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  • Hello,
    Thank you for reaching out to us during this difficult time. It sounds like things at home are very stressful for you and you are feeling unsupported by your mom. It sounds very frustrating that there is a breakdown in communication between you, your mom and the school. We understand running away is something you are considering and we want to help you and listen. We also want to make sure that you are safe in your current situation and support whatever plan you decide to do. One option might be to consider talking to a school counselor or neutral third party who can help you and your mom reach some understanding about the homework issue. One service we offer is a conference call where we can provide non-judgmental support for you and your mom and allow everyone to have their viewpoint considered. If you are interested in setting this up you will need to give us a call to arrange this.
    Although we are not legal experts, we can talk about what might happen if you chose to run away from home. Technically it is not against the law for you to leave without your mom or dad’s permission, in most places it’s considered a ‘status offense’. However, the catch is that anyone you are caught staying with could possibly be charged with ‘harboring a runway’. It might be a good idea to talk to someone about taking this risk for you. If you do not have a safe place to go, you can contact us and we can find a youth shelter for you in your area.
    Please feel free to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or by live chat at 1800runaway.org. We are always here to listen, here to help.

    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
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    • i hate my life so much. my mom just yelled at me because i was standing a Certain way and my dad screams at me almost everyday . all they care about are graded and my phone and they complain when i’m in my room and when i’m out with my friends. i need to get away i can’t do this anymore and it brings me down everything single day and i don’t know what to do anymore.

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      • ccsmod9
        ccsmod9 commented
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        Thank you for contacting NRS,
        We want to acknowledge that it took strength to reach out to us with your situation. We are sorry to hear that your parents are controlling over what you do and how you do it. No one should feel like they arent trusted or appreciated. It can be hard to have to go to school and juggle so many things. Some things that may be options are to try and use our conference call service. We offer conference call services that help both youth and parent feel heard and be able to talk about issues that might be affecting them and family life. We would help with making everyone feel heard and supported through the process. Some other things to keep in mind is perhaps finding support outside of your family. You could look into school counselors or even a therapist to help with thoughts and issues you might help as they can help navigate you through some hard situations and talk about what you're feeling.

        Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

        If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
        We hope to hear from you soon.
        Be safe,
        NRS

    • Hey There, I see You guys have more struggles than i do but i jus want someone to hear me out, i need help.
      Heres my story.
      I hate my ********ing family I jus turned 14, Me and my mom dont have a good connection, Me and my dad are idk, We jus avoid eachother, My sister and I are terrible to eachother we dont have respect for eachother, Im the oldest, Im supposed to have all the respect from her, but no she here being a ********ing dip ********, anyways I jus hate it, Sometimes i feel like i have live like everyones expectations, I feel pressured, My school sucks, I used to be surrounded by people i wasnt lonely, i had friends.
      But this year jus really sucked I walk by myself around the hallways now, Im now quiet, i try to be more yk Happy but everyday is the same thing, My family makes me mad, I have anger issues ad sometimes i jus get violent but i try not to, I jus hit myself i scratch myself, I get so mad that i dont even feel the pain of the hurting myself, I dont really like communicating with my family, Im jus that quiet kid sitting in the corner now, I feel so alone i hate it i hate that feeling everyday i jus wanna kill myself I hate it, My grades are good but since my parents changed me, Havin one F will make me anger and upset, sometimes i dont eat for a day, I hate how i look Im ********ing fat, I jus wanna be skinny again, I workout sometimes but i jus give up cause sometimes i jus know that nothings gonna change.
      Sometimes i jus wanna run away. Sometimes i think that theres no more hope for me, I jus wanna die. Now im not saying im depressed because ik im not, There are other people who are suffering way more than me. Tbh idk what to do abt my life anymore, sometimes I think abt saving money to get plastic surgery. I jus want someone to be there for me, I want a hug, I wanna have a long good cry with someone. I feel so lonely I jus wanna kill myself. Anyways, thanks for Reading this.

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      • ccsmod0
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        Hi there,

        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

        Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

        If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

        We hope to hear from you soon.

        Be safe and stay strong,

        NRS

    • I hate my Mom and Dad my dad straight up told me he doesnt love me and my mom doesnt stop drinking and i dont know what to do anymore

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      • ccsmod15
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        Hello,

        Thank you for reaching out to us. We are so sorry that the situation at home with your parents is so difficult. It sounds like being at home has been really overwhelming and you are unsure of your next steps. We cannot tell you what to do, but we can share information that may help you figure out your next steps.

        If you feel that it might help to live somewhere else, one option might be to explore if there is a family member or a family friend that would be willing to take you in. We are not legal experts, but if you are considered a minor in your state, your parent or legal guardian will need to give consent for you to live somewhere outside of your home. If you do not feel that living with someone else is an option, it may help to explore whether there are shelters or, depending on your age, transitional housing resources in your area. If you would like more information, or if you just want someone to talk to, don't hesitate to reach out to us.

        Whatever you decide, know that we are here for you. We cannot tell you what to do, but we will do our best to help you stay as safe as possible as you figure out your next steps. We are available 24/7 via phone by calling 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929) or via chat by visiting our website https://www.1800runaway.org/ . We are here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!

