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  • #91
    I am crying everyday because my stepmom is pushing me so hard. She gets mad at simple things. She is pressuring me on my grades and my dad doesn’t even do anything about it. I can’t reach out to anybody or i get in trouble. She makes sure I don’t talk to my birth mom about court or problems I have here. What should I do? My dad never listens to me. I am scared to talk to her. I’m confused and now thinking of suicide.

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      Hello There,
      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes great courage to reach out and we are so glad that you have decided to reach out to us.
      It seems like your step mother is very stressful and overwhelming for you. One option to consider would be to talk with your school counselor about what is going on. Sometimes having support can help and they may be able to provide you with options.
      We want you to know that you are important and your life is valuable. If you are feeling suicidal please reach out for help. There is always someone willing to help you and provide support and listen. You can always call The National Suicide Prevention Hotline at: 800-273-8255.
      We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
      NRS

  • #92
    Hi, I’m a 13 year old Indian girl living in the United States. Some days are normal, like my mom and I will have a couple of minor clashes, and mostly we are civil and even loving and kind to each other. Then occasionally, we have huge intense fights. She sometimes will hit me hard id it’s really bad, and once she trapped me in my bathroom after I said a cuss word and pushed me against the wall and kicked me and hit me while screaming at me. This was about 8 months ago when tensions were high in my family due to covid. Another incident that happened when I was in second grade: my mom got really angry at me when picking me up from school, and I’m front of the school building when she starts hitting me and shaking me, and screaming that I am a huge disappointment to her. Now she doesn’t hit me as much as she did when I was younger, and it’s not as hard or as frequent, but what hurts most are the words. She calls me useless, stupid, unmotivated, and invalidates my struggles. Even though I’m a good student and I make good grades (usually above a 95, 90 if it’s a hard topic) and I have a lot of problems in my social life due to 5 years of bullying from people in my school. Today we just had another clash and I got extremely angry and started screaming that I hate her, then my mom and dad went downstairs and started **********ing about me so loudly that I could hear it from upstairs, even with my door closed. It was like they wanted me to hear. I sometimes feel like I’m somehow fooling myself into this victim mindset for attention, because most of the time my parents are great parents. We have clashed over the most trivial things, and I’ve started to despise her. Usually I stay angry at her for a few hours after we have a row and then go back to loving her, to quote another user on this thread, because she pretends like it didn’t happen. My dad used to fight for me when I was a little kid, then it gradually evolved into him not caring, and now he is on her side completely and he is just her little puppet which she manipulates. It’s sad because my dad used to be the one who stood up for me as a kid, and my parents still do a lot for me, like help me on my homework whenever I need it, and help me study for exams. They also talk about some of my personal problems with me. However I resent them for some of the stuff they have done, despite them being great and amazing parents who have done so so much for me always. Is this wrong?

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling confused about some of the emotions you are feeling when it comes to your parents. It must be confusing when your parents show you support and also do things that are hurtful. It is not wrong to have negative feelings after someone has done things to hurt you and positive feelings when your parents show love. You might want to visit Child Help Line where you can read about ways to process all of the tough emotions when dealing with your family. If you are interested in learning more, you can visit https://kidshelpline.com.au/teens and click on the “family” page and choose what you need help with. This page helps youth understand how having experiences like these can be confusing to the brain.

      We are sorry to hear you are still having a hard time at times with your parents sometimes. It is never okay to be harmed by anyone. If you need support discussing what is happening at home or are interested in making an abuse report you can call Child Help 1-800-422-4453. An advocate can work with you and call the reporting line with you and provide support through your challenging time.

