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**Guest** · 11-27-2020, 10:08 PM

Hi..I just turned 17 in October. I was adopted into this family when I was little. But I just hate it here now, I feel as if I'm constantly getting verbally abused and they are treating me like I am 10 years old. They make me feel not good enoigh, or as if they dont wamt me here. Always sayin stuff like if you wanna go here or there than you can go, but i know if i try to than they will get the police involved. And when we get around others they pretend they are pople they arent and i just cannot take it anymore. I have a job. And I've had it since april. I wanna go live with my friend and her mom. They both think that it's fine. I'd be in a stable home, with income from every person in the household. I guess I just need to be pointed into the right direction. What are my options here?

**Guest** · 01-25-2021, 01:49 AM

I dont even know if this is abuse or not..i just feel so suffocated in my own home I dont even know what to do. If anything I just cry all the time. My mother has an app on my phone to basically monitor whatever I do, a couple days ago she got mad at me because I refused to pick up her slippers and took away everything. When I used to live with my grandma when my mom divorced my dad I had a panic attack and instead of calming my down she held me down and when I told her to get off of me she refused and this was because my grandma wouldn't stop making comments about my mood and I snapped at her even when I told her to knock it off. She my mom came at me and slapped me and eventually with so much fighting she pushed me onto a bed and held me down by my wrist while I was screaming and crying for her to get off and the whole time she was making comments on and eventually I said to her "we wouldn't even be in this situation if grandma would have listened to me when I told her to stop commenting on my mood. But no, she had to open her big mouth and say something." Because of that she slapped me again while my family members watched. When I started hyperventilating she let me go but the hyperventilating got so bad because she tried to hold me down again. My mom isn't the only one guilty of this, my dad one night forced me to do the dishes over and over and over until they were so clean that you could basically see your own reflection, and because I washed the plates and cups so many times he got mad because I couldn't put them in the dish washer. So he grabbed me by my shoulders and shoved me against the counter. I remember when I had sucicidal thoughts I told my mom that and she basically told me that if I kill myself I was going to be sent to hell..I am so sick of living in this damn house. I cannot wait until I am 18. Is this what living what your parents is like? Is this what people consider normal? Everyone turns a blind eye to how I feel and when I was with my dad for a short time I was in my bathroom and thought that it would be better if I was here and so I put a handle of pills in my mouth until I spit them out because I thought that if I did then my brothers who I love a lot would be very sad. I am 14 and if this continues and my mom doesnt listen to me and how I feel and I continue feeling so suffocated I might not make it to 15.

**Guest** · 02-09-2021, 04:06 PM

Im african american, 17 and feel like the whole world is against me. I have a 18 year old sister thats disabled. Everytime we make plans it gets canceled cus i gotta stay back and take care of her. I have a 16 year old brother that goes into my room and trashes my stuff when hes mad. Everytime he gets near me the only thing i wanna do is murder him. Jail is whats kept me from slashing his throat all these years. I got a dad that i feel like cheated on my dead mother all those years ago. When she died he didnt even cry. When i get revenge on my brother for taking things that were given to me im the one that gets in trouble. I honestly dont care about this family anymore. I feel suicidal sometimes but i refrain cus its not worth it. My instagram is *******. Message me of you wanna start a new life with me, or would like it if i could stay with them. I live in ****** and wanna get away from hear. Im a cool guy to be around honestly. Im good at art and a fast runner. I dont have a car and would like to get away from this place. Message me on my instagram if youre willing to help me out. I can be lazy at times but if you allow me to stay at your place work hard if i have to. If there for me ill be there for you. P.S. im not a snitch so if your in the life of crime or do some shady stuff i dont care. At least let me work beside you. And whatever happens happens im down with whatever you are

**Guest** · 03-20-2021, 11:47 PM

am 17 years old and I have some problems with her, I often quarrel with her, my mom is not happy or doesn't support any of my decisions or choices, and she doesn't like a boyfriend. Mom often pressures and coerces me. Break up with him, if we don't break up she will sue and put my boyfriend in jail, I'm so stressed out for that, I don't want to live with her anymore, she's really awful, when she lost In control she will do very horrible things like screaming and hitting me. If I live with her, I die

**Guest** · 04-05-2021, 12:10 AM

My mom and I haven’t been on the best of terms, I try and talk to her but she gets so angry all the time. She’s an alcoholic and drinks so much every day. She’s never sober. I been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years and my mom barely approved. I started falling behind in school and she blamed it on him. Anything i do wrong she blames on my bf. I told my mom my dog had fleas and she did not care, she did not believe me. She got all her stuff out before the fleas got to it and let my stuff just sit there. I still don't really have anything. Anyways, now she wants to move again to a one bedroom apartment which i cant even be seen in but she wants me to be there bc “im 17 and i have to listen and do anything she says.” I can’t do this anymore. I turn 18 in 2 months. Please tell me what i can do.

