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  • #46
    You have no idea how much I despise my stepdad. He emotionally and verbally abuse my sister and I. Like today, my mom and I was just laughing in the living room and he comes from the kitchen and says what are you doing to make her laugh like that to my mom about me. And we stopped laughing obviously and then he said “yeah keep laughing you little btch”. As a person that does not cuss, I find it very offensive for my own stepdad to say that to me. And this is not the first time, he said the f word and many other forms of disses to me. He doesn’t get along with my moms half of the family but he forces to be nice to his side of the family. He doesn’t allow my mom to go anywhere alone, cuz he thinks she’s going to have sex with a man every chance she gets. He thinks we’re always lying to him no matter what. I’ve lived with him for 10 years now. I’m 17 and I know I can’t afford to live by myself even after I turn 18. But I really wish somehow I can go live somewhere else with just my mom and sister. My sister is 27 so once she settles and get a house, I’m gonna ask her if I can live with her and go to college. I feel bad for my mom I can’t take her with me but I really can’t stand him. But I think this would be best for everyone’s physical health and mental health. But come on, all I did was laugh. And he’s upset about that? I’m crying almost everyday because of how awful of a person he is.

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    • ccsmod8
      ccsmod8 commented
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      Hello there –

      Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline on our public forum. It seems like there must be a lot going on in your life especially at home with all the threats and abuse from your step-father. No one deserves to be treated and talked to like that and even isolating your mother. We are here to help you in any way that we can.

      Like you have probably read on other post and threads, what typically happens in each state is if you are below the legal age of majority (18 in most states except Alabama and Nebraska [19 or upon marriage], and Mississippi [21]), your parents or legal guardian would be able to make a runaway report in the event that you do run away. Since it’s only considered a statues offense and not a crime to run away, the only thing that would happen is that the police will pick you up and bring you back home. This is of course if you had any interaction with the police directly or if they stopped you to ask you a few questions. Your mother since she is your legal guardian (not your step-father) may give you permission to live with another family, but without getting an official document from the court she would still be legally responsible for you. Which means that they can also take away that permission at any given moment and take you back home to live with them once again.

      As far as your mother goes, there might be some solutions that you and her can come up with together in the event that you do leave. Sometimes those that are in abusive situations come up with “safely plans” in case things do get to the point where they aren’t very safe and need to get away. So coming up with a safety word and a plan of where she can go and be contacted might help put your mind as ease if you chose to leave home. If you are concerned about this and would like to talk to someone about this situation between your step-father and your mother, you can always reach out to the “National Domestic Violence Hotline” (1.800.799.7233). They can help you with answering some questions that you might have or even help you think of that safely plan for your mother.

      Hope that this information helps!
      Last edited by ccsmod8; 02-20-2019, 03:24 PM.

  • #47
    My stepdad made me cry and he hit me in the head with a glass bowl and i was bleeding and he pushed me down the stairs and punched me multiple times and i get weaker and weaker cause he beats me. im only 12 years old.He made me stand outside with a sign rape me im a s*ut and i should just die.And i ran away for one night and fell asleep at the park.I just cant..Deal with him.He blames me for everything too and i get in trouble );

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    • ccsmod5
      ccsmod5 commented
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      Thank you so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It sounds like home is really dangerous for you and you are looking for ways to leave. You do not deserve the way your step dad treats you and it is not your fault. Home should be somewhere you feel safe and loved. It is understandable you would be feeling overwhelmed and would want to run away.
      You can always call 911 if you are in danger or your dad does something that makes you feel unsafe. One option could be to file a child abuse report. If you wanted to know more about this or needed help filing the report, the number for the National Child Abuse Hotline is 1-800-422-4453. We can also help with this and talk more in detail about what this might look like if you decide to call or chat us. You may also want to think of some adults in your life who you can trust and feel comfortable talking to like another family member or a teacher at school. If you do feel like leaving again for the night you could go to nationalsafeplace.org to find a safe place to go.
      We encourage you to reach out through phone or chat if you want to talk more about your situation and your possible options, 1-800-786-2929 or 1800runaway.org. Your safety is important and we are here 24/7 to listen.