      If you need any additional resources or support or have any questions, please do not hesitate to call NRS directly at 1-800-786-2929 or visit https://www.1800runaway.org/#. We are here 24/7 to take calls and chats.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Be safe,

      NRS

  • #93
    on a holiday she makes me cry i just got a drink from acct is the table and she was like "STOP MESSING WITH EVERYONES DRINKS!! YOUR SUCH A PARTY POOPER!!!" so i just cried at the table for a little bit and went up stairs very angry and sad, mad and crying into tears because she gets mad at every little thing i do. she thinks it's very stupid and i'm stupid but i'm not. she's always putting everyone down, and she calls me the w word the b word and i just cry every night. i cry 24/7 like i'm pouring out tears every day and it's not good for me! (btw i'm not sure what the TOS guidelines are for this site but i'm 10) so it sucks. when i was about 9 and 8, she didn't call me those bc i was smarter? idk what it is probably virtual school and i play video games all day i can never focus and do homework. she yells at everyone, even my dad. it's scary bc i have a 16 month old baby sister and she's learning. i don't want her to learn that. i just get so mad at my mom like we went to the store and i just got mad bc they made me sad and hid in the bathroom accidentally having the car keys in my hand, then after i went out she starting cussing and yelling rlly loud at me saying f word and stuff. my school isn't going good it just hurts me and sucks bc now we're all at home doing school while i'm not paying attention and playing video games. she yells at when she checks my missing assignments and when i have like 2+ missing assignments and today she yelled at me bc i took the last izze sparkling water. this hurts me bc i'm 10 and she does this to me it's affecting my health when i'm crying all night, she even made me sleep in the car after i went to the bathroom at the store and i told her i was going when i got out, she yelled at me and cussing at me. i told her to stop bc ppl were staring and then yells at me more. i feel like i wanna run away from my parents but they tell me it's illegal. don't run away from us. i'm so done with her i just wanna leave her. she isn't fair and she like wants to hit me with hammers and glasses and stuff. but anyways that's all. pls do not remove this comment bc i wanted to share this, ok mod? thanks for reading

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      Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS! We know that it's not always easy to reach out for support, and we're glad you did.

      It sounds like there's a lot going on at home, but even still, you don't deserve to be sworn at or called names by your mom. Understanding that you don't deserve to be treated that way and finding safe people that you can talk to shows just how smart you are. Please don't forget that.

      You mentioned your mom "wants" to hit you with hammers and glasses and stuff. If she IS doing those things to you or threatening to do those things to you, that's not okay. If you're feeling unsafe at home, it might be a good idea to try talking to another adult who you can trust, like a teacher, social worker, or doctor. They should be able to talk with you about what's going on at home, how it's affecting you, and what they can do to help. A part of this process might be contacting Child Protective Services to file an abuse report. This is also something you can do on your own, and Childhelp (www.childhelp.org) is a great resource. You can also call and walk through those steps with them at 800-422-4453. This is also something that we can help you with at NRS, so you're welcome to call us at 800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at 1800runaway.org. We can also chat more with you about feeling like you want to runaway, and what that might look like.

      Hang in there.

      NRS

  • #94
    I can't tell if my problems are stupid or not, saying I read every single other post here. I'm 15 almost 16 and an only child who just lives with my mom. I should've known doing anything wrong was a bad idea. I had an amazing beginning of summer til I made a bad mistake and that's where my life fell apart. But this was 4 months ago. All she does is yell at me every day, every time something is great she somehow brings me down. Every time I'm somewhat happy she ruins it for me. We've been doing therapy but it doesn't work. My therapist is pretty nice and tries to help me get through things. But my mom's therapist blames everything on me, says she should give me a track phone or for me to not have a phone and all this stuff. I'm one of those girls who typically seem like they're living the best life, a lot of people have said that to my face due to my social media pages. But at home it's yelling how I'm a mess, my room is a mess, I never listen, I never do anything right, etc etc. She disabled some of my social media, stalks it, reads my messages, tells me how she doesn't like some of my friends, blames everything on my ex who I'm still friends with, screenshots things, and put screen time on every single app besides school. I asked her if she could take it off text because I actually need it at times or use it during my free period, but she proceeded to scream at me. Then she says "yeah keep crying" or throws stuff at me or hits me. She never focuses on things I do well, grades, and teams I made for school. I'm going, to be honest, I'm not perfect, I go behind her back and tell my friends more that I tell her. And then she yells hows I don't tell her anything either though she uses this stuff against me and gets too involved. My friends and their parents pity me and say how my mom's crazy. Every day I think about how I wish I could time travel or live someone else's life. I haven't shared this with anyone but sometimes I even hope she doesn't come home.

