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  • #91
    my stepdad threaten to kill me over something petty so I am thinking about reporting him but if I do report him they are going to lie and say that they did not say it and make it a false hotline report

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      Hi there,

      We are really glad that you found the NRS website and decided to reach out. Home is supposed to be somewhere safe and it sounds like your step dad is making home a dangerous environment. It is not okay for him to be making any sort of threat directed toward you.

      You do have the right to report this incident. A social worker will likely come out to your house to talk to you and everyone else in the household.We can not say for sure what the outcome will be as it is up to the discretion of the social worker. Reporting it could lead to an intervention like counseling or parenting classes which can help to make home more comfortable for you. You can contact the national child abuse hotline for support in this process and more information at 1-800-422-4453 or https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/ .

      We want to help you figure out your next steps. You do no have to make these decisions alone and we are here 24/7 to listen and help. Please do not hesitate to reach out by phone (1-800-786-2929) or via online chat services at (1800runaway.org).

      Be safe,
      NRS
      Last edited by ccsmod13; 09-19-2019, 07:42 PM.

  • #92
    I hate my stepdad sometimes i wish i could run away but i havent because i love my mom so much its like hes brainwashing her and making her agree on things shes nnever agreed with before i just want him out my life and i dont think our relationship can ever be repaired its a bitter sweet type love or its just toxic in general.sorry for the grammar mistakes had to write this fast because he watches everything i do.

    everyday i crawl in my closet and cry and scream and i am so upset and sick and tired of having to do this its to the point i cry soo much i throw up and everytime i tell my mom how i feel she shuts it down with a "thats mean and your being over dramatic so stop crying" and im always with buim cause she works all the time so its worst because i can cut our tension with a butter knife.
    Last edited by ccsmod10; 10-03-2019, 08:44 PM.

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • #93
    I haré my step das so much i cant look ay him my mom and him “brote up”UGH They still kiss and hoy prívate conversations UGHHHHH

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    • ccsmod2
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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you may be experiencing a frustrating situation. You may want to talk with a school counselor or a trusted adult about what is going on.
      If you would like to talk more about your situation please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support to you. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • #94
    I hate my stepdad, I don't think my mom notices but he is such a smart alike and he has totally changed my mom, my mom used to let me do anything but now she has all these restrictions on my phone and stuff like that, my stepdad is also always joining in conversations me and my mom are having and totally being rude to me, my mom doesn't even care tho, it's making me wonder if she even cares about how he treats me. Well I hope your guys lives are better than mine, have a nice day.

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    • #95
      Hello, thank you for reaching out! We understand you are going through a tough time right now, and we are here to help.

      To begin with, you mentioned that your stepdad has been influencing your mom when it comes to decision making. You also stated that when instances like that occur, it causes you to feel like your mom doesn’t care about you. You’re really brave for putting your current situation out in the open like that, you are not alone. With that being said, an option to explore would be to have a sit down conversation with your mom. Opening up about your feelings on how she has been restricting you in certain areas, may help you brainstorm together ways to ease certain tensions. Another thing to consider, would be letting her in on how you wish your stepdad wouldn’t intervene as much, when you two discuss personal matters. If you feel like you can’t talk with your mom about these matters, try reaching out to your school counselor, they may be able to open a better communication line between you and your guardian.

      Once again, thank you for reaching out. We understand that you are going through a tough time in your household, and appreciate you wanting to better your situation. If you feel like you need someone else to further talk to about this matter, feel free to reach out to us over the phone at 1800) 786-2929. Best of luck
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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      • #96
        Hi
        I have a stepdad that I don’t like AT ALL.In public he is friendly to me my mother and my little brother. but he’s actually a jerk. My mom is really sick and can’t move. My dad got really mad and yelled at her how she’s not cleaning, cooking or grocery shopping. I tried telling my mom I hate him but she just says that I will grow to like him. They have been married for seven years and my mom cries every night complaining how that he isn’t like this around other people. Me and my real dad hate him. And my stepdad hates my dad. I never get to see my real dad anymore. And when I did my brother would say that my mom and stepdad would fight about how I shouldn’t be going to his house! I wanna run away but I don’t wanna leave my mom or brother behind. I don’t want to talk about this to my mom or my stepdad. My real dad already knows I hate him. Please tell me what to do!

