing her. I just want to get out. I've developed a stutter from all the abuse. Help me. I can't do it anymore. I want to get out

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Re: I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave.

Hello,
Thanks for reaching out during this difficult time. It sounds like you have had a lot going on in your life. We are sorry to hear you have been abused, nobody deserves to be abused or neglected! You may want to consider reporting it to a trusted teacher or counselor. We can also help you report it to the police or child protective services along with you if you’d like. You also mentioned your mother is constantly getting abused by different men. One great resources for both of you is the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. If you are planning on leaving, it might be a good idea to have a plan where you would go. If you are feeling unsafe, please know that you can call us at any time and we can help you come up with a plan. 1-800-786-2929

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My parents don't ever worry about me or even shows that they know I exist at all

When I was younger I have always tried to be happy but I cried most of the time because my dad always yelled at me and I was 7 when I turned 10 he started to pull my hair whenever I did something bad and he would scare me in doing anything he says by saying he will hit me worse and one day my dad had to drop off my friends at there house when they came over and he just gets mad over nothing I did and hits me hard and pulls my hair again. I told my mom everything but she doesn't believe me and takes his side. I wish I can just get disowned
but I don't know how to do that since im 12 and I can't just go up to them because I'm scared and I also only like girls and my dad hates people like that so im even more afraid. I really wish I can get adopted by some other people but I don't know how that
works and im not an adult to be able to do anything.

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Hello,
Thanks for contacting the national Runaway Safeline.

You are very brave to reach out and tell someone about what has been going on.
You do not deserve to be hit or yelled at by your father or anyone.
You certainly are not at fault for what he is doing.
It sounds like you have told your mother about your father hitting you but she has chosen to done little if anything to support you. That’s too bad but again not your fault.

It must have took a lot of courage to tell her about the abuse.
You might like to know that there are laws to protect you against this kind of behavior from your parents. It would mean however you filing a child abuse report with your state child protective services. NRS can assist you to do this or if you feel that you could tell a teacher or counselor at your school they can file a child abuse report on your behalf.
They are mandated by law as are we to do this.

Once the report is filed an investigation to determine your safety will take place.
If it is found that you are at risk being at home you could be removed and placed with a relative or foster parent. This could be temporary or long term.

Does that make sense?

NRS is here to listen and here to help.
It’s not an easy decision we understand so if you would like to talk about it you might consider contacting NRS at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org (Live Chat).

Again you were very courageous reaching out tonight.

Good for you.

Take Care,
NRS

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I hate my life! I don't know what to do.

My parents have been divorced ever since I was young. My mom is a ********ing moron, and gives me so much hate. I've been through plenty of counseling, but I only hate my mom more and more. She beats the ******** out of me too often. I don't want to talk to police about it. Most of the time, she just hates on me for my very existence. I don't want to live with her any more. I don't have any friends to talk to about it, and the people I have told just laugh about it thinking it's not a big deal. I'm only 14, and still have 4 more painful years with her, that I probably won't survive through. I've been considering some options such as running away, going to foster care, and other things...I don't have any caring family that can house a teenage boy, and my father is in prison for 15 years for bull******** he probably doesn't deserve. I don't know what to do!
I hate everyone I know, my sisters and mother wish me dead, and I don't have a place to stay. My councilor told me I can't just go to a foster home, because that's not "allowed" or something like that.
Please advise, I'm getting desperate.

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Re: I hate my life! I don't know what to do.

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you.

We’re sorry to hear about your living situation at home, you deserve to be treated well. You may be able to report any mistreatment to Child Protective Services. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this and you can contact us through our phone line or chat service to discuss other options in detail. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,
NRS

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My sister bullies me, my dad doesn't seem to care and my mum is just horrible and I want to leave home I can't stand having to live with them! But I'm only 12 nearly 13 . I don't know what to do !!!!

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Hi,

Thanks so much for taking the time to reach out to us. We're so sorry about what you're going through at home. It's definitely not easy to live in a place where you're being bullied and not cared for the way you should be. We understand how that must make you feel pretty misunderstood and isolated. One option you have is talking to your parents and sibling about the way they make you feel. We know that sounds scary but sometimes talking to people and being very open with them can really help. You can also talk to a friend or school counselor about the way you're feeling. It might be good for you to talk to someone so you can get some of that stress off your shoulders.

We wish you the best of luck with everything! If you want to talk to us about what you're going through please feel free to reach out to us. You can always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we are 24/7 so someone will always be here to answer and help you in the best way we can.

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Hi I'm 13 turning 14 in Aug and I'm dealing with a lot in my house right know and I'm wondering if at age 14 you can live with someone else or with my sister who is 19.

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to us for help. We are sorry to hear that you are going through so much right now. We are here to listen and help in any way that we can. It sounds like you would like to run away from home and live with your sister. We are not legal experts, but we can help with some general information. If you leave your home or move out without permission from your legal guardian, they can call the cops and report you as a runaway. The police will search for you and make you go back home. Your sister, or anyone who takes you in, could get into trouble for harboring a runaway. If you need to talk or you would like to go over your options and get resources, don't hesitate to give us a call any time 24/7. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

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Hi there I am 21 years old still with my parents and they abuse me emotionally and verbally is there anyway for me to get out of this situation ive tried to tell them to stop but they keep doing it they will never change I need help! My parents are not smart they tend to isolate me I have been bullied at school they laugh at me then I cry I have some money to move out but cant any suggestions?

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Hi and thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you’re going through a stressful time and we’re so glad you reached out to us for help. No one has a right to hurt you, whether it’s physically, emotionally, or verbally.

At 21, you are legally considered an adult. This means you have the legal freedom to live where you want, come and go when you want, etc. The flip side of this situation is that your parents are no longer legally responsible for providing a place for you to live. This means you living at home is a ‘family dynamics’ situation. What we mean by that is: you can legally leave your parents’ when you want, but if that breaks their “rules,” they are allowed to NOT let you live there anymore. You say you have some money to move out, but can’t. What do you mean by that? If you want to call one of us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we can discuss your situation with you and try to help in any way we can.

We’re glad to hear you’ve tried talking to your parents about how they speak to you. Communicating with parents can be tricky. Do you think another method would help relay your true feelings? Talking can sometimes escalate to arguing – what about writing a thoughtful letter? That way you have time to proof read what you say to make sure you’re saying everything you want, and also giving your parents the time and space alone to process what you’re saying without the ability to react back at you immediately. Again, if discussing ways of communicating with your parents is something you think we can help with, we hope you will call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

We are glad you reached out to us for help, and hope you call in if you feel comfortable.

Best,

NRS

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Im 13, I hate my family and I want to leave. Me and my family are currently temporarily homeless right now and we are staying in the daybreak program. My grandma is on my side, but not so much my mother. Her boyfriend and she have two boys, my brothers which they try to make me raise and her boyfriend has threatened me with physical abuse. I have received an offer from my friend to go live with her family. I want OUT of my family, can I go live with my friend??

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18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

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I'm 13. I've wanted to runaway since I was 8. When I was 10 I did but only went for about 2 hours. My mum and dad hate me and blame everything on me. My mum fights me and calls me a b**** and a waste of space and then says that I tried to fight her and my sister always gets me in trouble and my brother always p*ss**s me off

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Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/
We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

[Guest]

My mum always goes on my brothers side and my whole family hates me.
i cry every day of my life.
Ever since I've gotten older.