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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are so glad you reached out to us. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult situation and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    You do not deserve to be treated like that and we are sorry that you are dealing with that. We are not legal experts but we do have some information. If you were to leave it is a possibility you could be returned home. Because you are so close to being 18 the police may let you stay wherever you are if you are safe. You could consider asking a friend or a family member if you could stay with them.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here for you 24/7, stay strong.
    NRS

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    I'm currently turning 18 February and have finally had enough of living in my current household with constant abuse from my mother I've tried support off a previous social worker and was moved back in to my current household with I was removed out of for my own safety on my 16th birthday into my grandparents. I've dealt with suicidal thoughts and self harm throughout my teens due to home life I was threatened by my aunt as my mother told her I was in the mood to "fight" and my aunt then responded "oh is she well if she wants to fight she can fight me" which is when police were called to remove me out the house. I don't know what to do this time around as I'm tired of using the excuse I'll wait till my 18 and leave but I can't deal with it any longer I've told my college about what's happened and safeguarding we're informed but nothing has been done but I don't want to go to care and not have contact with my grandma or my brother and sister. I've contacted my grandparents I moved in with last time but they are unable to do anything at the minute do you have any advice ?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. It seems like you are frustrated by their priorities in spending as well as the constant yelling.
    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS

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    my parents are constantly instigating me to prove there point and when i say something they try to guilt trip or make me feel bad like i have done something wrong
    no matter what the situation or who started it they always say its my problem or that its not there fault they always procrastinate what i need but if they want something they always have it within a day or so i have needed a hair cut for months up til yesterday i needed sock for almost 3 months but they have the money t smoke 3 packs of cigarettes a day and my step dad always has money for videos games and movies but he cant afford to register the car or buy me new shoes i feel like i dont matter to them all we do is argue and fight yell and scream this has been going for a long time i dont feel this is a safe place for my mental health i feel less and less important as a person every day im almost never aloud to do anything most kids my age are aloud and its not because of money it usually has to do with they dont feel like it or i haven't cleaned enough or because i didnt wash my cup out 2 weeks ago they come up with a dumb or irrelevant reason every time i just cant stay here anymore i feel like im in a prison not a home

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe and stay strong,

    NRS

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    Hi , I’m currently 17 . I don’t want to live with my family anymore . Ever since I was a kid . I wasn’t in a good environment such as in my dad and my mum use to always physically hurt me . I always got scared of my dad because he always abusive towards my mum as well. He’s an alcoholic aswell . Ever since we moved countries , everything has gotten worst . My entire family is toxic . My grandma hates my mum , and everything I do , my mum gets the blame . Sometimes my mum also tells me “ you aren’t my daughter “ or “ i wish you never born you were a mistake” it’s like I will never be good enough . My dads side of the family always puts me down . I’m always the target . I’m so sick . One time I tried over dosing , another time I tried grabbed a knife and hide it my draws i knew when all of them were out of the house . I would find a way to end my life . I just can’t live like this anymore . I wanna get out but I have no where to go . The only place I feel better is in Australia where I grew up before I moved . I wanna go back and live with foster parents or anyone that will take me in . Anything I just need to get out ASAP

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  • ccsmod15
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    HI there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. If you’re feeling unsafe and need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need of a safe place to stay. You can also use their TXT 4 HELP free service offered to all youth in crisis. It’s quick, easy, safe, and confidential.Text the word “safe” and your current location (address, city, state) to 4HELP (44357). Within seconds, you will receive a message with the closest Safe Place site and phone number for the local youth agency. For immediate help, reply with “2chat” to text interactively with a trained counselor.

