Please help

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I hate my family so so, so, much. Everyone seems fine on the outside but it really not. Nothing is for that matter. I don't know where to start, my dad is a workaholic he works from 9am to up to 4am and he doesn't make much money, he hasn't touched a cigarette in his life nor go to any bars or drink, he's completely clean. But the yelling. Oh god the yelling. He yells so much it shakes the house, he has anger issues and he threatens to physically hurt me a lot but he has only actually hit me a handful of times. My sister is a suicidal ******** because of my parents. So am I she has extreme depression and so do I, though, she seeks counseling through her school, while I don't. She physically, emotionally, and verbally abuses me too but not as badly as my parents. At school you wouldn't know what would be going on at home, though I really wish someone did, so I could reach out to someone. I can't. I have all perfect grades at school and all advanced classes. Did I mention that my family is of a Vietnamese descent? Well we are, actually, we are 100% Vietnamese. They're standards are so, so high that I don't even think anyone could reach them. I am in 8th grade with all 9th grade core classes and advanced 10 grade math. They beat me with a painter's stick. It always leaves so many bruises. I really want to get away from this unhealthy toxic house, but I don't know how, I want to be adopted or I just want to kill myself and end it all. My mom is the worst, she beats me daily, she doesn't allow me to sleep, she doesn't let me eat, and she abuses and breaks me down so much that I have attempted suicide a total of 4 times. I think my 5th might be my last. She yells and screams at me daily for hours at a time. Beats me for no reason with anything she can find, I want to just go.so badly but I don't know where or how...please...help.

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Reply: Please help

Hi,
Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

It takes courage for someone to reach out to talk about their situation.
It must not have been easy for you to do. You do not deserve to be abused by your parents and it is not your fault that this is happening. You have the right to a safe environment.

There are laws in place to protect minors against child abuse.
We understand that sometimes things can become emotionally overwhelming and it’s hard to know what to do. Running away is a big step so we are glad you are thinking about options. Good for you.
The things you mentioned raise concern for your safety and well-being. Any harm or abuse that is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

You also mentioned attempted suicides so we want to pass on a referral to the National Suicide Hotline 1-800-273-8255

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

NRS is here to help and here to listen.
We can best help by phone. If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore some options please give us a call.
To contact NRS call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or visit www.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


Take care,
NRS