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**Guest** · 11-03-2020, 06:52 PM

I am crying everyday because my stepmom is pushing me so hard. She gets mad at simple things. She is pressuring me on my grades and my dad doesn’t even do anything about it. I can’t reach out to anybody or i get in trouble. She makes sure I don’t talk to my birth mom about court or problems I have here. What should I do? My dad never listens to me. I am scared to talk to her. I’m confused and now thinking of suicide.

**Guest** · 11-04-2020, 06:29 PM

Hi, I’m a 13 year old Indian girl living in the United States. Some days are normal, like my mom and I will have a couple of minor clashes, and mostly we are civil and even loving and kind to each other. Then occasionally, we have huge intense fights. She sometimes will hit me hard id it’s really bad, and once she trapped me in my bathroom after I said a cuss word and pushed me against the wall and kicked me and hit me while screaming at me. This was about 8 months ago when tensions were high in my family due to covid. Another incident that happened when I was in second grade: my mom got really angry at me when picking me up from school, and I’m front of the school building when she starts hitting me and shaking me, and screaming that I am a huge disappointment to her. Now she doesn’t hit me as much as she did when I was younger, and it’s not as hard or as frequent, but what hurts most are the words. She calls me useless, stupid, unmotivated, and invalidates my struggles. Even though I’m a good student and I make good grades (usually above a 95, 90 if it’s a hard topic) and I have a lot of problems in my social life due to 5 years of bullying from people in my school. Today we just had another clash and I got extremely angry and started screaming that I hate her, then my mom and dad went downstairs and started **********ing about me so loudly that I could hear it from upstairs, even with my door closed. It was like they wanted me to hear. I sometimes feel like I’m somehow fooling myself into this victim mindset for attention, because most of the time my parents are great parents. We have clashed over the most trivial things, and I’ve started to despise her. Usually I stay angry at her for a few hours after we have a row and then go back to loving her, to quote another user on this thread, because she pretends like it didn’t happen. My dad used to fight for me when I was a little kid, then it gradually evolved into him not caring, and now he is on her side completely and he is just her little puppet which she manipulates. It’s sad because my dad used to be the one who stood up for me as a kid, and my parents still do a lot for me, like help me on my homework whenever I need it, and help me study for exams. They also talk about some of my personal problems with me. However I resent them for some of the stuff they have done, despite them being great and amazing parents who have done so so much for me always. Is this wrong?

**Guest** · 11-14-2020, 01:12 AM

on a holiday she makes me cry i just got a drink from acct is the table and she was like "STOP MESSING WITH EVERYONES DRINKS!! YOUR SUCH A PARTY POOPER!!!" so i just cried at the table for a little bit and went up stairs very angry and sad, mad and crying into tears because she gets mad at every little thing i do. she thinks it's very stupid and i'm stupid but i'm not. she's always putting everyone down, and she calls me the w word the b word and i just cry every night. i cry 24/7 like i'm pouring out tears every day and it's not good for me! (btw i'm not sure what the TOS guidelines are for this site but i'm 10) so it sucks. when i was about 9 and 8, she didn't call me those bc i was smarter? idk what it is probably virtual school and i play video games all day i can never focus and do homework. she yells at everyone, even my dad. it's scary bc i have a 16 month old baby sister and she's learning. i don't want her to learn that. i just get so mad at my mom like we went to the store and i just got mad bc they made me sad and hid in the bathroom accidentally having the car keys in my hand, then after i went out she starting cussing and yelling rlly loud at me saying f word and stuff. my school isn't going good it just hurts me and sucks bc now we're all at home doing school while i'm not paying attention and playing video games. she yells at when she checks my missing assignments and when i have like 2+ missing assignments and today she yelled at me bc i took the last izze sparkling water. this hurts me bc i'm 10 and she does this to me it's affecting my health when i'm crying all night, she even made me sleep in the car after i went to the bathroom at the store and i told her i was going when i got out, she yelled at me and cussing at me. i told her to stop bc ppl were staring and then yells at me more. i feel like i wanna run away from my parents but they tell me it's illegal. don't run away from us. i'm so done with her i just wanna leave her. she isn't fair and she like wants to hit me with hammers and glasses and stuff. but anyways that's all. pls do not remove this comment bc i wanted to share this, ok mod? thanks for reading