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        • ccsmod15
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          Hello there,

          Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes great courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out for help.

          We are sorry to hear that you are having a hard time at home. You don't deserve to be treated like that. Talking to other family members, and school counselors can be helpful in many situations.

          Family counseling can be helpful and you can call NAMI at 1-800-950-NAMI and they can provide you counseling resources. We also offer a conference call service where you can call us and we can do 3 way call with your parents and help come to a common ground.

          Leaving home can be hard and it can be helpful to to think about where you might live and how you might pay for food, rent, and other living expenses. We are not legal experts however, speaking generally if you are to leave home without your parents permission the police can bring you back home and whoever you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway and get in trouble with the law.

          This can be a lot to deal with and if you like you could call us at 1-800-786-2929 and we would be happy to listen to you, explore your options and provide you any resources.

          We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.

          Best
          NRS

      • #97
        When i turned 16 , that rat was there to celebrate , but my mom is at fault also for letting this intruder into our life . I know that he was paying for our apartment now because my mom had left my other step dad which i grew up with , because that one in the end , touched my older sisters leg after getting out from jail because of one incident where my mom reported the abuse of alcoholic in him that day. But anyway... Now that my mom had met this guy and startef to flirt with him and what not , And JUST like the other fling she was having too , she would have sex with a guy from a part time or facebook . she brought that fling into our old apartment and acted like if that younger stupid boy had a chance to act like our father . until when he told her that he would win MY heart and take me. THAT is when i began to realize that my mom was just letting anyone inside our home , with my brother , older sister being there , she became a shameless slut to me. Because the story is that i grew up with a step dad ever since i was born , because my mom and real dad parted ways and she had to live with that first abusive step dad of mine. And after that we met that FLING of hers in a apartment which i believe was a sexual predator after what he said about me , AND now SHE HAD to bring in another man because she couldnt afford living a single mother i dont blame, but she can choose wisely of who to let go , because the step dad i have now acts like a kid and like if my mom is obligated to him and that he wants everything his way . AND i also find it right for my brain to tell me to be careful ever since he came into the picture because of the past. My mom didnt understand the severity of mental issues that would arise inside of me , everything feels provocative , i feel like killing myself because my real dad which i never met , did that 2018 october , my whole life feels trashed by my moms decisions , i feel like theres nothing left to do with my future but to succumb to death in its peacefulness . i felt like my family was being destroyed , even though i was the youngest of my siblings , i believe i have suffered a lot because i am still by her side with him from age 16 to 18 i bearly turned 18 and he still acts like another man to me . idk if its in my head but i have trust issues that they seem to not take pity on . i feel shattered and neglected when they dont understand my reasoning and where i have come from. Maybe i have turned a bit crazy . bc i dont like him being anywhere around me , i dont want more mens eyes looking into my life ACTING like if they are there for a good intention. I fear that if i dont bark back all the time 24/7 & that i act like the respectful angel my mom wants me to be , that i could fall like a victim of perversion. Because recently , while he was fixing the room and my mom was in there , he smiled when i walked in ,calmly, even though i wasnt his wife , even though they were JUST arguing a bit before i came inside. After i was just politely visiting , my mom tells me that hugo is indeed a weird man because he changed emotions all of the sudden when i walked in . she then told me he might have feelings for me , and that he is thinking of me in another light , thatvhe is thinking of my smile , as something else . For every man my mom had met EVERYTHING seems "provocative". But for me i have the right to be impulsive and act like hell is in my way because of these monsters in my life. I wish men didnt exist , because they dont act like true men . i wish that everything changed in my eyes , but would it change in theirs?? I am 18 now and i just had an arguement because of my mental health now . i told him i didnt want him to go to the cleaners with us , because i dont like it and that he needs to stay home , because anyways he was saying that they would go until tomorrow until i told my mom to go with me alone, but he gets up anyways, acts like its his job because hes a weird idiotic jelous boy. I wish i dindt have to think every little thing over with him . i wish everything was normal but its not because i sense his stares , like one time in the cleaners he looked , while i i was passing by , he would act like a pig a minute more if i didnt stare back . he would try to creep in just like that other fling of my mom , like my first step dads hands on my older sister. Idk how to live anymore . knowing that i am surely growing up with a trauma of men a generalization of what they do in your life. I hope that i can get out of this house successfully , even though i miss a lot of school because i also dont have friends bc of my mixed emotions and inability to RELATE anymore. And that my intelligence is a bit lower now . i wish that i could go back in time , and never be born , everything , all black , not even a hallucination. I am sorry to myself that i disrespect everyone in this house now , that i cannot stand these emotions on a daily basis. I hope that i get out of this dark ink and dind clarity in my future. I hope i dont end up under a bridge. May god be with all of you and with me and my struggles. Amen

