I cry almost everyday because of my mom.

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I have the same problem not with just my mom but with my stepmom too. I live with both of them, as a 15 year old and only child, I have very high expectations. High grade, Get things do on time, A million chores and if I don't do them on time, right or at all I get yelled told I am worthless, stupid, annoying a lazy. Then, less than 2 minutes later my mom is telling my I am the most wonderful thing that happened to her. Also, my mom is telling me all the time that when she was in her 20's she moved away from her parents in NY to VA. She has two sister and expected that they would have kids of their own and she would be the childless sister who took her nieces and nephews in during the weekend and had the week to herself. Then, she met my dad and had me with him. Not even a year later she left him and found a girlfriend, my stepmom. She has known me my whole life, and doesn't like kids whatsoever but made an exception for me. Then, years passed on and we never lived in the same place for more than 2 years, which I waswith fine with because I was always near my dad who I am closest to. My mom was an alcoholic and so was my stepmom. So they had many fight among themselves and with me. I saw my dad every other weekend and it was awesome. Years later, we moved 2 hours away to Chesterfield into a house. I rarely see him anymore. I have missed out on almost my whole childhood from moving, her, chores and getting in trouble. I get into trouble a lot for some reason and I try so hard not to, Im a straight A student, accepted into all my specialty centers, finish my responsibilities very well and do the best I can, and its still never enough. Not for my mom or step mom.

Also, I am not the most fit person, and my mom and step mom criticize me about it all the time, saying i'm fat not ever able to be skinny and should be like Beyonce. Which tears me from the inside. But I forgive her to easily because she is my mom. She tells me all the time I came out of her so my life, decisions, grades, feeling and everything else belongs to her. I have no control of my feeling, where I can go, who Im friends with, anything!!! She even threatens me to move with my dad and I have walked out before but she chased me. I cannot tell if she wants me to stay or go.

One thing that also drives me insane is that she says I have not lived long enough or had enough experiences to be anger or have an attitude, but I have feeling and she cannot control them or me even though she thinks she can. Then, with my step mom she just tells me something to make me feel terrible about myself or get me into trouble, gives me the silent treatment, make everyone else depressed and acts like everything is okay. My mom says she has control over my life but when it comes to making a decision she always has to check with my stepmom. My mom never makes any decisions for herself because she doesn't want to hear my stepmoms mouth.

I don't know how much more of this I can take, Im a freshman 3 years from being an adult and I don't have a phone, computer of my own, access to internet without permission, trust or basically anything fun. I want the crying and pain to end now.

What do I do? I need help.

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Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline and sharing your story with us. It sounds like you have gone through quite a lot over the years, and we want you to know we are here for you.
As you have mentioned that you feel controlled and that you feel that you can’t even have feelings. Your feelings are your own and no matter your age you are able to have feelings regardless of what others say. One option to consider is trying to have a calm conversation with both your mom and your stepmom about how you have been feeling. We know that these conversations can be difficult so at NRS we offer conference calling, where if you call us we can call out to your parents. Conference calling allows you to heard and we are there for support.
Also another option to consider is trying to talk to an adult you trust or a school counselor about what is going on at home. Sometimes talking to someone can help you feel more supported in this.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options, please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

I'm an Indian girl my parents scold me for every small reason. But they don't scold my brother. My mom scolds me using vulgar Indian language .i wake up at 5.30 am daily and do all works but she scolds me daily saying I don't do any work, I just simply sit and eat. She scolds me saying am unlucky to have u as a child I will go and die somewhere. She also says if am in ur position I would have suicided how can u lead this worst life.am studying engineering in hostel,I will come during holidays. She says don't come to my house stay there only I will be happy. She says ur worthless of studying. She says see nd learn from others. She will be complaining about me to neighbors also. Worst mom

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Hey there,

You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your mom. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.
We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.
Be safe,
NRS

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[Guest]

I cry almost whole day & every day I am fed up of my parents totally & my dad abuses me 24*7 & mom beats me from slipper & slap me cuz I don't cook but I don't like cooking & I I literally don't have privacy not allowed to put password in my own phone I am 19, & in college. I hate them.

