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  • Yeah ' I'm so tried but they heated me i was tried to do sucied but im not but i wanna decided to leave my parents forever

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You mentioned that you tried to commit suicide. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • i hate my family and my dad won’t stop hitting me i am already full of bruises just done with everything can’t put it up no more (not sucide).
    Last edited by ccsmod13; 08-27-2019, 06:28 PM. Reason: Personal information

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      Hi there,

      We are so glad that you contacted NRS. Reaching out for help takes a lot of strength and is a really good first step. Home is supposed to be somewhere that you feel safe and you deserve to feel supported where you live. Hitting is never okay and your dad's behaviors are not your fault. It is understandable you would be feeling overwhelmed dealing with everything at home.

      You can call 911 for emergency services if you feel like you are in immediate danger. You do not deserve to be hit or made to feel so stressed at home. You can report this as abuse if you would like. This might seem weird or uncomfortable, but taking pictures of the bruises or other marks that your dad causes can help serve as evidence. Making a report would start an investigation by child protective services. A caseworker would come to your house to talk to you and your parents. Reporting could have a few different outcomes and might range from mandated counseling and parenting classes to you being removed from your home if the caseworker feels it is an unsafe living environment. If you are interested in making a report or just getting more information you can call the national child abuse hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelp.org. Your school counselor or a teacher that you trust are mandated reporters and can help you make the report.

      We want to encourage you to talk to someone about the problems you have been experiencing at home. You do not have to go through this alone. We are here 24/7 by phone and chat to listen and help. You can call us at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. Please do not hesitate to reach out if you want to talk more about what has been going or explore your options more in-depth.

      We look forward to hearing from you soon!

  • I'm 14 and I want to run away. I have a great family who I love who love me. They are great to me and really care. However I don't have any friends at school and have started skipping lunch every day to avoid sitting alone or being rejected from peoples table. Im being made fun of by so many other students too, I just hate the fact that I have 4 more years to make it through.

    I have depression and anxiety when around the school, and have access to drug dealers ( local teens dealing marijuana that i can access via snapchat) and I'm seriously considering going to drugs to help me cope. I also send nudes to random boys from other schools and let them screenshot. It helps for a bit and then I feel even worse afterwards. oh and im a masturbation addict (5 times a day at least or I i start getting withdrawal symptoms) which some people at school found out and now they all make comments about my 'disgusting masturbation habit'.


    I can't hurt my family, but I just want to run away, do drugs on the street, exchange sexual favors for a place to stay and just forget about this ********ed up ******** I'm in. I can stand up to the bullies (I have perfected an amazing RBF that keeps them at bay) but I'm still in a dark place and need help
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. You mentioned that you are being made fun of at school; you should be treated with respect everywhere you go. If you feel comfortable you can always disclose what’s going on with a trusted teacher, school counselor, or other personnel; they may be able to help. You can also check out https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/bullies.html for some “Bullying Survival Tips”.

      It seems like there's a lot going on and it could be a good idea to talk to someone about what you've been doing, and how it makes you feel. You may want to try talking with someone like a counselor or your parents. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your parents so you have a safe environment where you can express what's been going on. You can also call or chat us and we can look up a local counseling agency in your area if that is something that you would be interested in.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • I'm fifteen I was adopted at age 9 my mom loved me but then she got married and then had kids now she doesn't care about me I don't want to leave my sisters but I want to get away from my mom and dad where should I go?

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now. Your mother probably does loves you and does care but may not be expressing it as she is busy with other kids. At NRS we offer conference calling where if you call us we can call out to your mother and help you have a conversation about this. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to mediate the call and provide support to you.
      You also mentioned wanting to get away. We are not legal experts but if you left without permission your legal guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely would bring you back home. One option you could try is to talk with your school counselor about what is going on. Talking to someone can help you feel better and they may be able to talk about resources with you.
      We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • I hate my family and I want a new one. Being the only stepchild sucks and it makes me wish I could've been born with another family. My stepdad is a straight up jerk! He always picks on me and treats his other biological kids better then me. And my STUPID "mom" sides with him just because he's her husband. My mom is cruel and lets my dumb little brothers and sisters get away with anything they want. She doesn't care about me, she's on the computer all the time and never pays attention to anything. My stepsiblings are constantly getting on my nerves and doing things purposely that will get on my nerves. I'm trapped here, at 14, no car, no one to talk to and I HATE MY FAMILY. I'm always getting blamed for things, no one is ever on my side, I catch my "parents" talking about me behind my back about what a failure I am when they think I;m not looking. MY LIFE IS MISERABLE, I need guidance please. Anyone.

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. Sounds like you are having such a hard time with your family and it has taken a major toll on you. It cannot be easy to hear your parents saying that and to feel picked on. Here at NRS, we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

      If you haven't already, you might try to talk to your mom about how you are feeling about being the only stepchild and feeling unwanted. Here at NRS, we have a conference call service if you would like to have a mediated conversation with your guardian(s) and an advocate on the line. Please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY for that conference call service. We would also be happy to look for family counseling resources if you would like to work on addressing the issues at home with your family.

      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • I’m the age of 13 and my entire life has fallen apart.when I was 7 my life was perfect I had a lot of friends play video games, sit by the fire and eat Smore’s my life was perfect until I was getting older when I was 10 my family was getting mad at each other,every day was hell for me and my little brother he started to cry when my family started to fight and then they got a divorce and I was heartbroken my entire family was falling apart then A month later they got back together and was happy but that lasted only two months then They got back together but I was very not happy that they we’re getting in on and off relationship it got me so mad.ny dad is alcoholic he will always drink every day and yell at my little sister and hit me It got to the point that I had to call the police but they didn’t believe me because I was just a kid my dad beat the crap out of me after that.my Friends help me talk out of it But I want to leave the family so bad My Big brother has left several times because of my family Now I’m in the age of 13 I started to say my life getting better again I have an amazing friends who understand me they give me more joy than my family and then my brother left that means that I was getting all the attention from the family every time my sister cries my parents believe me and the beat me My family always do everything around the house I had enough of it I tried to call child services but my parents got me calling them broke mI had enough of it I tried to call child services but my parents got me calling them and starting to beat me up I have hit depression I want to kill myself some nights but I couldn’t. Set I met this girl named Emily She goes by the name rain but she understands we talk for hours and hours got to the point that even a relationship I was so happy with her and I was so happy again but still my family hate me and I what do die that’s where I am today

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you have gone through a really difficult time in the last few years. You do not deserve to be abused and we are sorry you have been going through that. We know you mentioned trying to get CPS involved and your parents hurting you for that. You can make an anonymous report by calling us or chatting with us and we can help you make a report. You can also make a report by calling Child Help at: 1800-422-4453. Another option you could consider is talking to your school counselor about what is going on. Your school counselor is a mandated reporter so they would be required by law to make a report on your behalf.
      We are glad to hear that you have a good support system and friends that you can confide in and vent to. You can also try to cope with this by doing activities that you enjoy.
      We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide you support. Stay strong you are not alone!
      NRS

  • I’m 12and I wanna go home to my mom but I don’t get to see her for 3 days and I wanna tell my dad I wanna go home early what do I do to make my mom come get me

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      Hi there,

      We’re sorry you’re feeling uncomfortable with you father. But it’s great that it sounds like you have a good relationship with your mother and want to go back home to her.

      We’d like to talk to you more about this situation, how you’re feeling, and help you soon. Please call us at 1800RUNAWAY or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. We’re completely confidential (so your dad won’t find out if you reach out to us) and available whenever you are, 24/7.
      We’re here to listen and here to help.

      We look forward to talking or chatting with you soon. And we wish you the best!
      -NRS

  • I hate it at my home.
    I'm the second oldest, and I am always left out. When my sister was my age she is given anything and everything including her phone which she had when she was my age. All I have is a dumbphone and a basic bedroom and ********. Life outside of home is better, with all my friends being like family to me, even the close community

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to listen and here to help. It sounds like you are having a difficult time at home. Comparing yourself to your siblings can be tough and can make you feel upset if they have more privileges than you.
      One option to consider is talking with your parents about how you feel and asking them for a phone and a bedroom. We know that having these conversations may be hard or scary that is why at NRS we offer conference calling where if you call us we can call out to your parents and help you have this conversation. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to mediate the conversation and provide support to you. Another option may be to talk with your school counselor about what has been going on.
      We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • Hello I just need to say I know I have it good. I have a great mother!! I know how hard she tries. But I have an annoying twin and little brother. Yes I love them to death. But I feel like I’m missing something. I have this ongoing feeling I don’t matter. Honestly, sometimes I look in a mirror and wanna throw up. Everyone tells me I’m so pretty and smart. I just don’t believe it. I try not to show it. But I’m bad with emotions. Well not around my parents. They have no idea what I’m going through. My parents fight A LOT. My dad yells so much and I know that’s why I’m so nervous all the time. My mother says all I ever do is drown out the world with music or books. Honestly I just wanna leave the world completely. I don’t tell anyone though. I feel like such a f****** baby. I feel like if I tell someone, they’ll reject me and tell me I need to toughen up. Well I try, I try to be more confident. More outgoing...like I used to... but it’s just not working. I’m so scared. I cut myself a couple of days ago... I have no idea why. But I liked it. I need help. I asked my mom about therapy. But she says if she wants someone to talk to, talk to her. She says she knows exactly what it was like. She doesn’t though. When she was a kid, there wasn’t cell phones, internet. Cyberbullies... I just wanna feel the true love. Please give me some advice? I need it. I don’t wanna kill myself. I wanna run always I wanna be free in the wilderness. The wild!! I wanna build my own tree house. And live with the wolves!! I know I’m not the only one. Or at least I think? Guys, I wish you knew how it felt. But I wish I could help you all. You’re all in such worse situations. Just know I love you, even if I don’t know you. Know I love you, no matter who you are or what you’ve done. Know someone loves you!! ❤️ Find the love you need in your heart. Even if you don’t think you have one. I have no friends. I sit alone at lunch. I suck at sports even though I love them. I have pretty good grades. But I never feel like I’ll live up to others. I want the live and support. My family is amazing but... they just can’t give me what I need. I’m 12 and want to run away to the wilderness... the wild... The freedom.
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      Thank you for telling us your story and reaching out. It can be difficult telling others what has happened to you and you have shown great strength by doing so. Your life is very important. If you begin having thoughts of self-harm or suicide and want to talk with someone anonymously, please don’t hesitate to reach out for help. One resource that might work for you is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can reach them at 1-800-273-8255. They also have an internet chat function through their website at suicidepreventionlifeline.org. Another resource that could possibly provide support is called to write love on her arms to TWLOHA.com. You can also contact the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) to connect you to mental health resources at 1-800-950-6264 or NAMI.org if you want to talk or talk to your school because they should have a counselor for you.You mentioned wanting to run away. Running away can be really scary for an unaccompanied 13 year old, so we strongly encourage you to think about your safety and to always be planning around your safety if you do decide to leave. If you leave without permission, your parents could file a runaway report for you with local police. If you are found, you would be returned home. You might ask your parent's if there is any relative that they would be okay with you living with. Legally, you can stay anywhere that your parents say is okay.It can be difficult to manage situations like this and you don’t have to do it alone. One service we can offer is to conference call with your parents. This way you could have a conversation with your parents but you would not be alone. Sometimes those conversations go better in a conference call because we can advocate for you. Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you would like to share more, please feel free to call our 24 hour hotline at 1-800Runaway (786-2929) or use our live chat. We hope this information was helpful and take care.

  • I hate my LIFE!!! I SWEAR MY PARENTS HATE ME!!! I've been in this home for 7 years and been adopted for 1. The only reason I continued the adoption process was so that I could see my biological family. Which isn't even really happening. I am on depression meds because my biological dad died last year and my parents hate me and No one understands me. I have planned out running away, killing myself, and killing my parents and many other things that probably shouldn't go into this for I might get arrested just for saying what I think about doing to them. I hate them with a passion. I have friends who do drugs yet miraculously I have managed to stay away from drugs. My mom even recently threw my food and milk at me. Their son that died 5 years ago raped me for a year. At first, I didn't want to tell them because I thought I cared about them. Now I just don't tell them because I don't think they will believe me although my closest friends know. I still think about it all the time like it was yesterday. I want to use it as a threat but they won't believe me because it has been too long since he died. I am still scared of many things because I remember it in full detail. This house brings back horrible memories. I have a friend whose parents will accept me as I am, but I don't know how to change guardianship over me. Also, I don't want to bargain for the option of my family. My real family. As in the promise I was made that I will see them, which I am but not very much. What do I do and how do I do it?

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. You've gone through so much and your resilience and strength is really admirable and something that you should be proud of. sounds like you've been living in a very tense situation for quite some time and it makes sense that at times you'd think about all those kinds of things, but we want to reassure you that your life matters and suicide and homicidal actions are permanent actions for temporary problems.

