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  • ccsmod3
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    Hi there, thank you for reaching out. It sounds like your mom yells at you all the time and it’s understandable to be emotional and cry because of that. It is also unfair that she says that will bring bad luck to the family as that is untrue and you are allowed to feel your feelings. It also seems unfair that she yells at you, but seems to treat your brother differently. Using breathing techniques is a great thing to help try and calm yourself down. We can also help you come up with other ways to cope or ways to talk to your mom about this, if you are interested. If so, please call our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    My mom yells at me everyday she always comes up with a reason to yell at me and then when I cry she says that will bring bad luck to our family like u don’t yell at my brother but u yell at me what I do to calm me down I use my breathing techniques

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We recognize the courage and strength that it takes to reach out and talk about what you are going through and how it is making you feel. It sounds like you are feeling like you may be under a lot of pressure at home, which can absolutely be stressful. We want you to know that we are super proud of you for your grade in English class and all other accomplishments that you mentioned. You deserve to feel supported and uplifted and we are deeply sorry to hear that you are not feeling that way from your parents. Please know that your life is incredibly valuable and you are an individual who is growing and learning every day, and that is the way it should be.

    We would like to give you contact information for 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Similar to our organization, they have a call or chat option, so if you have access to a phone and feel comfortable calling, you may dial the digits 988 to speak with a support specialist. If you do not have access to a phone and/or prefer to online chat, you may find their chat option on their website at https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=...ampaign=onebox

    As mentioned above, we (NRS) also have a call or online chat option. To call us, you may dial 1-800-RUNAWAY. If you prefer the chat option, that can be found on our website at www.1800runaway.org. We would love to have the opportunity to talk with you a little more in depth during this time. It sounds like you may be needing some strong support at this time.

    We hope that you will be able to utilize these contacts if you think further conversation may be helpful. Please remember that your safety and well-being are so important. You deserve happiness and peace in your life. Remember that you are never alone! We look forward to the opportunity to talk directly with you.

    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am an Indian 13-year-old girl and an only child which means the pressure is real. my parents have such high expectations of me and always compare me with my cousin. no matter what I do it's never enough I got full marks in science and topped but I dint get full in English ( i got 93 out of 100) and instead of congratulating me they said I could have done better in English I felt like killing myself at that time which I know is a lot for someone that little and on top of that I cry every single day because they throw indirect taunts at me I think about running away a lot but where would I go that's the thought that stops me and that's too much for a little girl

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hello,

    We appreciate you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS) and using this space to share your story, as it looks like you wanted to share this for anyone going through similar experiences that may be reading this. You are an incredibly strong, brave, and courageous individual. It sounds like you have endured heavy amounts of pain and suffering. Please know that you do not deserve any bit of the way your mom has treated you. Your counselor was right by explaining to you that you have been emotionally, physically, and mentally abused and they did the right thing by contacting CPS. We are overjoyed to hear the abundance of support you have in your life such as your friends, school staff, and family members that have each actively worked toward helping you heal and persevere through life. You are worthy of respect and compassion and it sounds like there are many people close to you that have played a big role in comforting you on this journey. Again, we are terribly saddened and sorry to hear all that you have been through from your mother and this is not something that anyone should have to deal with. We see that you mentioned you stayed with your grandmother for 3 days and hope that you are currently staying in a safe place that uplifts your spirits. Please know that you can always reach out to us at any time, as our services operate 24/7. We have an online chat portal to provide direct conversation and support, found on our website at www.1800runaway.org and a phone line that you may call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are rooting for you and hope that you continue to see the value in your life. Nobody in this world deserves the best of you than YOU. You are a rockstar and a warrior.

    Wishing you a long life of health, safety, and peace.

