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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS

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    Guest replied
    im so angry at my parents right now im grounded for a tiny thing i want to move out sooooooo badly but im only 10

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like your mom has been neglecting your needs and focusing on her own issues and not providing the support that you need. It also sounds like you have been the one taking care of your younger siblings which that responsibility is not supposed to fall on you, even if mom is overwhelmed. You matter and deserve to have the support that you need. It also sounds like mom has been saying negative things to you even though you are the one caring for her children. It seems like you have been learning to take care of yourself more and utilizing self love, though understandable to still have some bad days or bad moments. It also sounds like you chose to leave which made mom angrier, but you realized that is what you needed to do and you did what felt best for you. We are here to support as best as we can, so if you would like to talk more about what you are going through or some possible options, we are here 24/7. If this interests you, please either call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    hello i’m 15 i keep having problems with my mom, she has 6 kids & doesn’t have a job because she has to take care of us, she is really stressed and has a lot on her plate im usually always wanting to be there for her because when she’s in pain i feel it but i have to act as in im fine because my mom isn’t so i have to be left to try my best to be there & i don’t mind at all but it tends to stress me out to and make me go into a bad place & i don’t want to constantly think negatively i’ve been doing a lot of self love & working on myself & day by day it got better but the downside of all of this is she’ll drink often when’s she’s stressed & due to that she’ll take her anger out on me or her other children. she’ll say really mean things that i would think she’s talking to a adult , she’ll even constantly talk about stuff that’s not relevant at all that’s frustrated her & puts it on me & her other children. just today we were moving because our apartment is kicking us out for late rent i’m guessing but we were going to move into a house so with that everyone was a little stressed because we have a time limit to a lot and there’s not a lot of people who can help so when we were about done packing my mom & her friend grabbed a drink & picked us up to get food, so after she drops us off everybody goes upstairs to chill because there isn’t any beds or tvs , just covers & extra things so i got my room together and brought all my sisters and brother in there with me , everybody ate my little sister whos 2 was sleep and than every one ended up going to sleep in the same room and my brother was in his room and i made sure to get him settled as well. 2 hours after i wake up to my mom yelling calling me b****s , lazy , selfish all types of stuff & she finally said that my brother left the house and was in the front of the apartments which i wasn’t aware of because i was under the impression everyone was sleep which i saw & knew but apparently not so than she’s still going off and yelling & saying everything she would say when she’s. frustrated & drunk & i just finally got up & got my stuff together and left immediately because the things she says are traumatizing and messed up i shouldn’t have to hear her say stuff like that about me but she does. so when i leave i left with a guy & once my mom knew that she was even madder , it did matter who i left with but i genuinely needed to get out so i didn’t care who it was as long as i left because no one wants to get traumatized by words again it’s hard as it is being traumatized from so much already . this is like a never ending cycle that i don’t want to be apart of . i don’t want to be mentally unstable when i get older because of her and it’ll get there if i allow it to

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  • ccsmod2
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    It sounds like you love and care about him a lot. It's very challenging especially when your family is not supportive. Depending on what state you are in, your partner could potentially get in trouble having sexual relations with you likely being considered a minor (only a few states consider 17 the legal age of an adult).

     

    National Runaway Safeline has a few ways that we could help, if you would like to reach out and provide more details by phone (1-800-RUNAWAY) or on chat 1800runaway.org. We could do a three-way conversation and act as a moderator between you and your mom and discuss options to be supportive and safe.

     

    Another option is we could get you in touch with a lawyer that could explore emmancipation options with you (allow you to petition to be considered a legal adult and able to leave the home before you turn the age of majority).

