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  • #46
    my mom screams at me for everything. she has replaced me with her boyfriend and she assumes anything that goes wrong is my fault. i’ve tried to talk to her but she doesn’t change, once i told her i was suicidal and she laughed and made fun of my for it after like a year. i see my mom only in the mornings when she takes me to school and for a few hours when she gets home from work. she managed to make me cry everytime i see her. i’m struggling a lot because i recently got into a very bad argument with my dad and he lost visitation and my mom got full custody. i miss my dad and i understand it wasn’t all his fault. now i have no escape from my moms hell and i can’t tell how long i’ll be able to keep myself together.

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      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hey there,

      You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your mom. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.

      Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.
      Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

      We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #47
    i love my family and i always will but i can’t help but feel so alone and lost. my mom and my stepdad will constantly tell me how i need to go to the gym and how gross i look and they would give me this stare with disgust and it would just ruin me. but not only does that happen my mom will call me a **********, whore, asshole, and disgusting while i’ve done nothing to make her upset. and yes i know that she is most likely taking her anger out on me but this has been happing for 6 years now and i don’t know how much i can take anyone. i have an older brother who does drugs gets eh grades but yet here she is yelling at me for doing nothing and she looks at my brother with this kind of look that says “your perfect” and i’ve never seen her look at me that way before and it makes me so upset that she doesn’t love me the same way she loves my brother. i’m not saying she doesn’t love me because i know that she does deep down but when you hear your mom say those hurtful things to you everyday non stop it just ruins you. my dad has always supported me no matter what i do and he always makes me happy but he has a serious drug problem and i can’t be around that stuff so i’m not aloud to move in with him and i know that in the long run that i will leave this house someday and be on my own and that i don’t have to deal with this anymore but i honestly just don’t know how much longer i can wait because when it happens everyday you still don’t get used to it, everytime she says another hurtful thing to hurt my self esteem or make me feel so bad about my self it just hurts more than the first time because you realize she doesn’t want to stop making me feel this way. and i’ve tried to tell her i how i feel i’ve told her that i’m depressed and that i really need someone to talk to she just turns the whole situation around and starts calling me selfish and an asshole and a ********** i just don’t have anyone to talk to, yes i could very much talk to my friends about it but it’s embarrassing knowing that they have a loving relationship with their family that i will never have and that they don’t understand what it’s really like. i don’t know if what my mom is doing is considered emotional abuse i feel like it is but i’m still not sure.

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    • ccsmod6
      ccsmod6 commented
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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are so sorry to hear that your mom and stepdad have been treating you so inappropriately and insensitively. You deserve to feel loved no matter what you look like and no matter how well you do in school. The way they are behaving sounds callous and destructive and it is no wonder that you are confused and hurt. It is not selfish to not want to be berated and demeaned. It is not selfish to need someone to talk to. It is not selfish to feel pain and express it. It is brave of you to ask for help, from us and especially from her, and it is disappointing that she has responded to you with additional cruelty. Talking to a therapist or a mental health professional sounds like it would be a great first step for you to start sorting out your feelings and undoing the damage of your mother and stepdad’s words. A good idea might be to reach out to your guidance counselor at school to see if they have any support resources that you can take advantage of. Additionally, you can reach out to the National Alliance on Mental Illness at 1-800-950-NAMI or nami.org. They are an organization that helps people find local therapists, groups, or other mental health resources. It sounds like your dad is a great support for you as well. It could be worth confiding in him what is going on with your mom and stepdad and seeing if he is willing to assist you in getting the help you are asking for.

      Of course, you can always reach out to us if you want to talk more about your situation or what other options you may have. Please don’t hesitate to call us on our 24/7 confidential line at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • #48
    Im a Pakistani Muslim Girl and im ashamed to say but ive done bad things in the past two years and when ever my mom gets the chance she yells and relates me to toxic family members. She took my phone she says she hates me and my friends and yes ive said bad things baout her but that dosent mean i hate her i hate how she acts with me. I go to a public school and i had feelings for this guy, i told him but didnt want to date so i didnt she saw the text today and was yelling at me and she said that she would take my phone and she'll tell my dad. I've always been criticized by family, by my weight, how i dress, what i eat, if my room is a bit dirty. My brothers dont comfort me so i go to my friends cause i feel like thats all i have, i cry myself to sleep, and go to school with a fake smile acting like its all okay. I hate coming home during these times, i dont know what to do.

