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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline. We appreciate and understand the courage it takes to reach out and let us know what is going on. It sounds like you have a lot going on right now and it is completely understandable to feel this way. You should never be put in a position where you are feeling this way. You and your sister, and everyone in the LGBTQ community, deserve complete support. It may be helpful for you to consider reaching out to us via chat or phone call so, we can learn a little bit more about your situation. For the time being, having a conversation with your step-father, or someone else in your family/house and letting them know how this behavior makes you feel, may be helpful. By no means should you have to hide your sexuality but, you should also feel ready and comfortable to share that with your family. If it makes you feel safer, establishing boundaries with your step-father and having another person in the room at the time of your conversations is an option. Help in the form of therapy/counseling could potentially be helpful in navigating family issues as well as daily life struggles. You may want to consider speaking to a counselor or social worker at school or, reaching out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). We are a 24-hour service and are available to help anytime. Chatting with us directly would give us the ability to address your needs more specifically, and we hope to hear from you soon. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS.

    Be safe!

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    Guest replied
    I hate my step dad he is a very homophobic jerk he once yelled at my sitter for giving a girl her number. I am also a part of the lgbtq community and I hate it and I stand up to only for him to tell me to shut up or he’ll hit me. My mom is almost completely blind to this unless if he hits me. My step dad says he is a supporter and then treats my sister bad bc she is gay.(I’m not out yet) and then he wants to be sexist and say “I’m the boss” and all that stuff. He also shoves the Bible in our face I don’t mind the Bible or anything but he just is so not picky about it. He once said that if one of us boys would come out as gay he would tie us up and beat us with a dildo and the rub us soft with the other thing that I don’t want to mention. He’s also a narcissistic and I just hate him.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi! Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. So sorry to hear that things are not going well between you and your mom’s boyfriend right now which is probably making things very tense for you. If you feel like you can speak privately with your mom, it’s a great idea! Perhaps writing down what you would like to say to her will help as it will give you a real feel on what you will be comfortable sharing with your mom during your chat. Hopefully she will understand what you have to say.

    As you are surely discovering being a 14 year old girl, hormones can often come into play in just about everything you are confronted with these days. It is really something you will get used to as you get older, but please be aware that if your ‘stepdad’ has never lived with a 14 year old girl before, he could easily just not know how to deal with what you’re going through! Again, in speaking to your mom about things, she will likely understand what you’re going through emotionally and perhaps can speak to her boyfriend about it.

    Should you feel like you would like to get to us for more specific ideas of how to deal with what you’re going through, please feel free to reach out to us again. You can chat with us at www.1800runaway.org (chat option) or at 1-800-786-2929. After getting a bit more about your situation, we can look at our have a database of resources to see what we can find that maybe of more assistance close to where you are currently living. We are available 24/7 and are always able to be reached.

    Thanks again for reaching out! Good luck in speaking to your mom. Please know we are always here for you to get in contact with us!

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    My stepdad well he is really just my moms boyfriend but everybody calls him my dad because they have been together for 7 years. Most of the time everything is ok but lately these past few months he has seemed so angry or aggravated over nothing. This morning I was sick I mean I was sweating I had a fever and my stomach hurt so my mom told me to eat something so I ate a slice a pizza and ended up giving to my dog because I didn’t think anyone would eat a piece that’s been half bitten, so when he saw the pizza was gone he called me a lying faker and this made me cry and now I’m starting to really hate him I mean I’m a 14 year old girl that stage is coming but no I really dislike him what do I do I’m scared to talk to my mom cause I don’t want to upset her, agin help me?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and it sounds like you are dealing with a lot of stress at home. Know that you deserve to feel happy where you live.

    You mentioned your difficult relationship with your stepdad. It sounds like there is a lot of tension at home, which must be extremely hard to manage. You also mentioned the verbal and physical abuse that you have been enduring. Know that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Abuse of any kind is never okay and an option you have if your safety and wellbeing is at risk is to file an abuse report. You can also call out to us and we can help you file this report. If you are ever in immediate danger, know that you have the option to call out to 911. Your safety is our priority.

    Another option you have is to reach out to us to talk in more details about your options and receive further support through your situation. We are not legal experts, but we can help connect you with legal resources in your area to reach out to for additional guidance. You can also always call out to your local non-emergency police with hypothetical and anonymous questions to gauge your options.

