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  • #46
    a couple of weeks ago my step-dad got mad at me because i din't like the soup he made. while i was in the middle of trying to eat it he picked it up dumped it in the trash and told me i wasn't allowed to eat anything unless it was the soup. after 2 days i found some starbursts from Easter
    and was eating those the 3rd day he said i can eat whatever i wanted for that moment so i did, i felt a lot better but still really weak after eating nothing except a couple starbursts every now and then. but the day i wouldn't want to eat the soup (the day all this started) i got mad because he wouldn't let me eat the soup after i tried so hard he picked my up by wrists and through me onto my bed where my metal water bottle was and i hit my head of of it i told my mom and she said," well don't be disrespectful" my arms and wrists had grip marks on them that stung. i also got mad at my mom and she was trying to hurt me so i kicked her away and she smacked me really the in the leg it hurt very bad i could hardly walk, i have been discipline before one time my mom "hit me across the mouth" when she really hit me across my nose and made my nose hurt and bleed a lot. my uncle once kicked my door in (while my friend was there) and came in later with a knife and made me hold a door that was way past my size (i was only like 4 foot) and the door weighed more than me. and fixed it me and my friend were traumatized. i did forgive him because he wasn't in the best state of mind at that time. but i am concerned about my step-dad hurting me.

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      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

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  • #47
    I rather remain anonymous but I will say that earlier today, my family were preparing the house as a few friends were visiting us and I was just walking into my room minding my own business and in my defense, the music was on too loud and as my stepdad instruct me to give my little brother some water. I couldn't hear him and I thought I was hearing things because there were times where I thought I heard his voice only to be not true and it's just me mishearing something. At that point of time, I've caught on with that situation and I walked to my room like normal. But then 2 or 5 minutes later, my stepdad walked in angry and cursed at me to get some water. I said I'm sorry it sounded like you were mumbling and at first he started to swear more saying he wasn't and thought I was talking back. I then spoke softly just to show how it sound like when I couldn't hear him. He then smacked me across my cheek whilst spilling his corona beer in the process. I grew very angry and I stormed to my mom's room, telling her about what happened and as she normally would everytime my stepdad does something wrong, he defends him saying I'm in the wrong by saying I was talking back and I honestly can't believe my own mother is defending this verbally abusive brute. I would've fought him back and maybe knock his dentures out but of course, if I ever did that I could end up in prison as they say they would. Ever since he slapped me, I promised myself that when I go to my dad's, I will never go back until either my mom or stepdad split up or they clean their act up together. The worst part about all of this is that this bully of a parental figure graduated anger management class and you'd think he'd start using what he learned from there. But sadly, this isn't the case. He's learned nothing from that class. I know so. He gave me two anger management books because I myself have anger issues too. And at of all the times he's flared on me or anybody else in the house, a big majority of what books explain best describes my stepdad's behavior. And after that day he slapped me and bullied up on me, I am fully convinced that he's learned nothing from that class. I swore myself that if he does something like that again, I will report him. But I'm still debating myself whether I should do it. As an teen that's about to be 18, I fear it will cause more drama at my house and towards my family. I fear it will get my mom or somebody in my family or my stepdad's family to do something crazy which could harm me or someone else. At least that's what I fear in my head. Respond to me whenever you can. I just needed to do some venting and I wanted to get this out of my system. Hopefully get some advice and support.

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

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  • #48
    So my little sister (12) just informed me that my stepdad (43) punched her in the leg after he got mad at her. I'm not sure who to tell because I've had problems in the past and don't want to mess any friendships or relationships up. She said it happened around 2 months ago and she said it happened because she was beinf sarcastic, which is a family thing so everyone is. My stepdad has always been a control freak and my mom was there when it happened, my sister told me my mom almost called the police. I'm a middle child out of 5, and the 3 eldest, 21, 18, and me, 15, have never liked him. About 3 years ago they went through marriage counseling and my mom took us away from him and we stayed at grandma's. I don't know if this isn't a big deal but I'm scared to say anything to him because whenever there is a problem he goes straight to yelling. Please help me figure out what to do about this.