     

    We also have many other resources to get you in touch with. With more information, we would be able to help provide some helpful resources.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Im 17 I love a boy we even had sexual intercourse he's 21 my mom torcher me due to this topic they even now came to file case I even don't understand what to do

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  • ccsmod3
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    You do not deserve to be called names, body shamed, cursed at, etc. You deserve to be treated with respect. It sounds like your mom is concerned for your safety and is expressing it in poor ways. That age in which you are considered an adult is dependent on what state you live in. That is something you can research. We have resources with the National Runaway Safeline to shelters, legal aid referrals or can talk over your plan with you in real time either on our chat at 1800Runaway.org or on the phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I don’t want to live with my parents anymore not even my dad and I love him but my family keep wanting me to be something I’m not. My mom is too overprotective with me she doesn’t let me leave the house alone, she gives me crap for not taking the public transport even though she complains saying I don’t, she she always calls me names like retard the C word the F word when I do something wrong, she compared me to my 11 year old sister, my mom body shames me I have bulimia because of her anything to stay thin and not her comint on my body, my forbids me to hang with my boyfriend forcing me to break up with him because he is 3 years older than me I’m 17 and he is 20 she said she likes him but when she found out we were a thing and that we were having sex by checking through my messages with him she full on yelled at me saying why I didn’t come to her about sex and why I’m having sex with a bisexual which is disgusting.

    this is the last straw for me she found out we were a thing when she caught me sneaking out to see him I didn’t know what to do so I lied saying I’m going to McDonald’s but she didn’t believe me so she went through my phone and told me she would get him in trouble for grooming me and that basically in the law because of my autism I’m 2 years younger so I’m basically 15 I know I shouldn’t have snuck out but I’m sick of living her expectations.

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  • ccsmod10
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    We're really thankful you reached out to us, it sounds like your mother hasn't been treating you with respect, and hasn't been taking care of your emotional needs in the way that you deserve. That can be extremely draining, fatiguing, and harmful to both your mental and physical health. We are on your side, we want to create space for your experience, and we want to do everything in our power to help.

    It sounds like you actually have a very good grasp on what you are needing and what you aren't getting, which can make it extremely frustrating that your mother is acting as a barrier to your recovery rather than an ally.

    It may be possible to find a counselor without having to go through your mom. If you are able to find out if you have health insurance, and can find information like your Group ID (information that would be printed on a health insurance card), you may be able to find a therapist who would be covered who could see you virtually. Otherwise, the National Alliance on Mental Illness may be able to help you connect with someone. Their website is www.nami.org. You can also live chat us if you have access to a computer or smart device. We're available 24/7 at 1800runaway.org. We'll do our best to provide you with the care you need.

    If you do choose to leave the house at 17, technically your mother could file a runaway report with law enforcement, and they would most likely investigate where you are and attempt to return you home. That doesn't necessarily mean it's impossible, and we aren't here to tell you what you should or shouldn't do. It can come with some challenges though, and it can be best to plan things through before leaving, such as where you'll go, who you'll stay with, how long you'll be gone, and what you would do in case of an emergency.

    There are some youth shelters that accept people under 18, but they usually require consent to be given from a parent/legal guardian, which can make it tricky.

    We also offer a message service where we can contact someone on your behalf if you think your mother might be more inclined to listen to someone else.

    Lastly, we want you to be aware that your life has value, and there are people here who are willing to help when things are tough. The National Suicide Prevention Hotline operates 24/7, their website is www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org. You might also find value in this document of alternatives to self-harm: https://www.firstpersonplural.org.uk...-self-harm.pdf

