I hate my stepdad

I have lived with my stepdad for 3 years now, and we have never got along but in the past year it has gotten worse. He gets mad over petty things such as what time I choose to have a drink (I got one while he was in the kitchen and he shouted at me saying why didn’t I have one earlier), the way that I wear my clothes (he laughs at whatever I wear), and he says that I talk too quietly (even though he talks to himself all the time). He says he wants me to spend time with him but when I go downstairs all he does is criticise me and make me feel worthless. He calls me things like “useless” and “stupid” and for the past few months I’ve felt depressed and cried myself to sleep most nights. I feel like he takes all of his anger out on me. He laughs at my pain (I have to wear splints on my legs and they burn, and when I cry or say “ouch” he laughs at me). My mum passed away so I can’t speak to her, and my other family members like my stepdad so I can’t talk to them.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your step dad. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed with a shock collar. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

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I hate with all my heart my stepdad because when he is mostly a nice person to people, In disguise, he is a deep down killer. My mom got divorced when I was 3 and for 12 years, my mom was single and she was wealthy as a chairman for Raytheon. But when my step dad came along, the first year, I thought he can make us family again, and then within that time, he became a downright b**ch. And out of my mom's net, I think (No I know) he is a male gold digger. He thinks of wiping me out everyday so it's just my mom and him, and I am like WHAT IN THE DOG S**T F**K!!! And when one time when he was on his computer, he had a prison sentence in his history and he is 48 marrying my 35 year old mom. He was charged for 25 yrs in prison for MURDER of a 17 year old, the second I saw it, I took a picture when he was in the bathroom and I showed it to my mom and she was devastated, but apparently, she did no s**t about it and she stayed with that dangerous man, So the next day, I took an attempt to run away and it failed, and the next thing I know, this seriously drunk man puts a f**kin dog electric shock collar on me and frees me when I go out with my mom and when I go to school and I am 14 like why the f**k would you do that and it's not my fault you murdured someone and you are a very dangerous man. And I need to run someone please help me.

P.S. Sorry for all foul language, I just need to clear my head and the fact I will die a teen.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension.

You mentioned some things about your stepdad's behavior that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

Stay safe,
NRS

I hate my stepdad because when I was 9, he used to smack me in the face like 10 to 15 times a day and I was getting tried of that ****. When later on he did it so hard he knocked out my 2 front teeth and it took 3 years to grow back, about when I was like 11 and 12, he used to do worse and he would start beating my *** so much that when I had enough, I slapped the **** out of him. It obviously caught 200% percent of all his attention and when I did, he came up to me and said he would throw me off the second floor window of the hose and I ran for my life and went to my room and locked the door, and when he came to my door, he unscrewed the ***** knob of my door, and my room was on the first floor of the window and I opened it and I jumped out and ran At least a mile because I have a faster metabolism then he does, on the way home, I keep telling myself in my head that he can go **** himself on his SUV and make out with it instead of my mom. He is not even my dad to begin with!!! And my mom does not give two dog **** about it and she always roams under his shadow and goes with his side because he is the "ADULT". And I try to overcome him and say that he can't do no **** and ur not even my **** dad. My parents divorced when I was unborn and my mom was pregnant. And my stepdad came along when I was 6, and then in a year, he became a giant fat piece of ****. I'm now 17 and I need to send this **** to prison. Bonus Fact: He **** on every kid in the world. This is probably him at his job, "Maybe we should turn all airplane seats into toilet seats, and save money on fuel because in order to keep the plane going, we have to keep ****".

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It seems like you are going through a difficult situation. It seems frustrating for your stepdad not to respect you.
One option to consider is to talk with your stepdad about your feelings or you can talk with your mother about how he is treating you. Another option to consider is to talk to a school counselor about what you are going through. Sometimes talking to a professional can help you feel better and they may be able to provide you with resources.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

stepdads can be bad yes my just doesnt give me the repect i deserve telling me to do chores when he gets home bofore even saying hi

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Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything. NRS is here to listen and here to help.
Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of.
We understand it’s been difficult for you forming a relationship that bonds you with your stepfather. It sounds like it has been hard communicating with him. It seems like your mom has good intentions of wanting to help but things have not changed for the better.
We’re not in a position to tell you what to do. You know the situation best.
NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
We would be glad to hear your ideas about what you think it would take to see some changes that were positive.

