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  • Hi my name is Riley I am ,12 my dad always blames me and hits me with a belt I got tooken away because he abuse me I got put in my mom's care and she abuse me all the time I was in a hospital for a week I got put back in my dad's house he always abuse me help please

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing what’s been going on in your family. We want you to know, first and foremost, you do not deserve to be abused, hit, or treated poorly by any of your parents or guardians.

      It sounds like this is a very difficult situation to navigate, but you don’t have to do it alone. We’d be happy to discuss options and work with you to possibly find support for you through this time. Please feel free to reach out to us at 1(800) RUNAWAY, or you can chat with one of our crisis counselors online at 1800runaway.org. Take care, and we hope to hear from you soon!

      Sincerely,

      NRS

  • i hate my stepdad! me my mom and my little brother have had to deal with his bullcrap for 6 years!! he used to work in the armed forces, he fought in iraq and afghanistan. he also used to have a lot of scientific jobs: [...] (all of this was before my mom even met him) 6 years ago my mom met some guy at her job at a restaurant, at first i thought he would just be another guy that she would love for 3 months to a year and then break up with. but this guy was different because he was "funny", "smart" and "well built". when me and my little brother first met him we were shy and afraid but he was nice, so i spent some time with him talking about his life in alaska and me and my brother (kind of) grew to like him. fast forward a year and i really like him everything was going great, how ever my bio-dad and step mom weren't doing so well. by that time me, bio-dad, step mom and little brother have already moved houses once and were about to move again (due to a crappy landlord) not only that but our dog died recently, my step mom was expecting a baby and me and my brother would have no where to go while bio-dad and step mom were finding a new house. so my bio-dad made a deal with my mom and step dad that while bio-dad and step mom were finding a house, me and my little brother could live with them at my grand parents house. things worked out pretty well (for the most part.) for the first few weeks me and my little brother had to sleep in the basement, aside from the mice it was fine. fast forward 3 months me and my little brother have a new school and grandma and grandpa have a new house somewhere else, this is where things start to go down hill. bio-dad and step mom have a house now and my baby sister is now about 3 years old, we weren't able to live there yet due to financial and legal problems so were stuck at mom and step dads house. this is when mom and step dad have their first argument, me and little brother were confused but not too scared.
    over the course of 2 years a lot of stuff happened: mom and step dads fights started getting worse over time (as well as me and little brothers relationship with step dad.) mom and step dad started all of these delusional projects where they would tear out the carpet so its just staples and wood underneath. my bio-dad and step mom lose a few more houses but still find time to hang out with me and little brother even during all of this. fast forward another 2 years and mom and step dads fights start to get really violent, they both would get drunk and would fight physically and end up punching holes in the walls and destroying furniture and when any one would confront step dad about it he would yell at us talking about how he "puts a roof over our heads and we have no right to disrespect him" and that "we are ungrateful pieces of sh#t". even getting to the point where if we would dare watch tv he would come up behind the couch and tell us how stupid and annoying we are and then start rocking the couch back and forth tipping its and almost crushing me and my little brother. my bio-dad and step mom have found a place to live but they need a while to get enough money to buy it. on my birthday that year my step dad got drunk, destroyed the kitchen, screamed at me and little brother, and never took accountability for it. fast foreward to 2022, the furnace broke recently and we have to live and my grandma and grandpas new house until step dad can get someone to fix it, my bio-dad finnally bought the house and we will be living there soon. but my step dad only got worse lately he has been getting even more drunk, destroying my GRANDMAS HOUSE WHICH IS NOT HIS, screaming at mom at the top of his lungs, calling us all p#ssy`s d#ckheads, he has stormed out of the house 3 times and when ever he does something he will blame us for everything the HE DID! my mom clearly is getting sick and tired of him, me and my little brother hate him and MY ENTIRE DADS SIDE OF THE FAMILY HATES HIS GUTS! i hate him and i want him out of my life for good. im only fourteen and i dont have a phone. what can i do?
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 03-04-2022, 04:05 PM.

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    • ccsmod15
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and it sounds like you are dealing with a lot of stress at home. Know that you deserve to feel happy where you live.

