I cry almost everyday because of my mom.

[Guest]

I've read through some of your texts here, and I'm in a similar situation. I'm 17, and an only child. Sadly, I have to admit that my mom is one of my worst enemies. Since my dad was always working when I was little, raising me and taking care of me was my mum's task. We have, and always had very different personalities, we barely agree in anything. When I was younger, she used to hit me a lot, because of my grades (I was and I am still almost a full A student) or my studies, and actually because of anything that she didn't like about me. ( examples: once she hit me with a dictionary book which I had to write in during my language lessons, because I was too tired to do the homework in it and she hit me with that several times so the whole thing fell apart on my head and I had to rewrite it. On one of my birthdays I got a Scrabble for present and after the guests went home she had a fight with my dad and I said to her that my dad was right in their argument, so she threw the entire scrabble board at me. Once I kissed a boy at a party, ONE TIME and somehow she found out and she beat me so bad that she broke her wrist bone while hitting my nose with it (I had no serious injuries - karma I guess))but in the last 2 years she only hurts me with her words. But she can be so heart breaking and cruel, sometimes I just lock myself in my room and cry because of the things she says to me. I was depressed for years, and during that time I was very skinny (+ I was exercising a lot so I didn't have to be at home with my mom). Since last year, when I got my boyfriend, I became so much happier and guess that's why I gained some kg-s (around 3). And nowadays all she can tell me is that I'm a disgusting fat trash, and I should exercise daily. Everyone I've ever asked about told me that this is the way I look healthy and it looks good on me, but my mum just don't stop criticize me about it. And about so many other things as well. She also hate my boyfriend and always asks me when will I break up with him, why am I even with him still, he is too ugly for me, etc. It just breaks me so much, plus I am a hsp (highly sensitive person), so everything in life affects me more deeply, especially the bad things. I'm just waiting for the day to come when I will be eble to get a good job and I will be able to move to an apartment with my boyfriend, very far away from that monster who keeps shattering my soul more and more every day.

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Hello -

Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are here for you through these tough times we are facing, and are happy to answer any questions you may have regarding runaway or homeless youth.

I understand that you are 17 years old, and in most states the age of majority is 18 years old. This means that someone under 18 is the responsibility of their parent or guardian. If you were to move out of your mother’s house without her permission she could possibly file a runaway report. This is a report filed with your local police department that would allow the police to return you to your mother’s custody if you were to come in contact with them. We are not legal experts here at NRS but we would like to make you aware of possible outcomes.

You mentioned a lot of verbal, emotional and physical abuse at the hands of your mother. This is something that you don't deserve to deal with and it sounds like you are a wonderful person and student. An option to report that abuse would be to call your local Child Protective Service Agency to file a report against your mother. It sounds like the abuse you've experienced has taken a toll on you and you deserve to be treated and loved by those around you. If you would like to consider child abuse reporting, you can always call our hotline and we can walk you through the process. We understand this is a difficult decision to make, and is not your only option. You may want to consider talking with your mother to arrange an alternative housing agreement. This means that your mother gives her permission for you to live with your boyfriend. This is something your mother would have to agree to considering you are 17. If your mother is in agreement with your move, then there would be no legal issue with you staying with your friend’s family.

In regards to legal options, you may consider the emancipation process. Emancipation is a legal option for children who would like to be considered an individual outside of their parents care. This would mean that the law would consider you an adult and you wouldn’t need your mothers permission. This process takes about 6 months to a year to process and would involve your parent’s as well. You could contact a local legal assistance program to get more information, or our hotline and we can give you a good resource.

If you would like more information regarding your situation we urge you to reach out to us on our 24/7 toll-free number at 1(800)-RUNAWAY. We can give you case specific information as well as resources to help you navigate this decision.

Thank you again for reaching out and stay safe!

