I cry almost everyday because of my mom.

[Guest]

My mom is beautiful but she scolds me in small silly things and mistakes,and she hits me also and I got pain because of her.Then she said it is your mistakes,I will be careless but I apply boroline antiseptic cream.I cry and my mom hugs me and convinces.Then I try to be good boy

[ccsmod15]

Thanks for reaching out to us at National Runaway Hotline. It sure sounds like you are having a really difficult time right now and we're very sorry you are going thru this. The fact that you know that you are trying your best to be good is wonderful and we hope you will keep that up.
Talking to your mother about her expectations might be a good way to start to get things calmed down. Everyone these days is very stressed because of the Covid situation, maybe homeschooling, etc., but lashing out and hitting is not a good way to solve things. Speaking to your mom and asking her to help you understand what your responsibilities are at home and what you are expected to do in order to keep things calm may help. Perhaps in communicating your feelings you will be able to understand your mom's feelings about things and you two will come to an understanding.

Our main concern here at National Runaway Safeline is making sure you are safe where you are living. If you feel like you are not safe, please reach out to us via the 1-800-RUNAWAY phone number or via www.800runaway.org where you will be able to chat live with someone. We have a number of ways to help starting with assisting you in speaking to your mom such as a conference calling service as well as looking in our database for resources that provide services to youth that are at-risk.
It's really great that you are asking for help in your situation and trying to make your situation better. Please reach out to us if you need us!

[Guest]

Uh hey I have something like this but my mom is superstrict I mean like she hates me that’s why and where I live I have been called as a nerd for not talking because I can’t my mom doesn’t let me be friends with anyone she would complain about my friends all the time that I had to cut off every one I know except family stupid I know but I hate her I don’t want to live with her any more and when I talk to my dad about it she would deny it and she says that I’m a lair and I’m a ********** and things like that well I’m 15 but she treats me like 8 yrs old and I know this is stupid but one time we where about to do a photo shot and she literally screamed at me because I had not eyebrows she don’t have any to I mean it’s little but yk anyways I went there crying my eyes off and she always says I’m not perfect and stuff like that I hate her

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon. You definitely do not deserve to be treated this way.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

My parents make me cry all the time.

I cry all the time because of my parents. They say everything I do is a disappointment. Whenever I do something good or amazing a few seconds later they have to ruin that moment and tell me something I didn't do right. Everything evolves around school for me. I get one missing assignment and they jump down my throat and take away my phone for a month because I forgot to hit the submit button. They say that if My room isn't clean I'm grounded and they take my phone. Right now my phone is my way to connect with people. I"m not allowed to have any social media because "there is too much bad stuff on the internet". I CAN'T EVEN WATCH YOUTUBE. My parents are t strict. When I'm on the phone with a friend they tell me to get off and then scream at me because there is one thing on my floor and they say that it is messy and take my phone for a whole month. They just bought a lockbox for my phone and whenever I "misbehave" they put it in there until I "straighten up." Please I need some advice to help me through my terrible parents.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Your situation definitely sounds difficult. You are not alone in this. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

My mum gives me a lot of pressure too. Like she hates it when I get a 6/8 (it's actually a good grade according got the criterion) and blames me for not studying. but I just wanna say I tried. I tried my best, and I passed, and this grade is up to my standards. She goes asking me my smart friend's grades and compares mine with them. I felt so useless compared with them, I felt very hurt too. Every holiday, my mum gives me a bunch of crap exercises, (even when traveling) saying that I need to catch up on my grades and assessments before school starts. She blames me for always zooming with my friends after online lessons and not doing work or studying. Well, what does she expect? Covid's here and I can't even play with them at school. My mum also doesn't let me have play dates with my friends. Especially one of my besties. She goes like complaining that she is spoiled and rich and has bad grades and that she isn't a good influence. But I love my best friend's positivity mostly. She's really optimistic and stuff and I really admire it. My mum banned me from playing with her because, after my first playdate, I kept asking her to buy expensive-ish American gum for me and buy some clothes for me. I didn't really force her to, just asked if I had time we could of shopping. My mum is a very stingy person. She doesn't like wasting money on clothes unless you only have a few left or all are ragged and old. She tells me to be friends with smarter kids that can be role models for me. But she is my BESTIE, I am NEVER GOING to DITCH her. My mum kept dissing her, so I said I am going to tell my bestie her point of view and her insults so she could FINALLY understand why my mum sort of dislike her. She goes like 'ok, no phone for you. no gossiping.' that's not gossiping, firstly. I also want SOMEONE to know how opinionated you are and how rude and manipulative you are. Everyone says mums make decisions for you cuz it's for your good. I don't think so. I wish I had the guts to tell her,' you don't even know how many nights I cried on my bed, how many times I had to lock myself in the bathroom and cry on the tub.'

Crying. My tears. Come from stress, anger, sadness, pain. I am sort of a teenager, I used to think teen girls cry for no reason why. But I get it now.