**Guest** · 11-16-2020, 10:42 AM

I can't tell if my problems are stupid or not, saying I read every single other post here. I'm 15 almost 16 and an only child who just lives with my mom. I should've known doing anything wrong was a bad idea. I had an amazing beginning of summer til I made a bad mistake and that's where my life fell apart. But this was 4 months ago. All she does is yell at me every day, every time something is great she somehow brings me down. Every time I'm somewhat happy she ruins it for me. We've been doing therapy but it doesn't work. My therapist is pretty nice and tries to help me get through things. But my mom's therapist blames everything on me, says she should give me a track phone or for me to not have a phone and all this stuff. I'm one of those girls who typically seem like they're living the best life, a lot of people have said that to my face due to my social media pages. But at home it's yelling how I'm a mess, my room is a mess, I never listen, I never do anything right, etc etc. She disabled some of my social media, stalks it, reads my messages, tells me how she doesn't like some of my friends, blames everything on my ex who I'm still friends with, screenshots things, and put screen time on every single app besides school. I asked her if she could take it off text because I actually need it at times or use it during my free period, but she proceeded to scream at me. Then she says "yeah keep crying" or throws stuff at me or hits me. She never focuses on things I do well, grades, and teams I made for school. I'm going, to be honest, I'm not perfect, I go behind her back and tell my friends more that I tell her. And then she yells hows I don't tell her anything either though she uses this stuff against me and gets too involved. My friends and their parents pity me and say how my mom's crazy. Every day I think about how I wish I could time travel or live someone else's life. I haven't shared this with anyone but sometimes I even hope she doesn't come home.

**Guest** · 11-16-2020, 10:31 PM

I don't have it as bad as anyone here. My life's pretty great in comparison, I live in a nice house, my grades are good, I'm not being physically abused. I'm still miserable though. I was pretty depressed in middle school and I'm starting to feel like that again and I'm terrified that the depression will start again. I told my mom I was depressed during middle school like a few months ago and she basically said I'm not allowed to be depressed. WOW, thanks a lot mom that's definitely how it works. My aunt (one of her cousins) was depressed for years and she talked about how she was wasting her life over nothing. She completely invalidated what she went through, like all she had to do was decided to get up and not be depressed or something. She's from India and mental illness isn't exactly excepted there so that's why she has these views, but it makes me feel like I'm weak or not good enough. She also hasn't had anything nice to say about me since my sister was born. I was four at the time. All I'm good for in her eyes is getting As and being good at art. Other then that there's nothing good about me. She hates my personality. I asked her today if she could say even one nice thing about my personality and she screamed at me. She manages to constantly praise my sister for being kind and gentle and all sorts of things but she never had anything good to say about me. First she said she had a headache as an excuse for not being able to come up with anything, and then when I asked again she screamed at me. I'm probably just being a cry baby crying and complaining about this, especially when do many people have it worse. My sister is a literal angel, I resented her for it for years, but now she's one of my best friends. I've just excepted that to my mom I'm nothing more than a failed first try. My parents wanted a girl and a boy. My little sister and brother are their dream children. I'm just the extra, the one who is ruining their lives and their perfect family with my temper tantrumS and other bull********. I'm also the exact kind of person she hates. I'm too much like her but not enough like her at the same time. I'm a crappy person overall. She does love me, in her own way, but she'll never love me as much as she loves the other two. I promised myself I would never cry over the woman again but I always end up back here, crying over her. The minute I have a chance I'm going to find a way to pay for things myself and run as far as possible. I'll visit on Christmas and stuff but I need some space. I can't take her negatively. I don't want to deal with the heartbreak and pain every time I forgive her and just end up realizing the exact same things again.

**Guest** · 12-08-2020, 09:28 AM

My mom gets mad at me every day she won't talk to me I'm only 11 and she doesn't realize that these words can harm me at such a young age and I'm sick of it I cry every night remembering that she compares me to my sister with how messing I am and how neet she is and how her grades are better than mine it makes me feel like I'm nothing compared to my siblings she likes to talk about me to her sisters and talks about pulling me out of dance the next time a screw-up and I screwed up again and I don't wanna be taken got of dance its my life and I tried so hard but nothing I do is good enough .

**Guest** · 12-13-2020, 03:37 PM

I have the same problem. My mom and I don't really have a good relationship... I'm 12 and I try really hard to be nice to her because she is a mom of 3 kids, and homeschooling. But whenever we talk, I'm always put down for "Talking back" or "Power tripping", even though I don't talk back. Sometimes at night I get her stuff when she is in bed watching her show, spoiling her after a stressful day, and that's probably why she hasn't really beat me yet. I need help because I don't know what else to do.

