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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your dad is treating you in such a hurtful and inappropriate manner. It is not okay for him to call you names or put his hands on you and it makes sense that you feel unsafe when he is around. We do not recommend violence. It may be in your best interest to think about filing an abuse report. If you want to know more about that and what it would look like, a great resource is the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org. Additionally if you feel like you are in immediate physical danger, it may be a good idea to call 911.

    If you want to talk about leaving home or what other options you might have, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800--786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org. We would be happy to talk about safety planning and identifying safe places for you to go if you need to leave.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Hi my name is Michael and I want to tell you about some of the things that have been happening at my house my step dad is constantly being mean to me and my brother he calls us names and hits us I can get really anxious when he is around and i was wondering if the next time he hits me If I should hit him back I’m not sure if I am allowed to do this or not please help me

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    Thanks for reaching out that seems like a really scary situation and its good you reached out for help. That seems like a domestic violence situation in which case its totally ok to call the police at 9-1-1 about it. Especially so if you are worried about your mom’s safety. It may also be good to point your mom towards https://www.thehotline.org/help/ which is a domestic violence hotline if you feel she needs help.
    Again thank you for reaching out in such a scary situation, if you have more questions or just need someone to talk with we are here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

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    Guest replied
    my dad hit my mom
    and she was bleeding

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there,
    It seems like you have had a very traumatizing night so far. First if this situation is still ongoing please don’t hesitate to call the police again and have them come if you think your mom or yourself is in danger.
    We don’t know the laws for South Africa but another resource that could be helpful besides the police is the international child helpline https://www.childhelplineinternational.org/youth/. They may know of resources in South Africa that can help you through this.
    Unfortunately we don’t have much else to try and help other than to offer you support through all this. No child should go through the fear of having their parents physically fight in front of them like that, especially if you just went through something else stressful.
    Hopefully this information is helpful for you!

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    Hi I'm not from America, I'm from South Africa. I couldn't find any south african group to talk to so I hope you can help me.its currently 03:46 am. My parents got into a fight and it got physical. My moms uncle was trying to separate them from each other and he couldn't so I jumped in and tried to help and I could not stop him from hurting her so I started hitting him and he's my step father btw and then he was beating me and hitting me so hard especially in my face and my mom was chasing me and my uncle out of the room, she thinks she can fight him but she can't and then I grabbed my mom's phone and called the police but when they answered I could not speak so I hung up and then the hitting started again. Then they chased me to the room and they were still fighting then he called my mom's dad and I don't know what they were talking about but then a few minutes later the hitting started again in the kitchen and then I heard my mom screaming cause she was hurt and I'm not sure if it's the door or washing machine but she was on the machine and she was holding her ear and she said he broke her ear drum I was so scared and I still am cause what if he kills her and she dosent want him to sleep with her in the bed now and she locked the door and he said he will break down the door then we will see what he's really capable of and thats how the fight basically started so I'm not going to sleep now cause I wanna make sure my mother is safe cause honestly I can't lose her cause my real dad and I aren't really close and I mean I'm a girl I need my mother I'm only 13 and I just got over something very traumatizing and I couldn't sleep day and night now how can I get over this

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  • ccsmod16
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    HI,
    Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. Your situation sounds very serious and very scary. It must be very frightening to live with your dad when he is drinking, and if he drinks everyday, then you are in a scary situation every day.
    We are most concerned with you being safe and you are also concerned about your mom being safe. Something she can do is contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7299 or at www.thehotline.org They can help connect your family to a safe shelter that is secret so that your dad can’t find you. Sometimes it’s really hard for people in your mom’s position to reach out for help. If this is the case, and she won’t do it, we want you to be safe from him.
    You can reach out with a cell phone to www.nationalsafeplace.org and access their TXT 4 Help option. And you can also reach out to us. We are here for you 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or via live chat at www.1800runaway.org We would really like to help you to be safe. We really hope to hear from you soon.
    Sincerely, NRS

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    My dad for the past 15 years has been putting his hands on her there was this one-time my cousin was in town and he thought they were having sex then we went to my grandma's house and there was thus other time my brother got stranded at a bar and called and my mom said she would go get him then he said they aint mine they my brothers but when I was born he was only 10 and last night on new years him and this girl got into it and thats what ticked him off then daddy went and called my other brother to come and pick him up we were at my grandmas building for new years and thus man named d came in and he left and thats when he called my brother and daddy told us to meet him out front but mommy didn't want to because we were going to spend new years at my grandmas house and then daddy said that mommy was sleeping with d and she wasn't and then he started to pull her and he pulled her to the ground and my grandma and my little brother got him off of her and we stayed at grandmas house and that same night he said if mommy came back he would kill her blow her brains out and he drinks everyday and I don't know what to do.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hey everyone, I am from Saudi Arabia

