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I’m 13 and I want to leave because my mum and dad have ruined me and my sisters lives. She’s 16 Nd i recently found a towel covered in blood which means that’s she’s very close to killing herself. I often have suiciadal thoughts My sister was diagnosed with depressions day anxiety but every time I have a panic attack and start crying my parents think it’s just teenager c*ap . I’m so unhappy In my house and I want to leave so bad, how can I?
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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
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I'm 13 and want to live a better life
I've had a rough life. My dad is a pothead and my mom is not alive anymore. My dad mentally abused me and physically abused my mom. I moved in with my grandmother but....lifes not as easy as you would think. I love her so much...but she doesn't completely know me. I am pansexual, but shes very homophobic and very religious. I know she will never except me for who I really am, and she talks about how it's a sin all the time. My freinds guardians are also this way, I have no clue what I should do but I cant live like this forever. I want to just be free from being scared. I want to be okay. But I cant when everyone around me will hate the true me. I found out I was pan when I was 9 and have felt this way ever since. What should I do?
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Hi there,
Thanks for taking the time to write us here at NRS. It can certainly be stressful at home when the adults in the household are not supportive. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. Asking for help was really responsible and smart of you. We are sorry to hear things are so unstable at home. You deserve to live somewhere that makes you feel safe and supported.
It must be stressful to feel like your family member are not understanding and do not support who you are. It can be incredibly challenging to feel as if you need to bottle up your feelings and restrict your self-expression. This is unfair to you and you deserve to be getting support as you cope with the situation at home.
The Trevor Project is available to help young people who identify within the LGBTQ who are in crisis and need a judgement free space to talk about what is going on (www.thetrevorproject.org ; 1-866-488-7386).This might be a helpful resource to you as you navigate this challenging situation. Sometimes having a safe place to talk about things can lead you to brainstorm ideas you hadn't thought of previously.
Additionally, we are available 24/7 to help by phone (1-800-786-2929) and online chat service. We want to offer support during this difficult situation and help you figure out what you want your next steps to be. Do not hesitate to reach out any time so that we can better help you.
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I live with my grandma to. And I hate it. I'm not in the exact same situation as you but my grandma is abusive and I don't have proof so I can't go to anyone. I have a friend who's family said they would love to take me in I asked my grandma but she just acts like it's a phase but I have felt this way for a while but never knew how to talk to her about it. Today she punched me and slapped me but I have no marks to prove it. I want to live with my friend and her family but I'm afraid I'm a minor so they won't believe me. And my mom is mental do they would also have the beleif that I am also mental. I don't know what to do or who to call. She always says she's going to call someone to arrange something then calls her friends and talks about how horrible of a child I am. I. Hate. My. Life. I don't know who to call. My grandma favors my 2 sisters. I don't know who to call that would believe me. Help?Comment
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Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We understand it takes a lot of strength to share your story. We are very sorry to hear that your grandma is abusive, but it is good to hear that you do have a safe place to go. If you were to go live with your friend, your grandma could file a runaway report if she is your legal guardian, so you would be considered a runaway.
This is only a status offense, meaning it would disappear from you record when you turn 18. It also means that the police could look for you, and if you were found you would be returned home to your grandma. Additionally, your friend’s parents could get in trouble for harboring a runaway, but only if they tried to stop the police. However, police do not typically look for runaway youth, but you could certainly give your local police station’s non-emergency number a call and pose your situation to them as a hypothetical to see how they would react. If you would like to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY we could make that call with you or for you. Another organization you could call is Child Help/National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 for support resources.
Thanks again for reaching out. We understand it takes a lot of bravery to share your story and reach out for help. Feel free to chat with us online or gives us a call anytime as we are available 24/7 and are completely confidential. Best of luck!
-NRS
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Im 11 I have on and offs so whenever I get angry or im bored i get angry im also autistic and i have anxiety pdhd, etc so i get angry sometimes i get so angry I have suicidal thoughts i sometimes wih i can eave my family right now im crying just thinking about it my best friend is teo fai###### the reason im extremely sad when i think about running away and all of this i start sobbing because i love my my dad somewhat my mom even tough she does all of the workand everythng if she finds this out im going to be introuble so if you guys see any strange writing with grammer uk its my mom im just saying this because it makes me feel better talkin about it shout out to jacksepticeye unus annus messyourself CORYXKENSHIN and miniklin spencer barton braile skateboarding crank gameplays and markiplier those are the youtubers that help me move on with my life thank you guys.Comment
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Hey there,
It seems like you have a lot going on in your life for being so young. It’s understandable to feel angry sometimes and even have suicidal thoughts. It seems like professional help for anxiety and everything else you are dealing with may be helpful. Its good that you have youtubers that have helped you cope with everything but they can’t replace one-on-one help long term. If you and/or your parents would like some therapists near you, please call 1-800-RUNAWAY or online chat with us so we can try and find one.
