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  • I hate him so much , I just ran away from home and have gone to my dads house . He has made me cry so much and he does that allot . He shouts at me and is just so rude and every time I retaliate my mum shouts at me but I cannot help it . I really don’t like him but he is the father of my 2 little brothers . He just gets me sooooo angry to the point where I want to punch something . I really don’t know what to do . I want to live at my dads house forever . (I am 13)

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    • ok,ive contacted NRS before with stiff like this,when i turn 18 im probably going to move out,me and my stepdad barely get along and now he has the audacity to have fill up a box of my belongings and put them in a separate room till i move out,and he has taken away my privacy,im turning 18 on the 14th of november and he treats me like a [email protected]#$%^ 8 yr old and im sick of it,ive kived in what feels like prison to me for 4 yrs and its a living hell,i have no freedom all i can do is watch tv,and when i repeat something that i know i said,he replies saying no that aint what you said,and then we have a massive argument,and also is there any resources NRS offers to help find housing and jobs by any chance,btw i plan on joining the south carolina national guard after i graduate high school to pay for college,ive realized its time that i try and make it own my own and prove anyone who doubted me wrong,i know right from wrong,and going back to the whole stepdad situation i never wanted a father figure,my real dad was a otr truck driver most of my life and i lost him to cancer in 2016.

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        Hello There,
        Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through an incredibly difficult situation. Also we are sorry about the loss of your father, losing a parent is very difficult.
        You are super close to becoming 18, which in most states is the legal age to leave home. One resource to help you find jobs could be jobcorps.org. Also as far as housing you can give us a call and we can help you look for a transitional living program if that is something you would be interested in.
        We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call, we are here 24/7. Best of luck!
        NRS

    • Ive contacted NRS before,just wrote something about 5 mins ago ,i wanted to mention that i want to see how i would do on my own and my stepdad was in town and i she said well then me, you, and wayne,(stepdad) will hae to sit down and talk about it because hes the father figure and the man of the house basically,and they talk about everything i mean EVERYTHING! in private of course but people will get the jist,my mom and wayne are not married,technically they are,and it is my moms concern what decisions i make,and he said if i plan to stay under his roof ill have to sign a contract,and im not signing jackdiddly squat,i still cant grow my beard out

