I can't stand to live with my parents anymore.

[Guest]

My parents yell at me and freak out for no reason they cut everything back witch makes me even more angry I have odd and ADHD and they dont get it, I also get very anxious and havent been diagnosed but I do get very depressed alot, my dad is never understanding and always calls me a failure my mom is way to strict and never seems to care. They also try to make me the bad one in the situation and get to manipulate me
I dont know what to do anymore

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS and for sharing a bit about your situation. From what you shared, your parents have not been listening to your needs and they have not been very supportive. Your mental health is really important and it can be tough to cope with it alone. Home is supposed to be somewhere you feel safe and taken care of.

Sometimes having a safe place to talk about how you are feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Reaching out to a school counselor or another adult that you trust could also be a good outlet for you. This can also get an adult involved to advocate for you to your parents. We also have a conference call service where we can facilitate a conversation between you and your parents. We will be on the line to talk with your parents together and ensure your voice is heard.

Because you mentioned that you have been struggling with your mental health, we want to make sure you are getting the support that you need. There is a crisis text-line you can contact to be connected with a counselor. If you feel like you need someone to talk to at anytime you can text “NAMI” to 741741.

If you would like to talk more about your situation and explore your options, we are here 24/7 by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

We wish you the best,
NRS

[Guest]

Hello, this is Tyler Adams,

I had a very tough morning today because last night my mom started an argument with my dad saying that he's visiting dating sites which he never does on purpose, he always does it by accident by tapping on it with his thumb on his own iPhone 5C. My mom also had recently took pictures of the things she thinks he did wrong but he's told her a hundred trillion times that he's not subscribed to it. He's been telling my mom that's it's all considered junk mail. What kind of parents are they to put me through this? What kind of man am I to be living with parents like these? I'm easily haunted by the sound of them fighting and I just can't stand having to live my life like this. Last night I was hiding in the closet inside the bathroom that they both share located next to their bedroom. I was loudly shouting, "Help me, Lord God! Jesus Christ, the Almighty King, Blessed Virgin Mary, and Holy St. Joseph! I can't stand the sound of my parents fighting any longer! Please put an end to all the arguments they always get into!" I said it for the first time and it helped block out the sound of them arguing. But still, the sound of it haunts me, and I don't want to deal with this anymore for the rest of my life. I just want to escape and vacate from all this craziness so that I can never ever hear it again anymore for a very long time. All I ever want is to spend time away from my parents and take a break from them. I'm just sick and tired of hearing them starting up arguments out of nowhere and it just makes absolutely no sense to me in the first place, anyways, whatsoever. Please help me, NRS, you're my only hope and you're the only ones that I can trust.

[ccsmod2]

Hello,
We’re very glad you reached out to us. It takes a lot of bravery to advocate for yourself like this. It sounds like your situation at home is really stressful right now. How do you cope with how you’ve been feeling? Have you talked with anyone about what’s been going on at home? Maybe friends or family members? Talking to someone you trust can be a healthy way of coping with stress and thinking through different options of what you could do. Also, have you talked to either of your parents about how their arguing has affected you? This may sound stressful but it’s an option you could consider.
Once again, we’re very happy you reached out to us and want to best support you however we can during this difficult time. If you’d like to talk more about what’s been going on and think through different options in more detail, you can call us at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live online chat at www.1800runaway.org. We are confidential and available 24/7.
Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi am in a really similar situation but for me, I have lots of friends that I could stay with I just don't know how 2 ask them. I really hate asking for things esp. when it's ppl that r kind 2 me.

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you may be going through a difficult time as finding somewhere to stay can be frustrating.
You mentioned having a lot of friends that you could stay with which is great. It can be a little bit uncomfortable to ask your friends. One option you could consider is to casually mention to your friends that you are looking for somewhere to stay. They may offer you a place to stay without you having to directly ask them. Another option would be to write down what you would want to ask before asking that way you have it prepared.
We hope that this information will help with your situation. If you have any more questions or would like to practice asking your friends you can give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Hey,
I’m jasmine I’ve been having problems with my mom ever since I was young but these days it’s been getting worst I’m from the Middle East and moving here is hard since I’m a teenager but I can’t stand it anymore and I really need to leave my mom doesn’t understand me and she always hurts me i have depression and anger issues I can’t stand it and I tried committing suicide more than one time I want to move somewhere or get help at least for a little time she recently took away all my electronic devices I pretty much sneaked into my phone to write this I don’t know what to do please help me

[ccsmod1]

Hey Jasmine,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It sounds like you could really use some support right now and it must be really disappointing that she isn't able to provide what you need right now. Moving can be really stressful, especially when there are numerous cultural norms at play.

You mentioned that you have tried to commit suicide more than once. We care a lot about your safety, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time.