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I'm 12- I just don't hate my family I hate everything that surround me in my life
the only reason to why I haven't killed myself is because of my friends there are the little hope I have left
I really just wanna leave my house hold and get adopted by another family
my family has always been toxic my mom always being so narcistic I can't even describe it she's always crushing me until I
feel absolutely worth even blinking for my dad he tried to be a good dad or at least that what I tell myself
he never knew how to discipline me and he always says it my fault
its like anything I say or think is wrong if my parent fight
its because of me always my fault something I should've guessed I always wrong
it's always just an excuse to argue.
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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS
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can i talk with someone?
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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS
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I’m 12 years old, my family hates me, I’m a slave. I’m scared to stand up knowing I will be beaten up, they want to kill me, they curse me, swear, and hit me. They also team up against me. They want me to rot away. I live in hell.Comment
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Hi there,
It was really brave of you to write us here on our Bulletin and share a bit about your situation. From what you shared it sounds like your family has been making home feel dangerous and that is not okay for them to do. You deserve to be treated in a way that makes you feel safe and cared for.
Your parents are supposed to make you feel comfortable at home and it seems that they are not doing that. One option that you do have is to report the issues at home. A child abuse report can get a social worker involved to help. This can be a scary decision to make and you do not need to make it alone. There is an organization called Child Help which advocates for young people in unsafe or abusive situations. You can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelp.org to talk more about what making a child abuse report might look like for you and help getting the process started.
If you ever feel like you are in immediate danger, you can call 911 for emergency services.
We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.
We look forward to hearing from you soon so that we can help,
NRS
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I’m 13 years old and this happed over a year and still happening he keeps telling me to kill yourself = go hang yourself or go get run over and my mom is so in love with him he hits me and when I cry my mum said you wanted it we was playing but not when he really hurts you he slaps the catComment
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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, and sharing your story with us it takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are so glad that you did.
Wow you do not deserve to be told such hurtful things, or to be hit. It must be so difficult to have to deal with all of that, and we want you to know that you are not alone. That seems like it can be emotional abuse and physical abuse. You do have every right to make a report, and there are a few ways you can do this. One option to consider is to call Child Help at: 1800-422-4453, and they would be able to help you make a report. You can also contact us and we would be more than happy to help you with making a report. Also if you are ever in immediate danger please call your local police department and they can assist you.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS
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my situation isn’t as bad as yours but sameComment
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Hi there,
Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone at 1-800-786-22929 or live chat (1800runaway.org) for immediate services.
Thank you, NRS
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i need a break from from my family. i am 12 years old and i have a trans racial adoption. i just need space. but idk where to goComment
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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen.
It sounds like you are dealing with a lot right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone. To best help you we would need to know a little bit more about your situation. We are here for you 24/7, please chat with us or give us a call at 1800-786-2929.
Thanks!
NRS
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I'm 13 and I think this is abuse
One day I was doing my work and when my mom was checking my grades she was like Wtf and she got a belt and started hitting me with the metal part and my dad is in jail and I barely get to see him and sometimes I think of cutting myself or just running away and I really just want to be at peace.Comment
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Thanks for reaching out,
It seems like you have been through a lot, and that does appear to qualify as abuse to be hitting you with the metal part and trying to cause damage, although we aren’t legal experts or part of CPS/DCFS. It may be worth checking out childhelp.org to see more info on child abuse and possibly reporting it. It seems like home is hard to feel comfortable in with all that going on. Home should be somewhere you feel safe and can grow.
If you want help filing a report, or just want someone to talk to you can always reach out to our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY or us our online chat.