    Again, know that you can always reach out to us. Our lines (1-800-RUNAWAY) are toll-free, confidential, and always open. We also have a virtual chat option on our website: www.1800runaway.org..

    Stay safe and stay strong,

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    i hate my stepdad! me my mom and my little brother have had to deal with his bullcrap for 6 years!! he used to work in the armed forces, he fought in iraq and afghanistan. he also used to have a lot of scientific jobs: [...] (all of this was before my mom even met him) 6 years ago my mom met some guy at her job at a restaurant, at first i thought he would just be another guy that she would love for 3 months to a year and then break up with. but this guy was different because he was "funny", "smart" and "well built". when me and my little brother first met him we were shy and afraid but he was nice, so i spent some time with him talking about his life in alaska and me and my brother (kind of) grew to like him. fast forward a year and i really like him everything was going great, how ever my bio-dad and step mom weren't doing so well. by that time me, bio-dad, step mom and little brother have already moved houses once and were about to move again (due to a crappy landlord) not only that but our dog died recently, my step mom was expecting a baby and me and my brother would have no where to go while bio-dad and step mom were finding a new house. so my bio-dad made a deal with my mom and step dad that while bio-dad and step mom were finding a house, me and my little brother could live with them at my grand parents house. things worked out pretty well (for the most part.) for the first few weeks me and my little brother had to sleep in the basement, aside from the mice it was fine. fast forward 3 months me and my little brother have a new school and grandma and grandpa have a new house somewhere else, this is where things start to go down hill. bio-dad and step mom have a house now and my baby sister is now about 3 years old, we weren't able to live there yet due to financial and legal problems so were stuck at mom and step dads house. this is when mom and step dad have their first argument, me and little brother were confused but not too scared.
    over the course of 2 years a lot of stuff happened: mom and step dads fights started getting worse over time (as well as me and little brothers relationship with step dad.) mom and step dad started all of these delusional projects where they would tear out the carpet so its just staples and wood underneath. my bio-dad and step mom lose a few more houses but still find time to hang out with me and little brother even during all of this. fast forward another 2 years and mom and step dads fights start to get really violent, they both would get drunk and would fight physically and end up punching holes in the walls and destroying furniture and when any one would confront step dad about it he would yell at us talking about how he "puts a roof over our heads and we have no right to disrespect him" and that "we are ungrateful pieces of sh#t". even getting to the point where if we would dare watch tv he would come up behind the couch and tell us how stupid and annoying we are and then start rocking the couch back and forth tipping its and almost crushing me and my little brother. my bio-dad and step mom have found a place to live but they need a while to get enough money to buy it. on my birthday that year my step dad got drunk, destroyed the kitchen, screamed at me and little brother, and never took accountability for it. fast foreward to 2022, the furnace broke recently and we have to live and my grandma and grandpas new house until step dad can get someone to fix it, my bio-dad finnally bought the house and we will be living there soon. but my step dad only got worse lately he has been getting even more drunk, destroying my GRANDMAS HOUSE WHICH IS NOT HIS, screaming at mom at the top of his lungs, calling us all p#ssy`s d#ckheads, he has stormed out of the house 3 times and when ever he does something he will blame us for everything the HE DID! my mom clearly is getting sick and tired of him, me and my little brother hate him and MY ENTIRE DADS SIDE OF THE FAMILY HATES HIS GUTS! i hate him and i want him out of my life for good. im only fourteen and i dont have a phone. what can i do?
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 03-04-2022, 03:05 PM.

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing what’s been going on in your family. We want you to know, first and foremost, you do not deserve to be abused, hit, or treated poorly by any of your parents or guardians.

    It sounds like this is a very difficult situation to navigate, but you don’t have to do it alone. We’d be happy to discuss options and work with you to possibly find support for you through this time. Please feel free to reach out to us at 1(800) RUNAWAY, or you can chat with one of our crisis counselors online at 1800runaway.org. Take care, and we hope to hear from you soon!

