Moving without telling parents.

[Guest]

I'm 18 and soon to be 19. I have been in a happy relationship for about a year. I have been offered a place to live which is two states away from my family but it's with him. My parents are incredibly controlling and don't know about him. I have visited him and his place before and it honestly felt like home. It broke my heart to leave. I told them I was visiting an old school friend called Rachel. I have told my parents of my plans to move in with "Rachel". I would be having my boyfriend drive down with a female to say they are siblings or something and she would pretend to be Rachel. If this doesn't work, I plan to pack my bags and just go without them saying. I think I'm just scared for the damage that may happen. I don't feel happy with my family, my mother is incredibly controlling and I have no friends or anything where they have moved. They aren't afraid of me getting hurt but just don't trust me to make any smart choices. What do I do?? I feel so lost? I just can't stay here anymore.

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Hi, thank you for contacting NRS. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help. It sounds like you plan on moving in with your boyfriend and telling your parents that you are moving with a female friend instead. Depending on what state you live in, you may be able to leave your parent’s home without telling them because you would be considered an adult. One way to find out the legal age of majority in your state would be to check the website Sex,etc (sexetc.org). If you would like to talk to your parents, NRS offers a conference call between parents and youth. We could mediate the conversation so that both you and your parents get a chance to be heard. If you are interested in the conference call, or would like to discuss and other options that you may have, please feel free to call our 24 crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929).