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  • #16
    Girl I know how you feel but my stepdads way different and worse he doesn’t care about us children and he gets mad over the stupidest reasons and he only cares about drinking and having ***. And that’s why I sleep in my parents room

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi, it can be really tough to discuss hard situations like this, so thank you for posting. It can be really hard to feel like you’re not a priority or like someone’s getting mad at you too easily. If you ever need support in dealing with this, or want to talk about resources and your options, we’re here 24/7 at 1-800-Runaway, and we’re always here to listen.

  • #17
    I barely feel any love towards my stepdad! Today while I was finishing eating dinner my younger sister put her dirty dinner plate on top of mine. I NEVER said I wouldn't wash it for her. I just told her that she needs to put it in the sink herself because she never does it and always makes someone else do it for her. (BTW she is 8 years old) then i got up to put my plate in the sink and wash it. He got mad at me and yelled at me for not getting her plate. Then he told me to leave my plate in the sink and that he was gonna wash it for me but I was in the middle of washing it. He then got up and tried to yank the glass plate out of my hand but I told him NO! he pushed hard into the sink and got the plate. He then pushed me hard again out of the kitchen 2 times and told me to go to my room and go to sleep. I wanted to cry so badly in front of my parents. My mom was just on the side watching. I went into the bathroom and locked the door. From there my tears were pouring out. I hated myself I felt like I am not needed because he is always mean to me. I wanted to harm myself somehow, but because I have a fear of knives/blades I was only able to dig my long nails into my skin and rip my skin off to the point where I was almost bleeding. I feel like i always ruin everything. My older brother knocked on the door asking if I was okay and I had to suck in my crying and pretend I was perfectly fine. My mom later came into my room and told me what I did was wrong and that I need to stop being lazy and that it wouldn't hurt just to wash another dish. WTF I was always planning on washing my sister's dish anyways!! She said I need to help out the family and that the next morning I needed to apologize to my stepdad. I am so annoyed and angry why do I need to freaking apologize? I had no bad or lazy intentions at all! Besides this I feel that he doesn't treat me the same as my other siblings. I am a 13 year old female, just because I am a girl he always expects me to clean every where and wash everyone's dishes everyday he gets angry when I don't. He also expects me to cook meals for him all the time and let me say I have no ********ing experience in cooking at all (sorry for the foul language) he tends to always make comments about my body saying that I'm way too skinny and that I have no butt or anything like that. He also gets mad at me for not being girly by wearing skirts and dresses and wearing my hair in a ponytail. I have a dark and tomboyish style. Almost everything i own is black. They only color i have is gray or navy blue and my hair is always down covering my eye. Once during dinner time he was telling everyone about how I have no intelligence at all and that my siblings are smarter than me. I feel that I am bipolar or have depression because I always feel unwanted. Though my actual dad never did anything to help my mom when I was younger I still love him so much and way my more than my stepdad. My real dad is so kind to me and respects me. Tomorrow is Thanksgiving and I don't feel very grateful towards my stepdad. My mom is always on his side and backing him up. There are many things that my brother and I know he does that he wouldn't want my mom to know. I want to tell my mom but I don't want to upset her and ruin their relationship. What do I do about all this??
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 11-22-2018, 04:06 AM.

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    • #18
      Reply:I barely feel any love towards my stepdad!

      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this very emotional and difficult time. You do not deserve to be treated so poorly by your stepfather. You are not to blame for the way that he speaks to or treats you.
      It is unfortunate that you don’t seem to have any support at home from other family members including your mother. Sometimes talking with someone might help to bring about ideas as to how you might cope with the situation.
      NRS is here to listen and here to help. . We are here as support to help you and your friend through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat. Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).

      Your safety and well-being is important.
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If you are feeling depressed or suicidal,the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
      You did a great job by reaching out. We hope that your situation changes for the better.


      Take care,
      NRS

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      • #19
        My stepdad is the worse it’s kinda like the last comment he calls me gay and for me to act my age. (I’m 12] sometimes I just want to leave to my dad but I have a brother and I don’t want to leave my mother and he makes me cry sometimes and I wish he was never with my mom. But every time I try to defend myself my mom goes on his side. I can never talk to her about my stepdad. She’s like “you need to be a man” but she doesn’t understand me all my step father does it spoils my mom and she’s like “respect adults” I know I have to respect her but she involves my step dad. Sigh sometimes I think I should just kill myself.

