I'm 13, I hate my family and I want to leave.

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I am a 13 yr old that wants to get away from my dad and stepmom. My mom is currently homeless and has been for about 2 years. I lived with her all my life till last year for 6th grade. I was only supposed to be there for one year but my mom hasnt got a place. My stepmom is NOT ment to be a parent but now she is pregnant. My real mom has access to a computer and she said i can email her. So i did. Its been 4 days and she hasn't responded. I said that i didnt want to live with my stepmom and dae anymore and that i need to escape. Idk how we r going to do it but i know i wont be living with them for long. Please give me suggestions for what i can do. Hopefully i can be emancipated or live with a friend for a wile but i want NO contact to my dad or stepmom.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It sounds like having your mom in that situation is really stressful and that life with your dad and stepmom have only been compounding the problem. You mentioned that you're worried about your stepmom's ability to parent. If there is any abuse or neglect going on at home you have the right to reach out to child protective services to file a report. You can get more information on how to do so and how to contact your local CPS agency here: childhelp.org. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can help you through the reporting process.

We’re not legal experts here at NRS, so we can’t give you any legal advice regarding emancipation. What we can say is that there are normally certain rules and qualifications about who can and cannot be emancipated (if it is an option in your state). Emancipation can often be a lengthy and expensive process, which may make the process difficult.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 14 and my mom is in a gay relationship with a woman and the woman when she first came around tried to threaten me by saying if I dont listen or be good I'm not her daughter like I even want to I hate her and she dose nothing all she can do is work she cant drive and she cant do anything for her self she cant do her own hair or cook for herself and when i say somthing to my mom she calls me names and says I'm dumb and worthless and say that I do nothing and my mom is trying to marry her and she dosent think that will make the woman her wife and my mom things I'm stupid and useless and I really dont like being at home and sometimes my mom tells me to leave her alone but she wont let me leave the house and shshe keeps me hostage basically in the house I'm soo tired of this I want to disown her because of how she treats me but I know I wont beacuse even tho shes an jerk and says in worthless I still love her I dont know what to do please help me I dont know whawhat to do anymore my mom makes me feel suicidal and she saw my scars andcalled me a dumbass and said I'm stupid

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - it's not right for the woman your mom is seeing or your mom to call you names and or try to put you down. You are an intelligent, bright, individual who deserves to be respected.

You mentioned that you have been threatened by this woman. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

You brought up that you had been feeling suicidal and alluded to some self-harm. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 13 and I hate my family. I always have hated my niece, but after some stressful and agitating things happened, I hate my whole family. I lived with my mom, two sisters, and my niece but we had to move in with my three of my cousins and grandfather because of my mother's stupid phobias. Before we moved we all had our own beds and we had separate rooms, but now we share a tiny room and we all share beds. I share a bed with my mom and sister. My other sister shares my mother's old bed with her annoying daughter (my niece). I HATE my oldest sister and her daughter especially. My oldest sister is annoying, she talks too much and she complains too much. My niece is a spoiled, conceited brat. It gets on my nerves when she says things like: "I'm smart". They both like to be bossy and degrade people. They are one of the main reasons why I am depressdepressed and stressed out. They make me hate myself. My family always makes it seem like my niece is the best out of me and my other sister. My niece drinks water, she acts and behaves better, she is smarter, she is more mature. Ugh!! I hate it! So much I can't explain it! It pisses me off when my niece is all confident and complimantinc herself, while I'm squished in between my mother and sister feeling like nothing but shot that no body cares for. I want to scream sometimes. I wish my niece would just shut up and die. I wish my oldest sister would just shut up. I wish my life was normal.

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Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out, we know it takes a lot of courage. It sounds really hard to live somewhere where you feel like you aren't being respected. You mentioned that you live in close quarters with many family members. If you feel like any neglect is going on at home (your basic needs like food, shelter, etc.) aren't being met, you can always contact your local CPS office by going to childhelp.org.

You mentioned that you had been struggling with some depression - that can be really difficult. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

I have lived with my grandma ever since i was 4. I really loved her, but things got crazy, we were on and off. I really want to run away from home but I only have 1 place to go. But they will just send me back. I cant do with this anymore all she do is say she is going to hit me but she doesn't and i just want to move out and dont live here no more i am out of here in 2 months but 2 months takes a long time so i need advice i hope you can help me

