I hate my stepdad

My step dad is always yelling horrible things at me and he tends to take my brothers away from me by telling them to stay away from me. And when they wanna come with me they can't because my step dad will not let them. He yells terrible things and sometimes cuses at me and it leads me to tearing up. I tried staying away and my bedroom is upstairs and it doesn't have a door so he always disturbs me by saying nonsense and mean things to me.

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Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything that has been going on. Having an extended family sometimes can be a difficult change to adjust to. It also sounds like the relationship with your mother has been strained due to past and current issues.
You don't deserve to feel harassed and you don't deserve to be called names. You are not to blame for his behavior.

The situation sounds very upsetting and frustrating for you. We’re glad you reached out.
It’s important that you exercise self- care. Reaching out to NRS was a good start.
It is times like these where it might be nice to have a listening ear.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you during this challenging time.

We would be glad to speak with you about strategies or options that might help you to cope better with your situation.
Sometimes having a space to vent may often bring about solutions previously not thought of.

We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more about your situation and we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

You did a wonderful job reaching out today. Good for you.
We look forward to hearing from you.


Take care,
NRS

My step dad is pissing me off so much I do my best to help him by taking care of his kids and whenever I get in trouble he’ll get on my ass saying how I’m a lazy piece of ******** and how I think the entire world revolves around me but I don’t think that my own mom isn’t even on my side because she says I need a father figure to get on my ass time to time to straighten me out I’m 15 I’ve not had a dad for a long time and am doing perfectly fine I’m the best at my classes I do what I’m told and I understand I do get mad sometimes and talk back to my mom but he has no right to ******** talk me when I’m the one taking care of his kids and I understand I did mess up sometimes and that pissed him off like I will sometimes break ******** accidentally and he will just get mad and get on my ass even though it was a accident I can’t tell my own sister how I feel because she will just tell my mom and then she’ll tell him and then they both will get on my ass I feel like I have nobody to tell my problems to or anybody that can help me

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Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. Going through an abusive situation is a difficult thing to for you and your mother to be caught up in. You don’t deserve to have this happen. It’s not your fault not is it the fault of your mother.


We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. There are services available that provide support to victims of domestic violence and child abuse. The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 www.thehotline.org and Child Help 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org are two agencies that provide such services for help leaving abusive situations etc.

You were very brave for reaching out today.
We are here to listen and here to help. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 9-1-1 and seek emergency assistance immediately.

Take care and be safe,
NRS

My step dad hits me and accuses me of stuff years ago she went to see him i went with her and he hit her and broke her glasses yet the still together

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Hello –

Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. We are sorry to hear about your situation, no one deserves to be treated that way, especially by someone who is supposed to be a support system for you.

It is important to know that you have options and resources to help advocate for yourself. A great resource for you could be the National Child Abuse Hotline. You can reach them at 1-800-422-4453. You can call them anonymously to learn about the abuse reporting process, or directly report abuse to this line. They are a good resource for talking through your options if there is verbal/physical abuse going on at home.

Another option is looking into Transitional Living Program’s near you. These programs provide long-term residential services and help you develop life skills to succeed independently. To learn more about this option give us a call 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct. We can also be reached via live chat any time.

Best Wishes,

~NRS

I hate my stepdad ! I never loved him ...I know my mom loves him because he is a good man as far as providing and working but he has some qualities that makes me hate him . He wants to control me ( I’m 21) he tries to tell me how to dress ( I don’t dress slutty) when I was 18 he told my mom that the wig I had on was too long and I need to wear shorter length( I told him I was 1 and he said he didn’t care in a very rude way.he choked me when I was younger he’s hit me numerous times I wanna was not an angel but I was also still a kid. I hate his very existence and I’ve been trying soooooo hard to find a job so I can finally move out but that’s been very difficult I just feel trapped at this point and it’s very depressing having to live in the same house as this toxic person

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

I hate my step dad because he thinks he is better than me and he is so mean to me but not my bothers that why I hate him so much I just want him out of the house and just leave me
alone but he talks about me when I done something wrong and He made me cry a lot but my mom wants him here and he almost hit me and idk what I should do now if he is still living with us.....
and I wanna don’t what to be here no more and I’m done.

