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  • I'm 15 and I think I am struggling with depression ever since my mam left me at the age of 5

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    • ccsmod8
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      Hello there -

      Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on.

      It sounds like you might some specific questions that you want to ask us or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now and talk about you depression. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Please rest assured that we are completing confidential. So anything that you share with us will stay between us.

      Feel free to reach out to us here via phone or online chat.
      Hope to hear from you soon!

  • I know how you feel. I’m fourteen now but I used to run away all the time. While I was away I felt better, but everything always got worse when I was forced to go back home because I needed food or medicine. My family doesn’t trust me anymore, I have no freedom, and I’ve attempted suicide 4 times since the first time I ran away. It’s really hard to say this, but running away only made my problems worse. I hope you can find a better way to deal with your family issues, but if you really want to leave make sure you have a backup plan if you run out of supplies.

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      Thanks for sharing part of your story and commenting on this thread. We are sorry that things have been difficult for you since returning home. Of course, it might be that way for a while until trust is restored, but that doesn't mean your lack of freedom will last forever.

      We are pretty concerned when you talk about killing yourself. That's pretty serious. If you ever feel suicidal, please reach out for the help you deserve. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is staffed by people trained to talk about suicide, so they are a great resource. You can reach them at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org or call 1-800-273-8255. You can also reach out to us anytime to talk about suicide or anything else on your mind. We are confidential and open 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chat at www.1800runaway.org. We want you to be safe. Things can get better and you have many options besides suicide.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • I'm 13 and I hate my family because my little sister always get her way and I'm always getting beaten by my parents and I want to go live with my boy best friend.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 06-18-2020, 05:37 AM.

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • Do you ever feel like you don't belong somewhere? Like simply because you exist your suddenly the cause of all their problems. I've never had a good relationship with my father mostly due to the fact that he was never involved in my life. it was soo strange growing up, he was always there but never there if you understand. But he still wants to control my life like he's in it. My mom does everything, she cooks, pays bills, takes care of my brothers and me all by herself. But that's not the problem at hand the problem is that he treats us like s***. I can not tell you the number of times he's threatened to smash my head into a wall and kill me. That my life will never be worth anything. And sometimes I just hope he does end up killing me. I won't kill myself, but I've thought about it a lot. Through the years I've become immune to what he says but today hit me hard. He said no matter how hard in life I work I would never be anything. That I was useless and would probably end up pregnant on the streets doing drugs. I looked at him in complete and utter disbelief. Me, the one earning an associate's degree in high school, The one with straight A's despite have to take care of your children. I play it off and walk away, but at the end of the day, it hurts knowing no matter what I do I'll never be enough. That at the end of the day if I do die that he wouldn't care, not even bat an eyelash. It ********ing hurts.

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a lot right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone.
      It is understandable that you are feeling hurt and there is a lot of pain there. You do not deserve to be told those things, and we are sorry you are dealing with that. As you have described you have a lot going for yourself, and your father may be saying these things because he is insecure. People tend to say mean things when they have insecurities or other issues they are dealing with. One option to consider would be talking to your mother about your feelings and what your dad is saying to you.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • Hi I had a chat with you today and then you sent me a rescore and then my best friend and someone who I thought loved me turned their back on me because I was seriously going to go and I’ll myself. Then I realized that I was going to be able to help other people who are going through the same thing as I am and I’m not sure if I am going to get through this and I don’t know how to talk to anyone who can help me get through this and I feel like I’m going to be alone in the next few days and I don’t have any friends who can help me and then they are all the same way about things like this. I’m sorry to ramble on and I don’t have any hope for the future and that I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life and I will never be able to do anything that I want to do because I have so much holding me back. I have been so much more depressed than I usually am and I don’t have any meds because my parents don’t want to have to go and take me to a counselor or therapist or xl even my doctor. I feel like I gotta end it all and then I will finally be happy

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      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. Your feelings are important and they matter.
      You are deserving as anyone that wants to be happy.

      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are feeling depressed or having suicidal thoughts we encourage you to reachout to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255


      Take care,
      NRS

  • Hi,
    I'm a minor and I'm struggling in the place where I'm supposed to feel happy and loved.. and safe..aka. my 'home'
    I experience sexual abuse by my grandfather nearly every day and it's getting worse, he inappropriately touches me and says really scarring things.. I already told my family members about this like a year ago but now it seems like they've forgotten and everything is happening all over again, but this time it's getting worse as the time goes by. My aunt tells lies about me to my mother, her son (my cousin) is usually really mean and insults me. My mother used to rarely talk to me and was always yell even tho I haven't done anything most of the time. Now she's being nicer but I'm not sure how long that will last. Recently I've been really dysphoric and depressed, I even started cutting and starving myself. It's hard for me to concentrate and I usually have headaches and i never feel like i've slept well. I'm paranoid and this really hard for me, especially when my family members argue all the time and are being extremely toxic towards each other, I hate them all. I'm considering running away but I'm too big of a coward to do so... I'm also transgender (FTM) and this is a lot for me to take in, I feel like my hope is fading away and I'm really scared for what's going to happen next..

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hello,
      Thank you for reaching out to us during this difficult time. We are sorry to hear you are being sexually abused by your grandfather and your family is doing nothing to protect you! It’s horrible that your family continues to cover for him. You have every right to feel safe and loved in your own home. First of all, let’s talk about your options. Although you have told your family what is going on it’s very clear that they are not helping you. You can call CPS directly yourself, at 1-800-422-2253, or you can call us and we can make the report for you. You can also contact RAINN at 1-800-656-4673. You don’t have to go through this alone, and we are here to help you whenever you are ready to make that next step. Please stay safe and reach out to us at any time.

  • Hi, my si tuation is hard.
    Im 13
    I am female and depressed along with pts d and adhd
    i live with myy grandparents, you could say jm spoiled but they never show me they care about my feelungs and always complain or threaten to tell the doctors. mostly my grandma though
    i never cut or anything but i attempted suicide a few days ago by jumping in front of a car im fine now but im still alone and afraid my parents and i just fight well grandparents
    i wish i jusy died though
    they also now took away my electronics, limiting use to 3 hours which i use to have around 10 hours limit. its hard, i have no true friends and my therapist doesnt help
    im alone in this and just want everything to stop, i am lucky ik but i want a new family,
    i want somebody who will love me and trust me
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 07-09-2020, 07:06 PM. Reason: removed name

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hey there thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline (NRS), it seems like you are going through a lot at home right now and are feeling secure in having basic needs but unsupported emotionally by those who are supposed to be there for you. It is understandable to feel upset by this situation. It sounds really hard that it has gotten to the point that you feel like suicide is an option. You deserve to have support through this tough time.
      It seems like you have some support in a therapist but that you haven’t felt its effective enough so far. It seems reasonable to want support from your family as well rather than relying just on a therapist to help. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and we are here with you, you are not alone. It’s understandable to feel that way at times, but there are lots of people out there who are willing to support you and help you through this difficult time. Some of those people are like us and work at hotlines and will be there if you need someone to talk to. One of those is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at suicidepreventionlifeline.org or by calling 1-800-273-8255. Another is the National Alliance on Mental Illness at name.org or at 1-800-950-6264. Both are there to help you deal with these feelings and help you learn about depression, adhd, and ptsd and find some coping mechanisms to keep yourself safe.
      Sometimes just having a person to talk to about the situation and really be on your side to listen to you and your feelings can be helpful as well. We are more than happy to listen to your situation and explore your feelings together if you ever need someone to talk to or vent to. NRS is here to support you and listen, you can reach us at 1-800-786-2929, or by online chat at 1800runaway.org.
      Stay Strong,
      NRS.