**Guest** · 12-14-2020, 12:31 PM

Hi, im a 13 year old girl. I feel like ever since i turned 13 my mom get mad at me for the smallest things. Like something that i would do when i was younger im all of a sudden getting yelled at for and I think its partly because im a "moody" teen she says which i have never yelled at her or gotten an attitude with her. Recently our internet has been slow and i have had trouble getting onto zooms which has caused my grades to drop and when she found it she blamed it on me. I feel like im crying everyday now just because im a teen, which makes her think that im the worst living being on the earth right now.

**Guest** · 12-27-2020, 01:59 AM

My mother makes me cry everyday. She wants me to get married and I don't want to. I'm happy being single. Everyday she speaks at least hundred of words that hurt me... And now I feel like I should kill myself and I don't want to do that because I don't want to hurt my father because he's having bp problem and if my family forced me to get married.. I'll commit suicide that's the only option I have because if my family don't care about me what I'll expect from this world

**Guest** · 01-05-2021, 09:31 PM

Hey guys,

As I was reading these posts, I felt super bad. If I had the chance to help you, I would, no cap. I'm 14 years old, almost 15. I have 2 younger siblings who are brothers. And I for real cry every single day, because of not only my mom, but my friends. And guys, I bet this also happens to you, but my friends always get pissed at me for something I didn't do and then they get really mean, and call you names, and then say they don't wanna be friends anymore. Well, that's kinda where I'm at. And as for my mom, we argue with each other every single day. I mean I'm glad she's stopped spanking my ass when I was around 10 I think? But anyway, she would yell at me over her lungs over the tiniest things like forgetting to feed the cats, not emptying the dishwasher in time. And I keep telling her, "Mom! I'm sorry! Okay?! In case you haven't noticed, people like me that have ADHD tend to forget things very easily!" And I really hate how she doesn't see how much pain I feel every day just from hearing her say hurtful words like "stop ********ing up!", "stop being the one always causing trouble!", etc. And what I mean by her saying "stop being the one always causing trouble", she thinks I'm always starting arguments and fights with my brothers, even though they are the ones starting most of them. And another thing, I kinda grew up lying....like a LOT. I still kinda lie, but barely. I'm trying to tell the truth from now on so they can believe me, but it's not really working. I'm always in my room thinking about how much my life sucks, but when I read these posts, they broke my heart. And to all those people out there who are getting hurt and tortured from their mom's, please know that you are NOT in the wrong, there's always a way to make things right between relationships. But back to my mom, after I'm crying for like an hour or so, she acts like nothing happened. And I mean at least she apologizes, but she says the same apology over and over again, so I'm starting to never forgive, but yet I do. And then we both act like everything's fine, and then it happens again the next day. Like there's never a day where we're both getting along. She also signed me up for therapy, but that ain't doing anything, I like to keep things to myself. Love y'all, thanks for listening, needed to vent lol

**Guest** · 01-14-2021, 05:14 PM

Since this was years ago I hope everyone is managing well, I am stuck in the same situations I make a mistake I try to fix it but my mum finds faults in them so i try not to bother her much but she deliberately tries to make the situation worse she makes a big deal about things and exaggerates everything I do to my dad and he is starting to hate me as well i am doing too well right now. I just want to leave.

**Guest** · 01-14-2021, 06:59 PM

My makes me cry almost every day for being mean to me. When ever she does make me cry I do it like 3 times and then I’m done. But I just don’t really like her at times. Is this normal?

**Guest** · 01-19-2021, 03:15 PM

My parents do the same to me all day, they say lies and make me cry.

**Guest** · 01-25-2021, 01:59 PM

yeah me too

**Guest** · 02-02-2021, 09:51 AM

I always end up crying because of my parents. They always put pressure on me and get mad when I get a bad grade when I try my best, I END UP HAVING TO WAKE UP EARLY AND PUT HARD EFFORT INTO MY WORK and ALL I get is this is unacceptable or when I accidentally spill something they say Why can't you do anything right? They make me feel heartbroken like they didn't even love me in the first place. I kinda wanna be dead I feel like nobody understands me. My hearts already been broken by them. Then, they come back saying were sorry and then they do the same thing over and over again... I've been getting nauseous lately heard because no sleep, bad diet, stress or anxiety. School has been giving me stress and I have to wake up by 6:00 so not that much sleep..

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