    We can also look up shelter or housing resources for you. If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Will this give me a home cause im 17 ima be 18 in march but i keep switching friends homes and i just wanna live somewhere without begging

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way.
    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your mom’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your family. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.
    We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    my haitian parents yell at me 24/7 my uncle threathens to slap me and some times he would grab me by the ear and my whole face with his hand my auntie always whipping me and also note that i am 16 my mom just came from haiti to florida and know my aunt trying to make my mom dislike me some times i get mad and want to fight them they mentally abuse me they make me feel like im worthless they sid im dumb and i wont be shiit i cant take it anymore and they treat me like a slave im strong enough not to hurt my self i want to run away but i have no where to go please help me out my prents dont even let me go outide to see freinds even befor corona what do i do i cant stay here if i leave ill end up being homeless and poor i dont want to stay here help me

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your stepdad. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    I'm 17 and my stepdad acts like i can't do anything right cant talk to my bf for but maybe 10 mins if that but anyone else can call my phone and he don't care if i'm on the phone it bothers me so bad and then with ever thing going on he wants me right up under him all the time sometimes if i ask to go to a friends house its most of the time always no like he don't want me going anywhere i'm tired of being up under him i want to live life and make mistakes and stuff and i cant, my mother does a drug so that don't help at all. i have been though so much in my life and i'm only 17 years old i have people that knows what bad is because of the years they was born but when they hear my story they are like i didn't even go though that when times was hard for me to be 17 i have went though some stuff most people don't even know could happen i just want to leave and not come back until i'm old enough to get all my stuff and them not being able to be like u are not leave this house now. can someone help me i need help with getting out.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, and sharing your feelings with us. It takes great courage to reach out and we are so glad that you decided to reach out to us. It sounds like you have been going through a hard time, and we want you to know you are not alone we are here to help.
    We know you mentioned wanting to run away, we are not legal experts but we can tell you what may happen if you do decide to leave home. Because you are still considered a minor your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. Sometimes police may not take a runaway report for a 17 year old but it depends on the police department.
    You also mentioned suicide, and it can be difficult to deal with those thoughts alone and we want you to know you do not have to be alone in this. Your life is valuable and you are worth living. Suicide is a permanent decision to a temporary situation. If you are feeling suicidal or just need someone to talk to please call The National Suicide Prevention Hotline at: 1800-273-8255.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to explore options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to help and support you. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    I’m 17 and I don’t want to live with my family anymore I’ve been to stressed out and I just wanna runaway. I wanna live with a friend in another state and I know my mom will not approve, but I just don’t wanna live here anymore I’m sick and tired of being here. Sometimes I also want to kill my self.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for taking the time to write NRS a post on our Bulletin and for sharing your story. From what you shared it sounds like home has not been the safe or supportive space that you deserve. It is very unfair of your parents to compare you to your cousins. You are your own person and being different than others can be a good thing. It is not okay for them to place these expectations on you. Making a commitment to continue to push your self and strive to accomplish your goals shows your strength and courage. It is admirable that you are determined to find ways to overcome the hurt and abuse you have had to endure.

    You mentioned that you have had thoughts about suicide and giving up. We want you to know that we truly want to be a support for you as you navigate this challenging time and you do not have to take your next steps alone. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is always available if you need someone to talk to about how you have been feeling. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You deserve to feel supported throughout this and to have outlets to express yourself. Another helpful resource is the National Sexual Assault Hotline, rainn.org 1-800-656-4673. You can speak with a trained crisis counselor about your experiences and healing process.

    You do have the option to get a social worker from child protective services involved to help. This would require making a child abuse report to detail the emotional abuse from your parents as well as any lack of action to address your cousin molesting you. There is an organization called Child Help which advocates for young people in unsafe or unhealthy situations. You can contact them at 1-800-422-4453 or go to childhelp.org to talk more about the reporting process.

    Leaving home can be a big decision to make, but we want you to know that we are here to listen and help as much as possible. The easiest way to leave home as a minor is with your parents’ permission. In this case, they would be allowing you to live somewhere else where you are safe and being cared for. A helpful step is to start reaching out to friends and family members you might be able to stay with. Sometimes having an adult advocate on your side can make communicating your needs more effective to your parents. Perhaps an adult family member, a friend's parent or a counselor at school can talk to your parents with you about your experience at home and the possibility of you leaving.

    Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.
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