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. Having your phone time limited seems like it is having a greater negative impact then your parents expected, it might be helpful to explain some of these feelings with your parents in a non-confrontational way. Writing down your thoughts might help a bit so that things don’t escalate in the moment and get out of control, or having a mediator from school or through NRS on the phone with you and your parents might help things stay focused more on goals rather than devolving into a fight.
      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • #95
    I don't have it as bad as anyone here. My life's pretty great in comparison, I live in a nice house, my grades are good, I'm not being physically abused. I'm still miserable though. I was pretty depressed in middle school and I'm starting to feel like that again and I'm terrified that the depression will start again. I told my mom I was depressed during middle school like a few months ago and she basically said I'm not allowed to be depressed. WOW, thanks a lot mom that's definitely how it works. My aunt (one of her cousins) was depressed for years and she talked about how she was wasting her life over nothing. She completely invalidated what she went through, like all she had to do was decided to get up and not be depressed or something. She's from India and mental illness isn't exactly excepted there so that's why she has these views, but it makes me feel like I'm weak or not good enough. She also hasn't had anything nice to say about me since my sister was born. I was four at the time. All I'm good for in her eyes is getting As and being good at art. Other then that there's nothing good about me. She hates my personality. I asked her today if she could say even one nice thing about my personality and she screamed at me. She manages to constantly praise my sister for being kind and gentle and all sorts of things but she never had anything good to say about me. First she said she had a headache as an excuse for not being able to come up with anything, and then when I asked again she screamed at me. I'm probably just being a cry baby crying and complaining about this, especially when do many people have it worse. My sister is a literal angel, I resented her for it for years, but now she's one of my best friends. I've just excepted that to my mom I'm nothing more than a failed first try. My parents wanted a girl and a boy. My little sister and brother are their dream children. I'm just the extra, the one who is ruining their lives and their perfect family with my temper tantrumS and other bull********. I'm also the exact kind of person she hates. I'm too much like her but not enough like her at the same time. I'm a crappy person overall. She does love me, in her own way, but she'll never love me as much as she loves the other two. I promised myself I would never cry over the woman again but I always end up back here, crying over her. The minute I have a chance I'm going to find a way to pay for things myself and run as far as possible. I'll visit on Christmas and stuff but I need some space. I can't take her negatively. I don't want to deal with the heartbreak and pain every time I forgive her and just end up realizing the exact same things again.

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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #96
    My mom gets mad at me every day she won't talk to me I'm only 11 and she doesn't realize that these words can harm me at such a young age and I'm sick of it I cry every night remembering that she compares me to my sister with how messing I am and how neet she is and how her grades are better than mine it makes me feel like I'm nothing compared to my siblings she likes to talk about me to her sisters and talks about pulling me out of dance the next time a screw-up and I screwed up again and I don't wanna be taken got of dance its my life and I tried so hard but nothing I do is good enough .

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    • ccsmod15
      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #97
    I have the same problem. My mom and I don't really have a good relationship... I'm 12 and I try really hard to be nice to her because she is a mom of 3 kids, and homeschooling. But whenever we talk, I'm always put down for "Talking back" or "Power tripping", even though I don't talk back. Sometimes at night I get her stuff when she is in bed watching her show, spoiling her after a stressful day, and that's probably why she hasn't really beat me yet. I need help because I don't know what else to do.

