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  • I'm 17 and ran away.

    My parents are divorced. My mom, with primary custody, was emotionally abusive. She wouldnt let me have much privacy. She would let me close my fire but if she was mad she would threaten to take my door off the hinges. She would let me drive with her with my permit, but refused to let me get drivers ed.
    She would take my phone to look at, which is understandable that a parent would want to look at their kids phone, but after the first time she looked at my phone I got really private about it because she saw something that upset her. That thing, which upset her, was a message between my dad and I where I cursed. She yelled at me for it, saying it was inappropriate that my dad and I should talk like that to each other. It was unfair and it seemed like she just wanted something to be upset at me for.
    She has forced me on at least a few occassions to break down into panic attack. I would ask her to stop yelling at me and she would continue while I was on the floor in tears. Once when she continued to tell at me while I was panicing, I started slamming cupboard doors to cancel out the noise of her voice. She told me then I was being childish and that I wasn't having a panic attack but a temper tantrum. She pulled out her phone to video record me in tears.
    My dad filed for a custody battle a couple years ago but the court ruled in her favor. The emotional trauma has been building up for years, but it doesn't seem like anyone cares about a verbally and emotionally abusive parent, no matter how many times a teen reminds them of my suicidal thoughts.
    the other night my mom grabbed my phone out of my hand. With nothing left for her to take from me I was fearless. I told her I wanted to log out of snapchat, the only thing I was logged onto. She told me no. I asked her several times and several times she said no. Finally I take the phone from her, which involves some struggling. Im cautious not to leave scratches or bruises on her. I don't want to hurt her, but I also don't want her to try to turn everything on me, telling the police that Im an abusive daughter, and it seems like that's something she would do. She left a bruise on each of my forearms, scratches on my right forearm and neck, and a bruise you can't see on my head where she pulled my hair.
    because I'm so tired of arguing with her and now I have some bruises that officials like the police or DHS might take seriously, I decided to move out. I got my clothes and I crashed at a friend's house.
    Im still going to school. I know emancipation is a hell of a process, and being listed as a runaway means the people I'm staying with could get in trouble. My school counselor called DHS and I'm not sure how that will play out, but in the meantime I don't know what to do. If she finds out where I'm staying she could get my friends parents in trouble, but I absolutely refuse to go back. Not going to happen. Please give me some kind of advice.
    I apologize for the lengthy post, I just wanted to inform you if my situation.

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    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like after a long period of time filled with conflict between you and your mother you decided to leave the house and go stay with a friend. You don’t deserve to be abused emotionally or physically. You are not responsible for the behavior of others.
    With your school counselor possibly filing a child abuse report their will probably be an investigation of the situation. You might consider asking the counselor if indeed she file a report with child protective services. If she has a case worker should be able to talk with you about your options for alternative housing.
    Since you are concerned about getting anyone in trouble for providing shelter to you then you might consider contacting NRS about resources for runaway shelters in your area.
    It might also be helpful to talk more with you about your situation and explore options. You are welcome to give us a call at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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