  • #48
    I hate my stepfather. He married my mother to receive legal status here in the U.S. He's been abusive to my mother (hitting her aggresively on two occasions) but because they have 2 daughters(my younger sisters), she never wanted to file a report against him in fear he'd get deported. He's been in my life since I was four but when they got married, his true colors came out. He became cold with my mother and me and has stated on various occasions that he doesn't care if we starve (since he cooks). I am 20 now and still live at home and my stepdad always makes a lot of food but whenever I have a plate, he complains to my mother so I only eat one meal a day in my house but now I'm pregnant and I'm worried about my baby. I don't know what to do, I want to move out but I don't want to leave my mom here alone but I've literally had to live unhappy in my house for 16 years. Part of me wants to call immigration because he married my mom with false intentions but he's used her to obtain up to Residency and he'd take the test to become a citizen but he's not book smart(this is a fact, his parents paid his teachers to pass him to the next grade all of high school, he's said so himself). I grew up without my father so part of me could never be the reason he gets deported because I couldn't do that to my sisters. I've been miserable in my own house since I was at least 14 and I even considered living in my car because I feel judged here 24/7, everything I do gets a complaint from him to my mother. I never wanted to hate, that's a strong word but I hate him more than anything in the world. I was just a kid when he married my mom, I don't know what I did to him to treat me this way, I think he wishes I never existed so it'd be just the 4 of them. Please help me, I don't what to do, I just need someone to listen and believe me.

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    • ccsmod2
      ccsmod2 commented
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      Hi. Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing part of your story with us. It sounds like you have endured quite a lot of the past few years and we can only imagine how stressful that might’ve been for you. We believe your story and admire your resilience. It’s understandable why you would express concern about reporting your step dad to immigration or police in fear he may get deported and it may have a negative impact on your siblings. It sounds like you are in a position to make a tough decision. You could try talking with your step dad and/or your mother about how your situation at home makes you feel and maybe even discuss if they would be open to some counseling resources. If this isn’t an option or if this doesn’t work you may also want to consider letting your mother know that you are planning to move out and that she and your sisters are welcome to come if you are open to that. We do want you to know that we believe your story and are always here to listen and support at any time. If you want to discuss a little bit more about your situation and explore options a bit more please feel free to contact us via phone at 1800-runaway or via chat at 1800runaway.org.

  • #49
    I do too , he annoys THE CRAP OUT OF ME , he acts like a child , he makes up words for food , and my mom likes it , hes so lazy he never takes stairs , and he thinks money is going to make him fit it when all he can get is a thank you, he makes my life so hard

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for reaching out to us NRS. We understand it takes great courage to reach out for help.

      We are sorry that things have been so difficult. It sounds like you are thinking about leaving home. Leaving home can be hard and it can be helpful to think about where you might stay for food, rent, or other living expenses. It can be unsafe to outside on many situations. We are not legal experts however if you are to leave home there is a chance that if your parents are to file a police report the police can bring you back home and whoever you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway. If there is any abuse going on you can call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 and they can help you file an abuse report.
      If your safety is at risk you can call 911.

      Talking to family members, friends or school counselor can be helpful in many cases. Family counseling can be helpful in many situations. You could contact SAMHSA at 1-800-422-4453 for any counseling resources. We also offer a conference call service where you could call us and we can conference call with your parents and help come to a common ground.

      We are here to support you through this hard time, listen to you and explore options. You can call us at 1-800-786-2929 or live chat with us at www.1800runaway.org and click chat. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.
      Best,
      NRS

  • #50
    my Name is Reaghan and I hate my stb stepdad Spencer. He lives in this trashy trailer with his gay son. We moved in with them bc my Moms house was taken back by the bank. I can’t stamd this. We moved so far away I don’t see my dad much.

