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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey Jasmine,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It sounds like you could really use some support right now and it must be really disappointing that she isn't able to provide what you need right now. Moving can be really stressful, especially when there are numerous cultural norms at play.

    You mentioned that you have tried to commit suicide more than once. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

    You brought up that you've been struggling with some depression and anger issues. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hey,
    I’m jasmine I’ve been having problems with my mom ever since I was young but these days it’s been getting worst I’m from the Middle East and moving here is hard since I’m a teenager but I can’t stand it anymore and I really need to leave my mom doesn’t understand me and she always hurts me i have depression and anger issues I can’t stand it and I tried committing suicide more than one time I want to move somewhere or get help at least for a little time she recently took away all my electronic devices I pretty much sneaked into my phone to write this I don’t know what to do please help me

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you may be going through a difficult time as finding somewhere to stay can be frustrating.
    You mentioned having a lot of friends that you could stay with which is great. It can be a little bit uncomfortable to ask your friends. One option you could consider is to casually mention to your friends that you are looking for somewhere to stay. They may offer you a place to stay without you having to directly ask them. Another option would be to write down what you would want to ask before asking that way you have it prepared.
    We hope that this information will help with your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to practice asking your friends you can give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi am in a really similar situation but for me, I have lots of friends that I could stay with I just don't know how 2 ask them. I really hate asking for things esp. when it's ppl that r kind 2 me.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello,
    We’re very glad you reached out to us. It takes a lot of bravery to advocate for yourself like this. It sounds like your situation at home is really stressful right now. How do you cope with how you’ve been feeling? Have you talked with anyone about what’s been going on at home? Maybe friends or family members? Talking to someone you trust can be a healthy way of coping with stress and thinking through different options of what you could do. Also, have you talked to either of your parents about how their arguing has affected you? This may sound stressful but it’s an option you could consider.
    Once again, we’re very happy you reached out to us and want to best support you however we can during this difficult time. If you’d like to talk more about what’s been going on and think through different options in more detail, you can call us at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live online chat at www.1800runaway.org. We are confidential and available 24/7.
    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello, this is Tyler Adams,

    I had a very tough morning today because last night my mom started an argument with my dad saying that he's visiting dating sites which he never does on purpose, he always does it by accident by tapping on it with his thumb on his own iPhone 5C. My mom also had recently took pictures of the things she thinks he did wrong but he's told her a hundred trillion times that he's not subscribed to it. He's been telling my mom that's it's all considered junk mail. What kind of parents are they to put me through this? What kind of man am I to be living with parents like these? I'm easily haunted by the sound of them fighting and I just can't stand having to live my life like this. Last night I was hiding in the closet inside the bathroom that they both share located next to their bedroom. I was loudly shouting, "Help me, Lord God! Jesus Christ, the Almighty King, Blessed Virgin Mary, and Holy St. Joseph! I can't stand the sound of my parents fighting any longer! Please put an end to all the arguments they always get into!" I said it for the first time and it helped block out the sound of them arguing. But still, the sound of it haunts me, and I don't want to deal with this anymore for the rest of my life. I just want to escape and vacate from all this craziness so that I can never ever hear it again anymore for a very long time. All I ever want is to spend time away from my parents and take a break from them. I'm just sick and tired of hearing them starting up arguments out of nowhere and it just makes absolutely no sense to me in the first place, anyways, whatsoever. Please help me, NRS, you're my only hope and you're the only ones that I can trust.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS and for sharing a bit about your situation. From what you shared, your parents have not been listening to your needs and they have not been very supportive. Your mental health is really important and it can be tough to cope with it alone. Home is supposed to be somewhere you feel safe and taken care of.

    Sometimes having a safe place to talk about how you are feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Reaching out to a school counselor or another adult that you trust could also be a good outlet for you. This can also get an adult involved to advocate for you to your parents. We also have a conference call service where we can facilitate a conversation between you and your parents. We will be on the line to talk with your parents together and ensure your voice is heard.

    Because you mentioned that you have been struggling with your mental health, we want to make sure you are getting the support that you need. There is a crisis text-line you can contact to be connected with a counselor. If you feel like you need someone to talk to at anytime you can text “NAMI” to 741741.

    If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore your options, we are here 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

    We wish you the best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My parents yell at me and freak out for no reason they cut everything back witch makes me even more angry I have odd and ADHD and they dont get it, I also get very anxious and havent been diagnosed but I do get very depressed alot, my dad is never understanding and always calls me a failure my mom is way to strict and never seems to care. They also try to make me the bad one in the situation and get to manipulate me
    I dont know what to do anymore