[Guest]

same. i hate my parents.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

I feel like my stepdad and mom hate me. My mom has PMDD so it doesn’t help. She says I always make a face whenever they call me up. But I don’t really know what face I’m making. I can’t control most muscles in my face like my parents can. So she said I was making a face and I said “I didn’t make a face” I don’t remember how loud I said it but to her it was talking back. I continued to speak to her but quietly. Then she kept saying “are you giving attitude, are you in a bad mood or something”. I said no as I proceeded to give my dogs food and water. As I walked by my confusion and teen anger turned to sadness. Once I was done I went to the bathroom to cry it all out as I’m writing this. Am I at fault? I need to figure it out so I don’t make them mad. Whose fault is it so I can do something about it.

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Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by what’s happening with you and your parent’s.
We are sorry you are going through a tough emotional time.
Having your family react the way they do must be upsetting and frustrating.

Sometimes when things are too stressful it might help to talk with someone about it.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling about the way things are may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. This may feel like a confusing time for you, but you are not alone in this.
NRS is here to listen and here to help.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). You are welcome to discuss your situation and talk about possible options for help. What you did today by reaching out was great. Good job.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I cry alot. the reason is because my parents would call me stuff and yeah...It really hurts sometimes they are so nice and i forgive them but when they start yelling i feel like i wanna run away, but i have no confident...
I have two siblings and i feel like my parents likes them 10 times better than me, they would always say "she cleaned her room look at her" always would say something like that.They act like i never clean but i do!
Im not jealous of my siblings i just gotta accept the reality.If i did something or forgot/ accident they would be mad as hell....If i talked back to them they would ignore me or making a "dont care voice" i really cant anymore this hurts so much

[ccsmod15]

Hi,

Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are having a really hard time at home and feeling pretty down, and it takes a lot of courage to reach out for help in a moment like that, so we commend you. We hope we can help today.

It sounds like at home, you are name-called, treated unfairly, and ignored. Basically, you are not getting the respect you deserve, and it’s made worse by the fact that you see your siblings getting treated well. This must feel really frustrating and must make you feel really lonely, like there is no one to turn to in the house for help. When things get really bad at home, you can focus on things that make you feel better. Doing things like, listening to music, drawing, writing, or going for a walk can bring us back to a place of peace when our circumstances are making life feel chaotic. But sometimes this stuff is not enough, and we need someone to talk to. Reaching out to friends, other family members, other trusted adults, and even a school counselor might be something to consider at this time. These people can offer you support and love when you are not getting it at home. Maybe some of them can even help you voice your feelings to your parents. Another way to do this might be to write your parents a letter about how you are feeling. Even if you never give it to them, it can give you clarity of mind. We also have an amazing service here in which we can mediate a conference call between you and your parent(s). All you’d need to do is reach out to us to initiate this at 1-800-RUN-AWAY.

You mentioned wanting to run away. This can feel like the only valid option sometimes when things are bad at home. It is always important when considering running away to think about where you will go, how you will get there, and what you might do to survive once there. If you are considering running away, we encourage you to reach out so that we might help you formulate a plan and ensure you do what is best for you.

We hope that some of this information is useful. We know this is very tough time and that your situation has been hurtful for a while now. You are taking big steps already to make this situation better, and at the very least, you can be proud of yourself for that. As you move forward, please always feel free to reach out to us at 1-800-RUN-AWAY or via our instant message feature at 1800runaway.org (click CHAT).

Stay safe and strong out there,
NRS

[Guest]

Me to and i dont like it

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

my mom yelled at me after i came home from vacation with my dad and my mom yelled at me and called me a disappointment and i'm sitting in my room cryinh because i don't want to go downstairs to eat because i don't want to be yelled at what do i do

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
You don’t deserve to be yelled at and called names for no apparent reason or for retribution for enjoying time with your dad.
We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We might be able to help you brainstorm some ideas for how to talk with your mom and find out what exactly she is upset about, or go over some coping mechanisms to help you mentally deal with the negative feelings she is causing you.
We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