**Guest** · 05-20-2021, 09:49 AM

I’m 17 years old and I left my home. It’s an extremely toxic house hold. My mom and dad just scream at every little thing I do. Saying how I’m a scumbag I don’t respect them. I’m a piece of ********. I think it’s funny, I should be ashamed of myself. I’m disrespectful piec of ********. And my mom won’t stick up for me she just gangs up on me. I’m a recovering addict. I started doing drugs because of them. I smoke weed. Just to not feel as if I do belong rather than I don’t belong and I should just kill myself. I ran away before this is my 3rd time. I don’t wanna go back there. they constantly hurt me. I need help. they called the police I talked to them they didn’t force me to go back. Because I was shaking in fear and couldn’t breathe. cause of how terrified I am of them. I have nobody. my dad won’t let me go to my aunts. So he’s trying to control me. I’m at my brother right now and it’s only time till he kicks me out. and if he does I’m gonna have to be in a homeless shelter who knows what will happen. I won’t go back. Please help me.

**Guest** · 06-01-2021, 10:26 PM

I'm Kai. I'm going to be 17 in exactly one month. I live with both my parents but i'm only going to mention my Mom because she's the problematic one in the house. I've been struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts for about 6 years now. I also suspect I have ADHD and have wanted to talk to a doctor about it. Only in the last year or two have I told my Mom about how I feel(I have mentioned ADHD in the past but have never spoken about it in a serious conversation). Every time we have sat down to talk about it though, she doesn't understand. It's like she blocks herself from understanding and it's extremely hurtful to me. Whenever I try to explain my feelings and thoughts, which opening up to her is a HUGE struggle for me, she just dismisses me or makes assumptions and doesn't listen. She just gives her own thoughts and own solutions(that i've tried and don't help) but never truly listens. Today I talked to her about seeing a doctor to talk about my depression and maybe get help from meds and she got upset with me. She kept denying it loudly and it hurt me so, so much... My own Mother is denying me of the one thing that I truly believe is going to give me a push in the direction i've been trying so hard to go in. She has even dismissed and made a personal trauma I don't want to discuss smaller that how bad it really is. She yells at me for little things and she's admitted it's a bad habit. But she's never done anything to get better and it's because harmful to me. She gaslights me and pulls the victim card all the time. I'm never allowed to be truly vulnerable without getting emotionally scraped...her tough love is damaging...not helping... I'm afraid of my mother. She taught me to be afraid and to be defensive around her and to not open up to her. And with my sexuality and her being a very religious woman, it's not any better. I haven't properly come out to her but she's threatened to kick me out if I did. Her negative reactions towards the LGBT community hurt me. I'm in a great relationship too...i'm with someone who really shows they care and listens to me and tries to understand and help me and I can't even call them without my parents being gone from the house. I can't even call my best friends online(the only true friends I have) because my Mom would just be upset and make me delete my accounts. My online life is the only kind of social interaction/activities that make me truly happy... I want to fight more for my independence. I've only recently just started to learn to drive with my dad but I want a place to put my money other than a hidden envelope or a wallet. I need a place to put my money and I need a way to make it. I wanted to move out at 18 but i'm not even fully sure of how i'll be able to pull it off. And I fear if things go wrong before that and i'll get grounded and have my Mother control me and everything I do, or even kick me out. I feel like i'm going to go insane in this house if I don't leave at 18 the latest... I'm just so sick of my Mother's behavior. Sick of having her religion forced on me. Sick of hiding who I am. I really want to escape. I want to do it properly but i'm overwhelmed by the planning and research I have to do... I spoke to my partner and I may tell my Mother I don't want to have her religion forced on me anymore but...i'm so scared of what may happen. I'm even scared of what may happen the day I try to move out...or if she finds out that i'm trying to move out before someone can pick me up and take me to a safe place... I've wanted to run away before...but I also just want to do things right i'm just...lost and distressed right now...