[ccsmod3]

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you are facing a situation that has become abusive. You don’t deserve to be abused by your parent’s. We understand how upsetting this has been for you. It’s not your fault that this is happening.
If you need a safe place to go contact the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 www.thehotline.org

You did a very brave thing by reaching out tonight.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or 9-1-1 and seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

No matter what I do my mom and/or grandma always find something to yell at me about and they constantly lower my already low self confidence and whenever they ask me what’s wrong I say nothing because whenever I do tell them what’s wrong they say that I shouldn’t feel that way because it’s a stupid reason, it could easily be avoided if I had done something else, or they say something along the lines of “what’s wrong with you” “god you’re so stupid/slow” and today my mom was braiding my hair and before she started I brushed my hair and thoroughly washed it out mind you I have very thick and curly hair so while she was doing it she said that is was flaky and that it smelt bad which it didn’t and so she personally washed it and she said “you cost us so much” “you waste almost everything” “stop crying it doesn’t even hurt” (it hurt a lot) and she kept saying that I don’t ever do things right and after degrading me she said that when I don’t dress up and do my hair all nice that I look like a bum and on an average day I look homeless and after making me cry, hold back my anger, and just makes me feel horrible she tries to be all nice

[ccsmod0]

Hey there,

You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your mom and/or grandma. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.

We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.

Be safe,
NRS

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[Guest]

Me too, and the worst part is she screams at me for crying and tells me I have no reason to cry

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You shouldn’t be yelled at for showing your emotions like that and supported instead.
We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

I feel the same way, I cry over 18 times per weak just because of my own parents. They yell at me, they don’t trust me either. I’m an only child, but sometimes my parents don’t even care about my own time, they care about my grades more than me.

[ccsmod15]

Hello, thank you for reaching out during this difficult time. You mentioned your mom making you cry every day. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.
We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I have a similar situation. I hate my mom so much. So this morning she told my brother to wake me up so I can go downstairs. I just woke up. And guess what she just wanted me to do? She wanted me to clean the kitchen when I already did last night. She started complaining saying that I chose not to wash the pots, pans and dishes last night. I did yesterday and she knew that. She just wants to act stupid. So my older sister is my witness, and my mom knew I cleaned the kitchen last night but woke me up over something I could've done when I woke up at my own time. I tried telling her that I cleaned the kitchen last night and haven't been in the kitchen since then, and she said it was an excuse. It was NOT an excuse at all. Even though I lie to her sometimes I was telling her the truth but nooo she always thinks she's right. So while I was cleaning the kitchen she was in my way and she told me not to be impatient. I got so mad and started to cry. She didn't even care. I was so pissed off at her and I feel like what I do is never appreciated in my house. I always clean the kitchen, the bathroom, and my room and she's always telling me I do a half job, BUT AT LEAST I GOT THE WORK DONE. She's so ungrateful and I feel like I'm never appreciated as a child in her house hold. Also recently she took my phone away and tells me that I have the nerve to ask for it back. Of course I should get it back because I clean up the kitchen every single day without her having to remind me or tell me. Yesterday when I cleaned it I literally asked her and she said no. I asked her why and she never answered my question probably because she was making an excuse. I'm 13 and I'm sick and tired of my mom being a miserable ********** to me and always shutting up my opinion but thinks hers has to be heard when it's always negative and nobody asks for it. I'm tired of her being a low life ********** to me and I'm also sick of crying all the time because of her for 2 straight up weeks I've been crying because of her. And I'm tired of her ********, never appreciating me for what I do, and as her child, and never letting me explain and tell her the reality without her saying I'm making up excuses. I don't know what to do at this point.

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You don't deserve to feel miserable and should be able to feel happy at home. It sounds like this turmoil with your mom has been going on for quite some time and it sounds exhausting.

