I hate my stepdad

I know how you feel. My step dad is like that too and it really hurts. Calls names, always disrespecting, and only cares about certain people. I want to die everyday. Im sorry

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You should be able to live somewhere where you feel safe and secure and it sounds like your mom and Keith aren't providing that from you. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You mentioned that something had previously happened to you that was brushed off by the family but that you aren't over. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. If there was any kind of sexual abuse/rape, one really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support, and resources that you may find helpful.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

i can’t stand my step dad. so here’s some background. i’m fourteen and i have two siblings. my sister who is sixteen and my brother who is twenty one. both of them are my half siblings. my sister and i share a dad but have different moms. my brother and i share a mom and have different dads. my brothers dad is named keith. and he left my mom and my brother when my brother was a baby. my mom would always talk about how much she hated him and all of that. my parents have always had problems. my mom and dad were always fighting and i don’t have very good memories from my childhood. my parents drank a lot. when i was about 11 my dads drinking got a lot worse to the point where he would yell and throw things. he never hurt me or my mom. he suspected that my mom was cheating on him with keith. my brother was in juvie at the time so my mom and keith were talking a lot. they split up when i was around 12. my brother was out of juvie and was living with my mom he brought his girlfriend. he had dropped out of school. my dad was living with his parents out of town and i only saw him on the weekends. my brother threw parties very often. one night keith comes to the party. he seemed alright but i didn’t get why he was there. at the end of the night i made him a bed on the couch only to find him sleeping in my moms bed with her. soon after he moved in with his son jonah. in august of 2017 ( i was 12) i experienced a very traumatic event. my whole family brushed it off like it was nothing. i wasn’t okay. i’m still not okay. i don’t trust my mom to be able to keep me safe. when i was young (like 4- my cousin who was my age would molest me and my sister whenever we spent the night. one time my mom caught him undressing me and trying to have sex with me. i recently found out she knew the whole time. my dad had no idea. my sister and i told him last year. he was livid. she said she never did anything because she didn’t want to upset the family or cause drama and it was really no big deal. i still have a hard time being intimate with men and developed an eating disorder last year. well anyway back to my step dad. he is so childish. he is unemployed and a felon. he is rude and selfish and a pig. i can’t stand him. he talks about me behind my back and insults me to my face. he says my singing makes his ears bleed and that my mom would be better off without me. ive tried talking to my mom about it but she tells me i need to get over it and be happy for her. i don’t feel like she needs me. i’m not happy. i haven’t been happy for years. i lash out and do stupid things from anger. about a year ago my mom and my step dad moved to california. i was so hurt and angry. my mom never even said goodbye. i didn’t talk to her for months and keith says that was the best time of his life. he blames my mom for everything. he sold his truck in order to move and somehow it’s my moms fault. i hate how he talks to her sometimes. he never lets just me an her do something. once i had to live with my mom because of issues with my dad and i wanted to ask her advice on the situation. i asked keith for permission to talk to her and he said yes. i go to talk to her and keith just walks in the room sits down and says he has been listening and has advice for me. i was so mad. i appreciate he wants to help but i didn’t want his advice. he is always rude to me and his son says he wants me dead. i told my my i used to self harm and was close to relapsing. she said she’d ground me and make my life a living hell if i did. once i had to have her drive me to a friends house because she had taken a bunch of pills and would have died. keith constantly leaves for days at a time doing god knows what. i ran off after trying to talk to my mom and her ignoring me. i don’t know what to do or where to go. i’m happy for her but does she have to be happy at my expense?

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

i hate my stepdad, hes mentally abusing . Hes so annoying that he even makes his own daughter have a panic attack . He even called her a $#**$ and me and my sister a ********** . He called my mom a ********ing moron, my mom is married to a ********ing psycho. he used to do drugs , and so did my stepsisters mom. He stopped , but her mom did not . my mom is hypnotized by him every time this happens my mom does nothing , and i feel the blame for it . idk why , but i just do. it gets really bad and i start to feel dizzy and i do not know what is happening. one time my mom and my stepdad were on the same side and they kicked me out of the house , i had to live with my dad for awhile. i get really sad and start crying. sometimes i feel i cant take it anymore , and i want to kill myself and i jus think its best for everyone including me ,but then i realize that its not it will only make it worse . thanks for listening usually no one does.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you should be able to feel safe and secure at home. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You mentioned some things about your stepdad's behavior that raises concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. If this is something you're considering it can often be helpful to an investigation to document the injuries that may have occurred from the abuse (take pictures of the bruises on your thighs, etc.)

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

I get you.. my step dad is soooooo annoying as well.. he always calls my mom a cheater and when he was mad at her e salads her a ********** and ***** and every time I try to tell my family he or my mom some how find out and one time he said "If you tell any of your family members we'll send you to a psych ward" this scares me because I was once suicidal.. used to cut myself but that was 3 years ago so I'm not that worried about it... and my stepdad has grabbed me by the hair and thrown me and left bruises on my thighs.. he also got pissed off at my sister and punched her in the head and than she started crying.. plz help me find a way out of here.