You brought up that you've been struggling with some depression and anger issues. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I am a 18 year old college student and I am going through a lot of similar things that many of you have mentioned. If anyone wants to talk about their situation, I am here for you, and obviously, I hope you have time to hear my issues as well. I think it can be great if we can talk over our issues since they all pertain to either neglectful, irrational, or abusive parents.

[ccsmod15]

Hello,

Thanks ever so much for reaching out to us, as well as for extending yourself as a source of support to others. It takes courage to ask for help, as well as to make yourself available to others. It sounds like you’re also looking for a source of support to discuss issues that you may be experiencing. Please know that we are here to support all youth in crisis, and we invite you and anyone else that may be looking for support, to give us a call or send us a chat. We won’t tell you what to do, but we will do our very best to help you stay as safe as possible as you explore options to address your current situation. You can reach us 24/7 by phone at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786.2929) or via chat by visiting our website at https://www.1800runaway.org/ . We’re here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!

NRS

[Guest]

Hello, I feel like I can't live here anymore. I'm constantly getting yelled at for nothing and anytime I try to talk about my feeling with my parents they yell at me even though they said that there here for me. I'm at a point when I just want to run away and live with my boyfriend. He makes me feel safer than when I'm at home. I don't know what to do. Yesterday my dad was all in my face and I can't stand it anymore. My mom did nothing. My boyfriend is the only one that truly cares about me. My cousin knows about this and she understands, also some of my friends but I feel like I don't belong in this world and even if I do I don't belong in this house.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are sorry to hear you are being yelled at unfairly. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon. When you call or chat with us we can discuss what your best options are going forward.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I can’t stand my mum she will shout at me for no reason and if anything goes wrong it’s my fault if my brother does anything and oh whoops I guess I deserve to get punished for it and she makes me feel worthless and spoilt and she says that she wishes I was never born but I have no one to stay with and I am only 12 so I don’t have a job or anything but she makes me feel so horrible about myself and she makes me cry at least one W a day and I am hard to get to cry but j am so done with her. Sorry about the poor grammar and spelling I am writing this through tears.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

My dad is always criticising and downgrading me. It's true that I am dumb and don't know a lot of things. But he is always judging and criticising everything I do. He always denies my feelings hence I had to bottle them up. Yesterday, he threatened to start to beat me up from now on. And he says that if he does it, it's gonna be worth years of not getting beaten up. I don't wanna live here anymore. I don't feel comfortable. I don't feel safe. I don't feel loved. I even self harmed a few times in the past. Now, self harming just doesn't have any effect. I wanna get out of here. I want my aunt to get my custody. I know that at her place I will be treated right and feel loved. I want it to be permanent till am a legal adult. I am now 15 turning 16 this year. If my dad and my aunt agrees, how long will the procedures take place? And what is needed to be done? How long can it take cuz I wanna get out of here right now. I can't.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

when growing up me and mother was close, but behind closed doors... she believes in hitting your child has a punsihment when they do bad. she doesnt really doesnt do it much anymore tbh. Shes always had this scary temper that she cnat control once shes upset and agry its over she throws she yells gets in your face mind sometimes i do yell back but i learned to try and stop it honestly just gets her more upset. she makes e feel like im worthless and i cant do anything. it hurts to think of urself like that too. im scared to try and contact my school and ask for help bc they might be my last chance and if my mom find out... i alsways choke about my mother could possible kill me one day as a joke to my friends but deep down if she gets angry enough she could. she doesnt drink lor anything she just has what i think to be anger mangement problems.. my phone she took it it has all my online friends in there and theyre the oly ones getting me through this she find out that i have them and now i cant have my phone im so sick and tired of evrything she yells and scares me then shes like oh im so sorry ill never do tat again but does it much worse the next time. im going to ask her if i can go to therap.. i used to be in it but she pulled me out of it. i wanna talk with someone about this i just cant do any of tgis anymore she makes me feel unelievably helpless. she screams and yells for no reason its gotten completely worse and i just cant anymore im done.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You deserve to feel safe at home and be treated with respect wherever you go.

You mentioned some things about your mom hurting you and it raises a great deal of concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are currently at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

[Guest]

I'm 22 years old and I cant keep a stable job and I struggle to find a job,I have no license or a car bcz I simply cant afford it and my parents dont care about me and I try finishing college to have a stable job and I failed to do soo but I'm really out of options and I'm dying inside and I just font want to live with my toxic abusive parents anymore so plz help I have no independence and I'm soo unhappy and I'm desperate for help

[ccsmod5]

Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out, it sounds like things have been pretty tough lately. We hope to help as best we can. Since you are 22 you are more than likely considered a legal adult in all states which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful.

Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave.

You mentioned having struggled with finding employment, there may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs. Transitional Living Programs are a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living; they can receive help getting on their feet, it provides a place to stay as well as assistance with getting a job and managing being on your own. We are here to listen and help however we can.

Stay strong,
NRS