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    im 16 my parents are verbally and sometimes physically abusive. i have a autistic brother that they cannot handle they are always cussing and screaming at him and they do the same with me. My mom and father has physical abused me , my brother gets whooped and not any regular whooping i mean hits on head back arms legs etc they don't care i really just want them to go away forever

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

    What you have described sounds like abuse and you do not deserve to be treated that way. You do have a right to make an abuse report and you can do that by calling Child Help at 1800-422-4453. You can also talk with a school counselor or a teacher and they would provide support and help with a report. Lastly, you can always call us and we can help you with making an abuse report.

    We are here for you if you want to explore options or just need someone to vent to. We are available 24/7 by phone or by chat. Best of luck!

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    I am 14 years old and I hate living with my parents all my mom does is control my life and she controls what I wear what I eat and where I go. And when she gets mad she will hit me and slap me. She always try’s to pick out all the things I’m doing wrong every single day and she just doesn’t doesn’t understand me. And she’s always saying for me to leave and she regrets adopting, same with my dad he always says that to me and he always hits me and would throw stuff at me if I don’t d9 something he asks right away. He’s always saying he can’t wait for the day I move out and when I turn 18 there kicking me out.

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems like your home life is abusive and taxing to your mental health.

    You are also within your rights to report any abuse happening inside the home, www.childhelp.org can be a great resource when looking to report abuse, and we can also assist you in filling out an abuse report if you call or chat us. National Alliance on Mental Illness (https://nami.org/Home) is a great resource for those struggling with self-harm or mental illness as well. A guidance counselor, close friend, or trusted adult can also be a good resource for coping with difficult situations.

    We are here as support through this challenging time and we can best help by having a conversation with you either by phone on our hotline or chatting us through our website. We truly hope to hear from you soon so that we can listen and help.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    hello, I'm female and 17 years old. I've lived in a physically and mentally abusive household since I was born. They refuse to let me and my sister get a job or our licenses. We both suffer with mental illnesses, I have BPD and cannot be treated properly until I'm 18 but also refuse to believe I have it. I also deal with severe self harm. They call the police on us regularly and lie to them about situations that occur, they will put their hands on us first and flip it the other way around once the police come. I can't deal with this much longer and it just keeps getting worse and worse.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello, thanks for reaching out to us at NRS.

    It sounds like it has been really scary living in an environment with both of your parents, considering all of the abuse you have experienced there, so it makes sense that you are looking for options to get out. Please know that you do not deserve ANY abuse, and you have the right to report it to Child Protective Services whose job it would be able to intervene and work to ensure you are safe. If you want help with reporting, you can either call our hotline (800) RUNAWAY, or you can call the National Child Abuse Hotline yourself at (800) 422-4453. If you’d prefer, you can also seek out a mental health, medical, or school professional, or if you are in immediate danger, you can call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.

    If you don’t want to report at this time but are looking for other options out of the home, do you think your mom would consent to your staying with your cousin if you tried sitting down and having a conversation with her about it? Perhaps involving the cousin or any other supportive family member could help in bridging the communication and come to some compromise, acknowledging that it seems like everyone is experiencing heightened tensions at home.

    There is also an option of staying at a shelter. Some shelters are required to notify your parental guardian; however, some do not, and you can always ask beforehand. To do a search for all shelters, you can go to homelesshelterdirectory.org, or you can call our hotline (800-RUNAWAY) and we can look into nearby youth shelters in your area.

    It makes sense that you want to make a change to your living situation, and you don’t have to go through this alone. Please do not hesitate to reach out and let us know how we can best help you.

    Good luck,

    NRS

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    i’m 16 and live in a toxic household it’s mainly my mom but my dad isn’t really in the picture like he lives with us and when he does get involved with things he gets abusive and throws breaks anything in his eye sight, he has dragged me across the floor almost broke my wrists and ankles trying to get me out of the car because i didn’t know a password to an old account then my mom would smack me till i got cut and bleed or i would start crying, one time i was with a few friends and was about to go home and she got mad at my brother and was taking it out on me and i knew she was going to hit me so my friends and i agreed i wasn’t going to go home so it wouldn’t happen and my mom called the state troopers and said i was a runaway and kidnapped because i didn’t want to get abused when i got home i said i would be back in the morning but she didn’t care and when she found out where i was she dragged me out of the house and took my phone that i pay for and i bought i have a job but i work with half my family and my mom won’t let me get a different job so they could keep an eye on me all that happens at my house with my whole family is we just fight and fight it gets really bad but she has my location i just turned it off and want to move out and with a friend and my one really close cousin that my mom really likes but i know she would call the cops and do it again but i was thinking about planning everything out and telling her i’m moving out but i know she’s gonna over react and try to hurt herself and make me the worst kid she’s ever had and never forgive me but i’m not happy here at all and won’t be as long as i’m here. i need out.