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #98
    Hi, im a 13 year old girl. I feel like ever since i turned 13 my mom get mad at me for the smallest things. Like something that i would do when i was younger im all of a sudden getting yelled at for and I think its partly because im a "moody" teen she says which i have never yelled at her or gotten an attitude with her. Recently our internet has been slow and i have had trouble getting onto zooms which has caused my grades to drop and when she found it she blamed it on me. I feel like im crying everyday now just because im a teen, which makes her think that im the worst living being on the earth right now.

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      ccsmod15 commented
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #99
    My mother makes me cry everyday. She wants me to get married and I don't want to. I'm happy being single. Everyday she speaks at least hundred of words that hurt me... And now I feel like I should kill myself and I don't want to do that because I don't want to hurt my father because he's having bp problem and if my family forced me to get married.. I'll commit suicide that's the only option I have because if my family don't care about me what I'll expect from this world

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      Hello there –

      Thank you for taking the time out of your day to get into contact with us here at the National Runaway Safeline, we are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. From your message to us, it sounds like you have are going through a very hard time right now and seem to be very overwhelmed with everything that is going on especially with your parents. It’s great that you are able to reach out for help in your current situation, it’s very brave of you to do that.

      Unfortunately, we don’t know much about resources in the UK for we mainly work within the United States. But there are resources that might be able to help you within India that can be of more help. There is the “Childline India Foundation” (http://www.childlineindia.org.in/) in India that might be of more help since our resources don’t go outside the United States. There also might be a number in which you can call as well to talk to them about what has been going on. It might be a great way to talk to someone there that can help you get through these terrible times with your parents and your force marriage. You sound like a very strong girl to keep fighting for what you believe in and standing up for yourself.

      You also mentioned that you were dealing with a lot of suicidal thoughts. Do you have these feelings often to the point where you want to do more harm to yourself and are thinking about acting on these thoughts? If you do feel like this isn’t something that you can control, please reach out to someone that can help you through those times. You shouldn't be afraid to tell other people what you are thinking about doing especially if you are thinking about hurting yourself. You are certainly not alone in this and there are many many people that are here to help you. Depending on where you are located in India, there are several suicide hotlines that you can possibly get into touch with. You can find some of the numbers to call on this website (http://www.suicide.org/hotlines/inte...-hotlines.html). Please to be afraid to reach out for help and be who are you.

      We hope that this resource helps!

  • Hey guys,

    As I was reading these posts, I felt super bad. If I had the chance to help you, I would, no cap. I'm 14 years old, almost 15. I have 2 younger siblings who are brothers. And I for real cry every single day, because of not only my mom, but my friends. And guys, I bet this also happens to you, but my friends always get pissed at me for something I didn't do and then they get really mean, and call you names, and then say they don't wanna be friends anymore. Well, that's kinda where I'm at. And as for my mom, we argue with each other every single day. I mean I'm glad she's stopped spanking my ass when I was around 10 I think? But anyway, she would yell at me over her lungs over the tiniest things like forgetting to feed the cats, not emptying the dishwasher in time. And I keep telling her, "Mom! I'm sorry! Okay?! In case you haven't noticed, people like me that have ADHD tend to forget things very easily!" And I really hate how she doesn't see how much pain I feel every day just from hearing her say hurtful words like "stop ********ing up!", "stop being the one always causing trouble!", etc. And what I mean by her saying "stop being the one always causing trouble", she thinks I'm always starting arguments and fights with my brothers, even though they are the ones starting most of them. And another thing, I kinda grew up lying....like a LOT. I still kinda lie, but barely. I'm trying to tell the truth from now on so they can believe me, but it's not really working. I'm always in my room thinking about how much my life sucks, but when I read these posts, they broke my heart. And to all those people out there who are getting hurt and tortured from their mom's, please know that you are NOT in the wrong, there's always a way to make things right between relationships. But back to my mom, after I'm crying for like an hour or so, she acts like nothing happened. And I mean at least she apologizes, but she says the same apology over and over again, so I'm starting to never forgive, but yet I do. And then we both act like everything's fine, and then it happens again the next day. Like there's never a day where we're both getting along. She also signed me up for therapy, but that ain't doing anything, I like to keep things to myself. Love y'all, thanks for listening, needed to vent lol

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      Hi there, thanks for reaching out out. Sounds like you are in a lot of pain right now, and you are crying everyday due to issues at home and with friends. It's clear this all has taken a major toll on you, and we appreciate you sharing your story with us. You shouldn't have to go through that alone.