  • I hate my dad, he is always yelling at me for no reason. He never helps me with anything and he threatens to do stuff. Recently I felt really sick when I was cleaning my stuff outside so I came inside to take a break because it was really hot. I accidentally fell asleep because I haven’t slept in 3 days and I woke up in middle of the night so I couldn’t go back out and pick up my stuff. He woke up this morning and started yelling at me and when I told him I was feeling overheated and dehydrated he said he didn’t care what my excuse was and now he is threatening to sell all of my stuff. I am 14 and I help people, I puppysit and I babysit to get money. I have bought everything I have because my mom has no money and my dad refuses to buy me anything, I even have to buy my own food most of the time. I bought some horses and everything for them and I do everything I can to take care of them and keep them healthy and they mean the world to me because they are my only pets and I just love them so much. I would get rid of everything I have just to keep those horses. I would get rid of the clothes off my back just to keep them fed and happy. He is threatening to sell them even though I bought them and I pay for them. He has said that everything I bought is his because I’m a minor. I realize that I’m a minor and technically can’t own anything but I’m having to work my butt off just to buy my horses some food and take them to the vet. I don’t see how he has a say in it. I even trained them myself and they are all I have left that actually makes me happy.

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like things are very stressful between you and you dad right now. It might be a good idea to look into some family counseling or have a third party help you mediate what is going on with your horses. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • I’m 14, and i have a toxic relationship with my parents.


    My parents are so toxic, they make me feel like i’m not good enough for them. My mother always blames me for EVERYTHING, and whenever she is in the wrong she always guilt trips me saying something along the lines of “i know you hate me” or “i know i’m a horrible mother”, and other times she gangs up with my father to make fun of me. But when i get mad about it, they yell at me saying “you’re so ungrateful” or “you are a hateful b*tch” and it makes me feel horrible. I’m so sick and tired of it. But i can’t talk to them about it because they’ll both just blame it on me and say it’s my fault. My mom told me once that she wanted someone else to adopt me, that really hurt. But at the same time they do a lot for me, they pay for my school, my food and the house and i know if i wanted to run away or go with another family they would use that against me. So i don’t know what to do but i don’t want to live with them anymore. Please help or give me options, Thank you.

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    • ccsmod13
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for contacting us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. It can definitely be stressful or overwhelming when the adults at home are not being supportive. It is not okay for your parents to talk down to you or treat you in a way that makes you feel unwanted. While it seems your parents are fulfilling their obligation to financially support you, you deserve to be emotionally supported as well. Reaching out for help was a really great first step to getting any support you may need.

      A helpful step is to start reaching out to friends and family members you might be able to stay with. We understand that talking to parents about issues at home or wanting to leave can be incredibly difficult. Sometimes having an adult on your side to advocate for you and mediate the conversation can make it easier. Perhaps an adult family member, a friend's parent or a counselor at school can talk to your parents with you about your experience at home and the possibility of you leaving. Having a support system during tough situations is also really important. Letting other people know what you are going through can be a way to get more support while coping with it.

      It is a strength that you are able to identify what is causing you harm at home and where your emotional needs are not being met. Your parents are not right to use this against you or to guilt-trip you. We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

      -NRS

  • im 13 and my family hates me because im not good at maths and are currently discussing to kick me out. i hate my life.

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • I'm 12 and I hate my life because of my family/********ty dad and brother