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        • ccsmod7
          ccsmod7 commented
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          Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. No one should be made to feel the way you are feeling. If you feel like you are in danger of hurting yourself, please give us a call any time, day or night, at 1-800-786-2929. Another option is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Even if it's just to talk things out when you're upset, we are always here, 24/7 year round.

          It sounds like a very difficult situation you are in. There are a few options we could explore. One option might be to look into counseling with your parents or talking to another adult at school. If you or your family are financially restricted, we can also help find sliding scale counselors in your area. You could also call us and we could talk to you and your parents on a shared line so that you might have someone on your side.

          If you feel like running away, again, we encourage you to call our phone line. We might be able to help you figure out even more options before doing something drastic like leaving, but if you absolutely have to leave we can still provide resources so you have options for places to go.

          Thank you again for reaching out, and remember we are always here.

          NRS

      • #20
        i hate my step dad hes a pervert i catch him looking at my butt or my sisters i just want him out of my life my real dad i hate him as well i just got so mad i punch my closet door cause he much be blind to see a amazing wife he has my mom and im scared something may happen

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        • ccsmod7
          ccsmod7 commented
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          Hello, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like your stepdad has been inappropriately looking at you are your sister. That sounds really uncomfortable and violating. You deserve to feel safe in your own home, and here at NRS we truly want to help.

          If you haven't already, you might tell your mom about what your stepdad is doing and how it makes you feeling. While that might be a really difficult conversation to have, your mom might be the one who can best change the situation and it is clear that you really care about her. You might also reach out to any trusted adult who might be able to help you talk to your mom or your stepdad about what is going on. Sometimes when parents aren't hearing youth, it can help to bring in a trusted adult who they listen to. If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 911 or get to a safe place. If you feel like it has come to that, you might start planning out safe places to go to and how you will get there if you need. If you would like to chat with sexual violence experts you might chat with RAINN at rainn.org

          You do have the right to report any abuse including sexual harassment at home to Child Protective Services (CPS). To learn more about what reporting could look like for you, you might reach out to the expert child advocates at Child Help - 1-800-422-4453. If you would like assistance calling out to your local abuse hotline please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

          Please do not hesitate to reach out if you would like additional support. We are always here for you.

          Best,

          NRS

      • #21
        So my mom had quit her job due to the fact that they were taking advantage of her. She was worried she didn't know what to do because she had I child to take care of (me) and her guy friend told her we could live with him and she was so thankful. Then I don't really know when it started happening but then he started touching me and I didn't know what to do. I told my mom and all she told me was she was going to talk to him she got mad when he got mad and ignored both of us. It just didn't accomplish anything and then it started happening again and I told my mom and it was just a cycle. I would think what's the point of telling my mom if nothing ever really happened and people would just get mad and I ignored it. Then we had to move again because the owner of the house had to sell the house. I was really sad because i had made a friend that cared about me and i had told this story to her and gave me more support and happiness that I couldn't receive at home. She made me want to keep going with my life and brought happiness. And I moved it has only been a week since and I'm not happy at all. My depression has gotten so bad. I get yelled at so much and its still going on he’s still touching me. He tells me not to cry because crying is for the weak and my mom just sits there and watches. I remember yesterday I was on facetime with my friend and I was sitting there eating alone crying I couldn't even eat and then the door opens and he starts yelling at me to end the call and I couldn't stop crying that night and he usually sleeps on the couch and I just needed my mom at the moment and I go into her room and ask her if I can stay with her for the night and she says no I start crying as I’m leaving her room and I fall asleep crying. I don't feel safe at all at home. I don't even want to continue on I just want to be with my best friend cause she makes me forget about all the bad. I’m only 13 and I don’t know what to do. I feel like I have nobody.
        Last edited by ccsmod4; 12-08-2018, 04:24 AM.

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        • #22
          Reply: So my mom had quit her job ...