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Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation and aren’t sure what to do. It’s great that you reached out to us. We’re here to listen.
It sounds like you’ve been with your grandmother for a long time, and that over time things have gotten difficult with her. That’s understandable as you get older and things change. You mentioned running away, but they will send you back to your grandmother, so it sounds like that is only a short-term solution for you. You mentioned that you are out of here in two months, but don’t mention how things are going to change in two months. If things are going to change in two months, that’s hopeful. Two months can seem like a long time, but maybe if you find other things you like to do that are away from home, like school and friends, the time may pass more quickly.
You said that your grandmother threatens to hit you, but she doesn’t. No one deserves to be hit, or even threatened to be hit, and you should not have to be threatened like that. Do you have any other people who are close to you? Maybe a friend, or a friend’s parent, or a teacher or counselor at school, or someone from church, or any other adults in your life? It would be good if you had someone to listen to you, and maybe someone who could help you in your situation. Here at the National Runaway Safeline, we are available to talk every day, 24 hours a day. The number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (100-786-2929). It would be helpful to have a conversation, so someone here can learn more about the details of your situation and help you figure out what might be best for you.
We also offer a service where we could conference both you and your grandmother at the same time. You mentioned that you really loved your grandmother in the past, and we could talk to both of you and try to help you to repair your relationship. We can help set that up at the same phone number. We’re also here to listen to you, and sometimes it can be helpful to tell another person what’s going on at home with your grandmother. We’re here to listen, here to help.

[Guest]

Im 15 and i want to leave this home now!! I hate everyone in this house..





Ok whats going on is after my first concieve my momma been a ********** to me n thats not cool at all so i ran away my very first time bc i was tired of being treated like a slave around here not only that she killed my unborn baby by giving me drugs(Pills)But i came to school on tuesday my fake god mom saw me,with my boyfriend n snatched me to her office n calked my momma saying she needs to withdrawal me and i was like wtf just bc i ranaway but i stayed a week out of school and waiting on files of me Transferring schools or w.e. Jus to get a better environment i had to show her that it wont work
bc on my 15Birthday which was dec 9 i ran away again to be with my boyfriend n my dad comes up there Talkin his ******** to me n tries to kill my boyfriend n pushed me in the dirt when i try to help so i came home or w.e. Packed my bags for the next day n went to school so i checked out my bags in the car here they is talkin about a mental health hospital bc they think im on drugs which i will never do tht bc i have,a future unlikely them they,drop out in 6th grade

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

Hello,
I am 13 years old girl turning 14 in May i hate my family because they always abuse me and not satisfy with me , I want to become an kpop idol but i didn't tell anyone about my dream because my parents want me to become an astronaut because my science and maths are strong , they don't like my friends and abuse them , I am not perfect in studies but i am perfect in dance , singing, sports, drawing, song writing,etc and my parents think that these all are bull******** , they always force me to study ok that's fine but let me do other things also. They also compare me with my friends and my younger sister . They don't like me ,abuse me , abuse my friends, always stop me to do dance and singing and stuff after all that things they ask me why i am not happy with them or not enjoying anything . My friends are always help me and appreciate me that's why i want to spend more time with my friends but my mom-_- .The things i like they abuse them also , and if i did anything wrong my mom always says why did u take birth from my stomach . I am not allow to talk to my friends on phone , i can hardly talk with them for 2 to 3 minutes , i am not allowed to chat with my friends or someone.
Like few days back i ask my mom to bring my old piano charger she said first do study then i will buy and yesterday i ask same question she said their is no need to buy any charger for you , your first and most important thing is study . I REALLY WANT TO LEAVE MY HOUSE .

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

Best of luck,
NRS

[Guest]

I hate my life with my family

My family treats me like sh*t whenever something goes wrong, even if it was an accident or not my fault.A couple of days ago they yelled at me for being too slow.I feel like crap because of it as well.My sister called me a di****** for making my mum angry even though I tried to be as fast as I can.If I told anyone in my family about my problem they wouldn’t care and that goes for my aunts uncles etc. So I thought of telling her boyfriend and now if I even text him I am in trouble. I just wanna leave and actually be safe. Literally I would rather live in a care home than with my parents. Literally the only thing that resolved problems in my house is violence and abuse. The only person I can sort of trust is my dad but he can’t even speak English and my mum is basically the ‘man’ of the house. I really just wanna leave and start a new life but that would never work because they would never let me. At school I feel safe but it’s only for 8 hours. I don’t know what to do and I am only 13. If they ever found out I was writing this they would try and brainwash me to think that my household is safe with them here by giving me what I want. I think I should call the police but if I did I would probably be dead. Please help me.

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Reply:I hate my life with my fami

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things in your life right now.
It sounds like you’re fearing that the stress from the situation is getting more and more difficult to handle.
We are sorry you are going through a tough emotional time.
The way you have been treated by your family seems to have you upset and frustrated.

Sometimes when things are too stressful it might help to talk with someone about it.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this.
NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

You are welcome to discuss your situation and talk about possible options for help.
What you did today by reaching out was great. Good job.

If you should ever be at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.


Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi, I'm 12, just about to turn 13, and I have anxiety, I also suspect I have depression. My dad, my mum, my step mother and all my half siblings are all unbearable. I have known, i have had anxiety and possible depression since I was 9. My parents had a messy breakup when I was 4 which resulted in me getting body shamed, yelled at, and put down my entire childhood. I don't even really consider myself a child anymore. I feel like an object. I used to think about suicide a lot when I was really little, although I have gotten past that point in my life, I now have arrived at another one. I want to run away. I know my parents would probably miss me, but I just don't care, at all. I want to be free. I have no one to turn to in my opinion, I can't tell my father becuase he is extremely narcissistic and will end blaming me or my mother. I've tried telling my mother, but she blamed it on me mistaking my feelings becuase of puberty. I have no friends responsible enough to tell and all my teachers are absolutely useless. I posted this to get reasons that I shouldn't run away, this is my last plan before I crack. I find it sad that so many adolescence like me don't trust their parents enough to tell them all these things in real life. Adults suck.