    Please reach out any time; we are here to talk. You don't have to go through this alone.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    im 17, can i legally walk out the door and not come back home? i cant take anymore. my mother is too controlling and its tearing me apart. last night she comepletely invaded my privacy by going through my phone and took conversations with my friends and boys i have crushes on, and snapchat pictures way out of perspective. she lost her mind. then she decided that the only punishment that seemed fitting enough would be her homeschooling me for senioer year, taking away prom, taking away my job before i even get it, and taking away my phone. practically locking me here like a prisoner and never allowing me to leave the house again. I have major anxiety, depression, attachment issues, at times communication issues, and trust issues which are all things that are a result of my father leaving at a young age and these are also things i asked her to put me in counciling for which she refuses. which is quite hipocritical because her and my older brother were in counciling before. its not fair. i get yelled at and put down for every wrong thing i do and she doesnt take it as a cry for help and that i need a therapist. not only that but her response to me asking for counciling is always "what can you tell a stranger that you cant tell your own mother?" which is a way to guilt trip me into telling her whats wrong which i never do because i dont feel comfortable. my anxiety is really bad. the smallest of things can set it off such as her asking me to do too many things at once or everbody in this house needing something from me. When i have anxiety attacks i usually hyperventilate (which is bad because i have asthma), scream and break down crying, or i pull at me hair or hurt myself in any way possible and still she refuses to get me a coucilor. her going through my phone was the last thing i can take. she completely belittled me as she usually does when shes mad at me and this time ive had enough. Last night after that happened i was seriously considering k!lling myself so much that i even thought of all the ways i could do it and all and things i had around the house to do so. Luckily i fell asleep before making such a big decision but i woke up this morning with the thought of running straight out that door and never looking back only problem is i dont know where id go and i know she'd call the cops and theyd most likely make me come back home which i refuse to do once i leave. please dont say i can just wait until im 18 because i just turned 17 three months ago which would mean id have to wait another 9 months for my birthday to come back around and I just cant take anymore. Im not sure what to do anymore besides end my life or leave and im in desperate need of help.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us. It takes a lot of personal courage to ask someone for help and we appreciate you sharing a bit about what’s been going on. It sounds like you are going through a tough time and that your father’s behavior is affecting you emotionally. First of all, your emotions and frustrations are completely valid. Every person’s journey is unique and it is difficult to want to make your own decisions, not those pressured around you. You mentioned that you have confronted your father about your feelings on college, have you tried talking to another guardian about this? Parents can be more open to listening and working towards a solution if another guardian is involved in the process. If you aren’t comfortable talking to them on your own, you could ask a friend/teacher/coach/someone else you trust to talk to them with you. If you call us, we can even act as that person, helping you and your parents talk through this together.

    We understand that you have become so frustrated that you might have thought about suicide. Your life matters and we are glad you reached out to us. Please reach out to us, we are here to support you. You can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or message us through our live chat www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I just turned 19 today and i want to move out. I just feel trapped living with my parents. I dont have a good relationship with my dad. He yells at me at because i dont do well in college but i told him i dont want to go to college and its not for me. He told me that i had two choice, either go back to college or do what i want and that i was no longer his son. I felt really pressured but ended up choosing to go back to college but now im starting to rethink if i made the right decision. I dont think i did because im stressed, have anxeity, and is depressed. I used to smile but now i just dont. Ive thought about running away or even ending my life but i still want to live, i still have a future but i dont think i can achieve that with living with my dad. I know he just wants whats best for me but thats what he wants not what i want. What should i do?

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m a 12 year old girl and my parents have been divorced since I was 5 I don’t get along with my dad at all and I hate him. My mom used to support me and still does sometimes but often I feel like I just want to runaway but I’m too scared my mom will get mad. When I do runaway I go to a friends house down the street from me because I have nowhere else to go because I don’t have any friends. When I go over there I never want to go back home because I know I’m just going to get yelled at for something and then I feel like I want to runaway again but I’m not allowed. I feel like I have no privacy or safe zone and I just don’t know what to do about life right now. I often feel like I don’t deserve to live but my self instinct is so strong that it won’t let me do ANY self harm. I really don’t know what to do because I don’t feel mentally stable and I can’t go to a mental hospital because then I can’t go to camp. I also don’t want to go on medication because I don’t feel like it’s right for me and my mom keeps threatening it which is very aggravating.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    im currently 15 and i just wanna runaway or just die asap. i dont know if there is anything wrong with my mother or just like what she said that im the mistake. my mom was forced to marry my dad, and my dads family was completely toxic. my dads mom will not give a one year old kid food over 3 days only because the kid wanted to weaning breastfeeding, and that kid is me, her literal granddaughter. so yall can image my moms daily life and i understand why she chose to divorse when i was two, but what i dont understand is why she put that pressures on me? she keep telling that i was not expected, all the story happened on her, also if im not happy with my situation then it is gonna be my falut bc i chose her up above. she left me for over five years alone with her mom, i was treated poorly, slapping, hitting were and are the normal for me. and now she and her husband got a new baby boy after having three girls, me, my sis and his daughter and to force us to give up schoolwork to take care of him.when all.of us already doing all the chores in the house. i was thinking about suicide, but i still wants to be in this world, but im just so tired of dealing with everyday fighting. im hopeless.

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