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        • ccsmod1
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          Hey there,

          Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Home should be a place where you feel safe, not somewhere where you are being sexually harassed. Since you are 18 you are considered a legal adult in most all US states and can leave home if you wish. If you are need of shelter to go to you can check out the National Homeless Shelter database by going to https://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/. There you can find shelters in your area.

          You brought up the idea of killing yourseld and never being born. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

          If you are located in a country outside of the USA, the services provided by the above organizations may or may not be available to you. You can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

          If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

          Stay safe,
          NRS

      • #98
        My step dad sexually abused me and my mom found out. She stopped it but we still live with him. And I feel betrayed because she had another child of his. I love her so much but I feel so conflicted

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        • ccsmod1
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          Hey there,

          Thanks so much for contacting us. Sharing your story with others takes a lot of courage and your really brave for reaching out. Your stepdad's actions were absolutely unacceptable and it makes sense that you wouldn't be comfortable living with him. If any abuse or harm is happening at home you do have the right to report it to Child Protective Services. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

          You should not have been abused like that by your stepdad and you are strong and resilient. It can be really hard to deal with this alone and sometimes it’s helpful to reach out to additional agencies for support. One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support and resources that you may find helpful.

          It seems like your mom may not fully understand the betrayal you feel from her. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself and your concerns about continuing to live with your stepdad.

          If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

          Stay safe,
          NRS

      • #99
        I hate my stepdad with a passion. Like all the time. My name is Jordan and I am from *** but I moved to ,Ga a few years ago. I am 15 and am a regular teenager. I hate my stepdad and want to runaway because my stepdad has been the worst person I've ever met in my life. My parents never got married and my dad lives in another state. I go back every now and then to see him but he knows I don't like my stepdad. My stepdad is **. He is the brother of the famous gospel artist and it's so weird because he acts like a different person from when he is with them than around the house. Around them he loves God oh so much but then when he gets home he a gangster throwing up gang signs and and cursing knowing his family would not tolerate that. Now i get it I am a teenager, yea i do bad stuff but at the same time he's asking like he never was like this as a kid or even worse. I never personally liked him. Ever since i met him it was like no. Like at first when him and my mom were dating, he was cool but now he has changed now that they are married. It's like he don't like me and i dont really care because i never liked him but still he violates everything. Like he literally looks for the smallest stuff to point out and get me in trouble for. Like today is the reason im writing this. I am on punishment right, and i had on some bracelets and i had a shoe string around my head and he goes " take that off your head before i make you go bald". Like what! i did nothing to him and that is why i dont look or talk to him when he comes home. He is always saying how i think im "hard" or all "cool" when i dont even think like that. He always thinks he is right. And he is such a hypocrite. I feel like he thinks that i think im hard because im taller than him. I dont even think im hard myself. He also is always threatening me on how he swear he'll "hit me so hard i'll see Jesus" or have to show me who's the "big man" of the house. Like i said before i don't think im hard but i do have experienced and trained fighting so i highly doubt he'd beat me in a fight. But anyways he is just really annoying and he knows stuff like that really gets me angry. And also everytime i got to my mom, when she talks to him he'll get mad at me saying " why you tell on me, i was only trying to make you a better young man" when he knows good and well he gets in my head. I dont want to let him but he somehow does. And he always stares at me and he obviously knows that gets to me too. So how is he a hypocrite? I remember how he told the whole house " no social media, no rap, no none of that" as soon as he gets done "preaching" he gets right on his phone or starts listening to music. I know getting on your phone you can be doing anything but he is a grown man so all he is on is social media. And even now he still does it. He has made my depression worse to the point where i dont even care about myself anymore. And my anxiety has gotten worse because of him. Im not scared of him its just that i have anger issues and i dont want to hurt him in front of my mom. Me and my mom talk about him sometimes like she'll ask do we like him and of course we all lie for him and say yes but im done lying for him. Next time she asks if we like him im going to admit everything. And he is just so.... it makes no sense. And then he always telling us how we need to make straight A's when he can't even spell simple words without asking if he spelled right or not. He is a piece of ******** dad and i hope him and my mother divorce someday. He has 2 children and for 1 he pays child support for. The other lives with us. Whenever his child is crying (btw his name is aaron and he is 1 but is already walking, talking, climbing and much more so he is really smart.) he'll rip the world in half(figure of speech, he never said that) or do whatever it takes to make sure HIS child is ok. Even if me or one of my younger siblings (because im the oldest) had whatever he wants first. But when we get hungry and ask him for something its always a no. There is soooooo much more i can talk about but i dont really care about my life anymore but as of right now i just want to find an answer to my problem. What should i do? Because my mother is no longer useful or helping and i dont want him saying anything to me about how i feel. Is there anything i can practice to keep ,me calm and ignore his ignorance and waste of space? P.s I am really sorry for all the misspelling and incorrect grammar. Thank you.
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          Hi Jordan,

          Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. It seems like you are in a tough situation with your stepdad at home since he married your mom as you mentioned. We appreciate your bravery in sharing what has been going on and reaching out to us. It takes a lot of strength to talk about some things that seem to your stepdad has done that have made you want to run away.
          It sounds unfair that he treats you differently than his child from a previous relationship. It sounds like you two do not see eye to eye on things and that sounds incredibly frustrating as you said you are fighting over even small things he points out. We know you mentioned wanting to explore trying to keep calm which we can certainly talk about coping mechanisms and trying to stay calm during frustrating times with your step dad.

          Something that may help is keeping a journal. Sometimes being able to write down how you are feeling can be cathartic and help put emotions on a page or phone screen. Also, keeping a record of how you are feeling can be helpful to have a timeline of how you were feeling previously in situations that were frustrating.

          Also, doing something to keep yourself away from your stepdad during times when you know tensions may be high can be an option. Joining an after school club, going to the library, or even getting a part time job could be ways to stay away from him and having something else to do to distract you. Or, listening to music is also a great option to try to distract yourself from your step dad and calm yourself down.
          It may be something you have tried, but we want to mention that an option could be to try to talk to your mom and stepdad about how you are being treated and how it makes you feel. You do not have to do this alone, you can always think about bringing in a third party like a friend, trusted adult, teacher, etc. to bring in a different perspective. Sometimes having help from someone outside of the family can bring attention to the issue and offer safe ways to bring about change in the home. If you do not feel that is the safest option, we can always brainstorm other ideas that you feel may work and talk about them if you can reach out to us again.

          We are glad you were able to reach out. Again, it sounds like an extremely frustrating home situation with your step dad but we are always here to listen and brainstorm options for you together if you would like. We are always here 24/7 on our phone lines at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we also have an online chat system at 1800runaway.org. We wish you the best of luck and hope to hear from you soon!

          Best,
          NRS

      • I have been mistreated by my stepfather for 10 years. Now I’m 26 years old still living with the family. I have graduated my university last year. Have worked for nine months and now trying to find another suitable job for myself. My mom married stepfather ten years ago. Actually they have officially register their marriage just current year. When I turned 18, ( at that time they have been living together for two years) I and my family decided for me to go abroad to continue studying in high school. After one year my mom got pregnant with my stepsister. I have been far away from my country and my family for about 9 years, twice a year used to come during the school breaks. Though when I come home, always had toxic environment at home. My stepfather drink a lot and comes home to beat my mom, I go against it and he used to beat me, throw me to the ground etc.. He used to be profesional wrestler so his body is big and strong enough to punch me or throw me somewhere on the ground. For ten years my mom bared to be with him for my half sister. He drinks a lot, twice a week. Comes home drunk and shouts and swears a lot. He does not pay our living expenses for example apartment monthly fee, electricity fee. Briefly, he does not take his responsibility to provide for his family, even he earn some money he spends his all money on partying and women. He had so many times cheated my mom, don’t even remember the actual number. I believe he can do some illegal things, raping, etc...
        i think from the beginning he used my mom. He chose her for the financial comforts and does not actually love her. I think my mom loves him, that’s why after all these hell of these years she doesn’t divorce him. I will soon go abroad study again. I just feel unsafe to leave her again with that monster. Also my step sister has always used to with all these toxic reality, she became ignorant for all our bad actions. Used to, that scares me most and I don’t want her to be raised in this environment.