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    With everything that you have been going through at home with your parent’s it took a lot of courage for you to reach out. We appreciate you sharing your feelings about the situation. Well done. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail, please contact NRS to chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Since you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/
    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Hey everyone, I am from Saudi Arabia, my father is Saudi but my mother is Russian. I live in Saudi with my parents and two small siblings. My father has been always abusive to my mother when I was little, not until my mother decided to leave and take me along. My father decided to take me away. And he basically stole me from my mom. After that after 1 year and a half my mother couldn’t stop thinking about me I kept getting sick every time and my father didn’t really know what to do with me. So my mother decided to come back for me. Which eventually led them to live together and build up the family all over again. I ended up having a brother and a sister. Of course they used to fight a lot through the time I was growing older. But lately he’s been acting weird, aggressive, abusive, and disrespectful. I am not sure if that’s cause he’s getting older. But his family were always something more than us. He would kill us for them. About a week ago one of his brothers disrespected him which lead him to stop talking to us, and treating us unwell. His family members always impacted that way on him. Which lead him always to turn his back on us and abuse us instead facing them. Today my mother asked him after 4 weeks of silence, “Why do you treat us this way, why is it on us?” Why don’t you treat others this way as well?” He said “like who?” She said “like your brother”. That’s when the cursing and the yelling about her and her mom was going on nonstop. I went into the conversation after a while of listening to all of the cursing and threats. I just started at him as he said all of that. He asked what are you looking at and started throwing whatever he has on the table affront of him. I said stop doing this as he came up to me and started hitting me my mom tried to stop him and he started hitting her too. This is the 4rth time in my life when my father lays his hands on me. I know that he’s definitely not okay. And I am scared, as you may or may not know that in Saudi you don’t have a way of getting away or anything like that. I really don’t know what to do. I feel cuffed 500 times. I feel weak...
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 08-30-2019, 01:36 AM.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello, thanks so much for posting! Sounds like home can be a bit unpredictable and maybe even unsafe! We are glad you reached out for help today!
    You said your dad hit your mom and you jumped in while your uncle held dad back and then mentioned two people drove off. We aren't sure who exactly left, dad and mom or dad and uncle. It sounds like dad left and you are worried for your own safety, your mom and siblings for when he gets back. That is understandable for sure given the circumstances!

    Your safety and that of your mom and siblings is of most importance to us here at NRS. If there is any child abuse going on, Child Help (1-800-422-4453, childhelp.org) may be able to help. We can also help you find a safe place to go, how to report abuse if there is any and you want to report it, and helping you come up with a plan to stay safe and keep everyone in your family safe. This is all a lot for a young person to handle alone! We are here to support you and hope there are people around you who can too. You mentioned your uncle: perhaps he can help your mom and siblings stay safe. Or perhaps there is another family member, neighbor, or friend who could help.

    If you or your mom are ever in immediate danger of getting seriously hurt by your dad, you can always call 911 and the police can come and help diffuse the situation. There is also the Domestic Violence Hotline which has confidential safe homes for those who are hurt by spouses and their children so that may be an option for your mom, you and siblings. DV Hotline: 1-800-799-7233, thehotline.org.

    For a safe place for youth close to you. you can go to nationalsafeplace.org or Text "SAFE" and your location to 44357.

    It shows a lot of strength in you reaching out and we are here to support you! It sounds like you care a lot about your mom and siblings too which shows a lot of compassion on your end. We are 24/7 so call or chat through our website (top of the page) anytime!

    Stay Safe!

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    My dad has been beating my mom on and off for years but today he looked like he was going to do something very bad. So I jumped in front of my mom to protect her as I always do while my uncle held him back . They drove off together in our car and I fear for my mothers and my siblings safety when he comes back. I don’t know what to do .

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It sounds like you care a lot about your mom and her safety. Neither you nor your mother should have to be in this situation and should live somewhere where you feel safe and secure.

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody. If you'd like some additional support you can also to the National Domestic Violence Hotline for support and help safety planning. Their website is thehotline.org or by calling 800-799-7233.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    Im a 15 year old girl and since a was a baby my dad would hit my mom all the time and he stopped like 2 years ago because i hit him when he hit her but he still says things to her and he hit me last month for no reason i tried to defend myself nut hes stronger than me but i still try to defend my mom when he hits her.he hit her today and we didn't call the police because my mom doesn't want him im jail But i can't stand him i hate him so much my mom tells me im too young to hate him but i cant i already hate him its too late

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It sounds like you love both your parents and want to make sure that everyone is being protected.

    Absolutely no one deserves to be abused - you or your mom. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS
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