It seems like your mom isn’t fully understanding you when you are trying to relay your thoughts and feelings about your current situation (chores, cell phone usage, recognition, etc). It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mom so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I fell like I'm alone in this world and I just want to ran away or kill myself I suspect my boyfriend is cheating. my dad always threatens to hit me. My mom ignores me 24/7. My sister told me to lay in the road and get run over by a truck. my brother gets really violent with me when I'm in his room or annoying him. my bestfriends sister keeps on starting fights with me and my bestfriend. My mom also only doesn't scream at me when I'm doing things for her.

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Hey there,
Thanks for reaching out to NRS, it seems like you are going through a lot and the people around you are making things harder instead of being there to support you. It’s understandable to feel frustrated when it seems like everyone around you is getting violent, or angry at you. Your parents at least shouldn’t be threatening to hit you or ignoring the challenges you are facing.
Their actions are reflections on them though, not on you. We encourage you to not take their actions to heart and to keep your head up and look for positives. At least you have a bestfriend and can share in how frustrating it is to have their sister keep trying to start fights (as annoying as it is). You may not be able to change or control how other people treat you, but you can always choose how you react to it.
That isn’t to say it’s going to be easy to deal with this amount of verbal abuse all around you. We encourage you to reach out for personal help in some way, or explore options to keep yourself positively occupied. If you don’t have one you may want to try and find a personal therapist to talk with. Someone you can just straight vent to and will always be on your side can be very cathartic and help you to get out any pent up frustration.
Finding things that can help you explore these feelings or get you out of constant contact with your family could be helpful as well. We realize that is difficult with COVID right now, but there may be journaling, drawing, or a novel to get sucked into just to allow you some time to relax a bit.
We hope these options help inspire you and help you through this difficult time. If you need more assistance we encourage you to call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or use our online chat at 1800runaway.org for one on one crisis intervention.

[Guest]

My mum is always shouting at me

My mum is malawian mad she is so harsh, I never get a break when I'm at home. She says it's training for when I'm older and married or something but I need a holiday. I'm happy when I'm at school because at least there I rest and she can't always be in me.
she gets in my nerve as soon as she comes in the room, everyone is afraid of her. She is so inconsiderate and I think I hate her, cause I'm always angry.
I'm generally a happy person but my mum makes me so pissed, I can't talk back to her because in my country that's rude and she'd probably get more angry, hit me or just kick me out.
im tired of living with her and I just want everything to end. I have no one I can talk to so I just cry in my room, I don't even think this is going to help cause she'll never change.
Her sisters are so much nicer, they aren't like her... I'd prefer to live with them than her. Sometimes she can be nice, maybe for a second but she goes back to finding mistakes to come at me.

[ccsmod0]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your mom. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

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[Guest]

I know how you feel. I live in India and I face the same problem. I think she hates me. My parents make me feel bad about everything. My grades, my body. They body shame me almost everyday. She hit me once with a belt till I had scars for missing a test. I apologised and told her that I wasn’t prepared and I was scared that if I got a zero she’d hit me. So she hit me harder for talking back. My dad has slapped me several times and they abuse and cuss at me frequently. If my mom makes a mistake, she makes sure to make me feel bad about it. She was moping the floor and the bucket spilled over because she kicked it by mistake, she yelled at me for never helping her and how bad of a kid I am. She told me that I sit around the house like a dead person. Then when she gets back into her normal mood she expects me to talk to her nicely. And if I don’t, she’ll yell at me for never interacting with them. Emotional abuse may seem like nothing but I can’t take it anymore. I’ve tried killing myself several times. I tried overdose on pills but I didn’t have the courage to go through it. She makes me feel useless. They talk to me like I’m a piece of trash and the moment my sister calls from abroad, they turn into angels. Why do they hate me so much? What did I ever do to them? I just wanted them to love me equally as my sister but that never happens. She even talks to my dog like he’s her son but when it comes to talking to me, it’s always abuse and cusses. She expects me to behave according to her mood and never acknowledges how suffocated I feel and how much her words hurt me. I want to kill myself.

[ccsmod3]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

It sounds like you are thinking about harming yourself or ending your life. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

if this ain't me...