    Sincerely,

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi my name is Riley I am ,12 my dad always blames me and hits me with a belt I got tooken away because he abuse me I got put in my mom's care and she abuse me all the time I was in a hospital for a week I got put back in my dad's house he always abuse me help please

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand that it takes great courage to reach out and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s been going on. As you mentioned in your post, it sounds like your stepdad can be very aggressive in his verbal and physical interactions with you. No one deserves to feel unsupported or unsafe in their home, especially when they ask for help. If you feel comfortable doing so, you may want to consider reaching out to us through our hotline either by phone or chat so that we can further discuss your situation in detail and possible options that might be right for your situation. For example, since you mentioned that you have thought about staying at your grandma’s or dad’s house, we could talk about whether or not you have told them about what’s been going on at home with your stepdad, and if so, what their responses have been. Some people find it helpful to confide in a trusted adult about what has been going on at home and you may want to think about if that would be something that you would fine helpful or comforting. Since you mentioned that your stepdad has pulled you down the stairs before, we could also talk about the possibility of filling out a child abuse report and what that might mean. These are just two possible options that you may want to think about and talk about with a NRS volunteer, but there is no pressure to reach out to us directly if you do not feel comfortable doing so.
    We understand that this may be a difficult situation and we are here to support you during this challenging time. Please feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us at www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) to discuss your situation further. If you are ever at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You can also check out the website www.nationalsafeplace.org or text the word “safe” with your current location to 4HELP (44357) and you will right away receive the nearest Safe Place location that you can go to or be connected via texting to a trained counselor.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I hate my stepdad because he is to aggressive he keeps getting mad at me for doing nothing or walking slow today he just pulled me down my stairs and i was at the bottom of the stairs when he did i was on the fifth step and he also puts everything on my real dad like making my real dad buy me stuff and my stepdad forces me to do stuff like if i want to take a nap he makes me play outside when i dont want to and i get really tired of it but m mom is fine with it she sometimes does stuff to help me but she never does most of the time its really annoying if i have bad grades they say they will help me raise my grade but next thing you know my stepdad screams in my face everytime i ask for help

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thank you for writing us here at NRS. We understand that it takes courage to reach out for help and we thank you for sharing some of what’s been going on. That’s a tough situation to go through. It seems like you are concerned about your stepdad and value your relationship with him. It’s great that you have your sister there for support. You mentioned that you thought your stepdad was going to hit you and that he screams at you a lot. You don’t deserve to be treated that way and we are sorry that you had to experience that. At any point you feel that you are unsafe or at risk of danger, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Additionally, you can report this to Child Protective Service (CPS). We are not experts but sometimes CPS will send out someone to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services). After the investigation, if CPS find that there is no danger, they may offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead.



    Having a safe space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).



    We’re here to listen and to help and hope you can reach out soon.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    It was always my mom, older sister and I before my stepdad came into the picture. I actually had a pretty good bond with him and got along with him very nicely. They ended up getting married and at first everything was fine. My relationship with my stepdad became so strong I told him I wanted his last name. One day we got into a fight and I don’t even know what it was about(probably something stupid). I remember screaming at him “ THIS IS WHY I DONT WANT YOUR LAST NAME ANYMORE!!!” I know I might of hurt his feelings but he really pushed me to the edge that day. From then on everything was downhill. We would get into smaller tiny arguments that weren’t a big deal but because of the tension between us it became explosive. This has lasted for about 5 years now. Sometimes we will go a long period of time without fighting but them something always happens where we fight and it’s a big one too. Recently my stepdad and I were fine with our relationship. We weren’t really fighting but more of just like I see that person but I’m just not gonna say much. His dad is in the hospital right now and the doctors think he has lung cancer. I know that this is a hard time for him so I’ve been trying my best to be nice to him. Last night though me and my sister were having a “sleepover” in her room. I came up once from the downstairs( that’s where her room is) to get water and take out my contacts. Then I was in her room for another few hours. When we were about to go to step I didn’t want to sleep on her bed so I decided to go back to my room. I was about to fall asleep when I heard my dog scream. I came out to see if he need to be let outside or if something bad happened to him. My stepdad sleeps on the couch right now for some reason and so I wanted to see if he was ok as-well because maybe something happened between him and the dog. Literally as soon as I step outside my door I was startled by my stepdad screaming “GET BACK IN THERE. Your making to much damn noise.” He then started walking towards me and I thought he was going to hit me so I went into my room and locked the door. While he was walking towards me he was screaming and cussing at me and even woke up my mom and sister. Once I was in my room he continue to talk about me and cuss me out and my mom was wondering what was happened and basically took his side. I was so scared and didn’t know what to do. My sister texted me asking what happened and I told her and she said that she would let me sleep with her but she didn’t want me to get yelled at again. Anyways I just don’t know what to do about this situation. I know that I want to talk to my mom about it just to clarify what all happened. But I just don’t know what to do about my step dad. He snaps at me like this all the time and my mom seems to only take his side and it makes me mad. I know my stepdad is going through a hard time but that does not excuse his behavior towards me. I just and confused and need some guidance with this situation.

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
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    He's so annoying and I know there have been worse people with worse stepdads than mine but still. My stepdad is so annoying and it's to the point where we don't even want to acknowledge each other anymore. He uses my private stuff and when I tell him to stop my mom always gets in and tells me "you have to respect adults!" And threatens to spank me or something! It makes no sense. My parents divorced when I was about four years old (I'm 13 now) and my dad has not gotten married yet,but about one year (I think) after they divorced my mom got re-married. He was okay until he constantly called me names and messed with me so much even though I told him to stop, and my mom just sat there and did nothing. She always either sided with him, or she doesn't do a thing at all. And I'm sick of it! Multiple times I've talked to her and expressed my feelings to her about him, and every time she's either like I will talk to him" (which she never does) or "oh well get over it". To be honest it's like she never sees anything wrong with him but I do. He's fed my little brother my breakfast before, and when I told him it was mine, he was just like "oh whoops" (basically). Now don't get me wrong, I love my little brother (he's 2, almost 3) but I don't love it when he won't let me play with him, touch him, or give him my private stuff to use as toys or to bath with. And before my brother was born, if I left something on the couch or my shoes were on the floor, HED THROW IT AWAY!! Once when I was like 7 or 8, I had one of those cute little kids play computers and I loved it! I left it in the kitchen once because I went to the bathroom, and I come back to find it in the trash!! That was a birthday gift to me! And yesterday he ripped my phone out of the charger and threw it on my bed for literally no apparent reason like I was literally just watching a movie and next thing you know my phone was gone! Whenever I get upset at him, he acts like he can do whatever he wants to me, like hit me or something! He hasn't yet because whenever he says that he will, I always remind him that he's not my dad and he has no right to put a finger on me. But instead of him, my mom tries to get me in trouble on behalf of him (cause she's my mom and she has a right to put her hands on me). I'm seriously just tired of her taking his side even when he's the one in the wrong. Like I'm 13, he has no right to be messing with a female teenagers' stuff, ESPECIALLY when he's not my dad. My dad doesn't even do any of this stuff. My dad respects my privacy and he knows that I'm 13 and am capable to have my own stuff without others having to mess with it. He always asks before he uses something of mine, and he always knocks before coming into my room, unlike my stepdad. My dad is aware that I don't really like my stepdad but we never really talk about it cause usually I and my stepdad try to not interact with each other, and also because I'd rather not spend my time with my awesome dad talking about my awful stepdad. Although I have mentioned a couple of times that my mom always takes his side, that's about it. Sometimes I wish I could just live with my dad, but he's busy a lot, and I don't just want to leave my brother. I always say that I can't wait to move out, or that when I'm 18 I want to just file a restraining order on my stepdad cause I'm tired of him even being in my life. In my opinion, the only thing good that's came out of him being in my life is my brother and stepfamily. But that's about it. What should I do?
    I think you should just ignore him really like you´ve been doing because it's not much you can do. My mom is scared of my stepfather because of him she has lost her voice, and it looks like it's like that with you too, so what you need to do is help your mom open her eyes, and you lucky my dad left me when I was little so at least you have your real dad. So just keep hopes up with your dad

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I hate my stepdad dad and he is a little creepy cause one time I was going inside my big sister room and he was in the dark staring at me I already saw him before the lights was off and he treats my brother and sister's diffrent he is like yall so funny (brother's and sister's ) Oh hi you and then he hit me today cause I had slapped my brother cause he keep look at me and told him to stop but he did not listen so at that point I was mad so I had did it but then he got angry and I said I was going to tell on me but then mystepdad had came up stairs and had hit me in the head and when my sister plays soccer when she take her to her practice he says he wanna punch in the face he wanna hurt me and everything and my sister had told me that but anyways then sometimes he can nice and sometimes mean and cranky just irate me sometimes and just scared to tell my mom about thisome and the reason why is because she has been in so many relationships so I'm a scared and at this point I want his to leaverify our family for ever and I do not want to cry in front of him cause I am showing him my weakness I JUST REALLY HATE HIM RIGHT NOW!

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