      It sounds like their is a lot of fighting at home and disagreements can escalate quickly. If you haven't already, you might try to talk to your mom about how you have been feeling, and how you would like to communicate in the future. It has to be exhausting arguing everyday, and both of you deserve more than that. It's understandable that you are having a hard time opening up in therapy, and it can be really hard especially when you begin therapy to feel comfortable talking about how you are feeling. However, your mom signing you up for therapy could be a sign of hope that she wants to work with you and your ADHD. It also can be a good place to vent on a regular basis so you are getting the support you need if you do start to feel more comfortable. You can also ask your therapist to have a joint conversation with you and your mom about communication at home, and possibly come to compromises or mutual understandings. As hard as it is to reach out for help and to be vulnerable with your therapist and your mom, it also might be the catalyst for the type of change you are looking for. It was a brave first step reaching out to us today.

      If you are needing to vent but not to your therapist or mom, you might reach out to a warm line to talk more about your situation. Here is a national directory of warm lines: https://www.nami.org/NAMI/media/NAMI...ry-3-11-20.pdf. Please do not hesitate to call or chat us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or www.1800runaway.org if you would like to talk more about your situation. We are always here for you.

      Best,

      NRS

  • Since this was years ago I hope everyone is managing well, I am stuck in the same situations I make a mistake I try to fix it but my mum finds faults in them so i try not to bother her much but she deliberately tries to make the situation worse she makes a big deal about things and exaggerates everything I do to my dad and he is starting to hate me as well i am doing too well right now. I just want to leave.

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      Hi,
      Thanks for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things are really hard and stressful for you. To have your mom finding fault and tying to make situations worse is hard enough, but exaggerating things to your dad makes things worse. It's understandable that you are thinking about leaving.
      We can for sure talk this over with you. We are here to listen and help, so we hope that you can reach out to us either by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or via live chat through www.1800runaway.org
      You have survived so much and are very brave to come here and talk about things that hurt - that takes a lot or courage. We truly hope that we hear from you soon.
      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • My makes me cry almost every day for being mean to me. When ever she does make me cry I do it like 3 times and then I’m done. But I just don’t really like her at times. Is this normal?

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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things are really hard and stressful for you at home and that your mom being mean to you makes you sad.
      It is normal to not really like people who are hurting us. What we feel are normal human feelings, and being made to cry everyday is hard to deal with. We hope you can talk about this with someone you trust, maybe a family member or even a friend. It's important to be able to talk about the things that hurt.
      We would also like to talk with you about this and maybe we can help you feel better at home. You can reach out to us either by calling our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-Runaway) or by live chat via www.1800runaway.org
      We are here for you 24/7 to listen and help and we truly hope to hear from you soon.
      Sincerely,
      NRS

  • My parents do the same to me all day, they say lies and make me cry.

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      ccsmod13 commented
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      Hello,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are going through a tough time at home right now. One option to consider is to talk to a trusted adult like a family friend, school teacher, or a guidance counselor about your feelings and the situation going on at home. They may be able to provide some insight or help you find resources that can help your situation. Another option is to consider family therapy so you can facilitate a discussion with your parents about the lies they say and you can explain your feelings. We are so sorry to hear that your parents make you cry. If you’d like to talk more about anything, about your feelings or these options, please feel free to call us 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are anonymous and confidential. If you don’t want to call, you can chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) We hope to see you soon!

      National Runaway Safeline

  • yeah me too

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