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      • My mom’s boyfriend is a jerk. First to start off he loves to annoy people. Especially me no matter what it is. He will do anything and everything within his power to annoy me. He turns off the internet in the middle of the day for no reason. Throws candy wrappers on my bed etc. He knows this annoys me and he loves when I’m in my room and no anywhere near him. He loves that he does not allow me to play video games. He thinks this is all just a joke but knows it is not. He also always talks about me but never too me. I constantly hear him talking to my mom about me and she doesn’t just ignore it. The only good times at my mom’s house is when he’s working. It’s always great to spend time with my mom like a normal human being. She knows that I do not like him and she tries but he deceives her. He convinces her I am in the wrong. He also is vocally abusive. Explicit language nonstop and has once even called my mom an idiot and yelled because he was drunk. That may not sound like a lot but he constantly does this sort of behavior. Makes offensive jokes or talks about people behind their backs. He also broke my IPad when I was 10 because I left it on the couch the day I got a new case for $50 THEN BLAMED IT ON THE DOG. I don’t even know to this day how that makes sense .Hess also stole my money because he once locked me out of the house as a joke and knocked on the door hard because it was 0 degrees out and he took my money to pay for the window without permission. One of the things that hurt me the most was when my brother noticed I was getting mad at him when I was 10 and he took me outside to talk and help me like a good brother. He then came out and said “what are you talking about” and my brother said “just leave us alone you’re not our dad” because we have a great father. He then proceeded to say “too bad” and that really pi***d me off. The last thing is he kicked my brother out for no reason because he ate my brother’s food and threw it away after because he left it out and it was BAD. After he kicked him out my brother had to sleep in his car and then he recently told me at that moment he didn’t care what happened to him and maybe he could just freeze to death ALL BECAUSE OF HIM. He’s just not a good person. He also drinks constantly. Sometimes he gets mad and yells and gets aggressive. When I was 11 I thought I broke my wrist so my mom was going to get tape for my hand. I waited in the car and she took a long time. I walk in and he’s yelling about how I’m lying and that sort of stuff only because my mom was taking me somewhere and leaving him for 15 minutes. He wanted to talk to me “like a man” but I was only a child. He that proceeded to ask if I needed to go to the hospital RIGHT NOW I said no in fear that it wouldn’t be and that would all be a waste. He asked me to squeeze his hand to see if it was broken and he kept asking me to squeeze and he squeezed my hand that was in pain very violently. I never went to get tape, and my hand ended up being broken. He then proceeded to lie about apologizing. I won’t let him win any longer. I will at least act like I like him and I know he will get mad. The only reason I don’t tell my mom to break up with him is because of her living status. She will be lonely when I’m at my dad’s because I’m going to be honest all my friends parents are rich and snobby and I’m glad she doesn’t like them. My problem is if my mom breaks up with him this is what will happen. We will probably have to move into an apartment that isn’t as nice as a home with a yard. She will not have much money because she’s a teacher for a private school nor payed for by the government. She will be lonely when she’s done with work and will go home and do nothing. But if I do not for anything than I will be constantly angry, annoyed, and sad that I have to live with this, and will never be able to spend time with my mom because he wants me to leave. I never spend time with my mom when he’s here, and that’s his plan to just “take my mom”. But I thought I should act like I like him like I said just to not let him win by getting me away so he can just be with my mom. I am really in trouble here and I am not sure what to do for me my brothers and my mom. There is so much more to say but this would be a whole book of stuff about him if you have any questions about what’s going on PLEASE ASK THEM because I know I may not have stated all the great information. Thank You.
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        • ccsmod4
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          Hi,
          Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

          It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
          We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about what you have been feeling.
          You are very brave for doing so. Good for you. You don’t deserve to be subjected to abuse of any kind. It’s not your fault that this is happening to you.
          NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.

          Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


          NRS is here to listen and here to help.
          Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

          If you feel at risk or in danger we encourage you to reach out for immediate help by calling 9-1-1. You can also file an abuse report with child protective services by contacting Child Help at 1-800-422-4453

          You are very brave for reaching out.

          Take care and be safe,
          NRS

      • Troy Wilding my step father is a horrible mean person that doesn’t care about a single person but himself. He’s is a judgemental narcissistic asshole who is racist. He treats everyone like ********. Including me, the worst. I have never hated someone so much before that I had to write this on the internet to share with other people dealing with the same problem. He makes me cry and makes me feel down about my self. He will scream in my face inches away. Cuss at me call me names. He had the worst temper and is so old school that it truly makes him the worst kind of person. Someone who is mentally ********ed up and needs psychiatric help. Please help me somehow someone out there.

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        • ccsmod3
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          Thank you for reaching out us. We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
          Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      • Step Dads are dumb. he just gave me a ridicilous haircut now im being bullied
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        • ccsmod13
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          Hi there,

          We are sorry to hear that you are being bullied and you deserve to feel loved and supported. It can be hard when step parents don’t understand you. Perhaps having a safe space to talk about the situation will help you feel better and connect you with someone who can offer support. This could be another family member or a school counselor.

          If you want to talk more about what has been going on at home, please feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or use our live chatting service on our website 1800runaway.org.

