Hi there,
I'm hoping on looking for some advice. Before I start I want to confirm to everyone that I love my mother, very much. She does so much for all of us and sacrifices so much for us and we are 100% aware of that. However she gets angry and pissed very fast. Throughout the upbringing of me (16 years old) and my brother (currently 12 years old) I know that we have been physically abused many times. Slaps, kicks, beatings with clothing hangers etc. I vividly remember one time when I was in the 1st grade, before leaving for school I was taking forever to get ready and my mother was also running late. I dont remember what I did to further piss her off but I remember her hitting me and a large mark appearing on the side of my face. She then told me that if anyone asked I was to tell them that i tripped and hit my face on a table. When I went to school that day my teacher asked my and replied telling her exactly what my mother told me to say. While she doesn't hit me anymore, she still hits my brother (12) occasionally. We're both used to this and don't complain anymore tbh. However the only thing that is making me write this, is my youngest brother (4 years old). As a toddler, he cries. A LOT. he's very fussy, and can get annoying but my mother can't handle it and hits him. It happens often and it physically hurts me watching him scream in pain. Very often I try to take him away from her. A lot of the times i succeed but sometimes she just yells at me and hits me to back off. I know that she's a good person, because she does feel bad afterwards. But i think that will put a negative affect on my youngest brother. For his tiny brain, being yelled at, then hit and then showered with love and apologies obviously has to be confusing right? Won't that have some kind of emotional impact on him? I know that my mother used to do that to us and while I believe that it has impacted us by making my and my brother (12) very impatient and stubborn but we also know how to control it. But I fear my youngest brother may not be able to? I just need advice, i need to know what I can say to her, show her or tell her that will make her stop. What can i do to get her to understand that this can have a huge impact on our brothers' future? I would like to remind you again that she IS a good person, I know that 100%. She loves us and I love her so much but I don't think it's right for her to hurt our 4 year old brother that way. He's jsut a baby.
Thank you.
I'm hoping on looking for some advice. Before I start I want to confirm to everyone that I love my mother, very much. She does so much for all of us and sacrifices so much for us and we are 100% aware of that. However she gets angry and pissed very fast. Throughout the upbringing of me (16 years old) and my brother (currently 12 years old) I know that we have been physically abused many times. Slaps, kicks, beatings with clothing hangers etc. I vividly remember one time when I was in the 1st grade, before leaving for school I was taking forever to get ready and my mother was also running late. I dont remember what I did to further piss her off but I remember her hitting me and a large mark appearing on the side of my face. She then told me that if anyone asked I was to tell them that i tripped and hit my face on a table. When I went to school that day my teacher asked my and replied telling her exactly what my mother told me to say. While she doesn't hit me anymore, she still hits my brother (12) occasionally. We're both used to this and don't complain anymore tbh. However the only thing that is making me write this, is my youngest brother (4 years old). As a toddler, he cries. A LOT. he's very fussy, and can get annoying but my mother can't handle it and hits him. It happens often and it physically hurts me watching him scream in pain. Very often I try to take him away from her. A lot of the times i succeed but sometimes she just yells at me and hits me to back off. I know that she's a good person, because she does feel bad afterwards. But i think that will put a negative affect on my youngest brother. For his tiny brain, being yelled at, then hit and then showered with love and apologies obviously has to be confusing right? Won't that have some kind of emotional impact on him? I know that my mother used to do that to us and while I believe that it has impacted us by making my and my brother (12) very impatient and stubborn but we also know how to control it. But I fear my youngest brother may not be able to? I just need advice, i need to know what I can say to her, show her or tell her that will make her stop. What can i do to get her to understand that this can have a huge impact on our brothers' future? I would like to remind you again that she IS a good person, I know that 100%. She loves us and I love her so much but I don't think it's right for her to hurt our 4 year old brother that way. He's jsut a baby.
Thank you.
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