I am an 11-year-old girl turning 12 on October 24th. A few months ago I got my phone smashed for pulling a little prank on my cousin. She slipped and fell because my sister and I decided to put soap on the ground. Once she snitched my mom took my sister and I phone. I cried the whole day because I was sick of my mother taking the other person sides and not hearing mines. I wanted to hurt myself so bad. I even had a sharp object in my hand. My self esteem was so low and still is. Later on I was done. I wanted to hurt myself so bad. I called my brother to help me out but he didn't pick up. I decided to call the police because I didn't know what to do with myself. After on my mom came upstairs and talked to my sister and I talking to us saying we should say sorry to my cousin. We did and then she said we would get our phone back once she is done drinking her coffee. My sister and I got mad and went back upstairs. Next thing you know the police came. The police talked to me. they just thought I called them because I got my phone taken away and I wanted it back. but that wasn't the case. Later on, the police left and my mom didn't talk to me. I heard loud booming outside my window. and then my mom came upstairs and threw something on my bedroom floor. it was my sister and I phones but they were fully smashed. I started crying so hard. After all I've done she has done this. I try to be the best daughter, a great friend, a great cousin. It hurts so much till this day. I went downstairs to my kitchen and got a knife. I was so close to cutting myself but I was to scared of how it will felt. My mom came and took the knife away. I called my aunt to help me but it didn't really do that much work. the next day I was still crying in shocked about what just happened. My mom, sister, and I worked things out but she didnt say sorry to us. She said to never talk to her about phones. I went back to my real house and I had my computer and my mom's iPad, but it still didnt change the fact about what she did. Three months later I still cry everyday. My brother calls me a spoiled brat to everyone. I don't know what to do. My birthday is coming up soon, but I know my mom will not get me a phone. It hurts so much yo. I just want to be happy again. I see the old videos of me and my friends with my phone and I cry. I want it to be like the old times when I was actually happy and didnt have to put a fake smile on my face everyday. My mom and I were super close but I have been distant ever since her boyfriend. It was so hard typing this without crying. I just needed to express my feelings.

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you had a really traumatic day with your phone, and you have been very down and contemplating self-harm. That sounds really scary and it's understandable that you are needing something to change.

If you haven't already, you might try to talk to your mom or any supportive adult about how you felt like hurting yourself and you are crying everyday feeling pretty down. Those feelings are significant and you deserve to be heard. If you haven't already, you might consider talking to a counselor or therapist about how you are feeling. They might be able to help you process how you are feeling and assist with your coping mechanisms. You might also consider seeing if your mom would be willing to do family therapy. The focus of family therapy is to address toxic communication at home and to better understand each other. If you need help looking for individual or family therapy resources please do not hesitate to call or chat us: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org.

While you can call or chat us 24/7, please know that we are not the only support out there who wants to help. If you feel like you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself, call 9-1-1. For additional support contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, call1-800-273-8255, or chat https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/. Nothing is more important than your safety.

You are not alone,

NRS

[Guest]

I am a Indian so, Doesn't mean that I usually get hit (stereotype) Well, that's really isn't the case. My mom, dad and older sister have took it to the point in which I actually tried to kill myself with a rope. One time I was caught by my sister. They are also really bias. One tie when my sister was doing a dance, My mom started dancing and singing along with her and she did absolutely PERFECT. So, When I was starting to dance, My sister and my mom were talking non-stop and I got distracted. My mom (of course) yelled at me for "Not dancing well" and "and some other stupid things. My DAD keeps on piling me up with homework and forces me to do things which I really don't want to do (Like joining extra-curricular activities without my permission and spanks me if I don't go to the classes). So, Thats is why I am in chess classes. I HATE chess now because of my dad. He ruins the experience. Whenever I get an answer wrong (Note that The webcam was on) My dad would Hit me at the back of my head physically, and I actually cried in the middle of class one time. He also yells at me when I do not want homework. I usually think, "What sin did I commit to living in his hellhole?" I really don't know but If I had the chance, I would really call child protective... The worst part is that I am 12 years old. I really need help but I am scared of people making rumors.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I relate to a lot of this. It almost seems like my mom likes making me cry. She calls me a worthless idiot whenever i don’t do something correctly. I am a girl with asperger’s syndrome, so sometimes i don’t pick up on hidden meanings. My mom doesn’t care. She thinks i’m stupid.