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    • ccsmod0
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      Hey there,

      We are glad you reached out, and we know it isn't easy sharing the things you experiencing at home with your mom and dad. There is nothing wrong with you if you have made mistakes, and it doesn't mean you are a bad person. We are here for you if you wanna talk to someone about the things you are dealing with at home. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). There is also a crisis texting line that can be helpful when you feel like you just want someone to listen and help you talk through your options. You can reach them by texting "NAMI" to 741741. You are not alone. Feel free to reach out to us any time. We are here 24/7.

      Be safe,
      NRS

  • #49
    Hello,

    I am 13 years old girl and i have a special needs brother and his life is so easy compared to my life. I have a hard time in school and i have an IEP for most of my classes and i get A's and B's but i have a hard time taking tests and my dad is nice and my brother is nice but my mom hasn't been so nice lately but i took my science and social studies final and I got 100% on science and 78 out of 100 which is a C+ and she said i will be proud of you if you get a C- or higher but no she had to go off at me and she hit me on the back because i din't do so good on the social studies test ( SS ) and in SS i have a turned in late assignment and she hits me again and yells at me and get so made at me. I get yell at so many times a day i cry and cry everyday of my life and some days i want to run away or move somewhere far away from my mom. I want to know what i can do so then i can can have a nicer mom and a happy family. And sometimes I wish that I was never born because of my mom, My dad is nice but when my mom influences my dad he gets mad and yells at me but that very rarely happens.

    Sincerely,
    ?????

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    • ccsmod3
      ccsmod3 commented
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      Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are having a tough time at home.You mentioned wanting to know how you can leave home before turning 18. The easiest way to leave home is with your parents permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your mom. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.

      Please reach out soon so that we may offer support and resources to you. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).Be safe.

  • #50
    Hello my name is Sam, and I get emotionally abused by my mother and I think she doesn't know how much it affects me. I don't know if i'm just being a brat or just being a really sensitive person, when my mum argues with me it sounds like she actually means it, it hurts me to the point I start to cry a big waterfall, like now. we just had a fight about me going on her phone, that was a BIRTHDAY GIFT TO ME!!. But she took it back and does whatever she wanted on it. its more horrible that it looks, every time when we finish our argue she acts like it never happened and yet she tells me that if I don't buck my ideas she'll either send me away and render me homeless, I can do homeless, but I know if I ran away, she'll have the police find me and bring me back to her. And it started when I was 11 mid-way growing up. She says she gets me but even I know that she doesn't get me, and I'm her first. And I have a lot more to say, for that's not even half of what I wrote.

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    • ccsmod0
      ccsmod0 commented
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      Hi there,

      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you're really struggling with how your mum is treating you. You aren't being overly sensitive, and your feelings do matter. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Regarding running away, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      We hope to hear from you soon.
      Be safe, NRS

  • #51
    I feel terrible. At home I’m never happy, and sometimes I feel like killing myself or calling child protective services but I would feel like a selfish brat. I never get to say what I want, even in normal conversations. School and online make me a little happy, but home is terrible. My mom hits me and demands that my room door is open, or I have to sit in the living room crouch so that she can see me. I have tried making myself faint, and cut a flap out of my window screen so I can escape. I’ve also cut myself 3 times before I stopped. I even told my mom I wanted to die but she laughed it off. My dad is nicer too me though. He listen and we can have a normal conversation about things we disagree about. He’s gone on Monday’s through Wensdays though. Everyone else is mean to me in a way. I feel trapped.

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    • ccsmod7
      ccsmod7 commented
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      Thanks for reaching out to NRS, it sounds like you’re really going through a lot right now. No one deserves to be treated like that. Asking for help is a huge step, and we’re here for you. Additionally, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) is 24/7 – please, don’t hesitate to give them a call next time you feel like you may harm yourself.