    i want to leave and i have attempted to before but somehow my parents always find me, i hate everything, mt school, my toys and my family. my parents have a fight about money or gaming everyday and i've thought of suicide. i think of ways to kill myself with no pain, but mos. ways are illegal. my parents love my brother and they hate me. he is 5 years younger than me but he has a giant mac, switch, ipad and a tablet. all i have is a used mac that is almost broken and 3 years old. my parents never give me anything, the only time i get stuff is from friends and other relatives that live in korea. my dad thought of divorce today and i think that they might actually do it. i have good friends but not a best friend, everyone thinks i'm the one that always smiles and laughs because i don't like to show emotion at school. i don't think they will help so i don't even bother, and my teachers despise me, i always try my best but they always tell me its not good enough even though i get the highest grades and score in any test at any time. my brother is always stealing what is most precious to me and if he does something bad , he blames me and because my parents adore him, they trust him. yesterday i got hit by a lighter because my MOM told my brother that my dad does smoking and he didn't want my brother to know and my mom told him so i got hit and hurt. i like gaming and anime because i can escape reality and be happy, but now my parents wont let me do anything any more, and they are going to take my mac book soon, so i'm going to have no way to escape my miserable life. i want to die and run away but i'm afraid of the money, i don't want to die a painful death by starvation so now i choose to wait until im 15 so i can get a job and save money then runaway to another country of just another city and buy a cheap apartment and go to school and become an architect.

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      We hope to hear from you soon.

  • Someone please help me! My mom and dad are mentally crazy and I want to leave! I want to have a new home. They act drunk every second and don’t care about me. This isn’t a feeling, I’m 13 and I want to live somewhere else. What can I do to get away from my parents?

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
      The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • I've just turn 12, I'm the youngest in my family and i hate them more then anything

    I'm so very sorry for all the things that happened and my situation may not be so bad as it is but, my games are the only thing I care about, i have friends on their that I've spent a long time with to imagine the fact i would care more about then my own family, i hate my brother so much and probably the most, he has a anger-issues which makes my family think they can always let him have have a little punishments, he eats all the food, and doesn't clean unless it benefits him, he also causes lots of problems like yelling, fighting, and so on [...] he thinks he can boss me around sense I'm younger then him which is very annoying, my mother took away almost everything i desired for my so called little kid needs, my games, my phone everything, just because she was mad at me for wanting to talk to her about something i felt uncomfortable with and i had to be in the bathroom because I knew she would start hitting things. and I have a step-father that tell her everything that he sees without even thinking on what's really going on, the only person I think actually cares about me is my eldest sister and she the only one that actually understands me, and she's leaving in a few months I hate everything so much and I have nothing to really live for anymore, and yet i can't do it because I'm to scared to I wanna live someone else I've tried but people think I'm to young to even be talking by myself.. I've really had lived in this world to have a small glimpse of how harsh and cruel this world really is
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 09-26-2020, 11:06 AM. Reason: Edited out insulting comments about brother's weight that are irrelevant to the situation

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      Hi there,

      We're very sorry you are having a rough time with most of your family, especially your brother. It sounds like you feel you are being treated unfairly, which is definitely very frustrating. We are here to help in whatever way we can.

      One idea would be to try to get your older sister to help you. Perhaps both of you could, as a team, approach your parents and see if they take your complaints more seriously. Maybe your parents will listen and intervene so that your brother doesn't mistreat you so much. Another option would be to talk to a school counselor or teacher about what is going on and seeing if they can help in some way.

      Although you're going through a difficult time right now and it seems like the world is harsh and cruel, please know that things can and almost certainly WILL get better. Sometimes it's just a matter of asking for more help from those closest to you that you trust. Please remember that if you are ever in immediate danger you can dial 911. If you ever want to talk about suicidal feelings you can call 1-800-273-8255.

      Of course, you can always call us to talk about things. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY and we are open 24/7 and are confidential. You can also chat with us via our website at www.1800runaway.org.

      Please take care of yourself and stay safe.

      NRS

  • I recently just turned 13 on the 22nd and I just wanna leave this stupid family. My mom is just so ugh. She stresses me out to the point where I don’t even wanna live anymore. She’s always yelling at me and cursing at me for no reason. Especially when it comes to school work. She always gets on me about missing assignments but it’s just so overwhelming and it’s too much to handle. I get distracted easily. I’m struggling and I can’t focus and it’s just so hard and when I when I told her this all she could do is take my phone away like that’s going to help. You know I even thought about overdosing on Benadryl. I just can’t do this anymore.

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe and stay strong,
      NRS
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