          We look forward to hearing from you so that we can help,
          NRS

      • Hi, I'm 13 years old right now at the moment. My current situation isn't all too pretty. I've had a hard time ever since I was a baby. My biological father made some horrible decisions and he committed suicide after I was a year old. Ever since then, my mom has had a lot of boyfriends. Some were in jail, prison, lived far away, just always distant. Yet this time her boyfriend lived a town away. At first glance, he looks like a harmless sweet guy, until you do something to his disliking. I met the true C.A's (His Initials for Safety purposes) when I "messed up". My cousin passed away this summer and I had a really hard time with it, he was the only real brother I had, it hurt a lot when I got the news about his death. I even tried pretending that it wasn't real and I still pretend that he's gonna surprise me at school in his military uniform. Yet I know it won't ever happen. Anyways, I went to stay with my sisters at my Uncle's house. I love my uncle but I had a lot of stress and I was constantly crying and my sisters kept saying I had no reason to cry. I don't even think that they shed a tear. And after that, I just snapped and I yelled and yelled and yelled. I couldn't take it anymore, and my mom yelled at me for it and she wouldn't understand how I felt. My sisters are her favorites by the way. And my sisters started acting like they did nothing and I told my mom "I'm gonna hit her", and my mom's boyfriend decided to hit me! He ISN'T even her actual husband! It is illegal for him to hit me since he is not my father in any type of way. I've gotten hit for other things such as "crying and making a scene in public", I can't help it if my eyes are watery from you yelling at me for walking! And I got hit for chewing gum, saying my mom's boyfriend's son wasn't my blood, HE'S NOT! And more but I don't wanna list them because they are seriously dumb! I've had so many bruises from this man, it's unbelievable. He treats his real children so much differently. It's all about them too. I help them with their homework, video games, cleaning, showers, etc. And they treat me like garbage half the time. I just CANNOT take it anymore. It's affecting my schoolwork as well. And my mom's boyfriend told me that if I call him my stepdad, that he'll hit me. So um yeah, and I just want to leave. I wish I was adopted by a family that actually saw me for me. That noticed little things and wanted to spend time with me instead of calling me a screwup and an idiot, dumb, stupid, annoying, retarded. I was even called a mistake. I even cried today because I just didn't want to come home. I want to talk to somebody, but I know it'll just end worse for me. -8th grader J.

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          Hey there J,

          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

          While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

          We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

          Be safe,
          NRS

      • Yeah my stepdad has been breaking me down mentally for so long. I am not the type that fishes or hunts, so I instead choose the musical life, but my step dad doesn't know how to see how much he hurts me by saying I am not a real man. I know it is not a big deal to most, but my father walked out on us for drugs and a girl he could have sex with. He didnt ever teach me how to fish or how to catch, I learned what I know from my mother and myself. So if my stepdad was just able to see the hard life I have been through, maybe he would know not to mess with my head. I understand, too, how others are more unfortunately placed with their step parents, but I am fed up with this bull******** so I have decided to either get the hell out of here, or just end it all.

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        • ccsmod16
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          Hi,

          Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We understand it takes a lot of courage to ask for help, and we commend you for your bravery. It sounds like things at home are really tough, and that you want to leave.

          It is important you know, first of all, that you should not have to endure having hurtful things said to you like this. It seems as if your step-dad is not showing you the respect and understanding that you deserve. Sometimes when things get really difficult, we ca begin to feel like there is just no way out. Your thoughts of ending your life must be a lot for you to bare. If you are ever in a dark place mentally, you can always call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They are a great group of volunteers that talk people through some of their worst moments. As far as getting out of your home, you might want to consider runaway laws, which indicate that a parent can report you and that police can bring you back home. Perhaps reaching out to us to have a conference call with your parent would be a good idea. You can also consider reaching out to friends and other family members for a place to stay while you figure out next steps. We are always here to help with this, too. You can call us or chat us at 1-800-RUN-AWAY or 1800runaway.org

          We hope this information is useful to you, but if it is not or you need more, please do not hesitate to reach out. We are here to listen, here to help. Best of luck moving forward.

