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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation at home with how your dad gets high and drinks and how he treats you. We are sorry you are experiencing abuse, no one ever deserves to go through that. You do have the right to report the abuse to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You can either do it yourself or call into us directly and we can support you through it. It is hard to say the result of reporting, but if you call in you can ask what the process might look like.

    Also another way you can seek help is reaching out to a friend, teacher, or counselor at school that can help you look for resources. Your mental health is important. You can also look at SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) at samhsa.gov or call them directly at 1-877-726-4727 to help you find the support that you need. Another number that may be helpful in relation to what you experiencing at home is called the Alcohol and Drug Helpline at 206-722-3700. If you do ever feel in direct danger, to yourself, or some else makes you feel that way, please call out to 911 or reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255).

    Since you keep thinking about running away, we aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, the most likely will return you home to your parents. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring. One of our main goals is to make sure you are safe, so if you ever seriously decide to run away and need shelter, resources, or a safe place to go you can find safe locations at nationalsafeplace.org or reach out to us directly and we can find local resources in your area.

    We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY we are open 24/7.

    -NRS

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    I can’t stop thinking about running away , I just can’t take much more . All he does is get high or drink ,he’s okay sometimes but he gets high or drunk or both a lot. My mom , brother and I had to stay at my mothers office because he got so drunk:he calls all of us names he treats us like ******** sometimes

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi,
    Thanks so much for reaching out. This sounds like a complicated situation. It sounds like you really want to move out, which is totally understandable since your mom is not really letting you act your age, especially because she is giving you so much responsibility. It also sounds like your mom is on board with you living with your grandfather, she just wants to make sure it is legal. We are not legal experts, but typically with a parent’s permission you can live wherever they allow. The only way you would get in trouble is if your mother decided she no longer wanted you to live with your grandfather, and filed a runaway report. Running away is not illegal however, so a runaway repot just means that the police would bring you back to your mother. If your mother thinks it is okay to go to your grandfather’s, then you can do that without getting in trouble. Feel free to call us anytime if you want to talk more specifically about this, or if you have any questions. Our number is 1-800-786-2929, and we are here 24/7.
    Thanks for reaching out,
    NRS

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    i want to live with my grandfather because hes disabled and i just cant stand it at home my family expects me to pick up after every one my younger sisters mentally abuse me and my mom does nothing about it my moms barley home shes always at work or out with friends so im left to take care of my little sisters its honestly hard i want to be a fourteen year old but my mom gives me a lot of responsibility so i talked to my mom she told me to find a legal way to move out so she dont have to pay for me so that i can be out of her life for good so i need help finding ways

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: I can't stand to live with my parents anymore.

    Hello,
    Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

    We appreciate you sharing your story with us.
    It takes a lot of courage to open up and express your feelings about your relationship with your parents.
    It sounds like you have a great deal of responsibility taking care of your horse and it has been frustrating for you having your father take your efforts lightly.
    Some situations can be disappointing and even upsetting thus making things uncertain about what to do or where to turn.

    We understand and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. It sounds like you would prefer to move out of your parent’s house and in with a friend and their family. The issue may be getting your parent’s to agree with this idea.
    Maybe it’s something you would want to talk more about.
    We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org.

    Again tell us what it is you would like us to help you with and we will be happy to explore some options with you.
    NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    I can't stand to live with my parents anymore.



    I'm not really sure where to start with all of this. I've gone through a lot this past year, and a half. Going through tough times changes you, in good ways and bad. I've realized a lot of things have changed. Everything that goes wrong in my parent’s lives, is somehow my fault. For example of something that happens quite frequently, I have a horse. Right now he's injured and he can't go run and be a horse. This makes him very anxious and energetic. If I make one small mistake with him, my dad will embarrass me in front of the workers at my barn, or yell at me in front of the workers/customers. I've come home to my mother wanting to sell my horse, because it happens so often. If something gets misplaced that's not mine, or anything it's automatically my fault. Now of course I'm the child so usually it is the child who will take things and misplace stuff. But can every single thing that goes missing be my fault? my dad once was yelling at me because I "lost one of his tools." later around 10 minutes he found his tool and never apologized for assuming I had something to do with it, when I even tried to help find it. When something happens and we argue, and I turn out to be right, my parents like to pretend nothing happened. I'm not one to hold grudges, but if you yell at me and make me cry then 5 minutes later try to have a normal conversation with me like it never happened? I can't just do that. This stuff happens all the time. I don't tell my parents everything. Of course most parents would love to hear about their child's life and help them out and be there for them, but when I tell them, they get mad at me, or make everything my fault like I can control if I'm sad all the time or not. I dread going home from school, or hanging out with friends because they've made it feel like it's no longer home. My parents say I've changed, and that I'm different in a bad way. But I know I changed for better because I'm stronger. But I can't deal with everything, every day, not with school, and my responsibilities. They want me to be perfect and when I'm not they make me feel bad, like I'm nothing. I’ve cried so many times at night because of things they've done or said to me. I don't want to live at "home" anymore. My best friend has offered me his basement, and he parents have already discussed it and they're okay with it. But with my parents treating me like this they still won't let me go stay elsewhere. I am young, 15. but I have a job, I can buy my own clothes, food, everything I need at this income if I stay at my best friend’s house until I save up enough for when I'm 18. I don't think I can last living at this house until I'm 18. It just doesn't seem realistic at this rate.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 08-23-2017, 02:02 AM.
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