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Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.

We are so sorry to hear about the tragedy of losing your father. We understand how painful it must be for you. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
It sounds like you are unhappy with your stepfather and the lack of communication that seems to exist. We understand that it can be difficult at times to be able to express to one another how you feel.

It probably would feel nice to have a listening ear. Though times may become frustrating it is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed courage by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. Your feelings are important and they matter. Sometimes when faced with tough situations one consideration may be to seek support through counseling. Being able to vent and express emotions may be a way to discover coping skills.

NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you would like to seek counseling help contact NAMI 1-800-950-6264 www.nami.org


Take care,
NRS

I Hate My Stepdad So Much. My Mother & Real Dad Were Never Married. My Real Dad Was Robed & Killed In 2000. My Mother And Stepdad Had Got Married In 2011 and I Didn’t Know Nothing About It and I Don’t Like Him. I Wish That My Real Father Was Alive.

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Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen.
It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone. It can be frustrating when your step parent tries to overstep boundaries.
To help you further we would need to know more about your situation. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

honestly same mine is so annoying thinking that I'm his "kid" BUT I'M NOT!??? And my mom does the exact same thing!!

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Hi, thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like you are in a very scary situation at home between your stepdad being so abusive and awful towards you, and your mom allowing it or doing it too. You don’t deserve to be treated this way and it is wrong. You are very brave and smart for finding us and telling us what’s wrong.

We are very sorry that the police don’t help you, it seems like they should, but they can only act to help you if there is obvious physical violence. One place to try and get help is through a trusted adult through school. If you have a school counselor or social worker, you can copy and paste the message you sent us and email it to them if you’re not in school right now.

You can also call www.childhelp.org, the National Child Abuse Hotline. We are also here for you. We can help you make an abuse report, or help you identify other options you have.

We would like to talk this over with you and help you and we are here for you 24/7 to help you make a plan that you feel comfortable with. The best way for us to help you is if we can talk together either by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or via live chat through www.1800runaway.org We are here to listen and help, and we hope to hear from you soon.
Sincerely,
NRS

I hate my stepdad. First things first, I am 11. My stepdad shoves me and calls me horrible names daily. He yells at me, shoves me around, favorites my sister, and manipulates my mom into thinking that I am a disrespectful *******. He has been living here for more than a year, and has not changed one bit. The police have been called on him many times and nothing has changed. When he accidentally left his jacket on the floor today, he screamed at me and said “YOU ********ING LAZY PUNK” “WHY THE HELL DID YOU LEAVE MY ********ING JACKET ON THE FLOOR” All the while my mom just watches and does nothing. This has turned into a cycle, him yelling at me, cussing at me, and my mom doing nothing. He buys expensive gifts for my sister daily, and while giving her those gifts, saying to me that “You don’t deserve ANYTHING you little prick” My mom will not hear a single bad word about him. He manipulated her into yelling at me, and her harming me physically and emotionally. As I am writing this, she just took out all the electricity from my room (from my stepdad’s request) Now my sister, my mom, and my stepdad are all against me. I can’t even go down for food or water because my mom and my stepdad will yell at me. Every single day, he taunts me like “You seem to be changing topics a lot. See, real people don’t need to change topics” or “Shut up. You’re acting like a ********ing baby”. It is impossible to get in a word against him because he raises his voice continually until he is bellowing so hard. My biological dad cannot help because he is homeless. Every single day is filled with dread on my behalf from today’s argument.

Now there is a rule in the house that “Anyone that talks bad about Will (my stepdad) gets punished severely.” I can’t even see my dad anymore because my stepdad does not allow it. I have not eaten for 11 hours because I don’t want to go downstairs and get yelled at. When his son arrives, I am required to be “friends with him” or get a severe punishment. Please help me, I don’t know what to do.
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