          Hello,

          You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

          If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

          No one has the right to touch you or try to manipulate you. It has been extremely difficult for you to be safe especially when your mother has not supported you through this. You deserve to be safe. Perhaps a safety plan is something to consider. Think about a friend, relative or even a teacher or counselor at school you might feel comfortable turning to for support.
          If ever you at risk or in any danger we urge you to call 9-1-1 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
          You are such a brave person. Your strength to stand up and speak against this abuse has been amazing. Good for you.
          If you would like to talk more about your situation and let us know how we might help, please contact 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runway.org (Live chat).

          Be safe,
          NRS
          We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
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          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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          • #23
            I hate my stepdad, he drinks and will get physically violent towards my mom, my sister , and me. My mom acts like "oh he didn't mean it" or " it doesn't matter". Once my sister left some plastic bags outside because we were picking peaches and using a bag and we had extras and she left some out. My stepdad found out and got in her face, called he names and shoved her. And my mom said she deserved it!! I was like "what?" She made a mistake, she doesn't need to be shoved from a grown man! And I don't even feel safe when he's there and when he's not drunk he's mean and my mom blames things he does on me. Once he tried to use my phone and I was like , no you are not my father and you don't even pay for this phone, my actual dad does and I got in trouble for not respecting him. I never have privacy to talk to my mom about it either. And my stepdad barely makes any money, so my mom has to pay for everything and it's "fine". And my stepdad's daughter is rude to me and calls me names and I get blamed for not disciplining her and my mom just thinks I'm being dramatic and disrespectful I'm so done

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            • ccsmod6
              ccsmod6 commented
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              Thank you for posting. It takes courage to ask for help, and we are really glad you reached out. Your stepfather should never get physically violent, and it’s frustrating that your mother is not standing up for you.

              If you feel you are in immediate danger, you should call 911. Otherwise, we encourage you to reach out to us by phone at our 24/7 hotline at 1(800) 786-2929. You can also contact Child Help (the National Child Abuse Hotline) at 1(800) 422-4453, to report abuse, or just to talk about your situation, and what filing a report would look like. If for any reason you don’t feel comfortable doing that, we can accompany you on that call.

              One option that might be helpful is talking to your actual father about the situation. Additionally, though you mentioned there is never much privacy to speak with your mother, it might be helpful to confide in her when you do have an opportunity for some privacy. It could also be helpful to talk to your sister, and figure out ways that you can support each other. One last option that might be helpful would be to see if there is a counselor or teacher at school who you can talk to about your situation

              Once again, we’re really glad you shared, and if you find that you are feeling overwhelmed and need help figuring out your options, we encourage you to reach out to us by phone on our 24/7 hotline 1(800) 786-2929 or on chat at 1800runaway.org. Please don’t hesitate to give us a call.