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          Hello,

          Thank you for reaching out to NRS. Your situation sounds difficult and unfair. You deserve to be treated better and feel safe in your own home. It was very courageous of you to tell us what has been going on at home. First and foremost, you can always call the police if things at home are getting violent and you or your sister feel unsafe.

          It sounds like you are concerned about not only your own safety, but that of your sister's. You could always file an abuse report with the local police about what's happening. Or you can reach out to your state's child abuse reporting hotline or Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. Another resource is the National Domestic Violence Hotline. They can provide support as well. Their number is 1-800-799-7233.

          Of course you (or your sister) can always reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat service which you can find at www.1800runaway.org. We are available 24/7 and are completely confidential.

          Stay safe!
          National Runaway Safeline
          Last edited by ccsmod15; 10-26-2019, 01:58 PM.

      • my stepdad dosent know i have axiety and i hate loud noices and he and my sister and really whole family are loud and ill ask to be quite and get yelled and cussed at if i shhhh i get yelled at ad cussed at if i snsp to a song or somthing everyone assumes or cusses at me

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          Hey there,

          Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It sounds really frustrating to have to live with so much anxiety because of all the noise.

          It seems like your stepdad and sister aren’t fully understanding you when you are trying to relay your thoughts and feelings about the noise level in the house. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your stepdad so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

          If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

          Stay safe,
          NRS

      • My stepdad annoys me so much. He takes the role of my mom and disciplines me even when my mom doesn't think it's necessary. She won't speak up to him because shes sacred. He runs my entire house but yet he has no rights to. I honestly just want him gone so I can have my mom back. He won't even let me go out with my friends, and I barely ever get invited to anything. He a drunk and all he does is go to work and play pool. He home maybe 2 hours every day but he just sleeps. I don't get how he can make the shots in my life, but yet never be around to have me talk to him. I'm just honestly so done.

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          Hi,

          Thanks so much for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

          We are really sorry to hear that you’re so frustrated with the role your step dad is taking in your life. It sounds like you could be feeling a little isolated and upset. Reaching out takes a lot of courage, and we really appreciate you sharing your situation with us.

          Sometimes, when we talk about what we’re going through with trusted friends and adults, it is easier to navigate how we will cope and make decisions. It could be a good idea to find a trusted adult, school counselor, friend, or family member that you can talk who would understand and help you the frustration your feeling from your step dad. If you’re struggling to communicate with your mom exactly about how you’re feeling, it could be beneficial to sit down and put your thoughts into letter form. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or nervous to speak with her in person, she could see what you’re going through based on everything you put into the letter. Here at NRS, we also offer a conference call resource. We could mediate a conversation between you and your mom or step dad. It could be a good way to get your feelings across in an environment with an unbiased mediator. We hope some of this information can be helpful for you to improve your current situation at home with your mom and step dad.