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    • ccsmod9
      ccsmod9 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • #51
    He's so mean and annoying. My mom tells me that there are people with worse stepdads but still. Why is it okay for my stepdad to treat me and his own son (my brother which is 10 years old) horrible. I'm a 14 year old girl and everyone has told me well it's a teenager thing. Teens always hate their stepdads. Well come be in my shoes for a week. He has gotten into my face before and says horrible mean things to me to make it to were I hate my life. Since I was 11 I've hated him. He controls my life, doesn't knock half the time, goes threw all my things, and way more. I've vented to my mom a million times about him and she tells me "oh I'll talk to him" well it's either she never does or it gets worse and he comes to me and say "Wow why did you tell your mom?"And when he says mean things to me in front of people and especially my mom she doesn't do anything. She's always on his side no matter what. I've gone threw severe depression for the past 3 years to where I almost killed myself a coupe times but I can't because all I think about is my brother. He'll have a way worse life without me and I also think about my friends, my mom, other family members and my boyfriend. It'll be horrible pain for all them because I'm very close to all them. My real dad wants nothing to do with me only meet him twice in 14 years and recently Something happened at home cps came and talked to cops but nothing happened to my stepdad or me. All that happened was it got me into a lot of trouble and got pulled out of school and currently home-schooled. And it was exactly about him and me trying to go away and be with my dad and have a decent life (which we found out my dad is currently under house arrest for drinking and driving.) My brother yesterday told me he wanted to kill himself and that he was unhappy because of his dad (which is my stepdad). It has gotten to the point my boyfriend has almost hired someone to get my stepdad under control and put him into his place. And my own guy friend to do the same as my boyfriend. My friends and many of my family members have witnessed mean rude things being said to me to where my friends don't even want to come over and hangout. I don't know what to do anymore for me and my brother. I don't want him to go threw depression like I did and go threw pain and mean things from his dad like I did. I want better for him than what I had.

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    • ccsmod2
      ccsmod2 commented
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      Hello and thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

      It sounds like you are in a stressful situation! Living with family members can be tough, especially when you feel like you are being mistreated. Nobody deserves to be abused, and it’s understandable that you feel frustrated at home considering the circumstances you described. Please know that you can call the National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 to discuss your situation further, see what options you have to get help, and possibly file an abuse report if you are interested.
      You shared a lot with us here and we want to thank you for opening up about so much. It sounds like you have really been thinking about ending your life which is a really serious concern. We are happy to hear all that you have to live for but tIt sounds like you have tried to talk about these thoughts before and no one has been that supportive which is really unfortunate. We’d like to provide you the National Suicide Hotline at ( 800 ) 273 TALK( 8255). This is a line that you can call any time, and trained counselors can help you through whatever you may be feeling in the moment or long term. They also have a chat program that you can access here: suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

      Another option we have here at the National Runaway Safeline is a conference call. We could get you and your step-father grandma on the phone with us at the same time, and we could make sure that you are able to say how you are feeling and come up with a plan together for you to feel better at home. Sometimes it helps to have some support when talking to adults, and we are here to help you if that’s what you want to do.
      Finding ways to manage your stress and cope with these problems could also make them easier to handle. Thinking about what helps you relax could help identify ways to cope. You may want to keep a journal or do something artistic or just find a place to be alone away from your mom and brother where you can listen to music or read or something else that helps you feel calm. Taking care of yourself is important, and we are glad you are seeking help.
      We are here to support you in whatever decision you make. It takes courage and maturity to reach out to us like you have, and we want home to be a safe place for you. We appreciate you contacting us, and hope you will again in the future if needed. If you ever need to talk, or if you would like to discuss more options, please feel free to call us at 1(800)RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      Best,

      NRS

  • #52
    My stepdad is so annoying, he accuses me of the silliest things (like taking a chocolate bar!) he also shout at me for buying sweets with MY OWN money! It’s my money! My dad is the best thing in my life and he cannot substitute him, I only see my dad twice a week but he knows I love him. Sometimes Ian ish I saw my stepdad twice a week! My mum and I were perfectly happy on our own before she married him! He can be alright sometimes but he just does things to trigger my hormones, I’m nearly 13, and I can’t invite my mates round without him swearing, smoking or intruding into MY time and MY personal space!

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    • ccsmod6
      ccsmod6 commented
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      Hi. Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline and sharing a piece of your story with us. It sounds like you may be having some trouble adapting to your mother and fathers separation which may also make having a step-father a bit difficult to adjust to. It certainly doesn’t makes things easier when he does little things that you may find annoying so it’s understandable why you would be a bit frustrated. It might be helpful to try and change your perspective or the way you look at things that may be beyond your control. Maybe you could try to not look at your step-dad as a replacement or a substitute because your biological father is still in your life. Maybe instead you can look at your stepdad as a second father figure in your life as a result of marriage. In addition, adjusting to a new home situation is tough in general and if you think you need someone to speak to help process your thoughts and feelings you may even want to consider therapy. You can also reach out to our hotline at any time if you would like to discuss your situation further or are in need of any referrals. Please do not hesitate to give us a call at 1800-runaway or come chat with us at 1800runaway.org. All the best, NRS.