          Sincerely,
          National Runaway Safeline

      • It's not that I totaly hate my stepdad I just dislike the things he does sometimes like when my siblings cry he yells at me when most of the time I dont even do anything he just takes my little brother out of the room and makes him sit on the couch alone by himself and leaves me and my sister here in my room and another problem is when they cry he gets so aggravated to the point where he just shouts and yells at me I mean there babys yea there 2 and 3 turning on 3 and 4 but come on there still little kids and they need patience he just cant come snatch them away and throw them on the couch and then come back yell at me and go and tell my mom the "bad things" ive done when I didnt even do anything he doesnt even give me time to talk he just jumps to conclusions and say that I need to stop aggravating them and dont give them stuff without "my permission" like today my brotjer wanted some cereal and I said no so he started crying like he always does and then my stepdad came in my room yelling at him saying he needs to shut up and stuff then he came to ME saying that "you didnt hear me when I called you" so I said "no I didnt" (because I didn't) and then he raises his voice and says "yes you did" and then he started cursing me out like he always does saying I need to stop doimg that stupid sh*t and that I'm slower than the babies and he didnt even believe me when I said my brother got the cereal *in which he did* but he still doesn't believe me thats why I spend most of my time in my bed crying because of how I feel that he just wants me gone like "bye little girl we dont need her anymore" when I try everything I can to leave him and my mom alone yea its hard watching 2 babies at the age of 12 but I can manage it if he would stay out of my ear about me aggravating them all the time I love my stepdad sometimes and I dont want nothing to happen to him I just wish he would stop being so mean sometimes thanks for listening bye

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          Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing your story. It does sound like your stepdad gets pretty frustrated in handling the babies and takes it out on you. That is not right and you don't deserve to be yelled at when trying to help take care of your siblings. Managing little kids is quite stressful for anyone, but that is your stepdad's responsibility, not really yours. So again, I'm glad you reached out to share the challenges youre facing.

          You didn't mention how your mom handles this situation. Have you talked to her about how your stepdad makes you feel when he is frustrated with the little kids? If you have and she has not been helpful, maybe there is another relative or close friend or adult that would be a good listener where you could discuss how best to cope with this going forward. We have a conference call service if you would like to have a mediated conversation with your dad about how you are feeling. Its a difficult situation and you don't need to be treated that way.

          Please call us anytime if you'd like to talk on the phone further. We're here 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929.

          Good luck.

          -NRS

      • I know that mine isn’t as bad as others but my step dad so annoying won’t leave me little brother alone and he slaps us. He barges into my room without knocking or how he touches personal stuff an my mom doesn’t seem notice. I know my mom is in love with him.

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          Hi, thanks for reaching out to us at NRS.
          It sounds like things are pretty stressful at home with your stepdad, especially since you mentioned feeling like your mom isn’t doing much about it. Have you ever talked with your mom about how you feel? If not, that could be a start. One thing we offer at NRS, if you are interested, is mediated conference calling with a parent; so if you wanted to have a conversation with either your mom or stepdad but don’t know where to start, we can help with facilitating that conversation and ensuring that your voice gets heard: (800) 786-2929.
          Although it’s hard to say from the information you provided, it is possible that your stepdad’s behavior could be considered physical abuse and is something that could be reported. Making a report would mean that your local Child Services agency would review the information and possibly pursue an investigation into whether they believe his behaviors are considered abusive according to their definition and requires intervention. Depending on their findings, they could possibly offer support services to ensure you are safe at home. It is very hard to know exactly what the outcome would be if you make a report, but you can always call the National Child Abuse Hotline for more information (800) 422-4453 or call us at the number mentioned previously (800) 786-2929 to discuss your situation further. We are always here, 24/7, for support and have a variety of other resources we could explore with you. You don’t have to go through this alone.
          Best of luck!
          NRS

      • I hate my step dad he always thinks he can be the boss of me but he is not I hate it idk what to do

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        • ccsmod2
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          Hello There,
          Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It can be really frustrating to dislike a step parent, especially when they try to set rules.
          One option to consider is talking with your mother about how you feel. Your mother may be able to figure out a solution. Another option would be to talk with your school counselor about what has been going on. Sometimes talking with a professional can help you feel better.
          If you would like to talk more about this situation please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide you with support. Best of luck!
          NRS

      • My stepdad is emotionally abusive and threatened to kill me, or sometimes threatens to bash my head against the wall until there's blood on it. VERY SCARED FOR MY LIFE. And so ********ing tired of the abuse. What should I do?

