I hate my stepdad

I am 16 years old and Canadian my dad lives in another province and I want to live with him me and my brother live in a separate house and my stepdad has been trying to ruin my life because he doesn’t like me and I don’t like him. He acts nice around my mother but when it’s just me and him he makes it clear he doesn’t like me and that I’m lucky I’m not under his roof or he would make sure get after me for everything and make me miserable. He manipulated my mom into thinking that I do hard drugs and I’m going no where in life and now my mom is making me move back in with her and him. Am I of age to choose what parent I want to live with? Is there anyway I could move in with my dad he hasn’t had custody over me since 2010. Could I move In with an older sibling that has kids and is 25+? I am not a run away risk what so ever I would just rather not live with him but if I have to it is what it is.

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help, and we’re glad you did. We are sorry to hear that things at home and with your stepdad are so difficult. Everyone deserves to feel safe at home, and to have someone to share their feelings with when things get overwhelming. It may be helpful to share your feelings and concerns about what is going on at home with a friend, a relative, or a trusted adult at school like a teacher or social worker.

It can be hard to talk about running away or suicidal feelings, and so we are also here to listen and help. You can speak with us at any time by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is also another good resource if you are feeling depressed, overwhelmed, or thinking about suicide. You can reach their 24-hour hotline at 1-800-273-8255, or online at www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org. Your safety is always our first priority, and we are here if you would like to talk about running away. It can be helpful to process with another person and talk through your plans to make sure you’re staying safe! We hope that things at home get easier. If you ever want to call us to discuss this all further, we are always here to listen, here to help. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We hope to hear from you soon.

Best of luck,
NRS

I want to run away or kill myself just so I can get away from my step dad

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,

NRS

can my step dad hit me??

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,

NRS

I hate my stepdad sm. He hits me and doesn’t respect me at all so how does he think imma finna respect him too. Nd my mom Nd him fight almost every week. Plz tell me what should I do.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. It seems like you are going through a lot of emotions due to how your step-dad treats you and still want to continue spending time with your mom but that its being balanced against your mental health and need to stay away from your step-dad there.
If you want to brainstorm some options, we can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

I'm 13 and I already want to run away because of my stepdad already. My parents are divorced and I have two homes, my dad is single and my mom is engaged to my stepdad. I love my mom, I really do, but if it wasn't for my ******* stepdad I would actually want to go. He always looks for the smallest things to yell at me. He would make rude jokes saying "I know everything" but one day I said "Yeah, I do." but he acted like a ***** and yelled at me. Like what the ****, you said that so don't act like an a**hole! He even looked through my phone once and inappropriate things were in there like you have to understand, I am a teenager going through puberty so expect that ****! And the audacity to look through my phone without my permission? That's a whole *** stranger, and I wish death on him! I want him at least to break up with my ******* mother, I hate him with all my guts and I do not regret saying this! Please help, I told my mom about him but she never listens.

- Hopeless teen.

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Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. What you have been experiencing sounds very sad and very, very unfair. You do not deserve to be treated this way by your stepdad. It’s not your fault that he behaves this way. It sounds like there has been some physical and emotionally abuse. Your feelings are important and they matter. You don’t deserve to be hurt by anyone. It is not your fault that this has happened to you.
You are deserving as anyone that wants to be happy.

We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

If you are feeling depressed or suicidal we encourage you to reach out to the National Suicide prevention Lifeline at: 1-800-273-8255 for immediate support.
You did a good thing by reaching out to NRS. Good for you.

