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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed, as well as your siblings. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately, if you feel unsure about doing it yourself you can call us and we will make the call for you. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Today I went out with a friend and I asked my mom 2 days before if that was okay and she said it was. I cleaned the whole house and left and when I came back I stayed outside because I forgot my keys. Then my stepdad came with my siblings and I got in my house and went to go wash my hands in the kitchen he then starts to yell at me and asks why I haven’t responded his calls and I told him I don’t have to because my mom said to not listen to him or respond his calls if I don’t want to because my stepdad is nothing to me and I only listen to my mom. After I tell my stepdad that I won’t answer his calls he then pushes me to the door and grabs my arms and yells at me and then I get away from him and tells me to go back outside and come back inside when my mom comes back from work but I don’t listen to him and got to my room and he then pushes me to the ground and hits me and then he leaves and I told my mom what happened and she told me to call the police if this happens again but I’m not sure if I should because I’m scared my siblings and I are going to get taken away from my mom. This is not the first time this has happened and he also hits my siblings which are his biological children he also threatens me about the wifi, my phone, tv and more.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out; it takes a lot of courage to ask for help. First off, we want to say that you do not deserve to be treated this way by your step dad. No one deserves to be punched or have their food restricted like this, that is not right.

    If you ever feel you are in immediate danger, we encourage you to call 911 as your safety is important. You have the right to report any abuse that you are experiencing at home. If you would like to learn more about abuse reporting, you can find information through ChildHelp (www.childhelp.org) to explore if this may be an option of interest to you. They also have a hotline available at 1-800-422-4453 if you would like to talk to someone. We at NRS are also always here to talk to you about the process or to help you in making an abuse report if that is something you would like.

    We want you to know that we are here for you during this difficult time and that you are not alone. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us via chat at www.1800runaway.org or by calling us at 1-800 RUNAWAY (786-2929).

    We wish you all the best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My step dad threatens to hit me when no one is around. I only feel safe when my mum is at home. The other day he was shouting at me for not doing my jobs, so I told him to f*** off, he chased me up the stairs, and punched my back 4 times and ripped my t-shirt. I don't trust him anymore. Sometimes he doesn't feed me when my mum is at work or he'll feed me little amount of food. I don't like him he treats me like a slave/prisoner pretty much restricting everything I do. Pls help

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    about a week or two ago my step dad caught me smoking (im 16) and then when he asked me about it of course i lied and then he went crazy (he was drunk because hes a raging alcoholic) and he punched me. He only went that far because my mom was in hawaii with my sister because she moved there and the next day i ran away and stayed the night at my friends house and told my mom and sister and then they onlt thought i ran away because i was mad i got my phone and everything taken but i was actually scared for my life and did not know what to do after my mom got back we didnt even adress the situation and im still grounded and they are acting like he did not even do that and he still gets mad and yells in my face everyday and i want to run away again and i need help on what to do.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds were a tense at home with your stepfather and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best. If you need help finding shelters in the area, we can try and help find some resources for you as well.
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My stepfather verablie abuses me everyday and today on august 3rd he smashed my phone cuz i was trying to do dishes like my mom asked then got mad because i barley hit his chest so he grabbed me and pushed me down but because i went to hit him when he grabbed me he says I'm in the wrong. am I in the wrong? also if i was to run away in Michigan where could I go?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    We're very sorry to hear your sister has been mistreated and still seems to be in a currently unsafe situation. What you are describing definitely could count as abuse. That must have been very shocking for you to hear.

    To answer your question directly: While we are not legal experts from what we know you or your sister can at least file an abuse report about what's happened in the past in addition to anything that may currently be going on. A report usually leads to an investigation by CPS and they will then determine what they feel the best course of action is. If a report is made it would be a good idea to be as detailed as possible about everything that has happened. While it helps to have direct evidence in an abuse report, it is not necessary.

    If you or your sister would like to report abuse you can do that through us, through the state's child abuse reporting hotline, or through www.childhelp.org (1-800-422-4453).

    Whatever you decide we encourage you to share our contact information with your sister and mention that we are a confidential hotline. Our phone number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We also have a confidential chat room that can be found on our website: www.1800runaway.org.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am trying to figure out how to help my younger sister. She is 16. She is currently living with our father and step mother. Recently my sister told me about years of physical abuse from stepmom, like slapping, pulling hair, threatening to beat up, or throwing dishes at her. There has also been times the stepmother has been completely nude around my sister. All of these things have happened when my sister was between the ages of 9-16. If these things happened years ago, can my sister still report these? I’m worried for her safety because she recently told me that she cannot stay in contact with me which is alarming cause we are really close. I would try to fill out a cps report but I do not have any recent evidence/altercations to put on the report.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    We are sorry to hear that your stepdad has been mistreating you. We don't make value judgements as to whether you did the right thing or not, though it's appropriate to stick up for oneself and try to remain safe. It sounds like the police took the matter seriously. If something like this happens again you may want to contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (www.thehotline.org). Or you could always dial 911 if you are in immediate danger.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i am 40 years old my stepdad and i can't get along he slapped me in the face because i yelled at him and he took my laptop away because i had a glass of water on it i since got me a new laptop when he slapped me i called the cops on him they arrested him for that did i do the right thing

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.

    Take care,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    my stepdad does the same, he's thrown me down the stairs before and covered my mouth until I couldn't breathe bc I told him he was lying. ( I may or may not have thrown a grilled cheese near his head) but either way, my mother told me I was provoking him. She gets angry whenever I bring it up, but honestly, I am still really traumatized by it, even though it was 4 years ago. recently, He threw a work boot at my face and caused a bruise, when I told my mother and showed her, he told her I was lying. I've called the police before, but they somehow managed to convince them that I was being aggressive, or that I was the one who hurt one of them. Once I had told my mom what had happened, she told me she would call the police, knowing I would not be able to convince them that it had in fact happened. I am 16 now and only have 2 years before I can move out. The most heartbreaking thing though, is that my mother was never like this until she met him, I miss the old her.

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to child protective services. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best

    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Be safe,
    NRS
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