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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out; we are glad that you did.
    Your post doesn't give much information on your situation. We do hope you will call us or chat us in hope that we can locate local parenting resources for you.
    We do hope to hear from you soon,
    Sincerely,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m a mom who isn’t loving or caring, who do I call to have her placed?

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out; we are glad that you did.
    In all but 3 states, you are an adult at age 18 and can leave without permission and there is nothing they can do to make you come back. You can google the term "Age of Majority" and your state name to discover if you are an adult at 18.

    We do hope that you will chat us through this website to discuss your situation further.
    We truly hope to hear from you soon.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi I'm 18 and I live in a toxic household. My parents don't trust me anymore due to past event and I want to run away. I don't have anyone to go to. They took away my phone and I can't contact my friends. I want to live with my friends but am too nervous if they won't accept it. I just want to feel good again. I've been developing suicidal thoughts. Please somebody help me

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS) and sharing the situation you are in with us. We are terribly sorry to hear that your mom has been treating you this way and saying these things to you. We understand the emotional toll and heartache this type of treatment causes and we want to make sure you are able to get your mental health and well-being in a better place. Please know that you can never be too emotional and that crying is a cathartic release, which is a healthy thing to do. We encourage you to stay close to things that bring joy and comfort into your life. For example, any supportive friends or family nearby or perhaps a pet, hobby, movie, music, etc.

    We hear you when you say you have been wanting to run away for 2-3 years but have been scared. We understand that the way your mom is treating you has you wanting to get out of that environment; rightfully so. It sounds like you may already be aware that there can be a lot of investigation involved in CPS cases, making it more difficult for much to happen in the outcome for some cases.

    With that being said, we welcome you to please reach out to our online chat service, found on our website at www.1800runaway.org or give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We would be thrilled to have the opportunity to provide direct support for you, where we can talk with you further about the situation and explore potential resources that may be viable for you at this time.

    We are here for you. You deserve to feel supported and to spend your days smiling. We wish you all of the best and look forward to the opportunity to hear from you. Please be safe.

    Sincerely,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    i’m 14 and my mom is awful. she’s single so it’s just me and her living together. she has terrible anger issues and she takes everything out on me. she doesn’t hit me but she yells at me constantly and tells me everything’s my fault. when i cry because she’s yelling at me she tells me i’m too emotional. she gets angry at the smallest things which then leads to her yelling at me. i’ve wanted to run away for about 2-3 years but was too scared to. i can’t call cps or tell anyone because they won’t take me seriously, and even if they did, my mom would be so angry. i just want to get away from her but i don’t know what to do. also once when she was mad she said i’m the reason she can never be happy.

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  • ccsmod15
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    We are glad you reached out to us for help. It sounds like you life has been very unstable with your Mom. That must take quite a toll on you both mentally and physically. You have been in a very difficult position with your Mom throwing you out and then lying that you run away.

    It is totally understandable that you want to get out of that situation with your Mom. It sounds like you have a good working plan to get out and to your friend across the state. While you are not doing anything illegal by running away, there is a small chance your friends could get charged with harboring a runaway. That is usually very unlikely.

    We want to make sure your plan to leave and stay out is as safe as possible. We also want to help you consider other options that may be available to you like transitional living. You also have some additional options because no matter what your Mom says, throwing you out is neglect. You have options for help from Child Protective Services and if you talk with the police first they may be able to help.

    We would like to discuss all that in more detail with you. You can reach us 24/7 either on a chat through our website or by calling our crisis hotline at (800) RUNAWAY.

    We hope to hear from you soon.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 16 and my mom has kicked me out countless of times .. but then lie to the police and said I ran away each time . This time I’ve been out the house for 2 weeks so far . I’m moving to my friends across the state but I don’t want them to get In trouble but I have no where else to go . She has been mentally abusing me for years and I tried to commit many times but she says it’s all in my head that I’m crazy and make things up . Idk what to do .

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 15 and my mom and step dad constantly fight due to that people kick us out of places were staying. My stepdad hits, chokes, spits, and throws stuff at my mom during fights. And he just justifies himself they both do drugs and they spent rent and food money on drugs. My mom and Stepdad both have hit me in the past and threatened to kill me or hurt me really bad. The rest of my family isn't in contact with me and don't care theyre also horrible people. My mom won't leave him because we have no where to go and he provides us with money and everyone where we live doesn't like us. I'm scared and I don't want to go into foster care and I don't want to be anywhere near anyone in my family because they're just as bad as my parents. My mom mentally abuses me and I've told her about my mental state and she saw my cuts on my arms and threatens to throw me in a mental hospital where she said I'd be raped and murder. He's has hurt her really badly and I don't know what to do I have no one to turn to and I have no where to go.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    It sounds like you’re feeling threatened by overbearing parents and alone—and. It’s understandable that you are desperate for a change. It seems like you’ve shown plenty of resilience, and it’s wise of you to seek help. When you are already struggling mentally or emotionally, not having the support you need can make it torturous. We realize that you have the will to leave but don’t have the resources because your parents are controlling your options.

