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    I graduate this Friday and am wanting to move out. last night my mom and I got into a huge fight and she kicked me out. I left for a couple hours and then she told me to come back, so I did. once I got home, her and my older sister held me down and pulled my hair and got aggressive. I locked myself in my room while they screamed at me for about an hour and a half. my mom told me once I graduate, I can move out and I will be on my own. I will be staying with my boyfriend. is there anyway I can contact the police without getting in trouble to let them know my situation? I want to be able to move out safely and be able to get my belongings. and I also don't want my mom to turn around and say I ran away. she gave me the option to move out, so I am. we fight all of the time and she's an alcoholic, which is why I have so many problems with her.

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    RE: Turning 18 in 2-3 weeks

    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to us for help. It sounds like you are in a really difficult situation, and we are sorry to hear about what happened with your mom. It sounds like it is very difficult to live with an alcoholic mother. Everybody deserves to be safe at home. It sounds like you plan to move out after graduation, but shortly before turning 18. We are not legal experts, but we can give you a general idea of what could happen. Since you are so close to turning 18 and your mother told you to move out, it does not seem likely that you would be considered a runaway. You can call the local police at the non-emergency number to get more information about the law and ask questions. It sounds like you are concerned about getting out safely and with your belongings. One thing to remember when you are moving is your important documents, like your ID, social security card, birth certificate, and other papers. These are very difficult to replace and you will need them. If you need someone to talk to, please give us a call and we can talk about your options and help you make a plan. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and wish you the best of luck.
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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    • #3
      thank you! I was also wondering if it would be possible for my mom to press charges on my boyfriend. I find it very unlikely considering he has never posed as a threat to me and there is no logical reason for her to press charges. I am the legal age of consent (17 in Illinois) and my mom approved of our relationship until recently for no reason. we also have proof of her consenting to our relationship and text messages of her saying how thankful she is that he was in my life, and of her consenting to me staying the night at his house, etc. I feel it would be very unlikely for her to press charges, especially so close to my 18th birthday.

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      • #4
        RE: Turning 18 in 2-3 weeks

        Thanks for getting back to us. You are correct that since you are so close to turning 18, you are less likely to experience legal problems from moving out. If you are still worried about it, you might consider waiting until your 18th birthday to move out. However, with only two weeks to go, it is less likely that the police would pursue any charges. Again, if you need someone to talk to, we are here for you.
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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        • #5
          me again

          I was kicked out on Wednesday and have had nothing but a pair of shorts, a t shirt, a pair of sweatpants, and the clothes I have on my back. I want to get a police escort to retrieve my belongings. do you have a general idea of what I can expect to happen?

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          • #6
            RE: me again

            Hello there,

            Thank you for reaching out to us again at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a rough situation with being kicked out and having limited belongings with you. You mentioned wanting to get police to escort you to retrieve your belongings but wondering what would generally happen. We, unfortunately, do not know what would happen. Sometimes police are able to do that whereas other times they will not be able to. Something that you may consider trying is contacting the police directly to see if they would be able to help you retrieve your belongings and provide support to you. We are sorry that you are still going through such a difficult time. For further help and any resources, please call us directly at 1-800-786-2929 or utilize our live chat service through our website at www.1800runaway.org.

            Be safe and take care!

            Good luck,

            NRS
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

            National Runaway Safeline
            [email protected] (Crisis Email)
            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

            Tell us what you think about your experience!
            https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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