I can't take it anymore

[Guest]

My mom and dad had me when they were both 16, and turned to drugs. I had to live in an abusive household with my aunt for 2 years because of dyfic. Now I'm back with my dad and my mom is dead. My dad has a girlfriend and all they do is fight. There are 3 rooms in my house, me and my sisters room, my dad and his girlfriends room, and the extra room. My dad makes me share a BED with my 6 year old sister. an share a room with her. He gives the extra room to his girlfriends kids. He wakes me up at 7:30 AM every day in the summer, just because he doesnt want me to sleep in. He makes me go to bed at 8:30 PM. he doesn't let me do ANYTHING he doesn't let me go to friends houses, but he yells at me to go outsude, but he won't let me. He just wants me to stay in my room all summer. He yells horrible things at me all the time, and yells at me for no reason. My dad doesn't love me, and he's told me many times. He cares more about his girlfriend and her kids more than he cares about me. During the school year I never wanted to go home. Now its summer he won't let me go anywhere. But I hate being here. He makes me do a bunch of household chores, then tells me i'm fat and lazy and don't do anything. School is really hard for me, but I get good grades and get accepted into programs and advanced classes. Theyre so hard for me and I dont want to be in them but he makes me. The classes are really hard so i've been getting really bad grades lately and he hates me even more. I have a boyfriend but i never get to see him because of my dad. I hate it here so much, but I cant leave because im only 14. What do I do

[ccsmod15]

Hi,

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things are really difficult at home right now. Home should be a place where you feel safe and loved. We are here to help you explore your options.

It sounds like you are going through a lot between home life and school. You do not deserve to be treated so poorly by your dad. You should feel safe and respected by your family members. One option you have available to you is abuse reporting for neglect and emotional/verbal abuse. If this is something you would like to explore further, you can contact the local police, Child Protective Services (CPS) or someone at school you trust like a teacher or coach. Or you could contact Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or visit their site childhelp.org that has a lot of useful information and support. You are not alone and have many options.

Another option could be to see if your dad would give you permission to stay with another family member or close friend for a little while, to get a break from the stress and chaos of home. This might be an easier option too since it’s now summer break and you don’t have to worry about getting to classes.

We could also help you look up youth shelters in your area. If you call us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY we can even call the shelters with you on the phone to help ask any questions you may have and to see if they have space. It can be really scary and frustrating not feeling welcome in your own home and we are here to help support you.

Lastly, something you can do right away, if you’re not sure which option you’re most comfortable with, is to find some coping mechanisms to help you handle what you’re going through. For example, try to think of any activities like writing, drawing, or listening to music that you enjoy and help you relax. What’s most important is that you feel safe, wherever you are.


If you would like further help exploring any of these options or others in more detail, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling us at 1-800- RUNAWAY or chatting with us live on our website at www.1800.runaway.org. We look forward to hearing from you.

Take care,
NRS