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Hello,

You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it, even if it is just verbal. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

I have the same issue. I'm the oldest child and it's obvious my Mom and Dad favour my brother over me. It's already been tough ever since my mom and dad divorced. Everyday around the same time my mom gets really tense and irritable. For example, the other day I forgot to bring down my bowl and my mom screams at me and tells me things that she knows will hit me hard. I cry, almost everyday. I am not going to lie but I play this video game "The Sims 4" A lot. My mom is always telling me how bad it is to play it, and that I should be doing something social with my friends. The problem is, I don't have any friends. But in the Sims, I can create a Sim, just like me but I can make her have friends, and be super popular, and her parents never fought and they are still together. Kind of like a way to escape the real world and live the dream I've always wanted to. My Mom doesn't understand because she's been popular almost her whole life. She has pictures of all her boyfriends from high school and college, she still has all the friends from elementary school plus more! And how about me? I've never had any friends. I have brother and my 3 cousins, 2 of my cousins don't even like me. So I guess I just have brother and my cousin, but I only see my cousin like once a year and my brother is usually with my dad. So I guess you can say my only hope would be mother who clearly hates me.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

i cry every single day bc of my mom. i’m literally crying rn bc she accused me of misplacing an item and i literally cried so bad but i couldn’t show that i was crying. she kept on blaming me and when we got home i literally let it all out cuz i couldn’t hold it in and she was like “not this again”, like bro i’m literally shaking writing this but i really need someone and my dad left for a new life ig and i have no one but myself bc my friends prob don’t understand what i’m going through but i’m only 10 so i can’t run away or anything. just please help me like i literally don’t know what to do. she even yells at me for doing something wrong and goes back to her usual self acting like nothing happened and my dumb self always wakes up and just forgives her. like literally i want to just give up and go but obviously i can’t so please help me. i’m sure i have depression but who knows; the fact that she hears me crying rn buts she’s not doing anything ab it breaks my heart knowing that she doesn’t care that i’m literally crying my brain out. i keep mumbling to myself that she doesn’t care and it’s so true bro. if anyone else is struggling with a mom or dad like what i’ve described, please, tell someone before it gets worse. i hope i can stop crying soon before my eyes turn into tomato’s.

[ccsmod0]

Hey there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your mom. It sounds like it's really overwhelming being at home with how she is treating you. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). Another great organization that you can contact when you need to talk about how you're feeling is the National Alliance on Mental Health or NAMI. You can text with them 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

I'm home schooled and my mom yells at me all the time. I try my hardest to get good grades, but I get these: a B+ in math, an A in English, a B- in science, and A- in history, and a P in PE. For some reason, she's been yelling and screaming at me about those Bs, and says i'm a slacker, i don't put in enough work... I don't know if this is simliar to your question... but I know it hurts me and makes me cry. But i'd rather not talk about. - Weird B Girl

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Thank you for your response to another user’s post as well. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

Hi
I live in Arizona, USA and my parents used to be together. But they got divorced about 5 years ago. It was emotionally a struggle for me. My dad was emotionally and physically abusive, and I haven't seen him for a whole year. I am starting to think my mom is emotionally abusive. Yesterday I didn't clean my bathroom when I told her I did. She came into the bathroom while I was taking a shower and yelled at me and called me a lying little s**t. Also, she tells me that I can never achieve my dreams because I don't have any A's (but because this year has been so hard with corona and everything, It is very hard for me to stay on top of my school work.) I really want to be a singer when I'm older. She tells me I will be working at a gas station when I'm older. She also tells me I need to eat less. She also wants to know where I'm going constantly. She doesn't let me walk down the block to my friend's house. I have been cutting on my arm because of all of her terrible words. By now, I'm getting to the point where I'm either gonna run away or kill myself. I cant put up with this anymore. I love my mom dearly, and I would not want anything to happen to her ever. I don't want to be taken away from her, I just want change.

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

I cry because of my step mother she is so mean to me but she loves my other siblings it is unfair i hate her

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time, and we want you to know you are not alone.
We would love to hear more about your situation to best help you. Please reach us by phone or by chat. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
NRS