[ccsmod3]

Hi there, and thanks for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step.

It sounds like things between you and your mom are pretty tough right now, and we're sorry to hear that. It can definitely be challenging to not feel supported or heard by the people who are closest to you. Sometimes it can help to try and open the lines of communication by having a really intentional conversation. If that's something that you'd consider, you can try and have a conversation with mom and really let her know how you feel and why you feel that way. If that's not an option for you, it might help to bring someone else that you know and trust into the conversation, like a family friend or family member, who can help mediate. Another alternative to this would be to have this conversation in another safe place, with a therapist or a counselor, who can also help facilitate and meditate the conversation.

If you need any additional assistance or want to talk more about what's going on, you can find a local hotline like ours by visiting: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/

Wishing you the best of luck!

NRS

[Guest]

(I live in north america) Im only 8 years old and i feel like my mom is abusing me mentally. My mom thinks i'm making myself sad but im not. My mom does things to hurt me like laughing when I cry and saying i was a maniac for talking to myself and how i feel and i'm sensitive i try acting tough but i'm just not because i don't have self confidence. And i didn't even shower due to sadness. My mom thinks that i'm just upset because i'm not doing my (online) school work but it's because of her. I have anxiety and dermatophagia and when i confessed i had dermatophagia she thought i was lying because she doesn't believe **** .My mom doesn't care if i cry or if im sad. And sometimes she ignores me when i say her name. But i only have my dad because i know he loves me but i'm not sure about my mom. it ends here i guess.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. We believe you when you say that you are having a hard time and dealing with anxiety and that it is showing up in some worrisome ways. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA). You and your dad might want to reach out to them as they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

It sounds like your mom does not realize the seriousness of what's going on and of how her actions and words are hurting you. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your family so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

Stay safe,
NRS

We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

[Guest]

I am the oldest of 5 children and every time I dont impress my mom with my grades she screams at me and makes me sit at our table and work for hours and hours and HOURS until I make a 100% on EVERYTHING and if I dont she screams at me even more and does things to make me feel unwanted and she never says sorry or does anything to make me feel better

[ccsmod8]

Hello there –

Thank you so much for taking the time out of our day to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. Sounds like you have been reading through our public forum threads and have related to one or more of the other posters on here. We hope that by helping them and helping you that there are other’s that are scrolling through will get the information that they need. We do want to say that it sounded like things at home were also very hard for you, especially when it comes to your education and work. Unfortunately a lot of parents places a large amount of pressure on a child to preform well in school. They like to think that a person's happiness depends on how successful they are. Meaning that if you do well in school, you'll graduate and get into a good university, then get a great job, and essentially do better then how they had it. Everyone has some struggles that they might not show or other's might not know about. Seems like her teaching style might be more harmful than helpful.

It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Maybe reaching out to some friends or maybe even the teacher to create a study group (virtual of course) to help you work on your school stuff at a pace and style that you like. If you want to talk more you can always give us a call on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could help you find resources in your area and could potentially help you brainstorm a possible solution to the issues you are having.

We would love to talk to you.

[Guest]

Hello,I am A 12 year old Somali girl and Mt mom makes me cry because if i do something wrong she make me feel mad at myself and I cause all the problems.Another thing is My mom says stuff so embarrassing of my personal girl problem in front of my dad and it makes me cry and I usually cry to myself asleep I feel like I want to run away or kill myself and I hate the feeling I am carrying all the problems sometimes I cant go to bed because the trow all my clothes on the ground and they give me a time limit to clean all the clothes and they always come to me when something happens and the think its my fault then my mom says sorry and I have to forgive her then she gets mad again and I cant handle let anymore I always write a paper of my death date like i did today because I hate myself and it feels like the dont need me any more. they always make a mess and I have to clean it up and my mom always leaves my baby brother with me and it makes me feel overwhelmed like I have all the responsibility to myself and My mom always yells.My dad just sneaks up to me and he always comes in my room when it closed and he is so tough on me like do this or do that i don't even time to take care of my self. They make me feel like I am Horrible,rude,ugluy,not good enough person I cant handle it anymore I am done .PlZ RESPOND I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

To the person who's LGBT and has a difficult mother who restricts phone usage and is unpleasant when they do as much as ask a few questions: wow, I relate to you so much.

My focus has been falling since the pandemic and my parents blame it all on my friends, so they blocked all social media, took away all my devices but my computer which I need for school, and tell me that I can have them back after I finish homework. But I'm a) terrible and doing that because I'm perfectionistic and still find ways to procrastinate and b) too anxious to ask them for my devices back.