      You mentioned that you have been on depression medication since your biological father died. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. If you are currently thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

      It seems not being able to see your biological family as promised is greatly affecting your life in a negative way and that maybe your adopted family isn’t fully understanding this. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your adopted family so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • im 14 and i hate my family

    ever since i noticed my dad is an alcoholic and was sleeping with other woman (technically just using the house to get sleep from 3 to 6 am) i only talk to him if its absolutely necessary, my mom is even worse, she has known about all of this and never told me. a month ago my mom was talking ******** about him and the day my dad got me way too mad i spilled all of my feelings including what my mom had said, then he told my mom and she got mad at ME because i had told him, im so sick of her being a f*cking p*ssy when it comes to this. obviously my mom is not gonna get divorced because after i told my dad all of that and my mom was forced to confront him, my dad has started being more of a hypocrite. my brother doesn't help either, he dropped out of school, smokes, does nothing but play video games all day, and only goes to my mom whenever he wants her to buy him something, and my idiot mother buys it to him. i am somehow thankful for these experiences cus ive recently realized you cant trust anyone not even your family or friends. i just want to leave home and start from scratch. i want to leave this f*cking family.

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    • Hello! Thank you so much for contacting us, we appreciate you reaching out for help.

      To begin with, you mentioned that your dad was having an affair, and your mom knew but hid it form you for quite some time. It sounds liked you’re going through a difficult time right now, and we are here to help you in whatever way that we can. You’re really brave for confronting your parents about how your dad’s affair has affected you deeply. Most people do things without considering how it will affect those around them, and don’t see wrong in their actions. An option to consider would be to open up to your parents once more about how this is taking a toll on you, and you all may come up with ways on how to move passed this. You may also utilize our phone service system to do a conference all with your parents, and we could ne mediators between the conversation. You may reach us anytime at 1800) 786-2929
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      Furthermore, you also stated that your brother doesn’t help the situation out by playing video games all day, and only going to your mom when it is necessary. It sounds like you care about your brother, and wish he would take his surroundings more seriously so he could be with your during this time. We’re not legal experts, but if you decide to runaway on your own without your legal guardian’s permission, they may file runaway report with the authorities, and whoever they find you with, may get in trouble for harboring a runaway. If at any time you are feeling unsafe, you may text the word safe and your current location to 44357. The national safe place will text you a safe location, and if necessary a case worker may be out to further assist you.

      Thank you so much for reaching out, it takes a lot of courage to seek out help when you need it. If you need any additional resources, or feel like you need someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to reach out to us anytime at 1800) 786-2929. Best of luck!
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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      • I hate my mom . she acts bipolar and when she gets mad at me she says " this is why i didnt want to have girls " " i should have thrown you in the dumpster when i had the chance and it hurts . but i dont care to be honest because when i turn 18 im out this ********** and im going to cure cancer and be the greatest i can be ; with or without them .

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          Hey there,

          Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension, your mom shouldn't be saying such hurtful things whether she's mad or not. It seems like perhaps she doesn't fully understand the impact that her words have. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

          If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

          Stay safe,
          NRS

      • i’m 13 and i want to leave too
        i hate every single person in my family all they do is put me down to the point i go smoke and self harm ...

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          Hi, thank you so much for reaching out. It sounds like you do not feel treated appropriately in your own home and everyone deserves to. It takes a lot of strength to reach so you deserve a lot of credit. We want to be here to support you.
          You mention that you hate every single person in your family and we are left wondering why that is. Has your family members ever put you in a situation where you feel unsafe? Have you told any other adult outside of your family how you feel? Furthermore, you mention that you sometimes feel like self harming given the situation and we are concerned for your safety. If you ever feel like you may be unsafe or simply want to talk we would encourage you to reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Also, we would encourage you to call or chat with is at 1-800-786-2929 so we can further explore your situation and try are best to support you and look at options to improve your current circumstances. It sounds like things are not going the way they should be and especially at your age, you deserve to feel loved and comforted by those you call family.
          Again, thank you for reaching out. Your strength is very apparent. We hope that you give us a call sometime as we would love to speak to you. We are here to listen and here to help.

      • I am 14 and my sister is going through loads off operations and everything is about her but she doesn't have one for like a year now and it's all ways about everything else my mum hates me my dad says I stress everyone out because I dont like the food my mum cooks even though I try it the only person I like is my girlfriend

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          Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out.

          It sounds like you don’t feel treated appropriately in your own home and everyone deserves to. It takes a lot of strength to reach so you deserve a lot of credit. We want to be here to support you. It seems like perhaps she doesn't fully understand the impact that her words have. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

          If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.
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