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i'm 12, i hate my family and i just want to leave the house
it's not as bad as child abusing but they always think i'm lying and they never believe just because i'm the youngest in the family and i always used to lie and not listen to my parents my oldest sister is definitely not on my side i hate her a lot she always rude to me and pick on me also just because i'm the youngest in the family but my second sister she is the best sister even though we might fight sometimes but she is the only one in the family that i love.Comment
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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS
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Hello I'm 15
I have a nice family. I love them all dearly but our relationship is becoming unhealthy for me. I am constantly put down by my siblings and I have mildly severe depression. No one knows except my cousin who also has it. We both want to leave our homes. I don't feel like it's any one person's fault. I just don't want to be put down all the time. I'm a middle child. When I was younger my brother was going thru a hard time and took it out on his younger siblings. I have to say we weren't helping his situation by telling him we hated him, but nonetheless he started being mean and my self confidence started to degrade. It continued on when my siblings to deal with their own feelings took it out on me. I'm also the middle child so I don't get payed much attention and to my older sibs I'm little and my younger I'm older so I don't really fit in anywhere. The only person I get along with is my dad and my mom is slightly controlling and judgmental. She's doing her best to overcome that, but I am expected to be perfect all the time and it's just not helping. I just want to be in a better place to deal with my emotions and get past this.
I would like to move in with my Aunt, but I'm not sure she'd let me and I don't want to talk to my parents about my issues. They have a lot going on right now and I just don't want to put pressure on them. I also just feel guilt cause they've had to take me lately to doctors and we don't have money right now. For years my mom wouldn't believe that I had health issues and I felt ignored. I'm not sure what to do as I'm failing my grades because I can't focus because of this.
I've thought multiple times about suicide but I don't think I'm in danger of it. I'm honestly too terrified to go through with it cause i've been in pain almost my entire life and I don't like it. My brother ran away from home for a few weeks and my parents were okay with it cause they knew what he was going thru, but I have a feeling that won't be the same with me Cause him running away didn't help him much and their relationship got rockier. My parents don't drink, smoke, or abuse. I'm just not sure I can take anymore of this.Comment
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Hey there,
Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It can be really rough being a middle child and can often feel lonely, even though you are surrounded by siblings. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.
You mentioned that you have been struggling with depression lately. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no-cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.
It seems like your parents don’t fully understand how the current dynamic at home is affecting you. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member (like your aunt) to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your parents so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.
If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.
We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
Stay safe,
NRS
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Im 14 and I hate my family.
I hate the household that I'm in and I hate everyone that I live with. I feel so miserable and like my entire life is being ruined. I feel like I have no say in what I want to do with my life. I've thought about committing suicide several times and I've tried suffocation several times as well but failed. I can't live here anymore, I've already tried running away. I can't live like this anymore I'm only 14 and Im supposed to have a whole life ahead of me, I NEED HELP PLEASE HELP ME!!!!! What are my options?Comment
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Hey there,
Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Everyone should be able to feed loved and respected at home.
You mentioned that you have thought about suicide and have tried to hurt yourself via suffocation. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.
It sounds like there is a lack of understanding between you and others in your household. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your caretaker so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.
If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.
We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
Stay safe,
NRS
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I'm 13, I've dealt with my mother for years, ever since I've gotten older I've had to deal with name calling, she talks me down, and we always get in arguments, she claims its all ways my fault and that I'm disrespectful, every time I stand up for myself she tells me I'm a child and I don't have a right to speak, I cry almost everyday and get called annoying, I want to leave her so bad, I stay in my room a lot to stay away from her, but she even talks me down on that, she says I'm lazy and need to get out but I never have the energy, its gotten to the point where I don't even wanna go around the rest of the family, I also have to deal with my brother, its obvious she treats him better, he has done weed, he has wrecked his truck so many times, he is overall bad but my mother always wants to not talk about it and its like she's never mad at him, but any little thing I do I get my things took away or she threatens to take my door away, I truly love my brother though, my mother also lets random people into the house, they use my shower, they smoke weed in my brothers room and I hate being around that, she's always embarrassing me and lies a lot about me to her friends, my phone is currently taken away from me again, so I'm typing this on a computer, I truly hate her but I tell her I love her, I'm the one always apologizing when I know I it should be her, I even ask for food from town and she complains, or if I ask for her to fix me something she gets mad, I finally have reached out, I know I would never hurt my self but I do think about it a lot, I just wanna be happy. there is so much more I wanna say about her but I wanna see if you guys reply or if this is legit, thank u for listening.
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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone in this.
It must be really scary to have people smoking weed in your home that you do not know. One option to consider is to speak with your mother about how you are feeling, she may be unaware of your feelings. Another option would be to speak with an adult or a counselor about what is going on at home, sometimes talking to a professional can help you explore options. Another good resource is called NAMI (national alliance for mental illnesses. They can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options, please chat with us or call us. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS
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