      If you don’t feel safe at home, you definitely have reason to call CPS – it sounds like you may being going through a case of neglect. You mentioned that you have better conversations with your dad. A good idea might be to try talking to your dad about how you feel, and see if he will help you talk to your mom about it.

      You also mentioned that school can make you happy – that’s so good to hear! School can be a great time to take a “break” from home. A trusted adult at school (such as a school counselor, coach, or teacher) could be a great person to talk to about what is going on at home.

      Here at NRS we’re 24/7 and completely confidential. If you give us a call, we’d be more than happy to help you brainstorm any ideas that may work. We also offer a mediation conference call as part of our services – so you could call us, and we would be on the phone facilitating a conversation between you and your mom. This might be a good option if you need to have a difficult conversation with your mom and you’re not sure where to start. We can also help you find family counseling services in your area.

      Just know, that we care and we’re here to help. Best of luck!

  • #52
    I’m a 15 almost 16 year old girl. The oldest of 6 kids. I’m homeschooled so I’m with my family all day pretty much. And I can obviously tell I’m the least favorite of the family. My opinions never matter, what I want to do comes last. And I feel like life is completely unfair, especially in relation to my siblings. If I wait till I’m 12 to finally do something I’ve been asking for a long time, next thing I know my little brother is doing it at 9! When I bring up how I feel my mom yells at me for a LONG time. She’s the “parent” blah blah blah. I’m at the point where I can rarely have a normal conversation with my mom. She somehow always turns it into an argument, before calling me names, cursing at me, and telling me everything I fail at. Even if I mess up on something she takes revenge on me. One time I was planning to do an activity with a friend that meet once a week Wednesday nights for six weeks. We had been planning it for 2 months. She already agreed to drive me. Then the night before it started I forgot to fold some laundry and she told me she wasn’t going to drive me. She told me to tell my friend I wasn’t going to make it because I was a “disrespectful selfish b*tch.” I cried for hours after that. She slaps me sometimes, or kicks me outside in the middle of winter or in the rain. I once had a blister on my cheek where she hit me. She always expects the most out of me. She only ever uses my age against me. If I say I’m 15 now, can’t I do this? It’s always no. But if it’s you’re 15 you better get good grades. Then all of a sudden I’m old. She always expects the most out of me from school. One time I got a bad grade and she said I was a failure and that she didn’t care about my future. She always has patience with my siblings, but not with me. My siblings always get first pick on everything, I ALWAYS get the leftovers. Now for my dad sometimes if my room is messy he’ll call me a pig, or refer to me as a dog. If I haven’t brushed my hair or put on makeup he’ll say a look like a dirty hag. He’s also called me disgusting or repulsive. He has also hit me and strangled me. If I asked for something they always yell at me, it’s 99% chance it will be no anyway. They often send me to bed without dinner. I also had this crush on a boy which they mocked me for, and allowed my siblings to as well. They often tolerate my siblings being mean to me, but dare I do anything to them. Recently I’ve had more feelings of sadness and depression or even thoughts of self-harm. I don’t want to think these thoughts. I just feel useless numb, like an object or robot that’s just programmed to do what their told. I don’t know what I keep doing wrong in my parent’s eyes. I don’t understand. I cry almost every day. I know my situation might not be that bad compare to some people, but to me it is.

    Last edited by ccsmod4; 01-15-2020, 01:33 AM.

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      ccsmod4 commented
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      Hi,
      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

      It sounds like you are in a tough situation and may be looking for some options to help cope with everything.
      We understand how difficult it must have been to talk about what you have been feeling.
      You are very brave for doing so. Good for you.
      NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
      You are not to blame for your parent’s or anyone’s behavior. You don’t deserve to be treated so poorly. What you described about being hit, slapped and verbally abused sounds like abuse. We are concerned for your safety. There are laws in place to protect minors against abuse. If you should feel at risk or in danger seek emergency assistance.
      You can report child abuse to Child Help 1-800-422-4453 this is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.


      NRS is here to listen and here to help.
      Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

      Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


      Take care,
      NRS

  • #53
    I am a twelve year old Asian girl i am turning 13 in July.