My mom and i have a hella bad relationship. She wants me to be perfect. My grades were never that good but lately it's getting worse. I have depression, social anxiety, i'm really introverted and i hate my life because of her and all that cames out of her mouth. We physically fought once like 3 years ago and she ended with my blood in her hands. I had a really nasty and bloody scar all over my face, she made it with a belt. She even destroyed my cellphone saying i was ********ing stupid and useless. She called one of her sisters and her mother (my grandma) and they all started to hit me. I really was going to kill myself that night. After that, i moved with my dad for a year and she kept saying that i should go back home. She took me to a therapist saying it was all my fault and the excuse "She started to hit me like crazy" i honestly dont know if it was really my fault.

Actually, i'm living with her and it's hell. I want to move with my dad but she doesn't want me to saying that she can do whatever she wants with me cuz she's my mom and my life is not mine.

I'm latina so this thing with the verbal and physical abuse is pretty normal in my country. I don't need help (for now) cuz my dad and his family and my friends are there for me

[ccsmod0]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

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[Guest]

My mom is always getting mad at me for something and often times I just feel like she doesn’t love me and I wanna cry. She gets mad at me for not eating dinner and coming down later but everyone else comes down later and she favors one child sometimes.

[ccsmod4]

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. You do not deserve to be treated unfairly by your mom. It’s not your fault that this is happening. It sounds like you are feeling sad and frustrated by this behavior.
Your feelings are important and they matter.
You are deserving as anyone that wants to be happy.

You did a great job by reaching out to NRS.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

So reading these stories really help and I feel terrible for what everyone has to go through, I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. So I am a sixteen year old girl with a dead dad and a Mexican-immigrant mom who always judges me for everything. I have pretty good grades, I don’t do anything that’s illegal, and I never do something without her permission. She yells at me every time I don’t get the best grades in my class, she hits me whenever she is upset with me, and she even calls me ugly for wearing clothes that’s not up to her standard as girly. I always lock myself in my room and cry into my pillow or else she would hear me and tell to me to get over it you baby. I know that these are small things to be sad over but it gets bad when she constantly does these things and doesn’t even realize her flaws. Even if I think of suicide or running away, it would be 10x worse and she won’t let me be near anyone but that’s only thing that keeps me sane. What I do when I get those thoughts is “two more years and I’ll be gone” or “it’s not worth it and after a couple years I’ll be a distant memory”. I also start to laugh when I cry because it’s a habit but it helps to get me feeling better again. So please keep going and please try to do better for your self not your mother.

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to share a bit about your story with us here at NRS. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another.

It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org) is always available if you need someone to talk to about how you have been feeling. Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of.

This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We are available 24/7 by phone 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat at 1800runaway.org for immediate support.

Stay strong,
NRS

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I am a 13 from USA. For the past couple of months since quarantine started i have been getting constantly yelled at by my mom for either waking up to late or i didn't get my chores done on time or school. My mom is a smoking addict and i have tried to tell her to stop and if she does it to not do it around me because of 2nd hand smoke and there have been several occasions where because she yelled at me for a bs reason she has blamed me for her not being able to quit and that has made me feel like she means that i am the reason if she dies from it. I don't get the best grades in school i am a c and b student and for some reason my mom gets mad at me when i get a b on a test even if i tell her that i don't really understand it she will yell at me and she has even threaten to beat me/hit me thankfully she never has and because of that i have been staying up all night just so that when i go to sleep i wake up around 7pm so i just don't have to see her and because i do that i cant get my chores done on time and i get yelled at again which usually results in me not talking to her and crying which just makes it worse for me because she starts yelling louder and more angry and it always makes me feel like its my fault and after reading these stories from other people i think it might actually be my fault and have been thinking about cutting my wrists and even suicide recently but then i think just wait until your 16 and try to get emancipated and move out and im just really confused and don't know what to do and i feel like this is nothing compared to other peoples stories and that im overreacting.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
You're definitely not overreacting. Everyone's situation is different. We can share with you a little bit about emancipation and running away. We want you to be fully informed so that you can make the best decision for your situation.While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe and stay strong,
NRS