**Guest** · 06-02-2021, 02:31 AM

im currently 15 and i just wanna runaway or just die asap. i dont know if there is anything wrong with my mother or just like what she said that im the mistake. my mom was forced to marry my dad, and my dads family was completely toxic. my dads mom will not give a one year old kid food over 3 days only because the kid wanted to weaning breastfeeding, and that kid is me, her literal granddaughter. so yall can image my moms daily life and i understand why she chose to divorse when i was two, but what i dont understand is why she put that pressures on me? she keep telling that i was not expected, all the story happened on her, also if im not happy with my situation then it is gonna be my falut bc i chose her up above. she left me for over five years alone with her mom, i was treated poorly, slapping, hitting were and are the normal for me. and now she and her husband got a new baby boy after having three girls, me, my sis and his daughter and to force us to give up schoolwork to take care of him.when all.of us already doing all the chores in the house. i was thinking about suicide, but i still wants to be in this world, but im just so tired of dealing with everyday fighting. im hopeless.

**Guest** · 06-02-2021, 12:12 PM

I’m a 12 year old girl and my parents have been divorced since I was 5 I don’t get along with my dad at all and I hate him. My mom used to support me and still does sometimes but often I feel like I just want to runaway but I’m too scared my mom will get mad. When I do runaway I go to a friends house down the street from me because I have nowhere else to go because I don’t have any friends. When I go over there I never want to go back home because I know I’m just going to get yelled at for something and then I feel like I want to runaway again but I’m not allowed. I feel like I have no privacy or safe zone and I just don’t know what to do about life right now. I often feel like I don’t deserve to live but my self instinct is so strong that it won’t let me do ANY self harm. I really don’t know what to do because I don’t feel mentally stable and I can’t go to a mental hospital because then I can’t go to camp. I also don’t want to go on medication because I don’t feel like it’s right for me and my mom keeps threatening it which is very aggravating.

**Guest** · 09-27-2021, 02:59 PM

I just turned 19 today and i want to move out. I just feel trapped living with my parents. I dont have a good relationship with my dad. He yells at me at because i dont do well in college but i told him i dont want to go to college and its not for me. He told me that i had two choice, either go back to college or do what i want and that i was no longer his son. I felt really pressured but ended up choosing to go back to college but now im starting to rethink if i made the right decision. I dont think i did because im stressed, have anxeity, and is depressed. I used to smile but now i just dont. Ive thought about running away or even ending my life but i still want to live, i still have a future but i dont think i can achieve that with living with my dad. I know he just wants whats best for me but thats what he wants not what i want. What should i do?

**Guest** · 06-19-2022, 05:29 PM

im 17, can i legally walk out the door and not come back home? i cant take anymore. my mother is too controlling and its tearing me apart. last night she comepletely invaded my privacy by going through my phone and took conversations with my friends and boys i have crushes on, and snapchat pictures way out of perspective. she lost her mind. then she decided that the only punishment that seemed fitting enough would be her homeschooling me for senioer year, taking away prom, taking away my job before i even get it, and taking away my phone. practically locking me here like a prisoner and never allowing me to leave the house again. I have major anxiety, depression, attachment issues, at times communication issues, and trust issues which are all things that are a result of my father leaving at a young age and these are also things i asked her to put me in counciling for which she refuses. which is quite hipocritical because her and my older brother were in counciling before. its not fair. i get yelled at and put down for every wrong thing i do and she doesnt take it as a cry for help and that i need a therapist. not only that but her response to me asking for counciling is always "what can you tell a stranger that you cant tell your own mother?" which is a way to guilt trip me into telling her whats wrong which i never do because i dont feel comfortable. my anxiety is really bad. the smallest of things can set it off such as her asking me to do too many things at once or everbody in this house needing something from me. When i have anxiety attacks i usually hyperventilate (which is bad because i have asthma), scream and break down crying, or i pull at me hair or hurt myself in any way possible and still she refuses to get me a coucilor. her going through my phone was the last thing i can take. she completely belittled me as she usually does when shes mad at me and this time ive had enough. Last night after that happened i was seriously considering k!lling myself so much that i even thought of all the ways i could do it and all and things i had around the house to do so. Luckily i fell asleep before making such a big decision but i woke up this morning with the thought of running straight out that door and never looking back only problem is i dont know where id go and i know she'd call the cops and theyd most likely make me come back home which i refuse to do once i leave. please dont say i can just wait until im 18 because i just turned 17 three months ago which would mean id have to wait another 9 months for my birthday to come back around and I just cant take anymore. Im not sure what to do anymore besides end my life or leave and im in desperate need of help.