          Thank you again for reaching out to us. Please don’t hesitate to call us at the National Runaway Safeline if you’d like to discuss any of this further. We would be glad to help you talk through or brainstorm any other options. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

          Best wishes,
          NRS

      • I am 14, and I’m high school.
        My parents got divorced when I was 3-4 or 5 years old. Anyways, they eventually both got remarried, and it’s always been that way. However, I’m starting to drift from me and my step dad’s relationship. He was always a dick to me about my education. I’m not a gifted student, unlike my two younger siblings, and his way to motivate me is by calling me a failure and talking crap about me for absolutely no reason. Recently, my grades didn’t come out so good on my report card, and as of now he decided that it was a good idea to permanently take it away. My mom backed the idea. They told all of us at the table that we have to contribute more to the house and that was about it. The next day, I was playing a game on the computer before he decided to yell at me that I was grounded. As of that point, skyward was down, so I couldn’t check my grades and prove to him anything, as he still thought I had 3 F’s. I tried to reason with him, but he is a complete dumbass and doesn’t care about my reasoning. He wants a progress report. I mean, who reads those anymore if you have a site online that tells you it? It’s really retarded, and I had no way to go against it really. After talking to my dad. I discussed it with my mom’s side of the family again, and their response was still no, and then threatened to give me worse consequences. I hated their side of the family for most of my life, and they always weighed me down about my grades. They never trusted me, and assumed that I was an untrustworthy scumbag, and that I’ll never change. It hurt me greatly, as I believed strongly that I’ve changed. My dad has always been there for me, along with my step mom, and I’ve succeeded in life because of them, never once did I do it for my mom or my step dad. I promised to be a greater person in 9th grade, and I am. But my mom and step dad think otherwise. I want to change my acts, and it’ll start with leaving my mom and my step dad. I dislike them A lot, and my road to success will start after I leave their house forever.

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          Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out!

          You mentioned that you’re having a lot of problems with your mom and stepdad, and the only support system that you really have out is your dad and step mom. You’re super brave for going through everything that you are enduring. With that being said, no one should have to go through that verbal abuse, and we are here to listen to whatever it is that you have to say. We care about your safety, and if you feel like you safety is ever at stake, you can text the word safe and your location to 44357. The national safe place will text you a safe place to go to, and a crisis worker will be out to assists you.

          You’re super smart for having a will to keep on going, and we applaud you for that! Unfortunately we aren’t legal experts, but if you decide to run away with your guardian’s approval, your guardian can contact the authorities, and file a runaway report. Whoever you end up staying with, may face some consequences. In the same way, you mentioned that your dad and step mom have been a good support system for you, and an option you can explore is talking to your dad, and seeing if he can speak with your mom and step dad about their ways or treating you recently. You may also consider talking to your mom about how her and your step dad’s behavior is affecting you, and show them that you really have been trying to bring your grades up. You may also give us a call at 1800) 786-2929, and we may have a conference call with you and your parents, and talk it out together, and come up with ways to handle the situation.

          Again, thank you so much for reaching out. We know you’re in a very hard situation, and we’re so proud that you are wanting to seek help. Please feel to reach out to us anytime on chat, or by phone at 1800) 786-2929. Best of luck!

      • I want to not live

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          Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are having a tough time. You sound like you are thinking about harming yourself or ending your life. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk. Be safe and Best of luck!

      • My stepdad is so bipolar and annoying he puts his anger out on a lot of people and is so grouchy all the time and it just irks me so bad. I talked to my mom about me hating him and she got defensive and said once you live someone you’ll wanna make them a good person. But it’s been years since I was like three or four years old he’s been in my life. I’m now sixteen years old and I’ve come to the point where I can’t stand being home because of him. He use to physically abuse me and my brother when we were younger and my mom never knew until we had opened up about it recently and she still didn’t do anything about it. He’s a very angry person and it annoys me at that because I just don’t see or understand what my mom sees in him. He pays the cheapest bills, and the least bills as well, he doesn’t help around the house like clean and stuff, he treats my mom like she can do anything, he’s a bum who makes messes and legit won’t pick up after himself. He’s so messy and gross I hate him so much I hate the fact that I can’t even be home comfortably without him coming home to be in such an ugly mood. My whole family on my moms side hate him just as much I wish my mom can realize how much of a horrible person he is.

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          Hey there,

          Thanks for reaching out we know that it takes a lot of courage. It sounds like life at home is really tense, you shouldn't feel uncomfortable in your own home. You mentioned that you and your brother were previously physically abused by your stepdad and this raises some concern for your well being. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

          It seems like your mom isn’t fully understanding you when you are trying to relay your thoughts and feelings about your current situation with your stepdad. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

          If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

          Stay safe,
          NRS
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