    This happens to me too, except i'm also not allowed to talk to boys hangout with them even if they're gay. My broth er is two years younger and gets all the attention. My parents both love him way more and if he does something bad they nicly talk to him. My mom always exaggerates to my dad if i do something wrong. My mom tells to my face "What sin have I cause to have you for a child?" and "I hate you." My dad just straight up swears to me saying im a stupid dumb idiotic b*tch
    with no future. They every often threaten to put me up for adoption and leave me outside in winter in the snow without a jacket or anyway to get in the house for hours on end. My mom tells all her friends my dads friends family, family friends what a bad person i am. Then she exaggerates how amazing my brother is. I keep tract of how many times I cry and I cry approximately 25 times a day. My mom doesn't let me do anything. She won't let me leave he house EVER, doesn't let me do anything to my body; dye my hair, dress how i want, wear even mascara... CLEAR MASCARA. It took me years to convince my mom to let me pierce my earlobes and I recently JUST got Instagram just to follow my friends. I have also thought of self harm but i'm too scared. I have become depressed too. I have no friend either. I have 6 cousins one is older than me by a couple months (Lets call her Lisa) and she is a perfectionist. She always sticks with her sister (who I will call Tiffany) She is a little less bossy than "Tiffany" But everyone loves her. They live in a mansion and are really entitled. My aunts and uncles adore her because she is the oldest. Let's talk about "Tiffany" now. she is a couple months younger than me and is EXTREMELY entitled she is 11 but acts and dresses 15. She always has the newest Iphones, Ipads, Macbook airs, airpods etc. My youngest cousin ( lets call him Baden) Is also in the spotlight all the time. He is 5 and has a sister (lets call her Quincy) all of my aunts, uncles, grandparents, mom, and dad ADORE him too. "Quincy" Is the second youngest and is loved by my family. My brother (lets call him Presto) Is really annoying and funny at the same time. He is 2 years younger than me and is "The Popular Kid" in school. He never stands up for me even though i always have and always will stand up for him. Im just a shadow of Lisa and tiffany and then Braden, Quicy nad Presto always steal the spotlight. ALL of my family hates me and if they had the chance they would leave me on the streets to die. I did but they just stopped inviting me to things because they know I would be forced to say no by my mom. They said when I get old enough to move out of the house, they never want to see me again. Please help me. I'm actually crying right now.

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    • #54
      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You showed some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you. What you have been experiencing sounds very sad and very, very unfair. You do not deserve to be treated this way by your parents. It’s not your fault that they behave this way. It sounds emotionally abusive. Your feelings are important and they matter.
      You are deserving as anyone that wants to be happy.
      We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Take care,
      NRS

      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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      • #55
        Hi, I'm 17 and I live with my father. I haven't known him all my life and moved in with him and his wife during my freshman year. I'm a Jr now and I've had enough of him and his wife and a need to get away, if I run away can he legally force me to come back if its a stable environment?

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        • ccsmod13
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          Hi there,

          Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us here at NRS. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you with figuring out your next steps in this difficult situation. Asking for help was really responsible and smart of you. We are sorry to hear things are so unstable at home. You deserve to live somewhere that makes you feel safe and supported.

          If your dad is your legal guardian then he does have the right to report you as a runaway in the event you leave without permission. Running away is not illegal, but it is a status offense. This means that if your dad knows where you are staying then he can possibly have you returned home by the police. Runaway laws and protocol can vary by state, county, and even police department. Some areas do not pursue runaway reports for someone so close to 18. If this is the case then you can leave home without police intervention. You can call the local police department's non-emergency number to ask about their protocol anonymously. It can be helpful to frame questions from a parent's perspective to get more straightforward information, ie. "Can I report my 17 year old child as a runaway?" and "Will a police officer bring them back home?"

          We truly want to be a support for you as you navigate this challenging time and as you take your next steps. If you would like to explore your options more in-depth, you can reach out again anytime by phone at 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat services at www.1800runaway.org. We are here 24/7 to listen and help as much as possible.

          Good luck and stay safe,
          NRS
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