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Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

[Guest]

My parents do yell a lot and I hate it,I feel like I am in this big dark hole and I can't get out!!

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. Sounds like the yelling at home has understandably taken a big toll on you. Here at NRS we truly want to help/

If you haven't already, you might try to talk to your parents about how the yelling is making you feel. If you are feeling like they might yell more, sometimes it helps to include a trusted adult like a grandparent or a therapist in on the conversation. If you would like to have a mediated conference call with your parents, please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. It can be a safe space to talk about how you are feeling without being interrupted or yelled at.

We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

I am a 13-year-old
My family is emotionally abusive and I don't know what to do. My mom told me to go kill myself yesterday and I really want to. I want to leave my family. But I also feel guilty because they have given me so much. But they have left a mental and emotional scar on me. I don't know what to do and I need help. I am open to any options. I don't have any other family that lives in the U.S. I am willing to do anything to get out of my situation.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

i hate my life with my family when something goes missing oh it was me its like no one can do anything by them selves its always me and im sick of it they just hate me and i just wanna leave or for them to orget im here and leqve me be

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Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now, and we want you to know that you are not alone. One option you could consider is talking with your school counselor about what is going on, sometimes they would be able to provide you with some resources and sometimes talking to someone may help with your situation. At NRS we offer conference calling, where if you call us we can call out to your parents. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to mediate the conversation and provide support to you.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck in your situation.
NRS

[Guest]

I HATE MY LIFE

i don't know what to do anymore. My mom is being a b**** about my grades and she doesn't even care that I try and she never lets me do anything. My sister is so annoying. whenever she annoys me I always say something back to defend myself and somehow its my fault. i've thought about suicide because I can't live with a family that doesn't even love me anymore. My mom is so lazy and never does anything for me only HERSELF. people at school make fun of my hairy legs because my stupid unhygienic mom won't let me shave my legs. no one at school likes me and I just wish I had a new family who would care about me. i'm thinking about running away.

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Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are really having a hard time right now. School and peer pressure is really difficult especially when they don’t know your family situation. Do they allow you to wear pants at your school? That could be a simply way to handle that problem. If it is out of sight it is generally out of mind.

You have mentioned suicide. We want to make sure that you are safe. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is 1-800-273-8255 or suicidepreventionlifeline.org. Please reach out to them or you can contact National Runaway Safeline 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY. It would be best if we could talk to you on the phone. We encourage you to give a phone call.

Again, it takes a lot to ask for help. We are here to listen, here to help.

[Guest]

I'm 11 and I hate my home!

I live with my parents and little sister. Were very poor and i'm still questioning how I'm not starving yet! I feel left out. My parents and my little sister treat me terribly! My parents argue a lot. Today i went to sleep with them arguing and woke up with them arguing! I want to live with a happier family, that can afford a child's school supplies. My grandma and grandpa have a lot of money and my parents use them to get money. I have a bigger sister and she went through the same! She is now 21 with no education cause she dropped out of high school so that she could runaway from home. At that time i was 5-8! My parents have gone to jail over the past for fighting. I also believe they are smoking and might be into drugs. I'm not sure. I feel tired of this arguing and financial needs! My parents can't get their lives together! How can I live with a more safer affordable family? I'm only 11, my parents won't let me choose o live a better life!

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension, especially since your parents are so frequently arguing. Sometimes it can be helpful to share your feelings with others to help lessen the emotional load that you are carrying; it may be a good idea to talk to someone you trust like a family friend or school counselor/social worker. You mentioned that your parents may be engaging in drug use and have gone to jail in the past. If you feel like you are being neglected (your basic needs like food, shelter, safety, etc.) are not being met you have the right to file a report. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

[Guest]

I just turned 13 and i hate my family and myself

My parents arent druggies or smokers they just never pay much attention to me, they only pay attention to my older sister and when i try to talk to them they just ignore me and call their friends. I have thought of suicide alot and running away from home, my mom even encourages me to leave. My sister is better then me at language but im better at math but they dont recognize that. They say i dont do anything at home (which is not true i do all my chores and some of my sisters) and yell at me for it. My mom is frequently yelling at everyone including my dad, i dont know what to do i hate my life and my family and they know but they dont care.

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Hello, and thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services and are available by phone 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or chat (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org).

Please know that people do care. We care and the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline cares as well. We are here to listen and here to help in whatever way we can. You mentioned having thoughts of suicide as well as thoughts of running away.

While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

If you'd like to talk in more detail about your situation or have any questions please call 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us (www.1800RUNAWAY.org) as we can best help by phone or chat. Best, NRS