Running away because I'm 14 and pregnant

[Guest]

I'm adopted and I don't enjoy the family that I live with they put me down and don't understand the things I've been through (foster homes/ abused/ depression) and I'm only 14 and I lost my virginity and got pregnant, I am really against abortion and I want to keep this baby. I've always talked to my mom about what she would do if I got pregnant young and she said she would make me abort it. I have a blood sister and 3 brothers in Philadelphia (she's 17 and my eldest brother is 2 and I live in Florida, since I'm so young I really have no money so I was thinking I could go to my local mall, sell my phone for about 150-200 and buy a little flip phone from the dollar store so I could contact my sister. And the family I was adopted into has a lot of money and it's always laying around cause my father that adopted me is a drug dealer so there's usually 300 laying around and I know where there money drawer is and I could get maybe 100 out of there so I'd only have about 600 to get to Philly but once I get there I won't need to buy food or anything cause I have my siblings. My sister really wants to meet me (my adopted mother won't let us meet) and my biggest dream was to always live with her. Does my plan sound good? And do I need my passport just to travel through the states from Florida to Pennsylvania? And what form of transportation should I take because I've never seen trains or busses around and I'm not sure if a plane is even an option. I'm planning on dying my hair blonde (I have light brown hair) just so if my parents describe me to the police they won't be looking for a blonde girl and I also have blue contacts I could wear and just put on heavy makeup/ sunglasses. And btw I'm only a month along so I have some time before I'm gonna run away (before the baby starts showing) and I'm not planning on telling ANYONE not my bestfriends not my cousins NO ONE. And I forgot to mension that my sister and brothers are all moving into a nice house without there parents so no one would know about me. And how should I tell my sister that I'm running away to go live with her (like over the phone, text, payphone, etc???)

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Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us! We’re sorry to hear you are unhappy at home. It sounds like you are feeling you might be pressured into ending your pregnancy. It’s understandable that you’re upset. We want you to know that you may have rights for deciding what happens with your pregnancy. If you’re interested in learning more about your rights, one place to visit is www.sexetc.org . Their “Sex in the States” map provides information on laws and rights in different states. If you give us a call, we are also happy to provide you with numbers for legal aid resources in your area to learn more about your rights and how you might be able to legally keep your baby.

We are non-directive, which means we can’t offer advice for whether your plan to leave home is good or will work out. Those choices are up to you. We can speak generally and say that it’s smart to plan ahead, consider all of your options, and have backup plans in case things don’t work out how you have planned them. If you do leave home and things do not go as planned, you may need a place to stay. If that happens, you can reach out to our confidential hotline anytime (1800-RUNAWAY) and we will try to provide resources for a safe place for you to go. We would need more specific information about your current location to provide shelter referrals, but here are a couple websites that can help people find safe places to stay:

http://nationalsafeplace.org/

http://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/

Another thing we do is offer general information about what could happen if you leave home. For one, your legal guardians could file a runaway report with the police, and the police may find you and return you home. Your legal guardians could also file harboring charges against people that you stay with after you leave home. That means your sister could possibly get in trouble with police for taking you in as a runaway. We aren’t legal experts, and how police handle these cases does vary from place to place. If you would like more specific information about runaway reports and harboring charges, you have the option to call your local police’s non-emergency number to talk with an officer. If you are uncomfortable with doing that on your own, you can call first, and we can help you through the process.

We hope this information has been helpful for you! If you have further questions or would like to talk further about your situation, please give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

Best wishes,
-NRS

[Guest]

I'm 15 and pregnant. I already know my bf dosnt want a baby because we have talked about this and he said if I got pregnant he would make me abort it but I'm against abortion. My parents would make me abort it to because they did that with my older sister and they abused her verbally after. I want to run away and change my name, hair color, and lie about my age. I would move a couple states and probably go into foster care or if I can get a job and a cheap apartment (I'll pretend to be 16 if I chose the foster care, 18 if I chose to get a job) I really dont want to leave because I love my friends and siblings and my bf but none of them would understand, the only one I would tell would be my best friend (I'll call her ava) Ava knows about the baby and wants to help me because shes almost 18. I have about $200 saved up from babysitting and she said she would give me a little more if I need it and she wouldnt tell the cops. I want to leave but it's hard letting go of everyone but her. Should i?

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. After reading through your story please know that it might be a good idea to call us and talk about your options. You mentioned that you want to lie about your age please know that a lot of the places you want to try require proof of age or a birth certificate. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

Hi I’m 14 and pregnant my mom is abusive to me and my dad can’t take me because he’s on things. if I call the cops will they let me stay with a family I know or will I be put in a foster home? A friends family said if I need help they would help. They are the ones I want to stay with. I’m in kentucky. Please let me know what I can do I’m afraid I will lose the baby and if my mom knows I’m pregnant she will make me have an abortion or do it herself she’s crazy.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out with your question. It sounds like a really tough and difficult situation to be in. You could potentially stay at your friend’s family if your guardian (mom or dad) agreed to that. There is often paperwork, called an alternative living arrangement, that both the family that would take you in and your parents could sign, to allow you stay there. You can reach out to your school counselor to find out about it - or have your friend's parents contact their child’s school counselor to investigate. Can't tell from your email whether that would be doable. But it is a good avenue to try.

The other thing to mention, is whether you want to report your mom’s abuse, which is so very wrong. If you feel like you are currently at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

We are here at National Runaway Safeline 24/7. So please reach out to us at any time – you can chat or call in person. Good luck.