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          Hey there,

          Thank you for reaching out to us today. It sounds like the situation at home with your step dad is very stressful. No one deserves to live in fear and be treated this way. You are so brave for reaching out for help.

          One thing you can do is reach out to a trusting adult or professional for help. They might be able to help you or have some suggestions on what you can do to protect yourself. You could also consider reporting the abuse. You can reach out to Child Help, the National Child Abuse Hotline. Here is their phone number 1-800-422-4453. They also have a chat available through their website at childhelp.org. These are just a couple of suggestions to consider. You can call or chat with us to discuss more options. We are available 24/7 at 1 800-786-2929 or via chat at 1800runaway.org

          -NRS

      • My stepdad is awful as well. My parents got divorced when I was 3 (right now I’m 15) and he always was just so rude. I remember when I was 13 and he started screaming at me because I was upset that he ate all my bagels my mom bought for me. I was also sitting at the counter and my mom told me I was with her that weekend, and he rolled his eyes and said “Oh Gosh”. And then he started making up lies about me and told them to my mom. He said something like I strangled my brother, which I said wasn’t true. My mom seemed to believe me. She has caught him being mean to me many times, but he doesn’t stop. I don’t know what to do, I can’t take him anymore.

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        • ccsmod15
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          Hello,

          Thanks for reaching out to us. We are sorry to hear about your situation and how your stepdad treats you like this. You deserve to be treated right. It is unfair that he ate all of your bagels that your mom bought for you and that he has made up lies about you and told them to your mom and is mean to you. It is understandable that you can’t take him anymore, and we will try to do everything we can to help.

          To begin, we would like to offer the idea to talk to your mom about how you feel if that is something that interests you. Perhaps if you do not feel comfortable talking to her directly you could use our conference call service to speak to her with a third person mediating the call to keep it respectful and on track. Another option could be if you felt interested in writing her a letter about how you feel so that you can tell her without being interrupted and in a gentle manner. If none of these options interest you then we would like to offer NAMI as a hotline to call if you would like to talk to someone about how you feel, their number is 1-800-950-6264.

          Again, we’re really glad that you reached out to us. It takes a lot to ask for help and you are trying to figure out your options which is really good to see. If you would like to talk further about your situation, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us. We’re here to listen, here to help.

      • I hate my stepdad too he tries to act like my dad and he's not and he's a ********ing pervert and child molester he's ********ing disgusting and makes me feel super ********ing unsafe and my mom doesn't give a ******** because she "loves him" but he's a sick ******** and I think I'm going to**** and he's a cheater he cheated on my mom and called it a "sexual addiction" then he yelled at me when I got mad at him for calling him out on his ********
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        • ccsmod6
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          Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your stepdad has acted extremely inappropriately with both you and your mom and it makes sense that you feel so angry and frustrated with his continued presence in your life. It is not fair or right for him to get mad at you because he does not want to take responsibility for his actions.

          If he is making you feel unsafe at home it might be a good idea to make a safety plan. That can look like planning a place for you to go to, maybe a friend’s house, and what belongings you might need if you needed to leave at a moment’s notice. It should also be clear that if you do feel in physical danger, you can call the police by dialing 911. Additionally, if you do not know somewhere you can stay, you can go to nationalsafeplace.org where you can put in your location and find the nearest safe place/youth shelter.

          If you want to talk about what other options you might have or if you want to develop some type of plan, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

          Take care,
          NRS

      • My stepdad is so annoying I’m 11 right now and he gets on my nerves my mom grounded me for 2 weeks and he come out of nowhere and says it should be two months and I got all a’s and b’s as a grade and one C and now he’s going crazy like I wish he would just disappear and leave me alone for ONCE

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        • ccsmod2
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          Hello There,
          Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now, having a stepdad that you do not get along with can be stressful.
          One option to consider is to talk with your school counselor about what has been going on. Sometimes talking to a professional can help and they may be able to provide resources. You may also want totry to talk with your other guardian about your frustrations.
          We hope that this information may be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
          NRS
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