          • #24
            I also can’t stand to be around my step father, he is verbally, mentally, emotionally and to an extent, physically abusive. He holds my mother financially hostage and treats all the women in the house like dogs while his 11 year old son is sat on a throne. I’m genuinely tired of it. The man has absolutely zero parenting skills. I’m 18 and can’t find a job and hold one down because I’ve moved into 3 different homes in the last like 4 or 5 months and it’s just too stressful, the abuse is done in front of the 11 year old and now he goes around telling other little boys that women are worthless, below men, and that his dad powers over the women at home and thinks it’s cool. He‘s creating a sociopath. His son manipulates and lies to his father to cause fights between my mother and his dad and then sits back and watches, and LAUGHS! Is that not sick behavior from an 11 year old boy? I’m repulsed. To add on, my step sister, who is also 18, is stuck picking her brother up from school, helping with homework, taking him to appointments, etc. and pretty much raising the kid herself because her dad spends no time with the boy, and when he does, he does nothing but demonstrate inappropriate behavior, like calling people names, intimidating others, lying to get what he wants, stepping on others to get their way, holding favors over peoples head, threatening people, talking down on people, lacking morals, having NO empathy or sympathy, and flat out acting like a hypocrite, and man could I go on forever, but then he has the audacity to tell every other parent that they are doing it all wrong. I have so much built up hatred and anger. He is materialistic, close minded and anything he does is for himself, and may I add that one of his daughters is a ward of the state because he lost his mind on her due to the fact that he found out she was sleeping with her boyfriend of like 2 years. He’s threatened to kill various members of my family, and has said to my face before that he’d kill my mom and dad in front me, I was 17! He’s constantly threatening to kick my mom and I out on the streets, and I think that’s a way for him to persuade her into staying because she doesn’t want me homeless, obviously. I so badly wish I could find a flexible job to understand the position I’m in so that I could help my mom financially. She needs to get a job but he makes it so difficult because he’s constantly ordering her around like a slave, and when she’s gotten interviews, he’s sabotaged them. There was even a time when she had a job but part of the reason they let her go was because he kept calling while she was at work and fighting with her. He’s psycho. I’m consumed in anxiety, and drowning in depression, so honestly I lack a lot of the motivation to even get out of bed or brush my teeth anymore, let alone find a job. I don’t sleep at night, visit my dad or really even hang out with friends anymore either because I’m too afraid to leave my mom alone with him when they’re arguing, and sometimes he’ll fight with her because of my dad. He’s so jealous of my dad for absolutely no reason so I’m just suppose to pretend like I don’t have one. The most annoying part about all this, is that we’ve reached out to his family for help and they don’t do anything but justify his actions. It sucks because no one really wants to help her anymore because he’s isolated us so badly from our family and friends. Anytime we’ve asked for help he’s manipulated people into believing him instead of us. He acts charming and nice to people until he sucks them in and they realize who he truly is. My body is giving up on me because of the amount of stress, and it’s happening to my step sister and mother as well. I have issues eating because of the anxiety, I don’t sleep, my temper is short, I’m tired all the time, I get sick more than I ever have before, I even kind of feel like my hair is falling out, I’m nauseous every single day, all day long and I just look sickly. My mother has an autoimmune disorder, and is worsened by the high cortisol levels from living in this house. He’s destroyed my mother. She’s bitter and unhappy, I feel it and see it and it is so heartbreaking. It’s almost like I don’t recognize her. My step sisters immune system is shot too, she’s constantly developing cold sores on her face, is sick every other week, irritable and has no motivation as well. He’s straining my step sister and my relationship, my mother and my relationship, and it just sucks. I’m stuck, resentful and giving up. I want to get away and be alone, I desire peace and tranquillity but it feels like I will never be able to obtain that. The bitterness is holding my soul back from growing. We are hurting.

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            • ccsmod3
              ccsmod3 commented
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              Thanks so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing part of your story with us. It sounds like you and your family have been through quite a lot. It must be very stressful to be around such negativity. No woman deserves to be treated like a dog. It’s totally understandable that you would want to get away and just be alone. The anxiety and depression sounds like it has really began to take a toll on you and your body. The National Alliance on Mental Illness can provide additional support and coping tips in this area. They can be reached at 1800-950-6264. Also, you are always welcome to reach out to our 24 hour hotline at 1800-786-2929 or our chat at 1800runaway.org if you would like to talk more about options or need any resources. Take care. All the best, NRS.

          • #25
            I hate my stepdad he mentally abuses my mom and he physically does. He doesn’t even care about his own kids. He doesn’t pay any bills and get mad when my mom won’t but him cigarettes which he goes through 2 packs a day. He wants to kick her out of the house she pays for and he is causeing her more debt.
            Last edited by ccsmod3; 12-16-2018, 05:28 PM.

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            • ccsmod3
              ccsmod3 commented
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              Hello –

              Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. We are sorry to hear about the way you have been treated. It sounds horrible to receive rejection from someone you are living with. It sounds like the mistreatment at home is becoming difficult to deal with.

              Depending on what you are looking for, a good resource for you could be the National Child Abuse Hotline. You can reach them at 1-800-422-4453. You can call them anonymously to learn about the abuse reporting process, or directly report abuse to this line. They are a good resource for talking through your options if there is verbal/mental abuse going on at home.

              Another option, if you have not already done so, is use our conference call service to discuss this issue with your mother or stepfather. This is a mediated conversation that allows you to set the guidelines and goals for the call. We act as a mediator to ensure no one gets out of line. If you would like to learn more about this option you can call into our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

              We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct. We can also be reached via live chat between 4:30pm and 11:30pm CST.