    Warmly,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    hi i am a girl from the usa . & no matter what we go through behind closed doors , we will eventually heal from our traumas . but in my option no one should deal with being mentally , emotionally , & physically abused . today i wanted to share my story . lately i just been feeling insecure , lost , confused , lonely , exhausted , frustrated & most of all .... hurt . not too long ago i was in a situation where i wasn't in my own home , living with family though . that & on top of school was a pretty hard process . i would sometime have breakdowns , wishing i would die just to make my mom's life easier & better . to me when i go through something & i feel like crying , i would eventually let it out . because it sometime makes me feel better . well one day , my step dad , step brother , my biological brother & sisters went to a park so my little brother could practice for baseball season . the park was by the baseball fields also . so my step brother & i were sitting in the vehicle talking . but then i saw some friends at the park & i wanted to talk to them because i didn't own my own phone . but at the time i borrowed my grandmothers phone . but today I still don't . but , before i walked to the park i grabbed my little sister & walked her to the park . me & my 3 siblings walked to the park . my step brother stayed in the car . my little brother was still practicing . then , me & my friends had a chit - chat for maybe about 5 minutes . until my step dad came over calling my name loudly . i went over to see what he wanted . It was my mom on the phone . she was yelling & cursing at me . saying " why the fck you not answering the phone " , my words were " the phone died , its on the charger in the car " . & before we left to go to the park , the phone was already on 5 percentage . by the time we left the house , to the park which takes a good 15 to 20 minutes to get to the park . the phone died because i was listening to my music . I couldn't use any other apps but YouTube & i couldn't power the phone off , because the music would stop playing . so the phone was on the whole time . she then said " girl didn't you have that phone on the charger before you left " , i said " yea , but it was dying " . she also said " girl shut the fck up , & when you get home ima punch you in ya , sht " . my whole mood & attitude changed at that point . when i got off the phone with my mom . my step dad adds on . " who you told you was coming to the park " . btw , he clearly saw me leave the car to the park with my siblings . I said " i thought you saw me leave " . I didn't think i had to tell him where i was going since this was a everyday of the week thing . he only came by because my little sister went off to go meet him . because he wanted to talk to friends , drink & who knows what else he didn't wanna watch his own daughter . so he told on me . my mom overheard what he said on the phone . she was loud & i could hear her say " let me talk to her " . she said " you supposed to be watching my baby , btch she the only reason why you at the park , so watch her " . i was just shook & confused . its not always my responsibility to watch my sister . I get she's my sister but she's also not my child . after her last words on the phone i took my sister back to the park . my friends overheard what happened . one of my friends asked " you okay ? " & i said " no " . they hugged me & told me its gonna be okay . when we arrived home , she grabbed me by the shirt saying " you outside tryna be a hot a** , you h** " . as shes saying this she was also hitting on me . slapping me , pulling my hair , punching me on my side , & in my stomach . she then took the phone from me . & said " you make everything harder for me , i swear i hate you sometimes " . then closed the door behind her . all my siblings looked at me & say me crying . my little sister hugged me . the other 3 didn't care . because its nothing new . its not like they see it everyday anyway . but i just broke down , wanting to kill myself . bt i knew it was not worth it . i had so many reasons not to give up . next day i broke down , she came into the room & saw me sobbing . she said " the fck you crying for " ? I just shook my head " nothing " . it makes her upset when i don't tell her , but i always say nothing . she said " so you just crying for nothing ? " with a disgusted look on her face . me being afraid to open up to her & tell her , i just shook my head " yea " . she said while walking out the room " btch you stupid , you need help " . that hurt me so much still til this day . this happened in the month of may . this was not long ago either . it still bothers me . i just shut down at night & cry , cry cry . til i fall asleep . she saids things like " i hate you sometimes " , h** , btch you really stupid , dummy , ugly a** , stupid h** a** " . theres more bt even worse things she'll say . the next day was school . my teachers noticed my puffy eyes , & dark circles . one of my teachers asked " why it looks like you been crying " , i said " i was " then i started sobbing . she took me to her classroom & asked me what was wrong . I told her . everything . she hugged me , wiped my tears & told me i could stay in her class for the rest of the day . this was my 8th grade year . my school was a private charter school . we could sometime have our phones out . my bestfriend heard about the situation , & she knows how close me & my god sisters are . when i was younger i used to live with them & my godmother because my mom wasn't caring for me at the time . my bestfriend asked me if i wanted to talk to them . I had to use the app Instagram . & i told her yea . I told them everything . maybe 10 to 15 minutes later they replied back . telling me not to worry about her or her nonsense ... she's obviously taking her stress & anger out on me . my bestfriend read the messages after i sent them . her eyes were starting to tear up , she looked at me & said " i love you , don't hurt yourself " . she hugged me wiped my tears & i wiped hers . she hugged me over & over again . & kept telling me how much i mean to her & she would hate it if i would give up on myself . she gave the phone to my teacher who class i stayed in . it was around 10 something around this time . she looked at me & said " don't do it , its not worth it . now i have to tell the counselor or somebody ... is that okay with you ? " i shook my head " yea " . so she told the behavior administrator , the counselor was not in the school building . so he pulled in his office & asked me what was going on . without hesitation i told him everything as well . he asked me " do you actually hurt yourself , & if you do please don't hurt yourself " . i told him idk why i do it but i do it every time something goes wrong & it involves me . he asked me " do you talk to her about how you feel ? " i said " no , i feel like she doesn't have time for me & right now isn't the right time " . he said he understands . after talking with him i felt better . I thought to myself " not too much pressure on my shoulders now " . then my counselor heard about it & wanted to talk to me about it . we talked . she said " I'm being emotionally , physically & mentally abused " .& she had to report it & contact cps ( child protection office ) & so i let her do what she had to do . & she told me i needed a break from being around her , so it would be best for me to go somewhere during the weekend . after our conversation she hugged me . she told me it depends on if the cps or the lcpd take my situation seriously . & now i answer their questions, I MIGHT be token from my mom . she let me go off to class after we spoke . & she told me she would inform me when she hears back from cps . maybe 2 hours later during school she pulled me back & told me cps could not do anything because my bruises where not too visible they couldn't do anything . she gave me her number , & said give her a call if i need her . she hugged me & told me stay strong . to be clear , everything that went on this day i told everything to my sisters . one of my sisters told my godmother she texted the family member we were living with & said " where is _______ , im on my way " . ( keeping my name uncensored for privacy reasons ) & my god mother called my grand mother & told her everything . my grand mother called my mom fussing at my mom saying shes on the way . I overheard everything . my mom came in the room & said " thank you , thank you , you make sht so much harder for me " . prom was around the corner & i guess she THOUGHT because i wasn't going to prom that was for that cause . but , no it was not . I needed someone to open up to & understand me . she then told me " pack your sht , you gotta go , get the fck away from me " . she saw that i had a scared look on my face so she started beating on me . i was on the bed , she pulled me by my hair & made me hit the ground . she kicked me & said " now tell them that btch " . my back was swollen , i had a few scratches on my face , some of my hair fell out . my grand mother finally arrived & told me pack my things , she said we were gonna talk . my mom was mad & started cursing at my grand mother . my grandmother got upset & told me " lets go " . the family member we were living with was my god brother . he came out the room looking confused & he knew about everything already . on my way out the door he rubbed my back & hugged me . i felt better . kinda . me & my grandmother talked i stayed with her for 3 days . i had a school field trip the next day . we had to get a few things because our trip was to baton rouge , Louisiana . we did that . & now i feel like everything is just getting worse . everything is my fault . i just really wanted to share my story . for the girls that were strong enough to even tell theirs made me build my confidence & tell mine . stay strong , we will all get through this !