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Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. Wow it sounds like you are going through a very difficult time right now. We understand that having stepparents can be really difficult, and you do not deserve to be treated that way. Depression and self-injury can be really difficult to have to deal with on your own. One option you could consider is to try and talk to a school counselor or a therapist about what is going on. Sometimes talking to a professional can help us feel better and they may be able to provide you with additional resources. Another option you could consider is calling NAMI (national alliance for mental illnesses), they can be reached at 1800-950-NAMI.
Another option you may want to consider is at NRS we offer conference calling where if you call us we can call out to your parents. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to mediate the conversation and provide support to you. Also whenever you are feeling down you could try and do hobbies you enjoy to distract you from how you are feeling. Also you could try and ask for permission to stay at a friend’s or family member’s house so you are able to take a small break from your stepdad.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

My parents act like perfect christian parents but im so depressed and my mom flat out ignores it while my stepdad and I don't even want to acknowledge each other anymore and when we do he acts all high and mighty even though hes mean and oblivious. My stepdad acts as if im such a horrible child and he tells me to chill or stop having an attuid anytime i talk and he even told me to stop reading fiction books and read selfhelp books instead its gotten to the point where i cant even stand being near him anyone and he frustrates me so much and when I tell him i dislike church he yells at me and takes my phone or he scolfs or tells me i have an attuide even if i tell him my feelings as kindly as possible and its frustrating because he calls himself my dad which he will never be.and im just so done and tired of him. I know that before he married my mom he did drugs and left his family and I hate how nowadays hes like ohhhhh people who do that are awful and he remarks about how great he is... Or when my school called the police to my house because I useto cut my parents went crazy my mom looked at me with eyes made out of ice and refused to talk to me and my stepdad remarked that i was insane and had demons inside me and how I wasnt (insert my name) and he just screamed and screamed and said I cant go to my grandmas when I said I coulnt live here anyone and I ran to my room and sobed and I just cant anyone... I love my mom but I cant deal with mystepdad anymore he said my depression is just demons and that I over react and when i cry or sad he/my mom ingores me or yells at me to stop...

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Thank you very much for reaching out! It sounds like home is not feeling very supportive to you at the moment given the way your step-dad treats you. You do not deserve to be cursed at, especially by someone who should make you feel supported not hurt.
Have you ever spoken to your step-dad about how you feel about his behavior? It seems like something definitely needs to change. Sometimes, if you are not comfortable saying something in person, writing a letter can be an effective way to express your thoughts. Also, since your step-dad seems to have more effective communication with your mom, have you thought about asking your mom to express your concerns to your step-dad? Furthermore, we do offer conference calls where we can act as a mediator in a conversation with you and your parents to try to work through the situation and come up with a middle ground. If that sounds like something of interest to you, please do not hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.
Once again, it takes a lot of guts to reach out. If you would like to talk about your situation further, we are here to listen and here to help.

i hate my step dad, he treats me differently than my mom. he is really nice to my mom. but when my mom is not there, all he care about is himself and yell at my face. he never curse in front of my mom, but he curse at my face, and he even said he did everything for me and i just get mad and cry like a baby even though he gave me nothing, all of them is from my mom.

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Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. Wow it sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. And you do not need to apologize, you can express yourself however you want with us. Living and having to deal with stepparents can be really difficult. One option you could consider is talking to your mother how you are feeling, maybe talking with your mother would be able to help.
Also you mentioned that you stepdad clearing his throat really annoys you. One option you could do is try and block it out, or think of something else while he is doing it. People sometimes do things that annoy us that they really can’t help or change unfortunately. We are glad that you get along with your stepsiblings. Sometimes having people to talk to and vent to can help too. You could consider talking to your school counselor or a therapist about what is going on, sometimes talking to a professional can help you feel better.
We wish you the best of luck in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options further please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

I've always been a happy kid, but there are some people in this world who deserve karma. That is, some of the rude people who are SUPPOSABLY in my family. My stepdad.

My mom divorced my dad because he always smoked and drank. He still does to this day. Then, my mom got together with my stepdad. My dad told me that one time, he put a hole in my stepdad's tire. My dad lost his driver's licence because of this, but it was WORTH IT. >:-) (this was a long time ago, by the way.)

Since my mom and stepdad got together, I have two new stepsiblings who are really cool. The only person that I have a problem with is my stepdad.

He's always been annoying and rude. Sometimes, he's rude for no reason. Him and my mom argue a lot, so WHY CAN'T THEY JUST BREAK UP ALREADY?!??!! IF YOU'RE TIRED OF THE SAME CRAP EVERYDAY, THEN JUST GET THE HELL OUT OF MY FAMILY!!!!

Around last year, I finally noticed how he clears his throat all the time. It's preventing me from doing anything without wanting to bang my head against the wall. Just a note, I have Asperger's Syndrome, which is a type of autism. It makes me more emotional and I have some issues. When I look at an image on my phone, I'm constantly worrying that he's gonna clear his throat and make the situation more cringey. This ******** prevents me from doing ANYTHING. AND I'M SICK AND TIRED OF IT!!!!

Sometimes he tries to act all cool, then later he starts being an asshole for no reason. The worst part is, I've talked to him about his chronic condition, and he just said, "Uhh, you do crap that annoys me all the time, so I can do whatever I want!" That's basically what he said.

Currently, I'm 13 and him and my mom got married. Great. Just ********ing excellent.

All this annoying crap makes me constantly not want to do activities on my phone with my online friends, and I can't even feel the freedom to look up whatever I want with this crap happening! He needs to burn in hell. I've tried talking about it, but I'm scared that people aren't going to understand.

Sorry for cussing. I just need to get rid of one of the demons inside of my head. There's still tons more, but that's progress.

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Thank you for your message. It sounds like you are having a difficult time with your stepdad. You definitely deserve to feel loved and supported! We are here to listen and help locate resources, brainstorm options, or just as someone to talk to. Please feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-786-2929 any time. We wish you all the best!
--NRS

I feel the same I will always hate my step dad because how he treats me