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi, Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things are pretty stressful over at your girlfriend’s house. It’s good that you have each other for friendship and support. You are dealing with a lot on your own with anxiety and panic attacks and having her in your life sounds beneficial for you both. Working on your own mental health is the best way to help her, so that you are in a good place to offer support. There are a few issues in your post that we can address here. It sounds like her father threatens you with the police. We are not legal experts, but from what you say, he has no grounds to follow through. Given the closeness in a age between you and your girlfriend, when you turn 18 you can google Romeo and Juliet laws and your state’s name to see if you are protected, which you very likely are.
    As far as your girlfriend’s situation, we would like to talk with her and help her discover her own answers and options. As well as you know her, only she has the interior knowledge that comes from being human. A family dealing with a person who may be a domestic abuser is a complicated dynamic where everyone in the family has to worry about their own safety, either emotional or physical. For more help and information for your girlfriend and/or her mom, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233 or at www.thehotline.org
    For each of you, you and your girlfriend, we hope that you can each separately reach out to us either by phone or via live chat. This way we can have a discussion to help you during these difficult times. Our pnone number is 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or access live chat through the website at www.1800runaway.org
    We hope this helps. NRS

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    Guest replied
    So my girlfriend is 15 and at her house her dad, sisters, and sometimes her grandma verbally attack her like for instance her dad this morning said "if you don't wake up i am cutting off the wifi and suspending your phone service so you can not talk to your boyfriend" i am 2 yrs older then her and she feels 1,000,000% more safe being at my house then her own but anytime she mentions living somewhere else or getting married in the future her dad automatically threatens to call the police on me. I've heard him say it cause im on call with my girlfriend 24/7 cause she doesnt feel safe at her home but she doesnt want to go into the foster system she wants to stay with me but her dad is constantly threatening me with the cops like yesterday he threw a pair of handcuffs at me and said "if you do anything with my daughter this is what will happen to you" he was implying getting me arrested but her sister is always making her do everything for her and the only one that takes my girlfriends side is her mom. my girlfriends mom is constantly being put down, yelled at, etc... my girlfriends dad walks all over my girlfriends mom, her sisters, her grandma, and her my girlfriend has no say in anything with out her dad saying hes gonna call the cops on me or says "whatever nothing i say matters anyway so im done you wont have to deal with me anymore when im dead you'll get my insurance money and my survivor benefits" my girlfriend has told her dad several times she doesnt like when he says or acts like that and its to the point shes gonna leave or im gonna lose her and i cant she is like the only thing that calms my anxiety and panic attacks and i do they same thing for her. its at the point shes gonna leave her house and go somewhere and im not the type of boyfriend that is gonna let her do that and not do anything about it like if she leaves im gonna find her and be with her

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m just having trouble understanding. One moment I just don’t wanna be here and I just idk I want to be with my real parents I can’t live here anymore

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi there,

    We are glad you reached out to us. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help. It sounds overwhelming at your house and dealing with your Dad. You don’t deserve to have your Dad leaning on you for his emotional help dealing with his issues. It sounds like you have been swamped with his issues and problems for a long time. You deserve to have your space and your experiences that are not all centered around his problems or his demands.

    There are a couple of options we could explore with you to try to find you some help and support in your community, free counselling or maybe with some other family members. The best way for us to discuss this further with you would be for you to chat with us on our website at www.1800RUNAWAY.org or to call us directly on our 24/7 hotline at (800) 786 2929. We are a non-directive agency which means we want to work out a plan for you that works best for you and not tell you what to do. Thank you for reaching out to us for help, we hope to hear from you soon.

    Thank, NRS

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    Guest replied
    I've been having this feeling as well.
    It's recently come to my attention how messed up my home life really kind of is. I've always been close to my Dad, we share the type of humor, but he's not without his parenting faults. I think he accidentally put me in the position of being his friend/therapist. I've always known my Dad was abused because he told me. I think he was trying to teach me to always treat people with kindness or something but I was way too young for this. One of the first memories I have of my dad is him telling me about how his mother held a gun to his head when he was a kid and I thought sharing things like this to your 7-year-old daughter was normal for quite a long time. I love my Dad but I really think he needed to get his issues worked out with someone before he had a kid. He can be very two-faced and irritable because of this. He over thinks a lot of things. This past year I started taking advanced classes. They were really tough on me and my mental state. I ended up getting a C in algebra (I was never the best at math anyway so this class was really rough on me), my Dad flipped out yelling at me and asking why "I would mess my grade up" as if I did it purposefully. Another bad memory I have of him from my childhood, was when I was I think 8 or 9, my family went to this really huge mall. I was scared to go down the escalators (I had scraped the back of my foot on one in the past) so my Dad decided to yell at me and call me a "chicken********" (a favorite insult for when I was scared as a kid) over and over until I got on. Another time I had got a cd for Christmas but when I went to played it (a month later) it had scratches all over it. It would not play but I had already thrown away the receipt. When I told my Dad he would just not let it go. He made me go outside at around 8:00 at night and dig through the trash can for it. I had told him over and over that "It was fine" and that i "didn't want to", he just yelled at me until he got his way. We brought it to the store and got my money back but I felt disgusting. Yet, I keep finding myself forgiving him because well, he was abused. I can't keep doing this as I find myself losing empathy for those around me.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: Hello. Where can I go?

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We’re glad you reached out and we would like to be of some assistance if we can.
    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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