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  • ccsmod15
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    How's this?It sounds like you are going through a very tough time and we are glad you reached out to us. It is very brave of you to take steps to make your situation better and we will do our best to help you find resources that may be helpful to you.



    Anxiety and depression can be difficult to deal with even under good conditions. A potential resource is NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, at www.nami.org or 1-800-950-NAMI (6264). The NAMI HelpLine is a free, nationwide service providing information, resource referrals and support to people living with mental health conditions, their family members and caregivers. HelpLine staff and volunteers may able to provide guidance and offer resources that may be helpful to you or strategies for dealing with your situation.



    Your current living situation also sounds very challenging. You could consider your local family Division of Child Protective Services to talk about your situation. They may be able to help you find resources to help with your situation. If you are uncomfortable making the call, you can call us and one of our volunteers can make the call with or for you.



    Another potential resource is the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at www.childhelp.org or 1-800-4-A-CHILD (422-4453). Childhelp is a 24-hour hotline with volunteers who can talk to you about your situation and provide resources that may be helpful to you.



    Do you have friends or family that you are comfortable talking to about your situation? Do you have a teacher or counselor at school you are comfortable talking to? They may have advice or ideas that may be helpful to you. If you think it would be helpful to you, you can also call us and we can arrange a conference call with your Mom to talk about how you feel.



    You can also always contact us via chat at www.1800runaway.org or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We have volunteers available 24/7 to talk and to help you find resources that may be helpful to you.



    We wish you the best!

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    I’m almost 16 and I can’t take it here anymore. My mom moved me between two of her boyfriends’ houses 5 times in the past 3 months, I’ve had to switch schools 3 times. Because of switching schools/ school zones, I’m failing at school. There are mice living in our vents, I get sick all the time, but my mom still doesn’t believe me. We have little to no sustainable nutrients in our kitchen. I’ve asked for therapy multiple times for the past year or so because I have severe anxiety and depression but she never has helped me get the resources I need. I know that none of this is okay, so pleas tell me if there’s anything I can do anytime soon to get out of here.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out! If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services. We can only respond twice through email and bulletin/forum, so we encourage you to reach out via chat or phone call if you need any further assistance.


    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    Thank you for the information the church camp is run by his grandparents and they wont pick up my calls or anything the whole family has blocked me for looking into it they moved him there becasue of texas strick transgender laws and they diconected every bit of comunication i have im about to make a trip from indinana to texas to at least make sure he is ok

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your parents. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed recently by your father. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    hey i'm 15 years old i am living with my parents but i want out of here, i'm tired of the way they treat me, like just the other day my dad called me a fat ********** and hit me and no joke when i say this but i have a bruise on my leg that's about 8 inches long. I have not ate much since then i barley even talk to him my parents always say that i'm a loser, i'm not and will never be good enough. they said there done spending money on me, they don't care anymore and i'm scared to tell anyone about anything because i'm scared of what my parents are going to do. There has been plenty of other times they have hit my more my dad then mom but they both hit me. A couple of months ago my dad had smacked me so many times my lip was busted and swollen and my nose was bleeding but he still kept hitting me. What can i do to get out of this situation???

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. It sounds like you really care about your partner and that their safety is important to you. It must be hard to not be able to get in touch with him, especially when it seems like there’s a lot of changes going on in his life.

    Have you considered trying to get in touch with his grandparents? Navigating communication with an unsupportive family can be difficult, but at least it might help you determine if he is safe at the church camp. Reaching out to us takes a lot of bravery, we’d love to get some more information in order to figure out some other resources that might be helpful for you.

    We’re really glad you wrote us a post, and just so you know, you can give us a call (1800Runaway) or use the chat feature on our website (1800Runaway.org) to talk a little bit more about what’s going on. We’re here for you 24/7. Good luck!

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    Guest replied
    Im 17 and dating a 15 year old transgender female to male and his parents gave custody to his grandpaernts in texas he went silent for 3 months and he is at a churchcamp in palistine texas i dont know how to get him out but i will do anything to get him back i need to make sure he doesnt off himself or anthing

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