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  • I ********ing hate my mom and she just makes me want to leave and kill myself

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • I want to leave my family.
    Here's my story,1.both my parents are completely oblivious to my brother's abuse,2.my brother is a homophobic ******** and a general dick,I'm 13 and he's 14 and I feel like I should run away from my family but I know I have nowhere to go but what I do know now is that there are places for people like me,my brother also finds violence as an acceptable solution to problems,I'm just going to research places to go but first imma get a recording of my brother calling me homophobic names so I can maybe get a chance to survive,wish me luck.

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    • ccsmod7
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      Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot with your brother being homophobic and violent and your parents not intervening. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

      We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

      If you haven't already, you might try telling your parents about what your brother is doing and saying and how it is making you feel. Here at NRS, we do have a conference call service if you would like assistance with that difficult conversation. Please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY for our conference call service.

      Depending on what your brother is doing, you may have the possibility of reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

      If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

      We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best,

      NRS

  • Hello, I'm 12 and I want another family. I am young to say that I am in love but I really am. I met this boy through snapchat and he has made me the happiest person alive. I love him with all my heart and so does he. My family does not approve of me talking to him and when they found out about him, they beat me up. The side of my face is sore and bruised with the rest of my body, and I cut my wrist because I couldn't take it anymore, I don't know how I survived but I did. I don't know what to do and I'm scared to death that he will get upset and move on from me. I don't know what to do. Please help me, I want to live with him and there is no way I can forget him. I cry and have mental breakdowns every morning and night but I don't let my family see how hurt and broken I am. My family said that they will not let me go to school anymore no matter what. So, I'm stuck with them, I don't want to eat and I don't even know the last time I had a meal. I want to have a normal life with another family. I can't fake my happiness anymore. And there's no age to love someone, I know it sounds childish but it's true, I can't live without that guy and my family will not let me reach him or get in contact with him no matter what. My family obviously does not know about me writing this and wanting help, they think I'm just on youtube and that I have forgotten about the guy I love. But that's not possible, I can't forget him no matter what. I don't know what to do, please help me, I don't know what to do. please help.

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's been going on, we know it takes a lot of courage. It's great to hear that you were able to make such a deep connection with someone who brings you happiness. We do care a lot about your safety and want to remind you of the possible dangers associated with meeting someone you met online; if that is something that you are considering. Some people may not be who they claim to be and could possibly force you into doing things that you are not comfortable with.

      You mentioned that you were beat up by your family, this raises a lot of concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. Often time, it can be helpful to an abuse investigation to document (take pictures/videos, etc.) any injuries that may have resulted from the abuse (like the bruises you mentioned). It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

  • 'Hi im 11 and my family abuse me because im not smart enough like the rest of the family ive been wanting to run away since i was 8 because from them they started to abuse me so i really hated myself i even had the guts to commit suicide. I told my friends my situaition but they said not too run. Whenever im happy something bad happens but whenever im mad, angry or asd something good happens so i cant be happy basically. My mum thinks studying is all i need to do nothing else but my thoughts were- If you study all the time then you will never get to spend tiime with your family.

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a pretty difficult time right now.
      Abuse is never okay, and we are sorry that you are being treated that way. You always have the right to report the abuse. One option to report the abuse is to call The Child Help Line at: 1800-422-4453. Another option you could consider is talking to your school counselor, they are mandated reporters so they would be required by law to report the abuse. If you are ever in immediate danger please call 911, and a police officer would be able to assist you.
      You also mentioned trying to commit suicide. We want you to know that you are valuable and worth living. We know that sometimes that it feels like no one is there to listen, but there is always someone willing to listen and provide support. If you are ever feeling suicidal you can always contact The National Suicide Prevention Line at: 1800-273-8255. You can also always call us and we can listen and provide support, you are not alone in this.
      Also you mentioned wanting to run away, we are not legal experts but we do have general information on the laws. If you were to leave home without permission your parents do have the right to file a runaway report. If the police do find you they most likely would bring you back home if they found it to be safe. If you do decide to leave your safety is the top concern. You can always call us for help locating safe places for you.
      We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • I’m 14 going to be 15, I’m really wanting to move out but it’ll end up as a missing persons report. I’m adopted by my aunt and only my aunt and I’ve been for a while so it’s nothing new, but I feel too controlled and uncomfortable. I’m not allowed to do anything because she has the power to say no to me, I feel like I’m not able to go on my phone or watch tv when I have it because she wants everything in her house clean all the time. Whenever something bad happens to her house my brother and I are disobeying it and we feel like we’re not allowed to do anything since it’s not our house. My phone gets token away all the time so I feel isolated just cleaning her house and with nobody to talk to. My brother decides to live life and go with his friends even though he gets in trouble for it, but whenever he gets in trouble I get in trouble. I feel like I can’t talk to anyone hence my phone getting token away. If I leave the house I’m living in then there would be chaos. This is because I’m cleaning the house when my aunts gone, and taking care of my cousins and brother. My aunt is gone almost all day because of work. Whenever I try and talk to her she’s always right and I’m just a stupid girl who thinks she knows everything. My whole life just consists of me staying at her house cleaning it and taking care of my cousins and brother, making food when my aunt doesn’t, and just pure getting yelled at. I want to move out but I definitely know I don’t have consent because she needs me at her house. I have a stable place to stay but this isn’t my house and I’ll be more happier staying somewhere else where I’m not treated as a maid. I’m just wondering if im able to move out even if she doesn’t like it

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    • ccsmod8
      ccsmod8 commented
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      Hello there –

      Thank you for reaching out to us here on our public forum. Hopefully by helping you through your crisis, there are others in similar situations that can find it helpful as well. It can be hard not to know what do to in this situation. Sounds like you are in a really difficult spot living with your Aunt, but also not having anyone else to really turn to for help. Being so young can sometime make adult think that your feeling or thoughts don’t really matter, but in realty everyone’s matter and deserve to be validated. We are sound that you are going through something like this.

      You sort of answered your own question there when it comes to living home without your Aunt’s permission. Whenever a youth runs away from home or leaves for any reason without permission, their parent and/or legal guardian has the right to file them as a runaway or missing person with the local police. Since it’s not a crime to run away, the only thing that will happen is that you will be returned back home to your Aunt.

      It sounds like there is a lot of miscommunication going on between you and your Aunt, even with your brother that keeps running away home. Now we do offer a service that is basically a Conference Call where the parent/guardian, the youth, and us would be on the phone talking about what has been going on. This way there can be a mediator in between keeping things calm and productive. If you’d feel more comfortable with doing that, just know that it’s always available. It might be a great way to talk about what you are going through and where this feelings might be coming from, maybe build on your relationship and make it better, or talk about the possibility of moving out with your friend. Something constructive so that it certainly opens the lines of communication, but that services is completely up to you.

      One resource that you might be able to look into if you’re looking for a safe place if you do end up leaving home, would be to visit The National Safeplace. This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there is any safe places near you listed. They are usually places like designated school, fire stations, libraries, etc so places that are normally easy to walk to. So that is always an option if you feel like go to talk to someone in person and what has been going on. They can also come to arrange transportation from that location to a nearby shelter resources if you can’t get there on your own. If you want to contact them you can look at this site and enter your address and they will direct you to your closest safe place that you can to go (https://www.nationalsafeplace.org/for-teens). Another way to find the closes place would be to text the word “safe” and your current location (address, city, state) to 4HELP (44357). You then will be messaged back with the closest Safe Place site and phone number that you could reach out to.

      We hope that this helps out a little. Please feel free to reach out to us again via phone or online chat.
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