We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

Take care,
NRS

I’m bipolar with my step dad sometimes I get along with him sometimes I don’t... I hated him from the start when he first moved in he stole my bedroom... because apparently he had more stuff... but I stay in one bedroom with my 2 other sisters... yea it pissed me off... but I let it slide because I was still getting to know him.. It started off very bad because once he got comfortable he started to just punish us right away... he would always take all of our electronics away because we did something wrong it didn’t matter how big or small the situation was he would still do it. It was as if it was a pleasure to him... as if he liked doing it... I started to get used to it a little because he calmed down with the punishing... But I hate him so much at the moment because a family member just recently passed. And the day I was in my room crying he came up...didn’t even bother to ask if I was okay. And told me "give me your phone" he took my phone just because I didn’t make sure my brother did his chore right. I was stressing a lot because I have 4 songs to perform to a judge pretty soon...haven’t even practiced that much and its right around the corner. And I have to stay on top of watching all my siblings while being stressed about are family member... it’s as if he doesn’t care.. He tells us that he doesn’t like taking are stuff away but he has to... no he really doesn’t. It’s not my fault my brother did his chore wrong I do everything correctly... I’m 15 and I’ll be 16 pretty soon. he takes my stuff all the time like I’m a little child and yes ik I’m short ash but that’s not right to still treat me as a child. Today I got in a big fight with him... yes there was cussing involved but I couldn't help it I had too much on me and he wanted to call and start telling me crap that I didn’t want to hear he just started yelling right away. I told him that he’s not my father and that I hate him. So he took everything he bought for me from me... all I wanted was for him to actually sit down and talk like a fatherly figure... and the fact that he married my mom without permission from me makes me mad.. They been together for a year now. I tell myself all the time that I can’t wait till I move out... that I’m almost there just have to put up with it 2 more years... and it actually makes me feel better... I talk to mom about this stuff but she always says that she’s trying, or I’ll talk to him... But then he always wants to be right he thinks he’s king of the house even though my mom worked her ass off through blood sweat and tears just to buy this house... and he thinks he owns it because he pays for mostly everything... I want to be able to bond with him but can’t because this reason.... and don’t tell me to sit down and talk with both of them because I did everything like that already...

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe,
NRS

Me and my step dad don't along anymore i want to tell my mum that i dont like him but i dont know how i thought of the idea about writing her a not or something but im not sure what to put. Im feared that my mum might not like me anymore or tell me to get out the house. I might to stay but i dont want my stepdad to stay here anymore. What should i say or do i need some advice

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Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now, having a stepdad that you do not get along with can be stressful.
One option to consider is to talk with your school counselor about what has been going on. Sometimes talking to a professional can help and they may be able to provide resources. You may also want totry to talk with your other guardian about your frustrations.
We hope that this information may be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

My stepdad is so annoying I’m 11 right now and he gets on my nerves my mom grounded me for 2 weeks and he come out of nowhere and says it should be two months and I got all a’s and b’s as a grade and one C and now he’s going crazy like I wish he would just disappear and leave me alone for ONCE

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Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your stepdad has acted extremely inappropriately with both you and your mom and it makes sense that you feel so angry and frustrated with his continued presence in your life. It is not fair or right for him to get mad at you because he does not want to take responsibility for his actions.

If he is making you feel unsafe at home it might be a good idea to make a safety plan. That can look like planning a place for you to go to, maybe a friend’s house, and what belongings you might need if you needed to leave at a moment’s notice. It should also be clear that if you do feel in physical danger, you can call the police by dialing 911. Additionally, if you do not know somewhere you can stay, you can go to nationalsafeplace.org where you can put in your location and find the nearest safe place/youth shelter.

If you want to talk about what other options you might have or if you want to develop some type of plan, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

Take care,
NRS

I hate my stepdad too he tries to act like my dad and he's not and he's a ********ing pervert and child molester he's ********ing disgusting and makes me feel super ********ing unsafe and my mom doesn't give a ******** because she "loves him" but he's a sick ******** and I think I'm going to**** and he's a cheater he cheated on my mom and called it a "sexual addiction" then he yelled at me when I got mad at him for calling him out on his ********