      You mentioned your difficult relationship with your stepdad. It sounds like there is a lot of tension at home, which must be extremely hard to manage. You also mentioned the verbal and physical abuse that you have been enduring. Know that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Abuse of any kind is never okay and an option you have if your safety and wellbeing is at risk is to file an abuse report. You can also call out to us and we can help you file this report. If you are ever in immediate danger, know that you have the option to call out to 911. Your safety is our priority.

      Another option you have is to reach out to us to talk in more details about your options and receive further support through your situation. We are not legal experts, but we can help connect you with legal resources in your area to reach out to for additional guidance. You can also always call out to your local non-emergency police with hypothetical and anonymous questions to gauge your options.

      Again, know that you can always reach out to us. Our lines (1-800-RUNAWAY) are toll-free, confidential, and always open. We also have a virtual chat option on our website: www.1800runaway.org..

      Stay safe and stay strong,

      NRS

  • My stepdad well he is really just my moms boyfriend but everybody calls him my dad because they have been together for 7 years. Most of the time everything is ok but lately these past few months he has seemed so angry or aggravated over nothing. This morning I was sick I mean I was sweating I had a fever and my stomach hurt so my mom told me to eat something so I ate a slice a pizza and ended up giving to my dog because I didn’t think anyone would eat a piece that’s been half bitten, so when he saw the pizza was gone he called me a lying faker and this made me cry and now I’m starting to really hate him I mean I’m a 14 year old girl that stage is coming but no I really dislike him what do I do I’m scared to talk to my mom cause I don’t want to upset her, agin help me?

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    • ccsmod6
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      Hi! Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. So sorry to hear that things are not going well between you and your mom’s boyfriend right now which is probably making things very tense for you. If you feel like you can speak privately with your mom, it’s a great idea! Perhaps writing down what you would like to say to her will help as it will give you a real feel on what you will be comfortable sharing with your mom during your chat. Hopefully she will understand what you have to say.

      As you are surely discovering being a 14 year old girl, hormones can often come into play in just about everything you are confronted with these days. It is really something you will get used to as you get older, but please be aware that if your ‘stepdad’ has never lived with a 14 year old girl before, he could easily just not know how to deal with what you’re going through! Again, in speaking to your mom about things, she will likely understand what you’re going through emotionally and perhaps can speak to her boyfriend about it.

      Should you feel like you would like to get to us for more specific ideas of how to deal with what you’re going through, please feel free to reach out to us again. You can chat with us at www.1800runaway.org (chat option) or at 1-800-786-2929. After getting a bit more about your situation, we can look at our have a database of resources to see what we can find that maybe of more assistance close to where you are currently living. We are available 24/7 and are always able to be reached.

      Thanks again for reaching out! Good luck in speaking to your mom. Please know we are always here for you to get in contact with us!

  • I hate my step dad he is a very homophobic jerk he once yelled at my sitter for giving a girl her number. I am also a part of the lgbtq community and I hate it and I stand up to only for him to tell me to shut up or he’ll hit me. My mom is almost completely blind to this unless if he hits me. My step dad says he is a supporter and then treats my sister bad bc she is gay.(I’m not out yet) and then he wants to be sexist and say “I’m the boss” and all that stuff. He also shoves the Bible in our face I don’t mind the Bible or anything but he just is so not picky about it. He once said that if one of us boys would come out as gay he would tie us up and beat us with a dildo and the rub us soft with the other thing that I don’t want to mention. He’s also a narcissistic and I just hate him.

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi,

      Thank you for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline. We appreciate and understand the courage it takes to reach out and let us know what is going on. It sounds like you have a lot going on right now and it is completely understandable to feel this way. You should never be put in a position where you are feeling this way. You and your sister, and everyone in the LGBTQ community, deserve complete support. It may be helpful for you to consider reaching out to us via chat or phone call so, we can learn a little bit more about your situation. For the time being, having a conversation with your step-father, or someone else in your family/house and letting them know how this behavior makes you feel, may be helpful. By no means should you have to hide your sexuality but, you should also feel ready and comfortable to share that with your family. If it makes you feel safer, establishing boundaries with your step-father and having another person in the room at the time of your conversations is an option. Help in the form of therapy/counseling could potentially be helpful in navigating family issues as well as daily life struggles. You may want to consider speaking to a counselor or social worker at school or, reaching out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). We are a 24-hour service and are available to help anytime. Chatting with us directly would give us the ability to address your needs more specifically, and we hope to hear from you soon. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS.

      Be safe!
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