        -NRS

    • I want to leave its not even funny how abusive and threatening my parents are they both need help with there drinking and i need help finding a better family i would rather live in a dumpster then this place. My moms boyfriend is a druggie and thinks he owns me my ad has a drinking problem and my mom is an abusive piece of s***. Like if i could live with a friend or my grandparent i totally would because my parents straight up told me they dont love me multiple times. I live with my mom my dad moved out a few years ago for how big of a ****** she was. I have no clue what to do.
      Last edited by ccsmod5; 03-04-2021, 03:24 AM.

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      • ccsmod5
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it can be difficult to take the step and reach out. We're sorry you've had to deal with such a hard situation, it sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. Not being able to provide basic needs is considered neglect which is also a form of harming/abuse. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
        Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
        If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
        We hope to hear from you soon.
        Be safe,
        NRS

    • I am 10 and I hate my family so much like to the point where i hate my life

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        First of all, thank you so much for reaching out. We know it can take a lot of courage to do so. We are so sorry to hear that you are not getting along with your family.
        One option we offer at NRS is a conference call service. With this service, you would call into us at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) and explain your situation to one of our liners. You would create guidelines for the conference call and bring your family on the call to hopefully have a productive conversation so you can share your feelings with them. Using this option is completely up to you.
        We encourage you to reach out to us to talk about your situation more in depth or get some resources from us either through live chat at 1800runaway.org or by calling the number above. We are here to help in any way we can and are available 24/7.
        Best of luck and stay strong,
        NRS

    • Im really bored, and these people need help. Anyways can someone respond back, I'd like to chat a lil

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      • ccsmod2
        ccsmod2 commented
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        Hello There,
        Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We can help offer support and provide resources and explore your options.

        We are here for you 24/7 by phone or by chat. So if you would like to talk please call us at 1800-RUNAWAY, or use our chat platform.
        NRS

    • Hi, I have a stressful life at home. I wanna be emancipated but im not 14 yet. I deal with a lot of fighting, yelling, money issues at home, manipulation, just negative everywhere. The moment i get home im being yelled at and I just cant handle it anymore. I have people i could move in with but i also have a dog so I just don't know what to do. I've been emotionally abused and brain washed my whole life I barely even remember parts of my life. I was abused physically by my father as a child and now by my mom just a different type. She plays the victim and turns things around on me? As if im not her child. She even calls me cuss words and cusses me out on a daily basis. She tells bad things about me to my friends, family, or to her own friends. She can be a good mother but she has mental health issues and I just don't believe she was ready for kids. I knoe this might be bad to say but i kinda feel l like this site is a scam but I need help.. So Im trying anything. This is not my whole life story only because I wanna make sure this isn't something that's gonna take more from me I hope you understand.

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      • ccsmod3
        ccsmod3 commented
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        Hey there, and thanks for contacting us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step.

        Before we dive into what's going on with you on a personal level, we do want to take a moment to assure you that this site is absolutely legit and not a scam. We're here to offer support and resources to young folks when they need it the most. If you want to talk with someone from NRS to learn more about the work that we're doing, you're welcome to give us a call to vet us yourself. You can also do a quick Google search to learn more about our work, and to confirm that we're legit.

        Now that that's out of the way, thanks for sharing a piece of your story with us. We're sorry to hear that things have been so challenging for you, particularly in your relationship with your mom. One thing that you might find helpful in working through some of the things that you experienced in the past, as well as what you're dealing with now, is to talk with someone you can trust, like a therapist or a social worker. Having a supportive person in your corner who you can talk with or vent to, bounce your thoughts off, or otherwise just help you process everything you're going through can really be helpful. It might also make sense for both you and your mom to talk with someone, and then come together from time to time to do a family session. During those, your therapist can be instrumental in helping the both of you navigate how you're feeling and encourage a productive conversation. If this is something that you're open to, a good starting point in connecting with a mental health professional is right at school. Try reaching out to your school counselor or social worker for support. You can also reach out to us to see if we can connect you with local counseling services as well.

        You also mentioned that you're interested in becoming emancipated. Generally speaking, the emancipation doesn't begin before the age of 16, so it's pretty likely that you have a couple of more years until this is an option for you. Still, if it's something you want to consider, now is definitely a good time to start learning more about the process. With that, you can begin to prepare for it and ensure that you really set yourself up to get through that process swiftly. While this doesn't mean that the courts will rule in your favor (or agree that you should be emancipated), preparing yourself can certainly help.

        If you'd like to chat in more detail about what's going on at home, continue to explore some options with us, or to see if we can find some counseling services in your area, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

        Take care.

        NRS
        Last edited by ccsmod3; Today, 01:25 AM.

    • I hate my mom and my dad, I want to kill them sometimes. I wish they were dead, I hate living here. No, I hate THEM. If they died, my life would be way better. They are the reason why I always hurt myself.

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      • ccsmod3
        ccsmod3 commented
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        Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step.

        It sounds like things at home are pretty challenging for you, especially with your parents, and we're sorry to hear that. If you're open to it, we'd like to connect with you to learn more about what's going on at home and how we can help. Please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. This will allow us to develop a better understanding of your situation and help us decide on the best ways that we can support you. It also gives you the opportunity to vent, be heard, discuss some of your options, and be connected with resources/referrals in your community (if that's something you'd like).

        In the meantime, if you find that you're at risk of hurting yourself or someone else, please contact your local law enforcement agency for immediate support. You can also reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline by calling 1-800-273-8255 or through chat at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

        As you continue to navigate through what seems like a really trying time, please know that you're not alone. We're here for you, and are only a call (or chat) away.

        Hang in there.

        NRS
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