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out to us at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are happy to help you and provide you with support during this time. It sounds like you’re in a difficult situation right now too. You are very brave for reaching out to us, and you are extremely strong for being able to survive under these circumstances.
    We’re very sorry that your teachers aren’t recognizing how unsafe you are at home. We will always listen to you and believe you, and if you would like to have a conversation with us, we can work out together what options you may have.   Don’t hesitate to reach out to NRS through our website (www.1800runaway.org) or over the phone through our 24 hour hotline (1-800-RUNAWAY). Thank you again for reaching out to us. We are here 24/7 and have someone available to talk.

    Best, NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I face something similar. My teachers know I'm unsafe and have done nothing, which is frustrating.

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  • ccsmod2
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    Thanks so much for reaching out to us. The situation with your mom sounds extremely challenging and very hard on you. Her behavior towards you is erratic and abusive. No one should be treated that way, especially the horrible name calling and physical treatment. Of course we love our parents, but that never excuses them for this type of abuse.

    Having support from an adult who is trustworthy may make sense. Here are a couple of suggestions: if you haven’t talked to your school counselor or school social worker about what you’re facing, this may be a good first step. Secondly, speaking to a therapist/counselor so you can address what you’re having to endure emotionally may also be important. It’s so hard to handle this alone. You can contact the NAMI helpline - which is a free, nationwide peer-support service providing information, resource referrals and support to people at nami.org or 1-800-950-6262 to see about finding a counselor to talk to as well. Finally, you can reach out to www.childhelp.org at 1-800-422-4453, a support service for guidance on abuse for youth.

    Again, we’re sorry you face this with your mom and know that we are here 24/7 and you can call us at 1-800786-2929 or contact our site to chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Good luck.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    honestly i don’t know how to feel about my mum. i love her but she makes me cry almost every day now. she shouts at me for no reason, she makes me insecure if my body, she calls me names such as a swine, dumb, a pig etc. she sometimes shoves me or pulls my hair when she’s angry at me, or pulls my ear and sometimes slaps me. yesterday she had given me a lecture of how i need to wear makeup for school because of my acne, then after school when i put on makeup because she wouldn’t stop complaining about it, she shouted at me for wearing makeup “for no reason” and said it’ll make it even worse. i love her, i really do. we do have those good days where we spend time with each other but those are rare days now.