  • #53
    My stepdad is a an alcoholic once he gets drinking how won’t quit. Every time he drinks he fights with my mom and is sometimes a jerk to me. Like tonight I saw my mom crying so I went to check on her and was looking at her face and he shoved me away and told me to get away from her. When he pushed me I shoved his hand away and told him not to touch me and he went all ballistic yelling and fighting with me. He’s arguing over our mechanics girlfriend who is total rude to my mother and I like she made my mom cry and called me a ********** and makes us feel uncomfortable in our house. Like he was siding with the mechanic saying we should be nicer but I mean we have been but everything she does gets overlooked and I’m really close to beating the crap Out of her. My life is aready complicated enough I’m fighting depression, anxiety, I’m trying to fight an eating disorder so all in all I’m losing my cool. My mom works for the family company, but if we left she wouldn’t have a job I’m 17 but also homeschooled and I go to a really good high school program through a university. I don’t know what to do I know I hate it here and my mom loves him but she’s so tired of the fighting I mean I’m on the whole other end of the house and I can hear him yelling. I’m behind and I’m worried if we leave I have to lose all that’s ive worked hard for on school but I want my mom safe. Am I overreacting?

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    • ccsmod9
      ccsmod9 commented
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      Hello,

      You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, it can help both you and your mom. A good idea might be to tell what you think and how you are feeling. And if you feel threatened you can always feel free to contact someone like the police or child services or even the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800)-799-7233.
      Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
      Take care,
      NRS

  • #54
    I feel the same I will always hate my step dad because how he treats me

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    • ccsmod5
      ccsmod5 commented
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      Thank you for your message. It sounds like you are having a difficult time with your stepdad. You definitely deserve to feel loved and supported! We are here to listen and help locate resources, brainstorm options, or just as someone to talk to. Please feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929 any time. We wish you all the best!
      --NRS

  • #55
    I've always been a happy kid, but there are some people in this world who deserve karma. That is, some of the rude people who are SUPPOSABLY in my family. My stepdad.

    My mom divorced my dad because he always smoked and drank. He still does to this day. Then, my mom got together with my stepdad. My dad told me that one time, he put a hole in my stepdad's tire. My dad lost his driver's licence because of this, but it was WORTH IT. >:-) (this was a long time ago, by the way.)

    Since my mom and stepdad got together, I have two new stepsiblings who are really cool. The only person that I have a problem with is my stepdad.

    He's always been annoying and rude. Sometimes, he's rude for no reason. Him and my mom argue a lot, so WHY CAN'T THEY JUST BREAK UP ALREADY?!??!! IF YOU'RE TIRED OF THE SAME CRAP EVERYDAY, THEN JUST GET THE HELL OUT OF MY FAMILY!!!!

    Around last year, I finally noticed how he clears his throat all the time. It's preventing me from doing anything without wanting to bang my head against the wall. Just a note, I have Asperger's Syndrome, which is a type of autism. It makes me more emotional and I have some issues. When I look at an image on my phone, I'm constantly worrying that he's gonna clear his throat and make the situation more cringey. This ******** prevents me from doing ANYTHING. AND I'M SICK AND TIRED OF IT!!!!

    Sometimes he tries to act all cool, then later he starts being an asshole for no reason. The worst part is, I've talked to him about his chronic condition, and he just said, "Uhh, you do crap that annoys me all the time, so I can do whatever I want!" That's basically what he said.

    Currently, I'm 13 and him and my mom got married. Great. Just ********ing excellent.

    All this annoying crap makes me constantly not want to do activities on my phone with my online friends, and I can't even feel the freedom to look up whatever I want with this crap happening! He needs to burn in hell. I've tried talking about it, but I'm scared that people aren't going to understand.

    Sorry for cussing. I just need to get rid of one of the demons inside of my head. There's still tons more, but that's progress.