              Best Wishes
              ~NRS

          • #26
            my mom just started dating this guy like 6 months ago and they are already are engaged. I don't like him AT ALL he makes jokes about the worst things, he jokes about my weight and my friends. i got in trouble a few weeks ago and my mom and dad (who are on good terms) were talking to me and he just strolled in and joined the conversation like he was a part of it. He tries to connect with me sometimes but we can all tell he's only there because of my mom, she is SO much prettier and nicer than him. since he has come around my mom has been a lot more hostile towards me, she yells at me all the time. recently i was on my way home and we were planning to get a Christmas tree that night. my mom, brother, step dad and his daughter were at dinner and i get a text saying from my mom saying "we have made a FAMILY decision, no Christmas tree this year" this really upset me because its like my mom and her BF are replacing me with his daughter. i have a lot of other things going on right know and life is kinda s****y. i have been cutting for a little bit but only when i'm very upset, i have never considered suicide, i'm 14. My mom seems to be very happy with him so i don't want to do anything to interfere with that, she is also not spending anytime with me and he is changing literally everything in our house.

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            • #27
              Reply: My mom just started dating this guy


              Hello,
              Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

              It sounds like you are frustrated with your mom’s behavior towards you since she met someone and became engaged.
              The communication between you and your parent’s sounds like it has been difficult and it sounds like you are feeling isolated by the situation. You do not deserve to be made fun of or have your friends talked about negatively. It’s uncalled for and it is not your fault. There have been some other things that have upset you.
              It sounds like you were disappointed that a decision was made without your presence or input that there will not be a Christmas tree this year and this has added to your frustration.
              We understand that having a blended family can be challenging. Communication is key but sometimes feelings of disconnect can affect how you get along. You deserve to be heard.
              Your feelings are important and they matter. You matter. It sounds like you respect your mother’s feelings for her fiancé. That’s is very noble of you.

              Sometimes when communication breaks down it’s hard to know just where to turn or what to do.
              Hurting yourself does not have to be an option that you consider. There are other positive ways to cope with stress. Talking things out with a family member or friend etc. can be one way of relieving stress.
              Reaching out to today was a good positive step in voicing your feelings. We would be glad to hear you out about what steps you might take going forward, explore some options and even try to come up with a plan to make your situation better for you.
              You are welcome to contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org (Live Chat) to talk more in depth about your situation.

              NRS is here to listen and here to help.
              Having a space to talk and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We are here as support to help you during you time of need.

              Take care,
              NRS

              We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

              Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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              1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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              • #28
                The days are still horrible now that its winter and i feel more upset and it hard for me to sleep.Its hard for me to control my anger issues.A teacher said i was stupid for just pushing my friend on the tire swing and i got so mad i pushed the swing so hard ( with my friend on it she wasnt hurt ) and it hit him and i start to cuss at him in spainsh and i kicked him where the sun doesnt shine.And he yelled your crazy.and i got in trouble and after my parnets were called i went to the restroom and started to cry because my mom thearted me that if i get in trouble she do something ( i forgot tho ) and i heard somone knock on the door.and i didnt open it until i heard footsteps go away.I went to class and yeah.at school and home are the wrose and i wanted to overdose when i saw pills but i stopped myself cause i wanted to get my dream go to the beach...

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                • ccsmod5
                  ccsmod5 commented
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                  Hi. Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you may be having a hard time dealing with different types of emotions. It’s understandable that certain situations may make you feel angry or frustrated. It may be useful to think about other ways to cope with your anger issues. You may find that seeing a counselor or a therapist may be beneficial. Please feel free to reach out to our hotline or chat if you need any assistance finding these resources. In addition, you may find a few support hotlines helpful such as the National Alliance on Mental Illness 1800-950-6264 and the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1800-273-8255. We would love to talk more with you about your situation. We are always here 24 hours, 7 days a week. You are welcome to give us a call at 1800-runaway or come chat with us at 1800runaway.org. Thanks again. All the best,
                  NRS

