Mums Boyfriend

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My Mum and I have never been close however she got on more than we do now. Around a year ago she met a new boyfriend and they have been dating ever since, however since she has met him she's turned into someone who's horrible. While they've been together I feel as though they have no respect at all, they've blatantly had sex, which they knew I would of heard when they knew I was in the next room, I have heard them talking about me saying that I need help because me and my mum argue.

She twists stories that she tells my grandparents to make them go on 'her side' because she only tells them half a story, and when I say I want to move out (even though I have no where else to go) she tells me to go and live with my dad who I haven't spoken to in 5 years. I feel like she wants me to move out so she can let her boyfriend live with her with out any hassle. She see's me as being in the way and it makes me feel so unwanted

Recently, She works full time so i don't see her until the evening to which she comes home and just shouts constantly, picking fights with me or my younger sister, and if she isn't doing that then she shuts herself away on the phone to her boyfriend for hours.She doesn't speak to me or take any interest in anything but her boyfriend. Recently I have had exams to which I needed revise for, she was aware of this also. The night before my exam she brought her boyfriend round and were up late being very loud. I feel as though she has no respect and doesn't care about anything to do with me. I'm not jealous that she's with him, I just want her to act like a parent instead of just causing tension in the house.

Am am I wrong for thinking this? I feel so depressed but have no one to turn to. I don't know what to do anymore, I feel as though I can't put up with living here anymore.

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Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like living with your mom and her boyfriend is taking a huge toll on you. It is understandable that you want to have a more respectful living situation with less tension, and your feelings are valid.

If you haven't already you might try to tell your mom how you are feeling. If she has not been hearing what you are saying, you might try to write how you are feeling down in a letter or include a supportive adult on the conversation. Here at NRS, we have a conference call service where we can help mediate a conversation with you and your mom. That might be a safe place to let her know how you are feeling without her interrupting you. Please call 1-800-RUNAWAY if you would like to have a conference call with your mom. You also can call if you want to talk through your situation. It sounds like you are really lacking some support, and we want to help you through this difficult time. You mentioned feeling depressed, and your mental health is so important. If you would like, we can look for individual or family counseling services in your area if you think those services could help.

We look forward to your call and we truly wish you the best,

NRS