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    • ccsmod2
      ccsmod2 commented
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      Hello There,
      Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. Wow it sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. And you do not need to apologize, you can express yourself however you want with us. Living and having to deal with stepparents can be really difficult. One option you could consider is talking to your mother how you are feeling, maybe talking with your mother would be able to help.
      Also you mentioned that you stepdad clearing his throat really annoys you. One option you could do is try and block it out, or think of something else while he is doing it. People sometimes do things that annoy us that they really can’t help or change unfortunately. We are glad that you get along with your stepsiblings. Sometimes having people to talk to and vent to can help too. You could consider talking to your school counselor or a therapist about what is going on, sometimes talking to a professional can help you feel better.
      We wish you the best of luck in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options further please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • #56
    i hate my step dad, he treats me differently than my mom. he is really nice to my mom. but when my mom is not there, all he care about is himself and yell at my face. he never curse in front of my mom, but he curse at my face, and he even said he did everything for me and i just get mad and cry like a baby even though he gave me nothing, all of them is from my mom.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Thank you very much for reaching out! It sounds like home is not feeling very supportive to you at the moment given the way your step-dad treats you. You do not deserve to be cursed at, especially by someone who should make you feel supported not hurt.
      Have you ever spoken to your step-dad about how you feel about his behavior? It seems like something definitely needs to change. Sometimes, if you are not comfortable saying something in person, writing a letter can be an effective way to express your thoughts. Also, since your step-dad seems to have more effective communication with your mom, have you thought about asking your mom to express your concerns to your step-dad? Furthermore, we do offer conference calls where we can act as a mediator in a conversation with you and your parents to try to work through the situation and come up with a middle ground. If that sounds like something of interest to you, please do not hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.
      Once again, it takes a lot of guts to reach out. If you would like to talk about your situation further, we are here to listen and here to help.

  • #57
    My parents act like perfect christian parents but im so depressed and my mom flat out ignores it while my stepdad and I don't even want to acknowledge each other anymore and when we do he acts all high and mighty even though hes mean and oblivious. My stepdad acts as if im such a horrible child and he tells me to chill or stop having an attuid anytime i talk and he even told me to stop reading fiction books and read selfhelp books instead its gotten to the point where i cant even stand being near him anyone and he frustrates me so much and when I tell him i dislike church he yells at me and takes my phone or he scolfs or tells me i have an attuide even if i tell him my feelings as kindly as possible and its frustrating because he calls himself my dad which he will never be.and im just so done and tired of him. I know that before he married my mom he did drugs and left his family and I hate how nowadays hes like ohhhhh people who do that are awful and he remarks about how great he is... Or when my school called the police to my house because I useto cut my parents went crazy my mom looked at me with eyes made out of ice and refused to talk to me and my stepdad remarked that i was insane and had demons inside me and how I wasnt (insert my name) and he just screamed and screamed and said I cant go to my grandmas when I said I coulnt live here anyone and I ran to my room and sobed and I just cant anyone... I love my mom but I cant deal with mystepdad anymore he said my depression is just demons and that I over react and when i cry or sad he/my mom ingores me or yells at me to stop...

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. Wow it sounds like you are going through a very difficult time right now. We understand that having stepparents can be really difficult, and you do not deserve to be treated that way. Depression and self-injury can be really difficult to have to deal with on your own. One option you could consider is to try and talk to a school counselor or a therapist about what is going on. Sometimes talking to a professional can help us feel better and they may be able to provide you with additional resources. Another option you could consider is calling NAMI (national alliance for mental illnesses), they can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI.
      Another option you may want to consider is at NRS we offer conference calling where if you call us we can call out to your parents. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to mediate the conversation and provide support to you. Also whenever you are feeling down you could try and do hobbies you enjoy to distract you from how you are feeling. Also you could try and ask for permission to stay at a friend’s or family member’s house so you are able to take a small break from your stepdad.
      We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
      NRS

  • #58
    I get you.. my step dad is soooooo annoying as well.. he always calls my mom a cheater and when he was mad at her e salads her a ********** and ***** and every time I try to tell my family he or my mom some how find out and one time he said "If you tell any of your family members we'll send you to a psych ward" this scares me because I was once suicidal.. used to cut myself but that was 3 years ago so I'm not that worried about it... and my stepdad has grabbed me by the hair and thrown me and left bruises on my thighs.. he also got pissed off at my sister and punched her in the head and than she started crying.. plz help me find a way out of here.
    Last edited by ccsmod1; 04-23-2019, 02:57 AM.

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      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you should be able to feel safe and secure at home. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      You mentioned some things about your stepdad's behavior that raises concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. If this is something you're considering it can often be helpful to an investigation to document the injuries that may have occurred from the abuse (take pictures of the bruises on your thighs, etc.)