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    We appreciate your communication with us by continuing to share parts of the situation with us. It sounds like you have plenty of built up emotions that may be releasing through tears. Please know that crying is a healthy coping mechanism and it seems to be catching your attention that something is not right and you are looking to find a solution. You are already taking great steps toward healing!

    We are sorry to hear about the stress you are under and though we have our bulletin as an available resource, we will be able to help in much greater detail and more personally via phone or chat. You can contact us by dialing 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) on the phone, or you can reach us on our chat line through our website at www.1800runaway.org and click on the "chat" button to receive immediate assistance. Both lines operate 24/7, so you may contact us at any time of day.

    Another available resource is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), if you feel this may be an appropriate point of contact, given your mental health symptoms. Their line also operates 24/7 and can be reached at 1-800-487-4889.

    We look forward to hearing from you if you feel you would like to talk with someone more in depth about your situation, so we can direct you toward the resources you need. Please note that if you find yourself in any immediate danger, 911 is your best emergency contact.

    Be safe,

    NRS

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    idk how to respond but to whoever wrote about how she doesn't think taht her problem is as serious as everyone elses and how shes crying in the bathtub same. idk y i cry this much at all it doesn't seem right like all she did was tell me to do the dishes or something idk but the tone of the voice has me crippled with tears idek. and then i'll go months without crying, and then a week straight i cry every single day. its so weird and scary idk but anyway basically i feel like i wrote your paragraphs

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  • ccsmod6
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It certainly appears that you are living in a very toxic situation with your mother. So sorry that you are going through this as it is not how any child should be treated.

    Unfortunately NRS is not able to accommodate at risk kids out of the United States at this time. As you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    Again, thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. Our hope is that you are able to find the assistance with the organization above. Good Luck!

    Sincerely,

    National Runaway Safeline

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi,i have read all post and i would just like to say that stay strong no matter what I’m struggling more but only that person understands who have been through,i hate my mom but she’s all i had because she’s a single mother, it all started when i had my boyfriend being a muslim girl it’s strictly not allowed to have any kind of male friends nor boyfriends,when she found out about him and everything she hit me alot and it’s okay maybe yea it’s understandable in their mindset but leaving bruises that hurts me every day grabbing me from hair and hit me while I’m watching my hair falling i would cry myself to sleep ,and still i do she always slut shame me at small things for example,i recently developed a intense headache for least 3 weeks but since covid because i live in Hong Kong all hospitals are very very busy and i told my mom i want to go and she start screaming at me and she hit me with belt on my elbow at first I thought she broke my arm but it was swollen which left dark purple bruises I couldn’t sleep couldn’t eat couldn’t climb up my bed honestly I’m so tired of everything and want to die because all she say is ,i wish you were never alive i was finding a reason to go hospital so i can have a proper treatment away from house but no,i was cleaning my room and found a appointment letter and it is on coming friday,i talked to it at dinner because that’s the only time we can talk almost all time i sleep and cry because of how she treats me she would accuse me for smallest thing she will keep calling me slut for smallest things which made my self image more worst ,my confidence level drop to 0 ,every teenager have acnes she would keep calling me ugly until i tell her how i feel n shes like okay okay but ends up saying it again which make me feel even more ********, i really need a peace having headaches for almost 3 weeks is not okay i have never felt this way I’m so alone even if i tell my friends they all just say everything will be okay but i know nothing will be okay I’m so broken ,it hurts a lot she treats elder sister very differently she lives away from house because she’s in university and mom knows she can handle everything by herself but literally just going down for some mind refreshment she keeps calling and yelling that come back home,i hate her alot I’m helpless all i do is cry and cry

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there,

    We are proud of you for posting on our forum – that takes a lot of courage! You mentioned that your mom physically abuses you if she’s really mad and makes you cry with her words. Please know that you deserve to be treated kindly by your mom and it’s not okay for her to physically or verbally abuse you.

    We care about your safety! If you are in immediate danger, an option is to call 911. Another resource that might help you is the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline. Their website is: https://childhelphotline.org/.

    If you would like to talk about your specific situation with somebody from the National Runaway Safeline, we are here and ready to help 24 hours/day, 7 days/week. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or instant message with us at www.1800runaway.org/. We care about you and want to do our best to help you!

    Be safe,
    NRS
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