    First of all, we’re sorry to hear that you have been abused. Please remember that you deserve to feel loved and cared for, 100%. What you have described may be reportable against your parents. We at NRS can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. A report may entail a CPS worker coming out to investigate to ensure your safety. You may be removed from the home, or a number of different actions could be taken. Additionally, you may find ChildHelp (https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/ ) useful in explaining your options and what could happen.

    Secondly, you may like The National Safe Place. This organization provides access to immediate help, a safe place to go, and supportive resources for youth in need. To see if there are any safe places near you listed, you can:

    look up your city and state on their website (www.nationalsafeplace.org) or

    text the word “safe” and your current location (address, city, state) to 4HELP (44357). For immediate help, reply with “2chat” to text interactively with a trained counselor.

    Last (in this message) but not least, you may find NAMI’s website or hotline help you find https://nami.org/home.

    With all of this said, we encourage you to reach out to us directly as we cannot respond more than twice to a forum or email. You can chat with us online or call us by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). In fact, if you reach out, we can look for legal aid resources, find emergency shelters, and explore more options,

    Stay strong and best. Again, thanks for reaching out,

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    i am 15 and i get emotionally and verbally abused at home by my 2 very toxic parents when either of my parents gets mad they take it out on me he has physically abused me before but no one does anything cause they think of it as a joke even when I have to leave to another room to cry the pain out and when they do see me crying they get me in even more trouble they have gaslighted me called me horrible names and have even stolen my phone (which they did not pay for nor do they pay the monthly bill for) I was going to run away last night and I went to shower and when i came back They had stolen my money.I have many witnesses that have seen and heard the way they talk to me and the way they treat me.I was going to get emancipated and all i needed was a job to be able to prove that I would have an income,they made fun of me when I would be trying on clothes to wear for interviews and would tell me i wouldn't last a week.I had many jobs in line that would help me a lot and once they had seen that I had my stuff together they made up a lie so they could keep me in their control.I once left school for the first period because I had a mental breakdown and my brother snitched me out and my parents took me out of school and put me into the independent study program I just want to get away from them and never go back when i had planned to move out they gaslighted me but my father told me if i wanted to eave that there was the door but that i wouldnt be welcomed back to live with him i shouldve taken the opportunity when i had the chance.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hi I’m 16 and me and my sister have grown up for the past 11 years with alcoholic parents but recently it’s gotten way worse. sometimes our parents will push each other and it scares me sometimes that they’ll start hitting and pushing on us next. and we are constantly being yelled at about anything you can think of. and this is all mainly my mom but my dad just lets her do it and doesn’t hardly ever stop her. i have been told many times by mom that I can move out if I think I’m better than her and since I’m just so perfect but she doesn’t remember anything she says or does the next day or 10 minutes after for that matter like maybe a week ago my mom got in my sisters face and started to punch her while drunk but my dad stopped her. I’m just so tired of the constant stress and being emotionally and mentally abused by my mother every single night. I want to leave but they do love us and sometimes things are okay when they let us hang with friends but my mom thinks we should love them because we get everything we want and more and she works so hard for us and we have it made but she doesn’t understand that what we have in life doesn’t even matter when I come home to this every night. I don’t even like telling my mom I love her anymore because of how she is. i also don’t like her touching me at all bc she always wants to hug on me after she just got done yelling at me for 2 hours. my mom is also are always very rough on me about my boyfriend and tell me I need someone new and he’s trash and a white thug and I’m a 4.0 gpa cheerleader. and I have a job and can drive but they pay for my insurance and stuff but I just really think about leaving all the time bc with school and cheer and work I’m stressed out enough as it is without having to come home every night dealing with my very strict dad and alcoholic mother. i would just like to know if there is any way I can leave at 16 and maybe live with a friend or someone.

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  • ccsmod16
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things are really awful there for you being treated like a slave and not allowed friends, on top of the toxic language used on you.

    It sounds like you got away for 5 years, but are now back. It's difficult for us to offer any real help here on this public forum. We work best with people when we can have a conversation with people. You can chat us through this website or call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-runaway). We truly look forward to hearing from you soon.
    Sincerely,
    NRS
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