Take care,
NRS

I DESPISE my stepdad. He always, ALWAYS messes with me. When me and my older brother always had it bad with a "father figure" but when he came along it was just too much. I was four when he came. And we would play these sick games, like I will hit your hand with a belt 100 times. Stuff like that. Years later, around 7 years, I am now 12 and now, he is just emotional or whatever. He always annoys me, he uses power that he dosen't even have. I have talked with my mom about it many times, but she just says "I'll talk to him" But it never works. Now it is really affecting me, I am now have suicidal thoughts, I just want him gone. I've asked her. I just wanna get away from this horror, I just want a way out. But there is no way out. I have a good relationship with my mom, but I dont know if it will stay that way, if she chooses him over my brother and me then, I would be ruined for life. I would only have one way out. What should I do? I have tried breaking them up, it really didn't work, I've asked her to leave him. What should I do? please let me know. But I can tell you, talking with him is not an answer, he's strong and can really hurt me or anyone in the household. Please tell me, I'm desperate!

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. You don’t deserve to be treated differently by your step-dad and arbitrarily treated poorly by him.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

I really hate my step dad he treats me like ******** and threats her daughter hood and thinks she didn't start it and think I did I want my real dad back

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

Like plenty of other people here, I really dislike my step-dad. And before I rant here, I just want to say thank you to the moderators here who keep responding to people like me who are going through the same feelings. Basically, I feel imprisoned in my own home when my step-dad is here most of the time. Sometimes even I think to myself that I'm ungrateful, because he helps to provide for my family and my baby brother, who just turned a year old today. He can also try and be nice sometimes.. but other than that, I feel like our family is toxic. I'm 11 and I've known him since I was around 8-9, and I moved to the US when I was 9 because of him. Lately, I've been feeling a bit down, and I feel as if he's largely affected my mental health in a not-so-good way. Basically, I've been hearing him and my mom get into arguments for quite a long time now, that it has became normal. Also, back around 2 years ago, he got drunk and became really violent. I know it was a long time ago, and he doesn't drink anymore, but the thought of it alone was really terrifying. We went to a drive-thru and my mom got me food. It all started because he threw it away. Foolishly, I got upset and told my mom and that's when everything happened. She went to get me water when my dad came down the stairs and I think he broke the glass. He and my mom were also arguing, and it came to the point where I opened my window and screamed for help, but no one heard me. My mom tried to lock us in my room, but he violently broke it open, and we both got scared. I can't remember much else, but the next day I think he became more violent, where it came to the point we had to call the police. I can't recall much after that. I was scared. I still am now. I also feel like he doesn't want me to do my own thing and judges whatever I do, and he's also judgmental with my mom sometimes as well. For this part, I probably sound like a petty person but lately he's been taking away my devices. For me, being online is like my safe haven, as I have lots of friends I can contact there. He just always takes it away from me, even when I don't do anything. He doesn't empathize or sympathize with me, and occasionally my mother too. Yet, sometimes she still takes his side and defends him. I can't even cry in my own home, or display sad or angry feelings when I need to. In result I just keep everything in my own thoughts, like a storm in my head. It's mostly small things he does that makes me feel somewhat annoyed or sad. I feel like he doesn't care much about my feelings or mental health, and he and my mother think I'm always overdramatic. I also feel that he shows favoritism between me and my brother, and never lets me enjoy myself. I also think he doesn't trust me. He doesn't respect whether I'm comfortable with things or not, and it seems like he expects - or demands my respect and obedience. He forces me to do things I'm not used to, and a parenting style I'm not used to either because according to him I was, in fact, "spoiled." It just hurts my heart that he expects me to put up with him, and his strictness. All of the things he'd want me to do - I'm not used to, and he doesn't care if it makes me happy or not. I feel like he only wants to be satisfied with himself and his parenting, not caring about my insights on it at all. He just wants me to grow up like he did and I don't want to. Although he cares and provides well for my family and I, I just feel like it's me who he doesn't really like. Also, he is kind of selfish. He doesn't empathize with my mom either as I said earlier. He only helps if he wants to, and if he's feeling tired while taking care of my brother he gives him to my mom and I, even if we're more tired and deal with him more than he does. I don't want him raising my siblings as annoying weirdos either. I just hope whoever is reading this has a good day and thank you for reading my vent..