I'm also bisexual and I've known this for years but I just realized now is the worst time to come out for me because my parents think that anything I do that they don't like or anything I say against them is because my friends are brainwashing me to. Just because of some out of context conversation they saw with my boyfriend when he said "******** them" after I complained that my parents are constantly making me cry. He didn't actually mean it, he just didn't like to see me upset. Understandable, right? Well no, they take anything I tell them and use it against me, even months later. Oh, and they've explicitly told me they think teens identifying as queer now is a trend. Just like yours. I feel you, my dude. We'll see how bi I am in fifty years. Hint: Just as bi. It's not a trend to identify this way. I just ********ing like girls and guys and there happens to be a word for it, yeesh.

[ccsmod3]

Hey there. Thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. We know that it can take a lot of courage to open up to others and try and find support, and we're glad you took that step.

It sounds like things have been tough for you lately, and we're sorry to hear that. The pandemic has definitely been a challenging time that's required a lot of adjustments for a lot of people. As we all get used to this new normal, trying to keep the lines of communication open can be helpful. If you're comfortable in doing so, it might be a good idea to try and chat with your parents about what's going on, how you're feeling, and really try to share with them how you're being affected with all of the changes you're experiencing during this time. It might give you the opportunity to develop a plan with them to see what can be adjusted to help you work through things and address your focus issues as well.

If talking with your parents directly isn't an option for you, it could also help to bring someone else (a neutral party) into the conversation, like a family member or a family friend. Having someone else present to assist with tough conversations can make everyone feel a little more comfortable, supported, and heard. Therapists are also great to utilize for these sort of conversations, as they have the skills to address the problems at hand in a manner that feels productive and healthy. Calling on a therapist might also help you in developing a plan to come out to your parents when you're ready, and process whatever their response is in a healthy way.

If you'd like to talk in more detail about what's going on, explore your options, or see if we can find local counseling services in your area, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

Take care.

NRS

[Guest]

Hello my family always makes me cry cause she thinks I’m being rude but i don’t mean to. I’m 8 idk why they do this they are just on their phones on the sofa always and never does anything with me

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

im not under the same pressure but it does REALY hurt

[ccsmod5]

Hi there,
Thank you for your response! Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youths. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services. We hope to help as best we can.
Stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

Idc because my mom threatened me to shoot me with a gun and sends me to juvenile for getting a bad grade but the reason is because she never helps me but she helps my brother and when he gets good grades the get to spend farther and son but for me when I get a good grade is I get hit and send to juvenile and when my brother gets a bad grade my parents says it’s fine.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I cried today because of my mom calling me daughter and saying she loves me. But I’ve been thinking of relapsing to self harm and so far all I do is scratch myself. Although I am pretty outgoing I just want to crawl in a hole and act like a kid forever and I’m still a kid I started self harming in fifth grade because I had a c in class and I stop for a while when my mom found the scar at the time it looked like a big scar from falling in rocks so she never asked about it again but I can’t take it anymore. She says she’s gonna send me away to her home country because of my grades and how I’m not good enough. I’m not a only child but my siblings instead of comforting me they call me a guilt tripper and how I’m manipulative to others when all I want is for them to hug me just once. I’m not even a freshman yet but I already feel like running so far I’ve saved 250 but idk where I’ll stay if I do run. Please I just need someone to just tell me just once I’m good enough and not a bad person I’m just a kid. They don’t abuse me so please don’t think that
- anon

[ccsmod15]

Hello there,
Thanks for reaching out to us. You are very brave and courageous. It sounds like you have a lot going on and deserve the support you need. You said that you are contemplating running away are not sure where you could stay. We could look up places for you to stay at and help with planning the whole thing out if that is something you are interested in.
If you would like to talk to us further you can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at www.1800RUNAWAY.org. We are here to help and here to listen. You are not alone in this.
Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

get out of my moms and dads house

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here 24/7 to listen and provide support to you.
We understand you are wanting to get out of your mom and dad’s house, we would like to explore this more with you. We are available to you 24/7 to listen and to explore options. Please chat with us or call us at 1800-422-4453.4
Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

My mum always tries to put me down, she tells everyone that I am a bad person, she ennoyes me all day until my dad gets back to the point that I attack her back when my dad gets back but he defenses her and I get a slap. I'm fead up I have thought of suiside 100 times the only thing that stops me is my grandparents. I whant to die, pls help I can take it anymore

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to child protective services. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey, Im sorry for what ur going through, and sadly it is very relatable. One second me and my mom are fine and then when I ask her for something (even help) she snaps. She screams at me in front of other people and I cant hold my tears back. I love my mom and i know she loves me but i wish she could show me in a nicer way. When my mom screams at me i get mad but then a few hours later she acts like nothing happens ant gets mad at me for being mad. She also calls me fat in front of other people. i know i am overweight and i try to change but she seems to still be mad. sometimes i feel like she is embarrassed of me. i have had many suicide thought that one time i cut myself on propose and im scared to show the mark to her - one day it will get better.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide or self-harm.
Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger (even from yourself) or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services. A good resource for prevention of self-harm is www.twloha.com which specializes in finding ways to cope positively and keep up hope.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS