I hate my stepdad

Step Dads are dumb. he just gave me a ridicilous haircut now im being bullied

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Thank you for reaching out us. We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
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Troy Wilding my step father is a horrible mean person that doesn’t care about a single person but himself. He’s is a judgemental narcissistic asshole who is racist. He treats everyone like ********. Including me, the worst. I have never hated someone so much before that I had to write this on the internet to share with other people dealing with the same problem. He makes me cry and makes me feel down about my self. He will scream in my face inches away. Cuss at me call me names. He had the worst temper and is so old school that it truly makes him the worst kind of person. Someone who is mentally ********ed up and needs psychiatric help. Please help me somehow someone out there.

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Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about what you have been feeling.
You are very brave for doing so. Good for you. You don’t deserve to be subjected to abuse of any kind. It’s not your fault that this is happening to you.
NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.

Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


NRS is here to listen and here to help.
Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

If you feel at risk or in danger we encourage you to reach out for immediate help by calling 9-1-1. You can also file an abuse report with child protective services by contacting Child Help at 1-800-422-4453

You are very brave for reaching out.

Take care and be safe,
NRS

My mom’s boyfriend is a jerk. First to start off he loves to annoy people. Especially me no matter what it is. He will do anything and everything within his power to annoy me. He turns off the internet in the middle of the day for no reason. Throws candy wrappers on my bed etc. He knows this annoys me and he loves when I’m in my room and no anywhere near him. He loves that he does not allow me to play video games. He thinks this is all just a joke but knows it is not. He also always talks about me but never too me. I constantly hear him talking to my mom about me and she doesn’t just ignore it. The only good times at my mom’s house is when he’s working. It’s always great to spend time with my mom like a normal human being. She knows that I do not like him and she tries but he deceives her. He convinces her I am in the wrong. He also is vocally abusive. Explicit language nonstop and has once even called my mom an idiot and yelled because he was drunk. That may not sound like a lot but he constantly does this sort of behavior. Makes offensive jokes or talks about people behind their backs. He also broke my IPad when I was 10 because I left it on the couch the day I got a new case for $50 THEN BLAMED IT ON THE DOG. I don’t even know to this day how that makes sense .Hess also stole my money because he once locked me out of the house as a joke and knocked on the door hard because it was 0 degrees out and he took my money to pay for the window without permission. One of the things that hurt me the most was when my brother noticed I was getting mad at him when I was 10 and he took me outside to talk and help me like a good brother. He then came out and said “what are you talking about” and my brother said “just leave us alone you’re not our dad” because we have a great father. He then proceeded to say “too bad” and that really pi***d me off. The last thing is he kicked my brother out for no reason because he ate my brother’s food and threw it away after because he left it out and it was BAD. After he kicked him out my brother had to sleep in his car and then he recently told me at that moment he didn’t care what happened to him and maybe he could just freeze to death ALL BECAUSE OF HIM. He’s just not a good person. He also drinks constantly. Sometimes he gets mad and yells and gets aggressive. When I was 11 I thought I broke my wrist so my mom was going to get tape for my hand. I waited in the car and she took a long time. I walk in and he’s yelling about how I’m lying and that sort of stuff only because my mom was taking me somewhere and leaving him for 15 minutes. He wanted to talk to me “like a man” but I was only a child. He that proceeded to ask if I needed to go to the hospital RIGHT NOW I said no in fear that it wouldn’t be and that would all be a waste. He asked me to squeeze his hand to see if it was broken and he kept asking me to squeeze and he squeezed my hand that was in pain very violently. I never went to get tape, and my hand ended up being broken. He then proceeded to lie about apologizing. I won’t let him win any longer. I will at least act like I like him and I know he will get mad. The only reason I don’t tell my mom to break up with him is because of her living status. She will be lonely when I’m at my dad’s because I’m going to be honest all my friends parents are rich and snobby and I’m glad she doesn’t like them. My problem is if my mom breaks up with him this is what will happen. We will probably have to move into an apartment that isn’t as nice as a home with a yard. She will not have much money because she’s a teacher for a private school nor payed for by the government. She will be lonely when she’s done with work and will go home and do nothing. But if I do not for anything than I will be constantly angry, annoyed, and sad that I have to live with this, and will never be able to spend time with my mom because he wants me to leave. I never spend time with my mom when he’s here, and that’s his plan to just “take my mom”. But I thought I should act like I like him like I said just to not let him win by getting me away so he can just be with my mom. I am really in trouble here and I am not sure what to do for me my brothers and my mom. There is so much more to say but this would be a whole book of stuff about him if you have any questions about what’s going on PLEASE ASK THEM because I know I may not have stated all the great information. Thank You.

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through an incredibly difficult situation. Also we are sorry about the loss of your father, losing a parent is very difficult.
You are super close to becoming 18, which in most states is the legal age to leave home. One resource to help you find jobs could be jobcorps.org. Also as far as housing you can give us a call and we can help you look for a transitional living program if that is something you would be interested in.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call, we are here 24/7. Best of luck!
NRS

Ive contacted NRS before,just wrote something about 5 mins ago ,i wanted to mention that i want to see how i would do on my own and my stepdad was in town and i she said well then me, you, and wayne,(stepdad) will hae to sit down and talk about it because hes the father figure and the man of the house basically,and they talk about everything i mean EVERYTHING! in private of course but people will get the jist,my mom and wayne are not married,technically they are,and it is my moms concern what decisions i make,and he said if i plan to stay under his roof ill have to sign a contract,and im not signing jackdiddly squat,i still cant grow my beard out

ok,ive contacted NRS before with stiff like this,when i turn 18 im probably going to move out,me and my stepdad barely get along and now he has the audacity to have fill up a box of my belongings and put them in a separate room till i move out,and he has taken away my privacy,im turning 18 on the 14th of november and he treats me like a f!@#$%^ 8 yr old and im sick of it,ive kived in what feels like prison to me for 4 yrs and its a living hell,i have no freedom all i can do is watch tv,and when i repeat something that i know i said,he replies saying no that aint what you said,and then we have a massive argument,and also is there any resources NRS offers to help find housing and jobs by any chance,btw i plan on joining the south carolina national guard after i graduate high school to pay for college,ive realized its time that i try and make it own my own and prove anyone who doubted me wrong,i know right from wrong,and going back to the whole stepdad situation i never wanted a father figure,my real dad was a otr truck driver most of my life and i lost him to cancer in 2016.

I hate him so much , I just ran away from home and have gone to my dads house . He has made me cry so much and he does that allot . He shouts at me and is just so rude and every time I retaliate my mum shouts at me but I cannot help it . I really don’t like him but he is the father of my 2 little brothers . He just gets me sooooo angry to the point where I want to punch something . I really don’t know what to do . I want to live at my dads house forever . (I am 13)

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Hey there,

Thanks for reaching out we know that it takes a lot of courage. It sounds like life at home is really tense, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable in your own home. You mentioned that you and your brother were previously physically abused by your stepdad and this raises some concern for your well being. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

It seems like your mom isn’t fully understanding you when you are trying to relay your thoughts and feelings about your current situation with your stepdad. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

My stepdad is so bipolar and annoying he puts his anger out on a lot of people and is so grouchy all the time and it just irks me so bad. I talked to my mom about me hating him and she got defensive and said once you live someone you’ll wanna make them a good person. But it’s been years since I was like three or four years old he’s been in my life. I’m now sixteen years old and I’ve come to the point where I can’t stand being home because of him. He use to physically abuse me and my brother when we were younger and my mom never knew until we had opened up about it recently and she still didn’t do anything about it. He’s a very angry person and it annoys me at that because I just don’t see or understand what my mom sees in him. He pays the cheapest bills, and the least bills as well, he doesn’t help around the house like clean and stuff, he treats my mom like she can do anything, he’s a bum who makes messes and legit won’t pick up after himself. He’s so messy and gross I hate him so much I hate the fact that I can’t even be home comfortably without him coming home to be in such an ugly mood. My whole family on my moms side hate him just as much I wish my mom can realize how much of a horrible person he is.

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Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are having a tough time. You sound like you are thinking about harming yourself or ending your life. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk. Be safe and Best of luck!

I want to not live

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Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out!

You mentioned that you’re having a lot of problems with your mom and stepdad, and the only support system that you really have out is your dad and step mom. You’re super brave for going through everything that you are enduring. With that being said, no one should have to go through that verbal abuse, and we are here to listen to whatever it is that you have to say. We care about your safety, and if you feel like you safety is ever at stake, you can text the word safe and your location to 44357. The national safe place will text you a safe place to go to, and a crisis worker will be out to assists you.

You’re super smart for having a will to keep on going, and we applaud you for that! Unfortunately we aren’t legal experts, but if you decide to run away with your guardian’s approval, your guardian can contact the authorities, and file a runaway report. Whoever you end up staying with, may face some consequences. In the same way, you mentioned that your dad and step mom have been a good support system for you, and an option you can explore is talking to your dad, and seeing if he can speak with your mom and step dad about their ways or treating you recently. You may also consider talking to your mom about how her and your step dad’s behavior is affecting you, and show them that you really have been trying to bring your grades up. You may also give us a call at 1800) 786-2929, and we may have a conference call with you and your parents, and talk it out together, and come up with ways to handle the situation.

Again, thank you so much for reaching out. We know you’re in a very hard situation, and we’re so proud that you are wanting to seek help. Please feel to reach out to us anytime on chat, or by phone at 1800) 786-2929. Best of luck!

I am 14, and I’m high school.
My parents got divorced when I was 3-4 or 5 years old. Anyways, they eventually both got remarried, and it’s always been that way. However, I’m starting to drift from me and my step dad’s relationship. He was always a dick to me about my education. I’m not a gifted student, unlike my two younger siblings, and his way to motivate me is by calling me a failure and talking crap about me for absolutely no reason. Recently, my grades didn’t come out so good on my report card, and as of now he decided that it was a good idea to permanently take it away. My mom backed the idea. They told all of us at the table that we have to contribute more to the house and that was about it. The next day, I was playing a game on the computer before he decided to yell at me that I was grounded. As of that point, skyward was down, so I couldn’t check my grades and prove to him anything, as he still thought I had 3 F’s. I tried to reason with him, but he is a complete dumbass and doesn’t care about my reasoning. He wants a progress report. I mean, who reads those anymore if you have a site online that tells you it? It’s really retarded, and I had no way to go against it really. After talking to my dad. I discussed it with my mom’s side of the family again, and their response was still no, and then threatened to give me worse consequences. I hated their side of the family for most of my life, and they always weighed me down about my grades. They never trusted me, and assumed that I was an untrustworthy scumbag, and that I’ll never change. It hurt me greatly, as I believed strongly that I’ve changed. My dad has always been there for me, along with my step mom, and I’ve succeeded in life because of them, never once did I do it for my mom or my step dad. I promised to be a greater person in 9th grade, and I am. But my mom and step dad think otherwise. I want to change my acts, and it’ll start with leaving my mom and my step dad. I dislike them A lot, and my road to success will start after I leave their house forever.