**Guest** · 11-17-2022, 07:02 PM

I don’t want to live with my parents anymore not even my dad and I love him but my family keep wanting me to be something I’m not. My mom is too overprotective with me she doesn’t let me leave the house alone, she gives me crap for not taking the public transport even though she complains saying I don’t, she she always calls me names like retard the C word the F word when I do something wrong, she compared me to my 11 year old sister, my mom body shames me I have bulimia because of her anything to stay thin and not her comint on my body, my forbids me to hang with my boyfriend forcing me to break up with him because he is 3 years older than me I’m 17 and he is 20 she said she likes him but when she found out we were a thing and that we were having sex by checking through my messages with him she full on yelled at me saying why I didn’t come to her about sex and why I’m having sex with a bisexual which is disgusting.

this is the last straw for me she found out we were a thing when she caught me sneaking out to see him I didn’t know what to do so I lied saying I’m going to McDonald’s but she didn’t believe me so she went through my phone and told me she would get him in trouble for grooming me and that basically in the law because of my autism I’m 2 years younger so I’m basically 15 I know I shouldn’t have snuck out but I’m sick of living her expectations.

**Guest** · 04-10-2023, 05:30 AM

Im 17 I love a boy we even had sexual intercourse he's 21 my mom torcher me due to this topic they even now came to file case I even don't understand what to do

**Guest** · 04-11-2023, 06:22 AM

hello i’m 15 i keep having problems with my mom, she has 6 kids & doesn’t have a job because she has to take care of us, she is really stressed and has a lot on her plate im usually always wanting to be there for her because when she’s in pain i feel it but i have to act as in im fine because my mom isn’t so i have to be left to try my best to be there & i don’t mind at all but it tends to stress me out to and make me go into a bad place & i don’t want to constantly think negatively i’ve been doing a lot of self love & working on myself & day by day it got better but the downside of all of this is she’ll drink often when’s she’s stressed & due to that she’ll take her anger out on me or her other children. she’ll say really mean things that i would think she’s talking to a adult , she’ll even constantly talk about stuff that’s not relevant at all that’s frustrated her & puts it on me & her other children. just today we were moving because our apartment is kicking us out for late rent i’m guessing but we were going to move into a house so with that everyone was a little stressed because we have a time limit to a lot and there’s not a lot of people who can help so when we were about done packing my mom & her friend grabbed a drink & picked us up to get food, so after she drops us off everybody goes upstairs to chill because there isn’t any beds or tvs , just covers & extra things so i got my room together and brought all my sisters and brother in there with me , everybody ate my little sister whos 2 was sleep and than every one ended up going to sleep in the same room and my brother was in his room and i made sure to get him settled as well. 2 hours after i wake up to my mom yelling calling me b****s , lazy , selfish all types of stuff & she finally said that my brother left the house and was in the front of the apartments which i wasn’t aware of because i was under the impression everyone was sleep which i saw & knew but apparently not so than she’s still going off and yelling & saying everything she would say when she’s. frustrated & drunk & i just finally got up & got my stuff together and left immediately because the things she says are traumatizing and messed up i shouldn’t have to hear her say stuff like that about me but she does. so when i leave i left with a guy & once my mom knew that she was even madder , it did matter who i left with but i genuinely needed to get out so i didn’t care who it was as long as i left because no one wants to get traumatized by words again it’s hard as it is being traumatized from so much already . this is like a never ending cycle that i don’t want to be apart of . i don’t want to be mentally unstable when i get older because of her and it’ll get there if i allow it to

**Guest** · 06-25-2023, 05:13 PM

im so angry at my parents right now im grounded for a tiny thing i want to move out sooooooo badly but im only 10

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