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      All the best,
      NRS

  • #59
    i hate my stepdad, hes mentally abusing . Hes so annoying that he even makes his own daughter have a panic attack . He even called her a $#**$ and me and my sister a ********** . He called my mom a ********ing moron, my mom is married to a ********ing psycho. he used to do drugs , and so did my stepsisters mom. He stopped , but her mom did not . my mom is hypnotized by him every time this happens my mom does nothing , and i feel the blame for it . idk why , but i just do. it gets really bad and i start to feel dizzy and i do not know what is happening. one time my mom and my stepdad were on the same side and they kicked me out of the house , i had to live with my dad for awhile. i get really sad and start crying. sometimes i feel i cant take it anymore , and i want to kill myself and i jus think its best for everyone including me ,but then i realize that its not it will only make it worse . thanks for listening usually no one does.
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      ccsmod9 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe and stay strong,
      NRS

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    i can’t stand my step dad. so here’s some background. i’m fourteen and i have two siblings. my sister who is sixteen and my brother who is twenty one. both of them are my half siblings. my sister and i share a dad but have different moms. my brother and i share a mom and have different dads. my brothers dad is named keith. and he left my mom and my brother when my brother was a baby. my mom would always talk about how much she hated him and all of that. my parents have always had problems. my mom and dad were always fighting and i don’t have very good memories from my childhood. my parents drank a lot. when i was about 11 my dads drinking got a lot worse to the point where he would yell and throw things. he never hurt me or my mom. he suspected that my mom was cheating on him with keith. my brother was in juvie at the time so my mom and keith were talking a lot. they split up when i was around 12. my brother was out of juvie and was living with my mom he brought his girlfriend. he had dropped out of school. my dad was living with his parents out of town and i only saw him on the weekends. my brother threw parties very often. one night keith comes to the party. he seemed alright but i didn’t get why he was there. at the end of the night i made him a bed on the couch only to find him sleeping in my moms bed with her. soon after he moved in with his son jonah. in august of 2017 ( i was 12) i experienced a very traumatic event. my whole family brushed it off like it was nothing. i wasn’t okay. i’m still not okay. i don’t trust my mom to be able to keep me safe. when i was young (like 4- my cousin who was my age would molest me and my sister whenever we spent the night. one time my mom caught him undressing me and trying to have sex with me. i recently found out she knew the whole time. my dad had no idea. my sister and i told him last year. he was livid. she said she never did anything because she didn’t want to upset the family or cause drama and it was really no big deal. i still have a hard time being intimate with men and developed an eating disorder last year. well anyway back to my step dad. he is so childish. he is unemployed and a felon. he is rude and selfish and a pig. i can’t stand him. he talks about me behind my back and insults me to my face. he says my singing makes his ears bleed and that my mom would be better off without me. ive tried talking to my mom about it but she tells me i need to get over it and be happy for her. i don’t feel like she needs me. i’m not happy. i haven’t been happy for years. i lash out and do stupid things from anger. about a year ago my mom and my step dad moved to california. i was so hurt and angry. my mom never even said goodbye. i didn’t talk to her for months and keith says that was the best time of his life. he blames my mom for everything. he sold his truck in order to move and somehow it’s my moms fault. i hate how he talks to her sometimes. he never lets just me an her do something. once i had to live with my mom because of issues with my dad and i wanted to ask her advice on the situation. i asked keith for permission to talk to her and he said yes. i go to talk to her and keith just walks in the room sits down and says he has been listening and has advice for me. i was so mad. i appreciate he wants to help but i didn’t want his advice. he is always rude to me and his son says he wants me dead. i told my my i used to self harm and was close to relapsing. she said she’d ground me and make my life a living hell if i did. once i had to have her drive me to a friends house because she had taken a bunch of pills and would have died. keith constantly leaves for days at a time doing god knows what. i ran off after trying to talk to my mom and her ignoring me. i don’t know what to do or where to go. i’m happy for her but does she have to be happy at my expense?

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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You should be able to live somewhere where you feel safe and secure and it sounds like your mom and Keith aren't providing that from you. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

      You mentioned that something had previously happened to you that was brushed off by the family but that you aren't over. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. If there was any kind of sexual abuse/rape, one really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support, and resources that you may find helpful.

      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      All the best,
      NRS
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