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your step-dad and sister. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned her being harmed. We’re sorry you and she are going through this. No one deserves to be hurt in any way. If you or your siblings are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #49
    My stepdad keeps insulting me I was 4 when he came so I call him dad and now he has actually started to think he is my dad so he calls me disrespectful and keeps beating me up. my real dad has to keep going outside town since for his work even in this covid-19 crisis he is going to work so he can provide for me. My mom has seen him beat me up he is a bodybuilder so I’m scared plus he has told me he will kill me I have told my real dad bout this but he still needs to go outside for work. I’m really scared about this

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    • ccsmod4
      ccsmod4 commented
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      Hi,
      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

      It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything that has been going on. You do not deserve to be hit or abused by anyone. It’s not your fault that this is happening.
      It sounds like your mother and biological dad has been has been aware of this going on but has provided little or no support.
      The situation sounds very frustrating for you. We’re glad you reached out. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care.
      It is times like these that it might bring some comfort to have a listening ear.

      NRS is here to listen and here to help.
      We would be glad to speak with you about what has been going on and explore some options that might help you to cope better with your situation.
      You ae not alone. We want you to know that we are here as support you during this challenging time. Sometimes having a space to vent and explore options may help to discover a solution previously not thought of.


      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more about your situation and we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      You did a wonderful job reaching out today. Good for you.
      We look forward to hearing from you.


      Take care,
      NRS

  • #50
    I did something inappropriate on my phone and got in trouble for it. My mom was at work and my stepdad called me into his room. He got his belt and said "turn around". I told him i didn't feel comfortable with him whooping me, and he proceeded to do it anyway after i repeatedly told him no and to stop. He grabbed me and forcefully pushed me on the bed and kept hitting me with the belt in my face, legs, thighs, and hands. I cried and screamed at him to stop and he didn't . He got in my face and said " Who are you yelling at ? I'm a adult and you're a kid. don't yell at me like that" But what else was i supposed to do, just sit there. I feel violated and he see's no wrong in his actions. I have welts and three broken nails from the incident. After he was done hitting me i sat there and cried, even peed myself. He started to talk to me and ask questions about my phone. In the conversation he accused me of lying to my mother about him touching me on my butt.As if i lied to purposely make him look bad to my mom. Why would i lie about that. I genuinely thought he touched me and cried about it for days and when i told my mom, she explained that he told her he was trying to find my phone to make sure i wasn't sneaking on it at night . He apologized an explained him self the next day. And i believed him. But that apology means absolutely nothing now that i know he thinks i lied on him . Back to the recent incident, It is NOT okay for me to say multiple times, that I am not comfortable with him whooping or hitting me and he does it anyways. That is completely out of pocket and crosses my boundaries. That just makes me 10 times more uncomfortable.
    Am i wrong for refusing to get a whooping from him or Is he wrong for whooping me against my wishes for him no to ?

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    • ccsmod13
      ccsmod13 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for taking the time to write us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. It sounds like there has been a lot going on at home with your step-dad and it must be incredibly stressful. You have mentioned a couple of incidents where your step-dad has hurt you or made you uncomfortable. Your feelings and experiences are valid no matter your step-dad's explanations. You deserve to feel safe and it is okay to have boundaries about what you are and are not comfortable with.

      It is never okay for anyone to harm you or make you feel pain. You are a human and humans make mistakes. This does not mean you deserve to be whooped or harmed in a way that makes you feel violated. It took a lot of courage to speak up to your step-dad and to communicate that you were not feeling comfortable. We want to encourage you to speak to an adult that you trust about this to get more support at home. This might be your mom, another family member, or a counselor.

      We truly want to be a support for you as you decide on your next steps. We are available 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible. Please do not hesitate to reach out again by phone or chat if you would like to talk more in-depth about your situation and explore your options. You can contact us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org.

      Stay strong,
      NRS

  • #51
    my stepdad slap me across the face and body then bash my head into the floor then kick me in the chest and I have asthma

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #52
    What am I supposed to do if my step dad pulls my hair, yanks me by the wrists, hits me, slaps me, and gets mad at only me if me and my sister are fighting? I don’t want him to be with in trouble Bc I said something. He can be rlly nice but when he gets mad he goes crazy. I once told my dad about what he was doing and I got in SO SO SO much trouble with my step dad. I’m scared to say anything

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hello,

      You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

      If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. Just because your step-dad is nice to you sometimes or usually doesn’t excuse his actions when he’s angry.

      Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
      Take care,
      NRS

  • #53
    So is it alright for my dad to grab me and throw me, and snap my joy con off my switch (he didn’t pay for) because he was sleeping and my mom and I woke him up? Now I have to come out of pocket and buy new joy cons

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      ccsmod3 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #54
    My stepdad said that he will punch me right in my chest as hard as he can and he already put me against the couch and he threatened me to do push ups or he'll will beat me up right in front of my mom,but they had a talk,but she didn't see that he said that he would punch me right in my chest as hard as he can

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    • ccsmod1
      ccsmod1 commented
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      Hey there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Your step dad's threats are in no way acceptable and it's not OK that he's pushed you before. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are currently at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

      It also may be a good idea to speak with your mom without your stepdad around. We know that it can be hard to have these kinds of talks one on one and it could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.


      If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

      Stay safe,
      NRS

      We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • #55
    My step dad slapped me in the face 8 time and threw me to the floor because I punched my little sister even though she was being rude and hitting me first I don’t have marks anymore because it happened a few weeks ago.
    Last edited by ccsmod4; 09-08-2020, 01:05 AM.

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    • ccsmod4
      ccsmod4 commented
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      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are sorry to hear about what happened. No one deserves to be hurt physically or any other way. It sounds like you and your sister were fighting and that’s when what might be considered abuse occurred.
      What he did should not have happened and it’s not your fault that he did that to you.
      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please let us know.
      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately by dialing 9-1-1.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #56
    Does my Step Dad have the right to punish (hit) me for something i didnt do?

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #57
    Im a female and my stepdad be hitting me and tries to whoop me with a belt , minutes ago my mom let him whoop me and he had hit my eye and now my eye is in pain and it has a red bruise on it . Im scared to call the police because if i do they will beat me and kick me out the house .

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    • ccsmod2
      ccsmod2 commented
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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. Wow it sounds like you are going through a lot, and you do not deserve to be treated that way.
      It is understandable that you are afraid to call the police because of your safety. It is your choice if you would like to make an abuse report. You can contact Child Help at 1800-422-4453 to make a report. You can also call us or chat with us and we would be happy to help you with making a report.
      You can also consider talking with a trusted adult such as a school counselor or teacher about what is going on at home. We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • #58
    My step-dad gets angry all the time and always tries to find a reason to yell at me. I didn't put the glass bottles into the bin at the end of dishes because my little brother (his son) wanted to play with me so I had to break away from the chores. Then he got mad and started hitting me when he thought i had attitude and put me in the corner and beat my head against the wall. I woke up this morning with a massive headache and all I can do is be sad. He doesn't have a job so he stays home all day and forces me to watch his kid while he plays Call of Duty all day. All my mom ever hears is that i am disrespectful and if i tell my mom about him hitting me, he will take away everything. I don't even want to live anymore.

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    • ccsmod7
      ccsmod7 commented
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      Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

      First and foremost no one has the right to abuse you. It's not okay that your step-dad beat your head against the wall and hits you in general. It is not your fault that someone is treating you this way. You are not alone and there is resources and support out there for you. NRS is here to listen and help.

      If you are being abused, making a decision to file an abuse report can be a difficult decision to make. At the National Runway Safeline, we are here to listen and to help you explore options as you talk through this tough decision. It can be helpful to know that most professional adults in your life like doctors, teachers, counselors, hotline workers etc. are mandated reporters. That means if they know about an abusive situation they are required to report it to a local Child Abuse Hotline or Child Welfare Department. The team at NRS are also mandated reporters, however since we are anonymous, you would have to disclose to us key identifying information before we would be required to file a report (like you’re and the abusers full name and contact information). If you do decide to file a report, we can help you either by filing a report on your behalf or guide you through the reporting process. You can also call Childhelp, the National Child Abuse Hotline, at 1-800-422-4453 for more information about what constitutes abuse and what might happen if you do file a report. In addition, any person (like a friend’s parent or one of your relatives) with knowledge of abuse should file a report.

      It sounds like you are feeling pretty hopeless about your situation right now and you have been thinking about suicide. Those feelings are significant and you should be supported during this difficult time. Please know you are not alone and there is help available to you. While it may feel like you don’t have a lot of options, your well-being and life do matter, and you deserve to make it through this.

      While you can call or chat us 24/7, please know that we are not the only support out there who wants to help. If you feel like you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself, call 9-1-1. For additional support contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, call1-800-273-8255, or chat https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/.

      Here at NRS, we are primarily concerned about your safety. Please do not hesitate to call or chat us to go over your reporting options. We are here for you; 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.
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