              • #29
                My step dad is like that too. Heś been around since I was like 2 and I am 17 now. Literally till this day, him and I still do not have a relationship. He has never tried, and neither will I. I find no point in involving myself or communicating with him anymore. The only time he wants to interact with me is when I do something wrong or get in trouble and he wants to play the role as "punisher". I remember when my brother and I were around the ages 7 and 9 and younger and older he would make us stay in our rooms ALL DAY LONG and take out our toys and anything we could entertain ourselves with when he was still my moms BOYFRIEND. BOYFRIEND. ANd that was just for being what little kids are and not listening or complaining. He is a complete control freak, a hardcore Christian, he is emotionally and to an extent verbally abusive. Not harsh words, but just that basically he never does anything wrong and if something goes wrong its one of our faults never his. Everytime I am around him it puts me in a bad mood so I get an attitude over literally nothing. And then when he does stuff that he knows I get irritated over, I get mad and now he has an excuse to get me in trouble. And then my mom is becoming like him. She used to be my safehouse from him but now she is becoming him. I feel trapped in my own home. They took away my phone for about 2 weeks now and I have no way of contacting my friends or family and they will not let me go see them and I have done nothing. So with that, they have also been rude. Like my mom wil start yelling at me for no reason and the way she talks to me is like I broke all the glass in the house. They make me feel like I always am doing something wrong, they always say I have a bad attitude when I don't and then that makes me have an attitude. Like when nothing is wrong with me, I feel fine and happy they will say I have an attitude and yell at me and yes, I will admit I get mad easily and for a long time, so I will yell back because they literally do not understand me. I try to explain to them how I feel and why I act this way and how they are treating me and they laughed in my face. Everything I tell them about me just goes through one ear and out the other. They don't even retain it. I have a 3 yr old brother who is my step dad and mom world. Everything revolves around him and his schedule. So when they do nothing but pay attention to him, praise him for his manners and good behavior and everything he does and they just leave me in the dust, all I want to do is retaliate. It seems the only attention I get is negative for no reason. I have always contemplated running away or moving in with my grandparents, but then my mom always pity parties me about moving away and makes me feel bad about it. I honestly do not know what to do anymore. I have become depressed, I have major anxiety problems and have no other interaction other than with my dogs. I don't know what to do and I don't know who I can talk to.

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                  Hello There,
                  Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a pretty tough situation. You mentioned being verbally abused, we want you to know that you do not deserve to deal with any type of abuse. If you wish to report the abuse you can contact The Child Help Hotline at: 1800-422-4453. Ideally home is a place where you should feel happy, supported, and heard, and it seems that is not how you feel. At NRS we offer conference calling where if you call out to us we can call out to your parent and help mediate and support a conversation between you. Also you could consider talking to a school counselor about what is going on, sometimes talking to someone can help us feel better. Also you can try to do hobbies that you enjoy to keep your mind off of what is going on at home.
                  You mentioned running away, running away is not a criminal offense it is a status offense. We are not legal experts but what that means is that if you were to runaway the police would most likely bring you back home. If you ran away you might want to consider where you would go what you would do for food, and how you would survive. You could see about coming to a compromise with your moher about living with your grandmother or waiting until you are of legal age to move out.
                  We hope this information will be helpful in your situation. If you would like to discuss your situation further or have more questions feel free to give us a call or chat with us we are here 24/7. Best of luck!
                  NRS

              • #30
                My mother and her boyfriend who I basically treat as a stepdad have had major difficulties in the last few months. My mom recently moved my sister and I into his house and we have gone to the towns public schools. It’s been almost 7 months, but my mother and her boyfriend who I’ll call Sam are always fighting (especially about our dog because he hates animals). Trust me, I have a long history of hearing adults fight and I know that theirs are not just minor disagreements. They yell and slam things at night and wake us up sometimes by doing so. They ignore each other for weeks at times and Along with that, my mother often tells my sister and I to pack are things so she can drive us to our grandparents house to stay the night. But the worst has happened just this morning when my mother announced her and my sister and I were going to move into a condo a few towns away so we could go to a different school and leave Sam. We’ve lived in this house for not even 7 months. I don’t like the school I’m going to, but I also think it’s going to be a rough transition. I’m just here for support

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                  Hi there,
                  Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat at NRS. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
                  Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
                  If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
                  We hope to hear from you soon.
                  Be safe, NRS
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