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    ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. You don't deserve to be treated that way. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe and stay strong,

    NRS
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    I dont even know if this is abuse or not..i just feel so suffocated in my own home I dont even know what to do. If anything I just cry all the time. My mother has an app on my phone to basically monitor whatever I do, a couple days ago she got mad at me because I refused to pick up her slippers and took away everything. When I used to live with my grandma when my mom divorced my dad I had a panic attack and instead of calming my down she held me down and when I told her to get off of me she refused and this was because my grandma wouldn't stop making comments about my mood and I snapped at her even when I told her to knock it off. She my mom came at me and slapped me and eventually with so much fighting she pushed me onto a bed and held me down by my wrist while I was screaming and crying for her to get off and the whole time she was making comments on and eventually I said to her "we wouldn't even be in this situation if grandma would have listened to me when I told her to stop commenting on my mood. But no, she had to open her big mouth and say something." Because of that she slapped me again while my family members watched. When I started hyperventilating she let me go but the hyperventilating got so bad because she tried to hold me down again. My mom isn't the only one guilty of this, my dad one night forced me to do the dishes over and over and over until they were so clean that you could basically see your own reflection, and because I washed the plates and cups so many times he got mad because I couldn't put them in the dish washer. So he grabbed me by my shoulders and shoved me against the counter. I remember when I had sucicidal thoughts I told my mom that and she basically told me that if I kill myself I was going to be sent to hell..I am so sick of living in this damn house. I cannot wait until I am 18. Is this what living what your parents is like? Is this what people consider normal? Everyone turns a blind eye to how I feel and when I was with my dad for a short time I was in my bathroom and thought that it would be better if I was here and so I put a handle of pills in my mouth until I spit them out because I thought that if I did then my brothers who I love a lot would be very sad. I am 14 and if this continues and my mom doesnt listen to me and how I feel and I continue feeling so suffocated I might not make it to 15.

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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult situation and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    You do not deserve to be verbally abused and we are sorry you are going through that, no one should make you feel like you are not enough. If you would like to file an abuse report you can by calling Child help at: 1800-422-4453. We are not legal experts but if you were to leave without permission your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you home. One option to consider would be emancipation, you can find out more about this by calling your local court house.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS
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    Hi..I just turned 17 in October. I was adopted into this family when I was little. But I just hate it here now, I feel as if I'm constantly getting verbally abused and they are treating me like I am 10 years old. They make me feel not good enoigh, or as if they dont wamt me here. Always sayin stuff like if you wanna go here or there than you can go, but i know if i try to than they will get the police involved. And when we get around others they pretend they are pople they arent and i just cannot take it anymore. I have a job. And I've had it since april. I wanna go live with my friend and her mom. They both think that it's fine. I'd be in a stable home, with income from every person in the household. I guess I just need to be pointed into the right direction. What are my options here?

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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are so glad you reached out to us. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult situation and we want you to know that you are not alone.
    You do not deserve to be treated like that and we are sorry that you are dealing with that. We are not legal experts but we do have some information. If you were to leave it is a possibility you could be returned home. Because you are so close to being 18 the police may let you stay wherever you are if you are safe. You could consider asking a friend or a family member if you could stay with them.
    We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here for you 24/7, stay strong.
    NRS
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    I'm currently turning 18 February and have finally had enough of living in my current household with constant abuse from my mother I've tried support off a previous social worker and was moved back in to my current household with I was removed out of for my own safety on my 16th birthday into my grandparents. I've dealt with suicidal thoughts and self harm throughout my teens due to home life I was threatened by my aunt as my mother told her I was in the mood to "fight" and my aunt then responded "oh is she well if she wants to fight she can fight me" which is when police were called to remove me out the house. I don't know what to do this time around as I'm tired of using the excuse I'll wait till my 18 and leave but I can't deal with it any longer I've told my college about what's happened and safeguarding we're informed but nothing has been done but I don't want to go to care and not have contact with my grandma or my brother and sister. I've contacted my grandparents I moved in with last time but they are unable to do anything at the minute do you have any advice ?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. It seems like you are frustrated by their priorities in spending as well as the constant yelling.
    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe, NRS
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    my parents are constantly instigating me to prove there point and when i say something they try to guilt trip or make me feel bad like i have done something wrong
    no matter what the situation or who started it they always say its my problem or that its not there fault they always procrastinate what i need but if they want something they always have it within a day or so i have needed a hair cut for months up til yesterday i needed sock for almost 3 months but they have the money t smoke 3 packs of cigarettes a day and my step dad always has money for videos games and movies but he cant afford to register the car or buy me new shoes i feel like i dont matter to them all we do is argue and fight yell and scream this has been going for a long time i dont feel this is a safe place for my mental health i feel less and less important as a person every day im almost never aloud to do anything most kids my age are aloud and its not because of money it usually has to do with they dont feel like it or i haven't cleaned enough or because i didnt wash my cup out 2 weeks ago they come up with a dumb or irrelevant reason every time i just cant stay here anymore i feel like im in a prison not a home

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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe and stay strong,

    NRS
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    Hi , I’m currently 17 . I don’t want to live with my family anymore . Ever since I was a kid . I wasn’t in a good environment such as in my dad and my mum use to always physically hurt me . I always got scared of my dad because he always abusive towards my mum as well. He’s an alcoholic aswell . Ever since we moved countries , everything has gotten worst . My entire family is toxic . My grandma hates my mum , and everything I do , my mum gets the blame . Sometimes my mum also tells me “ you aren’t my daughter “ or “ i wish you never born you were a mistake” it’s like I will never be good enough . My dads side of the family always puts me down . I’m always the target . I’m so sick . One time I tried over dosing , another time I tried grabbed a knife and hide it my draws i knew when all of them were out of the house . I would find a way to end my life . I just can’t live like this anymore . I wanna get out but I have no where to go . The only place I feel better is in Australia where I grew up before I moved . I wanna go back and live with foster parents or anyone that will take me in . Anything I just need to get out ASAP

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  • ccsmod15
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    HI there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. If you’re feeling unsafe and need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need of a safe place to stay. You can also use their TXT 4 HELP free service offered to all youth in crisis. It’s quick, easy, safe, and confidential.Text the word “safe” and your current location (address, city, state) to 4HELP (44357). Within seconds, you will receive a message with the closest Safe Place site and phone number for the local youth agency. For immediate help, reply with “2chat” to text interactively with a trained counselor.

    We can also look up shelter or housing resources for you. If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

    Be safe,
    NRS
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    Will this give me a home cause im 17 ima be 18 in march but i keep switching friends homes and i just wanna live somewhere without begging

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way.
    You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your mom’s permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your family. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.
    We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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    my haitian parents yell at me 24/7 my uncle threathens to slap me and some times he would grab me by the ear and my whole face with his hand my auntie always whipping me and also note that i am 16 my mom just came from haiti to florida and know my aunt trying to make my mom dislike me some times i get mad and want to fight them they mentally abuse me they make me feel like im worthless they sid im dumb and i wont be shiit i cant take it anymore and they treat me like a slave im strong enough not to hurt my self i want to run away but i have no where to go please help me out my prents dont even let me go outide to see freinds even befor corona what do i do i cant stay here if i leave ill end up being homeless and poor i dont want to stay here help me

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your stepdad. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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